Cannot find even 1% motivation to lose weight but need to

[PookieDo]

I’ve been steadily gaining for a while now and don’t even know how much exactly as not weighed but I look and feel like crap.

I’m 5’6 and a size 16 now.
The more like crap I feel the less motivation I can find to change anything

I’m waiting for probably another gynae op, I keep telling myself even after the 1st one that I would change my ways and did nothing! I’m vit D deficient (on treatment), anaemic (on treatment)

I have a sedate desk job and I eat LOADS.
I have heartburn (on tablets) and have asthma which isn’t helped by lugging my weight around

My biggest problem seems to be stress related eating and drinking. Right now I have a mega bag of sweets in my handbag and will not flinch at eating them for breakfast!

I’m out of control. How can I get control back? Any advice?

May I join? I've been trying to lose weight all year and keep losing and gaining the same few pounds. It's emotional eating and drinking for me. I ate 11 packs of crisps on Sunday. It's very clear where I'm going wrong but so very very hard to get a grip.

Thanks for the welcome pookie
I also feel so much better and happier if I eat healthily and exercise regularly so I don't really understand why I fine it so hard to motivate myself to keep it up.

I have planned food for today and I am going to the gym after work.

I need to lose over 3 stone but my first goal is half a stone. I need to look at my weight loss in smaller chunks as I find it all a bit daunting otherwise.

@Cazzamataz I just can't give up my milky coffees. They take up a quarter of my daily calorie allowance... even having swapped to lactose free skimmed milk to save calories and a few carbs.
Have you tried the 'options' type low cal hot chocolate?

I have bought some low calorie treat stuff to try not to deprive myself too much
Got some Tesco low fat hot chocolate

I’m doing another walk with my friend tonight but I don’t think the dog can manage as far as I can as he’s v small

Thank you for the welcome, I have never felt so stressed before. Not helped by my youngest bring only 14 weeks old when my mum died and I live 60 miles away from family. But I have come to the conclusion that the best result for my mum was that she wouldn't be suffering (died from sepsis and if she would have survived she would have had multiple amputations due to blood pooling in her limbs) sucks for the rest of us but that's life .
I calculated my hot chocolate calorie intake and I was having nearly 2000 calories a day 😱 wtf?! Hence the major weight loss since I have stopped. I will try the options one @ShirleyAvenue thank you for the recommendation.

It sounds like you’re all making great progress!

It’s impossible to tell others how to motivate themselves, but what worked for me was to stop thinking off myself as a failure for letting things get out of control and gaining lots of weight.

The moment I started thinking about why I was overeating and accepted that it wasn’t a weakness, but simply a way to cope with a rough couple of years, I found the motivation to change things.

I’m not going to pretend it was easy. The first few weeks in particular were difficult as I didn’t quite believe that it was possible to change myself. But since losing the first half stone or so, I’ve been getting better at believing that “yes, I CAN do this”

I’ve now been dieting for 5 months and am on track to lose 3 stone by the end of next month. If I can do it, you all can do it too! 👊

Wow @Crazzzycat! Congratulations!

You have got a really good mindset. You should be really proud of yourself

I’m giving all money and access to money to my partner and stopping going for those one million calorie top up shops at the co-op every night

That is so good on your weight loss!!

Made me laugh about your shop visit, DD is trying to get me to go so I have taken to undressing very quickly so I can’t be tempted to go out to the shops 😂

Really good meal day today, am getting in the swing. Over an hour dog walking too
I feel really good

@Pookie Good progress thanks for the updates, I didn’t have desert today or stuff self till full so happy about that.

Hi everyone,

Well I found a game changer yesterday! Aldi low calorie chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream. It is divine and there's something like 350cal in the whole tub. I had 2 spoonfuls with some strawberries for pudding last night and felt very proud that I hadn't used the low calories as an excuse to eat the whole tub. I'm nervous for posting my weigh in on Friday now because I've tried really hard and don't want to be disappointed. Need to be realistic too though!

@pookiedo I have also always been an emotional eater. I have been successful in losing 22kg over the past year.

Three things that I think have really helped - 1) read up on ‘mindful eating’. It’s been intrinsic in helping me understand the psychology of why I eat when and what I eat. Practicing listening to what my body actually wanted and reslltnoaying attention to each mouthful was a game changer for me. I realized I didn’t always actually want the cake or crisps I was just cramming it in senselessly as a coping mechanism.

2. low carbing diet change and really limiting any kind of sugar or treat. We are talking like once a month I might have some cake. This was so much easier after learning about mindful eating. I didn’t need a reserve of sweets or crisps like a reward.

3. I took up exercise for the first serious time in my life and do about three hours a week in a good week. I think diet is the real difference but exercise made me feel great about myself. I had to push through a barrier at first but now I crave making my body move when I’ve been doing nothing too long.

Thanks Kitty, that's really interesting. Are there any specific books/ websites you could recommend about mindful eating? I didn't find Paul McKenna worked for me

I completely agree about points 2 and 3, I feel much better when I really limit carbs and treats she says after shovelling in Jaffa Cakes today. And like you found, the exercise didn't burn that many calories but it did make me feel a lot better about myself and give me motivation to eat healthily too.

I had all good intentions starting May 1st, DS1's ear infection has now lasted 3+ weeks and completely destroyed them!! And now it's half term and things will be tough. I'm thinking of perhaps aiming for a new start on June 1st instead.....

. I'm thinking of perhaps aiming for a new start on June 1st instead...

Made today the day.
Just make one change. One change, don’t have that second bag of crisps? Reduce your portion by a tablespoon? Just something
But don’t wait. Why wait? One small change and then slowly build from there.

Hi! Any room for a newbie?
I've been battling with weight loss for a few years now but since I was diagnosed with thyroid issues last year it's been hard, but almost more because I have now got a mental block telling me that I couldn't loose it even if I wanted to. I had some success earlier last year after the birth of my second daughter, loosing just over a stone to the lowest weight I had been in 5 years but it's slowly crept back on.
Definitely worse since I've been back at work from January - it's mostly packets of sweets, chocolate and biscuits that lie around in cupboards or in the staff room that get me although, I too, am a fan of the late night co-op danger shop. 🙈 Would think nothing of munching a share bag of sweets to myself. I have a packet of kinder Choco Bons in my cupboard that I thoroughly intend to eat in my car on my way to work this morning 😂 (and it was one of my first thoughts when I woke up!)
Meals are ok, me and my husband normally cook healthily although with 2 young children we don't eat until 7:30/8pm which I don't think helps as it makes 4-5pm a danger zone whilst I'm sorting out the kids.
5'6 and 13st 2 (early morning weigh in- would probably be closer to 13st 7 by evening weigh in)
Need to lose 2st 7lb and I'm not messing this time- want it gone for a Christmas trip I have planned with friends in early December as I am fed up of looking like a whale in group photos!!

Joining too. So sick of the damage I am doing to my body. I’m determined to become healthy again.

Pookie- I also have a recently discovered vitamin d deficiency... 3 weeks into taking supplements but starting to have some better days so fingers crossed!

The most motivating thing I have found is to educate myself about nutrition by surfing the net and watching TED talks on YouTube about how the body and mind works.

I went to sleep a couple of weeks ago listening to a hypnotherapy vid and I miraculously seem to have some control now. I have lost 2kilos and am finding intermittent fasting a doddle. In fact I feel so well when fasting that I am becoming slightly addicted to it and feeling well.
I am aware that at the point I want to binge, if I find a way to relax, the urge goes away. I am gradually developing more insight into why I do things and why I self sabotage.

Vashta- definitely. It's hit me that soon I will be battling with the effects of ageing so I really want to be healthy rather than just adding to pot with more health issues.

Hi all and including new people
I had such a good week but I hit the absolute skids yesterday/last night and had a binge on wine too
It wasn’t that I had been denying myself it was self destructive as I am so unhappy and stressed at work
I have a new job I start in 4 weeks though

My hair is falling out worse than ever and this really upsets me too

Oh pookie don't be too hard on yourself, we all have bad days. I had a massive hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows and a twix yesterday.

Weigh in time (sorell are you still in?) :

Last week: 10 stone 13
This week: 10 stone 6
Total loss:7lb

I can't quite believe how much I've lost this week. I'm thinking perhaps my start weight wasn't quite right but that's what the scales said, and I must have stood on them about 10 times this morning and they kept coming back with 10st 6. So I'm utterly gobsmacked but relieved the effort has paid off. AF is due next week so not sure if that has anything to do with it but I'm sure the loss won't be this significant ever again!

How are you doing Pookie? Has anyone weighed themselves recently?! I haven't dared; DS1 is still a terrible little sleep thief, which in turn means that he's appallingly grumpy during the day, and I've turned to chocolate to keep going hoping that things will have improved by the time we return from holiday a week on Sunday.....

I posted about my good week last week, but my periods due on Friday and today I just want ALL the crisps and chocolate!

Ha! I can certainly empathise Mary... I have really heavy periods and no matter how good my intentions, I always end up craving chocolate!

Last day of half term to get through on my own tomorrow. Hoping the DC aren't as squabbly as they were today...

Well I used all of today's calorie allowance (according to MFP) on a medium big mac meal for lunch. I did save unnecessary calories on a drink as I had water, I'm using this to justify my poor lunch choice! I'm finding school holidays tricky as we have more snack food in the house, and trips out seem to make it much harder to be healthy.