I'm really fucking fat :( If you are too, what's your plan?

[MummyPigsBigTummie]

Last year I was gutted at being 13st.

I'm now 17st 2lbs.

I've done nothing but emotionally eat all year, fuelled by depression and anxiety. To the point where I've become mildly agoraphobic.

This has got to be the year I turn my life and poor eating habits around.

I don't know where to start.

I know the title is quite harsh but I've been telling myself it's not so bad.

But it is.

I'm fat. Very fat. And I need to correct it.

Thank you carbs and limitisup. Such is life hey? Actually 2 batches of horrid news within 12 hours - so whilst dealing with the first batch by necking the valium it gave me just enough time to grab a few hours sleep before the next lot. My children and I are safe and healthy - everything else can be dealt with somehow.

When I lost a lot of weight when I was younger I had loose skin on my tummy and inner thighs - arms and boobs totally fine. I had a tummy tuck even though google images has since shown me it wasn't even that bad - very average for any woman who's given birth - although for me that was pre-children. Because I'd not go through the surgery for leg lift I'm planning to just invest in lycra tights to wear with everything. Under jeans. Under skirts. Under bikini. In the sauna. Etc., etc.

Loose skin is annoying but I do think some people will get it and some won't, kind of like stretch marks. What I do know though is everyone I personally know that's lost weight and has loose skin is much happier with the loose skin than they were with all the extra weight

That’s my view too keeping. I lost quite a lot of weight last year (4 stone) and while I do have some loose skin on my tummy, I 100 percent prefer it to the fat that used to be under it.

I'm starting again today..I don't seem to be able to fast successfully anymore..so keeping an eye on calories..I figured if I could eat 3 filling meals a day and cut out snacking and the cappuccinos (these are deadly!) I could still lose..I plan on eating things like scrambled eggs, porridge, soup and weetabix (using almond milk keeps the cals down..can't do lo carb to save myself.). Time will tell if it works, but it's all I've got just now.

Yes I lost about three stone in my mid 20's and had a bit of loose skin on my boobs. They looked fine though!!

My mum is elderly and really skinny now and she has awful loose skin left over from when she was just a normal weight. I guess that is because she is elderly though.

Day three now and it has made me realise just how much I was eating previously. Milky coffees were a big part of my day and I would often eat a whole pack of three yum yums (like whenever I went to the supermarket). Already I am pretty disgusted with myself for that. Whatever was i thinking. My husband sat eating ice cream and pizza last night and I would have definitely dived in before (even if I had already eaten half the kids dinner). I made pasta for the children last night and didn't even have a mouthful. I would probably have finished off what was in the saucepan before.

I'm drinking loads of water and can't stop weeing but am already down 5lbs. (15st 8lbs at 5ft 8 now). I have set up my smart scales , dusted off my Fitbit and the bsd book arrived this morning. Still need to read it!!

Today I have eaten 2 poached eggs and 4 rashers of bacon. 2 small coffees (without all the milk!) and loads of water and peppermint tea.

I really need some recipe ideas. It's like I have forgotten what I can eat.

I do think I'm insulin resistant. When I was about 26 I lost around 3 stone very quickly (and mostly unhealthily) by eating very very little. Once I was down to a low weight for me I found maintaining that weight really really easy (as long as I wasn't a total pig). It was almost as if once I was a healthy weight my body was operating properly, whereas once I'm overweight I just keep on gaining. Has anyone else had this? I didn't put on weight again until I had children - I had 4 in quick
Succession to end up like this (although I'm currrently heavier than I ever was at full term).

I have joined this thread to be accountable.

I can relate to what you are saying knowhowhow, I am on day 3 too and am already looking back at what I would chow down on (just a week ago) without even thinking about it. Today I have deliberately not stuck rigidly to my 800 calories per day blood sugar diet (Mediterranean style food, but low carbs and a bit of fat in nuts and dairy) because I had a 9 mile walk to do and wanted to make sure I had the energy to do it - so I started off with bacon, eggs, beans, mushrooms and tomatoes for breakfast....however on the walk I was very restrained when the biscuits , chocolate and sweets were handed around and refused them all

Hi may I join you all?

I have steadily put on weight all my life - was 12 stone 22 years ago, 14 stone 16 years ago and currently 16, 11. I've yoyoed around via WW, SW, Sirt diet, 5:2 & 16:8.
Nothing has really worked. As you can see.
I've been put on orlistat and bariatric surgery pathway recently though
a) not keen on either
b) bariatric surgery is at least 2 years off
BUT c) the pathway includes lots of psych, counselling etc, and this is what I am more hopeful about. It's not as if I don't know what good nutrition, eating & exercise habits look like, it's more that I seem unable to keep sabotaging myself.
I have a teen DD who is possibly heading in the same direction
Secret eating, buying own huge boxes of biscuits & chocolates etc etc...

I finally need to get myself into gear because if I don't, I feel like I will have blighted my daughter's life too. And I can't do that, however much I put myself last, I do put my kids first & foremost.

So - I don't smoke, drink very occasionally, am vegetarian & am very fat.

I will turn this around, even at 49.

I'm on day 3 of orlistat & have odd gut effects, but so scared of erupting that I am reducing fat content of what I eat anyway. Have noticeably lost 3lbs per scales, as my winter coat now fastens!!!! That's cheered me up no end!

Sorry, not read the entire thread.
I've never weighed that much OP but have been overweight, especially as a teen. I find that if I have something sweet in the house, I lack the self control not to eat it but when I went shopping, I found it quite easy not to buy junk stuff. It massively helped when I moved away and was in charge of my own food shopping. What I did is to plan once a week what I would need to eat, originally cutting out biscuits, chocolate etc and do one weekly shop (you need to meal plan quite a lot and work out how much stuff like milk you need). Buy lots of fruit and vegetables etc. You only shop once a week and the food you've bought lasts you the entire week. If you eat it all in the first five days, your going to be hungry for the next two... That last part makes it sound a little brutal but it's good for helping you regulate your eating. I still do it now, to an extent.
The main issues would be if you were diabetic or similar (in which case don't) or who you share your home with. I had a flatmate when I first did it but she was great and kept the junk food we used to share in her room. DP's preferences tend to be pizza, burgers as opposed to sweet stuff and so it's not much of a problem. I have two daughters and when they're old enough to have a say in what they eat then I'll need a slightly different system but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. Good luck Op

Saffronesque, I used Olistat a few years ago and it worked really well for me. Just make sure you only eat things with less that 5% fat per 100g then you won’t have any problems.

I screwed up yesterday. DH bough brioche for breakfast and I decided I could have some as part of calorie controlled diet. But it triggered my sugar craving so I ended up eating chocolate and french bread and feeling irritably ravenous all day long. It just proves that a no-processed-sugars diet is the only way for some of us. Back on the wagon today, I felt so grumpy yesterday, like PMT but it was just the sugar.

Another day down, exercise check. I keep being tempted to weigh myself even though I know I haven’t lost any weight. I don’t lose any weight for a long time even on a quite a low calorie diet which is why I keep giving up before I make any progress. I deliberately said I wouldn’t weigh myself this time and just concentrate on the fitness aspect, but it’s so tempting, like buying a lottery ticket when your brain knows you aren’t going to win and you do it anyway and hope for a miracle.

OneStepMoreFun - absolutely, its an all or nothing approach to processed sugars for some of us. I hope that today goes better.

Notanotheruser111 - I hope that you manage to stay strong and resist weighing yourself if you think that might derail you.

Am going for a mini fast today - from 7pm last night until 1pm this afternoon - before starting my 800 calories. I don't really get on with fasting so that's about as good as it gets for me

@Notanotheruser111 I'm the same. I'm deliberately not weighing myself more than once a month as I know if I don't see results that I feel match my effort then I'll give up. So hard to not though as we use any loss as motivation.

I would like to join you all please!

I am fed up with bingo wings, a double chin that is nearly as big as my head and the extra stomach. I have at least 5 stone to lose. I think I look OK every morning when I get ready, but my side profile in the mirrors at work say otherwise... I'm early 40s and would like to reverse the weight gain of the past years.

My aim is to hover around 1700 cals per day, which seems to be three sensible meals and a few very small snacks or a coffee. Today was my first day back at work after Xmas, so I deliberately didn't go mad, food wise, but still amassed 2050 cals. Most of the 'overspend' was on a big milky coffee with sugar and a lump of cheese when I got home + my normal lunch but a bigger serve. So not rocket science, but still the little things creep in and rack up the fats and sugars.

I also need to be more active; walk part way home, have a wander at lunch time, etc.

4 Ibs down in one week on the Pioppi Diet and no alcohol yay!!

Hi, I'm rejoining SW tonight. Lost 2.5st last year and then my Dad died suddenly and I think I've put it all back on so probably 24st plus now.

My knees hurt, I can barely get up off the floor from kneeling and I look bloody awful.

This is my year.

Hi all, another late joiner waddling in 😭
5’7 and nearly 17 fucking stone here (16.11).
Like Saffronesque I’m veggie and have steadily put on weight for my whole adult life, although there have been a few occasions where I’ve dieted down a bit. But the highs have got higher and the lows have got higher as well!

I don’t really know what to try and do. I react really badly to any form of restriction and starvation; I had EDs as an older teen and lived on 350 cals a day for a while. My whole mind and body revolts against deprivation, yet it’s clear that deprivation there has to be before I drop dead of a heart attack.

I’m definitely addicted to sugar and I suspect my veggie diet and reasonably high activity levels leave me short on protein. So probably those are the first things to address.

I've decided this time to go for an achievable, maintainable weight, rather than a more "conventionally acceptable" weight. I lost 5 1/2 stone last time, but I could not maintain it without extreme calorie restriction and lots and lots of exercise. I'd rather lose less but be able to maintain it - it seems better in the long run, though I am not disputing that I would still be overweight.

First official day today. On track so far. And I'm off to the gym later to use the treadmill but will take it easy as I haven't done any exercise in ages.

My salad for lunch hasn't even touched the sides! I'm starving! Need to add more protein to it tomorrow I think.

I've managed an hour of Pilates- go me!
Not really a huge achievement in calories as it is mainly stretches and trying to find muscles to stretch - limited mobility for decades now and these are chair based mainly - but absolutely bloody amazing for me! And it may help with the inevitable loose skin too.
Breakfast was crap but better that I ate something before doing the food shop, even online!

I find a tin of red salmon or tuna is good for lunchtime protein with a salad. Also, tinned kippers in the flat tin are really good. Matzo crackers are good too.

3lbs off and my face has already lost that carby Christmas excess bloat thank goodness! My jeans feel they're fitting better. I won't say "loose", but they're no longer causing me to squeak when I talk! I've decided from now on only to buy fitted non-stretch clothes. With everything containing a hefty dose of lycra it's all too easy to gain a stone with no real reminder. Fitted waistbands tell no lies.

Back on track after a very dodgy day yesterday. I just must steer clear of refined carbs and sugar. They are binge-triggers.

Today's breakfast was homemade porridge with cinnamon and forest fruits

Luch was 2 eggs poached in water with 2 slices of grilled bacon and tomatoes, and an apple. I feel completely full but if I'd added a slice of toast to that I'd still be growling for more food, I know. So weird.

My run got cancelled by runnng partner being sick but I've been for a walk and will walk a bit on the way back from work later.