I need to lose 9st+! Help!

[Modestandatinybitsexy]

Have you done this? How have you done this?

I'm 5'8" and 19st.
I know I need to eat less and move more.

I have small children and I'm still breastfeeding. Apart from the standard chasing a toddler I'm pretty sedentary. I do all the cooking, not terribly unhealthy food but probably much too much of it.

Help me give myself a kick up my huge arse please!!

Hi Everyone! I've read through and I'm amazed at the progress you're all making.

I started this thread and the c25k got 2 runs in and then bedtime routine changed so my evenings are tied up again. I thought it'd be short term but I still have no time!

So I'm halfway through my first week of Jane Plan instead. I get 1200 calories and I don't have

Sorry - baby kicked the phone!

I don't have to think of meals and portions. Although I'm still cooking for everyone else so I'm not completely free of that.

JP feels like a bit of a cop out but I just don't have the will power to do it myself or the time to devote to a group so fingers crossed this works!

My fitness pal can be really helpful when tracking your intake! It's a bit of a faff at first but you can save regular meals and anything you have inputted before gets saved for easy selection.

Everyone is doing so well. Love it.

Friday morning weigh in for me (different time zone) and I had a stay the same. So annoying as I've had a great week really.

However I think it's because I'm due my period next week and I've noticed that the week before I generally don't lose or put on. So trying not to worry. Old me would have chocolate to make myself feel better but not today.

Roll on next weigh in!

Thank you everyone, it means a lot to have you understand

Well done everyone, losses or not I see such dedication to staying healthy and that's really impressive

I weighed myself again today, 16 stone 13 pounds and 4 ounces.

I cannot get to 17 stone again, so I'm back on it. It won't be amazing, but maybe instead the small changes you suggest Namechanger.

@itistiime I'm not sure what your target weight is.. honestly I'm not sure what mine is yet.. I'm going with I will know when I get there. If you lost a lb per week you would be 3 & half stone lighter in a year! I'm trying for 2lb per week and find it much easier to focus on the really small goal rather than one that seems impossible.

It is one day at a time and keep going even if progress is really slow (for me it is, I can't face the amount I need to lose which is around five stone and it seems insurmountable).

I am just posting because I am so tempted to eat a few chocolates and instead I will be posting this and going up to bed!

Also I have been gaining steadily for so long that even if I manage not to gain that feels like a triumph even though it doesn't bring me any closer to my goal. That is how out of control my eating and weight gain have been.

@Shatteredconfidence well done, posting is a positive step. A little step at a time will show results over time.

I know exactly how you feel Shattered, i had got to the point I didn't care if I kept gaining and gaining. Then corona happened and I have a little boy and the thought of dying terrified me enough to loose 18Ibs in 6 weeks ... and then somehow I started eating again and now 13 are back on! We will get there, we will ...

Nixi - your post really made me think as I realised I wasn't sure what my goal was, but when I thought actually I have several and they are achievable if I try. I want:

• to have a BMI of less than 35 (4 pounds loss)
• to get under 16 stone
• to get to under 15 and half stone
• to get to 14 stone (putting me at the top end of the overweight range)

I was 12 stone when I met my husband 15 years ago but I can't imagine a world in which I could ever get back to that

If I can get to 12 stone 7 (81kgs), I will be in the "overweight" BMI range. That is a major goal for me.

That means I need to lose 4 stone / 23 kgs.

If I managed to lose 1kg a week (ambitious I know ...) I could do this by the middle of January.

To put my weight into perspective (for me). I was 12 stone 12 lbs immediately after giving birth to my second son (who is now 8).

My weight gain started when I started a sedentary office job, and was exacerbated by stress. In 2015 I managed to lose a good bit of weight (can't remember how much) through exercise (walking and cycling), but it's all back on and more!!!

Need to keep going.

My initial goal is to get under 100 kgs / 16 stone, and never go back

Interesting to see others goals.

I think the important thing in all this is to get back on the horse after a fall. I think we all can do it if we are consistent but it’s the carrying on after a tricky time which is difficult.

My first goal is to get my BMI under 40. It started at 43.5 and is now 40.7 so getting there, another 2.5kg will do it.

Then I don’t know really. Maybe going for under 16 stone. It seems like a very long journey ahead. Weight of just under 15 stone would bring BMI to under 35.

Just being ‘overweight’ rather than obese seems a very long way away.

WI tomorrow so will see what that bring. Period two weeks late (peri not pg!) so not sure if the affect that will have.

@Fatandnearly50 I've recently changed my number... now it's 15*.. it will have to be the lower end of 13 before I'm 'overweight' my bmi was very similar to yours (starting). Honestly I find the thought really overwhelming hence my 2lb per week target. It's not that long really since I started so it all adds up!

Big goals need to be broken down for me

It's been interesting reading the goals. I want to move from obese to overweight but it's almost another 20kgs away....that could take another year! So for now I'm concentrating on another 5 kgs loss.

Had a binge on Saturday. Had a horrible day (in lockdown), and feeling hormonal and had lots of wine and several pieces of brownie.

However I was proud because I didnt throw in the towel...had a good day on Sunday and Monday is going well so far.

Have a good week everyone

So this week I've lost 6lb! So that makes up for last weeks gain and this week.. if I want to stick to my 2lb per week target.. I've been combining IF and Keto (24hr) this isn't my plan for every week going forwards..

6 lb is amazing nixi, well done you. I had a very relaxed Sunday. And was pleasantly surprised to find that I have only gained a pound. I have also just got under 16 stones which does feel like an important benchmark. Incidentally, Shatteredconfidence, 101 kilos takes you under 16 stone according to the calculator I used. Still looking for better scales, mine are unpredictable.
Suffering terribly with constipation despite easily eating 9 types of fruit and veg, in quantity, daily. Is it possible that my bowel is so used to shifting vast quantities of junk it just can’t cope with a normal load. Sorry if this is tmi, but someone else must be having this too, looking for advice.

That's brilliant Nixi!

Zebra - are you drinking enough? Extra fibre will bulk you up unless up your fluid intake too

Ooh, good suggestion. I will up my fluids. Thanks

Hello! official weighing in day tmrw so just posting to keep myself on track.

I have been sneakily weighing in and the weight seems to be coming off. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

I am fully aware that it is easier in the beginning when you are bigger, and gets progressively more difficult the more you lose.

So this is why I am trying to focus on health and mood. I am making a conscious effort to smile and enjoy life whenever I can. I am saving my energy and becoming more mindful about what I say, do, and think.

It is eye opening to me to realise how shouty and cross I had become, so frazzled and broken that food was literally my only source of happiness, peace and contentment. Food was guaranteed happiness and pleasure while I was eating.

It's complicated because it is also necessary for life! But honestly the way I was eating was killing me.

I already feel more energetic on much, much fewer calories, which is ironic because in the past I used food to combat the exhaustion I felt constantly. I don't have that exhaustion anymore.

I had a plate of boiled chickpeas yesterday eve and they were utterly delicious. I appreciate they may not be everyone's cup of tea, but a good, nutritious snack / light meal, that feels satisfying.

@Shatteredconfidence I think that the sugar rollercoaster is the root cause for lethargy, and lack of energy.. now that I'm sugar free I have so much more energy. Food has always been my go to emotional support, irrespective of which emotion I'm experiencing. Really struggling with mood and responses now I don't have an outlet, I've yet to find a replacement. Walking helps, but I can't always do that when at work!

Oh God yes. Shatteredconfidence. Clinging to the thing that is making you ill. I had lost about 5 kilos between January and lockdown, and then that changed my habits and I felt thrilled, an excuse to overeat and no one could see me and I didn’t have to wear real clothes. But once I’d put that 5 kilos back on and all my joints were aching and I had horrible sweat rashes and no comfortable underwear, I was so badtempered, almost like I had to grieve for that freedom to be a glutton. But almost from the moment when I said no more, I started to feel better. And 4 weeks in, I am daring to hope that I am successfully re-educating myself, making the healthier choice, Eating slowly and mindfully, stopping when I have had enough, not snacking not rewarding myself with food, not avoiding activities, but also not telling myself that I suck if I do have toast and honey for breakfast once in a while, or that it will never work if the scales don’t reflect my efforts. I’ve always been amazed by films and books when people exist on a bit of cheese and coffee, find myself getting anxious for them, but now I’m getting it that I won’t die if I don’t have 3 huge meals a day, and that this is liberating.And I really enjoy every single thing I eat. So if anyone is lurking like I did, scared to try and to fail again, just let yourself really think about food, what you think it does for you, and what it actually does, and make friends with your belly!

Just read that through and it sounds like I am Only 5 kilos overweight, not so, BMI of 36.

Yes @Nixi4 and @zebracat , love to read your posts - for so many years losing weight or attempting to lose weight was this terrifying prospect of misery and hunger, so it is great to reframe it as something really healthy and positive and rejuvenating!!!

@Shatteredconfidence I didn't start off on intermittent fasting being able to go 24hours between meals.. It's surprisingly easy after a while. Fear is the biggest challenge, I hate people knowing that I am dieting as I have a fear of failure! But we have to fail to learn.. at least that is what I think.