If you are slim, please tell me how the conversation in your head goes

[whatisheupto]

If you are over the age of 38 and reasonably slim / not overweight, please tell me this:

An hour or two after dinner when you really fancy a bit of toast, do you tell yourself "no" and force yourself to resist the urge? When your brain nags you again, do you give it a firm "no" until and tell it to go away?
When you really want a small bowl of cornflakes before bed, do you just stop yourself and ignore the hunger pangs? Do you tell yourself "come on, you can do this. Think how good you'll feel tomorrow"

Do you tell yourself these things every day? For years? And rarely give in to temptation?

Or do you just never usually fancy a piece of toast or a late bowl of cornflakes? So it's just not a problem for you?

Are slim people better at self control, or are they just experiencing fewer urges?

There is a saying. Can't remember which country! Think it is Mongolia. You need to eat half as much and walk twice as much!
So true. I have an unhealthy obsession with food and am 3 stone overweight.
I eat a lot of junk but this thread has inspired me!
Slim people don't eat as much as me! Simple. I am an empanada habitual eater and feel like I deserve food. It's my go to for comfort. Going to try harder.

I don't think I would ever consider having toast in an evening! Is that not just a 4th meal in the day? Its breakfast all over again

Cereal or toast are breakfast and breakfast is a meal. So what op is describing is a bonus meal. I might have a snack if I’m hungry or bored after dinner but it would be an apple or a biscuit.

Also, if I was going to have a bonus meal it would never be breakfast. It would have olives in it. And cheese.

My BMI is about 19 and I'm just into my 40s (so appreciate this might all change soon!). But honestly I find the idea of having a conversation in my head after dinner about what to eat pretty alien. If I happened to be hungry and wanted toast or cereal I would have it, but if that happened a lot (it did when I was breastfeeding and my appetite was higher) then I would basically assume I wasn't feeding myself very well at dinner and up my portion sizes/ include more calorically dense but healthy foods (eg an avocado as a starter).

In reality, this sort of thing doesn't happen to me that much. I do sometimes feel like eating a lot of chocolate after dinner but it isn't because I'm hungry, it's just because I'm watching TV or working on my laptop and bored. I will always eat a bit, but do exercise some self-control in leaving it at a couple of squares. (Also in not pouring another glass of wine...) But I can honestly say that it isn't difficult for me because I'm not genuinely hungry. I would find it extremely difficult if I were and had to go to bed hungry and I am sorry for anyone who has to do that to maintain a healthy weight. My experience is that most thin people are basically lucky, and don't have exceptional self-control. When I tested my DNA I discovered I had lots of genes for having lower than average weight, and if they test my glucose it's always pretty low even if I haven't been fasting.

If I exercise a lot however then I naturally start to gain weight. If my weight gets too low then it's usually a sign I'm being too inactive, so I will start running 3 miles every day. This massively increases my appetite.