Cannot find even 1% motivation to lose weight but need to

[PookieDo]

I’ve been steadily gaining for a while now and don’t even know how much exactly as not weighed but I look and feel like crap.

I’m 5’6 and a size 16 now.
The more like crap I feel the less motivation I can find to change anything

I’m waiting for probably another gynae op, I keep telling myself even after the 1st one that I would change my ways and did nothing! I’m vit D deficient (on treatment), anaemic (on treatment)

I have a sedate desk job and I eat LOADS.
I have heartburn (on tablets) and have asthma which isn’t helped by lugging my weight around

My biggest problem seems to be stress related eating and drinking. Right now I have a mega bag of sweets in my handbag and will not flinch at eating them for breakfast!

I’m out of control. How can I get control back? Any advice?

@Kim82 I'm having a jacket potato for lunch today. Not had one for such a long time.

I will weigh in at 14st and nearly too fat for garden chairs!

You don’t all have to put weights you can just put losses no one should feel obliged or anything

But how do you address WHY you over eat? This is a life long problem

I’m exactly the same. Gradually getting bigger and bigger, hate myself but cannot find it in me to do anything about it. I was a size 6 this time last year. I’m not a 12/14. It’s so embarrassing because people knew me as thin and now I’m avoiding certain situations because I don’t want tnem to see me bigger.

Nothing fits me because I refuse to buy new clothes in a bigger size so I’m constantly uncomfortable.

Nothing makes me happy the way a cake or a massive bar of chocolate does.

Dieting when you are not in the right mind set is always a non starter.
I am 5'5""(I've shrunk an inch) ,also starting Gynae treatment and it was a preop weigh in when they read my BMI out loud that did it.
I knew I was overweight ,ate healthily mostly but can happily eat a bag of jelly babies and winegums on a long drive and my portion sizing is too much.
So I am dieting(weight watchers app) and it's working and I still feel motivated which is just as well because I have almost 2 stone to go to take me under 11 stone.
Buoyed up today as I have had to buy a belt to keep my jeans up.

Yes Pookie, I wish I knew why I over eat. There’s only me in our house that is overweight, everyone else is lovely and slim. I just have a terrible relationship with food and have no idea why.

Boredom is a big factor,just a bit of cheese,butter in bread and cooking too much and not liking to waste it.
And ease ,small amounts of processed snack are loaded with calories.

Could you have an underactive thyroid? I have these vitamin issues and they are common with thyroid issues. I'm your hight but bigger. I've got mental health issues which have contributed to wait gain. I sympathise massively. But I also wish I had done something about my weight before now. I'd suggest taking to your GP specifically about weight loss. Orlistat can help. I think it's important not to best yourself up and make huge changes. I know personally I can do this for a bit then end up gaining weight again.

I feel like it’s stress and the immediate response is food

I smoked for years and now vape, I think I have an addictive streak in me for sure - not much of an ‘off button’!

Mine is how bad the eating is making me feel so tired, back is killing me, I’m out of breath and have reflux. My diet is the culprit

I'm just so fed up with stuffing my face until I feel sick. I get awful headaches from too much chocolate but it doesn't stop me. I end up in a sugar coma and am just so exhausted. Even changing the bed is effort. When I eat healthily I feel so much better but my addictive side just caves and eats chocolate even though I feel as rough as fuck afterwards.

Just had my first slim fast
Actually not too bad taste wise but I am starving so will eat anything!

I’m glad you all have posted I think emotional eating is such a common thing and it’s so hard to get on top of

@PookieDo I know it's boring but drinking lots of water really does help with hunger.

Why can’t we get addicted to things that are good for us? I wish I was addicted to fruit and running!

You say you need to lose weight but why do you think that? What would actually be different in your life if you were the 'right' weight?

Also - what else (if anything) will you be having for breakfast along with the sweets?

Do you enjoy your job?

If you had to eat everything slowly, without any distractions such as work, TV, phone, really tasting it and not having any judgement around whatever you are eating (what it is or the quantity), how much enjoyment/stress relief do you think it would actually bring you?

I feel your pain. I have just been diagnosed with diabetes and on a recent trip away couldn't even fit the table down in front of me on the flight and yet I still can't get motivated. I do about 3 days of healthy heating, feel really good about myself and then usually on the 4th day absolutely crave a chocolate hit and can't stop at 1 bar. And then I feel disgusted at myself and the whole cycle starts over again.

I drink loads of water I don’t like tea

I don’t think weight is the only issue - I’ve no intention of rigidly adhering to BMI or anything but extra weight is hurting my back, making me out of breath etc. My quality of life would be better.

I give less fucks about appearance, I try to dress nicely for work whatever my size (elastic is my friend)

I don’t feel nice. And it is the over eating

@sleepwhenidie

Currently dislike job, it is very challenging. I am easily distracted from that too! But I do follow through on what needs to be done and I do work hard
Office is stuffed full of nice items like cake and chocolate (I never bring them). I didn’t eat the sweets in my bag I gave them to my DC! But I wanted to eat them

So I made 250ml of this drink and I am full already and can’t finish it haha

Anyone tried little and often meals? Maybe this would be a good plan if I planned ahead a lot more

But what do you plan out to eat when you are strapped for time?
If I buy nuts I will eat them ALL I cannot do ‘a handful’
Too much fruit irritates my reflux but I do snack on it
I walked round Tesco yesterday a bit lost

OP I'm not surprised you feel bad- if you are anaemic and have Vit D deficiency, I can imagine you do not feel energised and motivated. Maybe you'll feel better when these are sorted - and have the mental energy to put into diet and fitness??

I love food. I eat because it's nice and delicious. I love sweets and puddings and chocolate and I eat too much of everything.

Last year i somehow got Motivation to lose 3 stone. I have put one stone back on this year... but am trying to cut back again. My motivation was to get the optimum body fat percentage to improve my swimming- I'm in a masters club and do the odd competition. I'm not interested in looking thin but doing better at my sport was a good incentive. You need to explore what your real motivation is - health related maybe. You have to want the goal more than you want the extra food.

Reward/ distraction. When it worked for me, I had to try and find other rewards and distractions. Nice bath, magazine, new pair of goggles.... Sounds so lame... but it did work for a while.

Accountability- you say
I also live in denial about what I actually consume and lie to myself
Have you tried using MyFitnessPal app. It's a bit of a pain at first but it really makes you accountable.

I weigh 11 4lbs and want to lose the stone Ive gained. I'm doing low calorie (1200) and moderate carbs. It's crap. I'm on day2!!!!!

I'd try and do two things - first, start doing whatever you need to to change your job.

Then I would start practising mindful eating. Give yourself permission to have what you want, but you do need to eat 3 nutritious meals a day - real food, as unprocessed as possible, that you enjoy. Beyond that, whatever you fancy. But try eating as many meals/snacks as possible slowly, really tasting, really focusing. It can be an interesting experiment and sometimes we find that the 'forbidden stuff that we think we love actually isn't that enjoyable. And we learn to identify feelings of fullness and satisfaction more easily when we concentrate on eating rather than mindlessly chucking sweets down our throats. This will especially be the case when you eat after you have given your body the kind of stuff it really needs (rather than restricting for ages then cracking with hunger and sugar becomes the obvious choice, which then leads to more cravings for sugar etc). When we starve our bodies of the actual nutrition it needs, we get hunger signals but those signals don't usually tell us to eat avocado and lentils and broccoli, when your body is hungry it just wants fast energy - sugar/carbs. Give it that then hunger will abate slightly but you still haven't eaten the nutrients so the cycle repeats...

Ok thanks I will try those things re the way I think about food

Job - I’m working on it

Health issues - I’m 2 weeks in to the 20,000mg of Vit D tablets and I do feel better. Also 3 x iron tablets. I have actually woken up when I was supposed to and not been unconscious during my alarm

And take a lunch break if you aren't already. Go outside and sit somewhere nice with your lunch!

Hello, i’ve found my people! I am currently 13st 5lb (5ft 4) and in denial. I seem to have some weird body dysmorphia where I kid myself I don’t look too bad and then will catch a glimpse of my reflection when out and be like wtf? My size 14 clothes do not fit but I am reluctant to by size 16 mainly because I remember growing in to size 14 and thinking i’ll Just buy a few clothes whilst I get back into my 12’s. In a couple of months I don’t want to be buying 18’s 🤦‍♀️.
I am sick of dieting though and am crap at it, I never stick to anything. I have ordered a book about hunger directed eating but I worry it is just a diet by another name. I have gone as far as to look into the price of a gastric balloon (£4000 - can’t afford it) as there is a bit of me that believes if I could see results quickly I would peresevere. My problem at the moment is I slog away Mon-Fri to lose weight, take my eye of the prize at the weekend and put all the weight back on again, it is demoralising!

Hahaha same re the wrong way body dysmorphia! It’s so weird when that happens
I’ve started getting like the pouch on your pubic bone that needs tucking into your trousers - it isn’t even flattering enough to make you look ‘maybe she’s pregnant?’ As it’s too low down

sorrel let's keep it on Friday shall we? That should stop me pigging out at the weekend! So just weighed and I'm 10 stone 13lbs. I'm not going to set a target for next week, just that it is less than this weeks.