Why don't people looking to loose weight just ask?

[Demant0]

This may upset people, but here goes...

I often find myself in conversations with my friends about their latest diets or weight loss aspirations but would never instigate a weight based conversation because - as a slim person - I don't think it'd be appropriate (don't want to seem like a know it all).

Yet lately I'm feeling quite proud that I've lost 8lb in the last few months taking me to 8 stone 4lb. I feel very slim and healthy for loosing this weight and many people have notice and commented. (It can get a bit derogatory however, 'skinny', 'getting too thin', 'scrawny' etc, but there you go. I don't care.)

Because of the fact I have made some changes that has led to this weight loss, I am always keen to join in a conversation with my friends because it hasn't just fallen off me. I've taken a few measures to do it that have worked.

The thing is no one EVER wants to know how I loose and maintain my weight and never asks me what I eat, how I live, how I exercise etc. It's always really one sided.

It's like my friends and colleagues think I have no idea about weight loss or calorie counting or whatever because I'm thin. It doesn't make sense - I'm the one who DOES bloody know, obviously!

I think if I struggled to loose weight I would find someone slim and then shadow them and practically adopt their lifestyle. Surely that's got to be more effective than WW that clearly doesn't work very well - for long term anyway.

For example. I've just been talking to my male colleague at work who is morbidly obese - dangerously overweight at about 22 stones with a huge stomach - and I sat there for ten minutes with him telling me about the best way to loose weight and that his wife (also overweight) is doing this and that and this is obviously the way to do it etc. Not once did he ask, 'hey you seem to know what you're doing. What can you suggest?'

This is after being out with friends last night and listening to a lady telling about the delicious food you can have at WW and how great it all is that you can eat sugar etc, but that she put 8lb back on because of Easter and has since lost half a stone again and ain't that bad because now she's going to have to pay again because she can't get to her target weight. She's one of many - I wish I had shares in WW.

When I voiced a couple of concerns that I have about the WW approach to loosing weight, I was emphatically told that I was wrong, implying I can't possibly have the faintest idea what I'm talking about WTF??

So why is it, that as a slim person, no one EVER wants to know my take on weight loss? Why is it they'd rather spend money and time listening to either other overweight people, or experts who want their money?

Is it because the assumption is I am 'just lucky' or 'have a good metabolism'? Or do they just not want to know what it really takes to be thin because they think the truth would be too challenging?

This has been going on for so many years now that I'm genuinely getting very curious.

If I got lose and loose wrong, despite the grammar Nazi's best efforts then, um, hard luck.

I was once at a WW meeting where we talked about "what would a thin person do." My examples were:

(thin) XMiL would have half an avocado as a starter and be so full she couldn't eat any dinner after that
(thin) auntie ate a quality street once and had to rinse her mouth with water to get the awful sweet taste out.

These are true stories and both times I was

So come on please what are your tips

🍿

Waiting for groundbreaking weight loss advice. . .

OP, where are you? Googling "weight loss tips"?

"what would a thin person do."
Have a fag usually, in the old days anyway.

WE ARE WAITING FOR THE TIPS.

FaFoutis.. exactly! That's what I did 3 stone ago... I gave up smoking, got rid of a highly stressful job and broke my knee within 3 mths of each other - this, over time resulted in 3 stone weight gain. I'm currently on a mission to lose it, but it's not always that straight forward and simple. As others have pointed out.. waiting for the holy grail of weight loss advice though!

I'm one of the thin ones. Yay me. Underweight. Should I ask someone bigger than me how they manage to put weight on? Um, no.

And for what it's worth, people, thin people don't always have the answers. I've had breakfast, lunch, a Twix, two crumpets, two Tunnock's teacakes and about seven chocolate digestives. If someone bigger than me wanted to get inspiration about how to maintain, then they'd be asking entirely the wrong person.

the holy grail of "Weight Loose

I think if I struggled to loose weight I would find someone slim and then shadow them and practically adopt their lifestyle

Even if they were doing with with cigarettes and laxatives? I wouldn't!

Genuine question op.

Tell me what I need to do. I take steroids. I take painkillers for nerve pain and strong muscle relaxants and heavy duty nsaids.

My knees are fucked. My back is fucked. My neck is fucked. My shoulder is fucked. I have breathing problems. I have cancer. Two types. Just to make it fun. I have gynae issues. I have other debilitating conditions no limited to but including MS

Do please fucking tell me what I should do to lose weight. And why I would even make that a priority.

Not sure why you're so unreasonably upset that people don't want to discuss their personal lives with you, OP.

If you are so determined to save the overweight, one pound at a time, why don't you train as a dietitian and work for the NHS? I am sure you could do a lot of good there and you would be on a proper footing with the people who come to you for help. You would also be backed by medical science.

I don't know if people who are overweight are in the habit of buttonholing the slim for advice (I suspect not) but even if they were, they are certainly not asking you. Why not? Who knows? Maybe you give off a vibe?

nicky

That sounds like me pre 29 when i was skinny

OP many pp here have done what you wished for and asked for your advice on being slim (some v disingenuous but some seem sincere) - i would very much like to hear your tips (i am being totally sincere) - why dont you share please?

I hope all of you eating popcorn on this thread have a healthy BMI and haven't been snacking earlier today

I wouldn't normally laugh at bad grammar btw op but I sense you're here for the banter.

Yeah, don't hold out on us, OP.

Share the love!

Or are you going to market the information and sell it back to us?

Your new club name could be:

Dump Your Rump
Thinner than You
Mission Slimpossible
Lean Queens

Rufus I'm 42 now. I've been expecting my metabolism to ping for the last 12 years but it's not happened. Yet...

hmm

nicky

Sorry if you thought i was having a pop

I got very ill on holiday that year and after that my thyroid was fucked

Without that i think i would still be mainlining shit and staying skinny

Sorry, am going to use capitals OP and shout a little because I suspect you may be hard of hearing:

SEVERAL POSTERS HAVE INVITED YOU TO SHARE YOU DIET TIPS BUT YOU HAVE FAILED TO DO THIS - WHY IS THIS? IS IT BECAUSE YOU POSTED TO BE GOADY, RATHER THAN SINCERELY WANTING TO SHARE YOUR DIETING KNOW HOW?

Or are you going to market the information and sell it back to us?

In a Daily Mail supplement no doubt.

I'm the one who DOES bloody know, obviously!

Sounds like you are positively bubbling over with weight-loss secrets that can't stay contained for much longer!

Care to share? Before you burst with suppressed knowledge?

The more of us who know, the more of us can go out into the world like minions spreading your words of wisdom. You can't do it all yourself. We'll help.

I realise you are probably shopping for healthy food or running on the treadmill right now, but do come back and help us out.

I have a friend who is very slender with seemingly no effort, and she does eat a lot of fast food and takeaways. BUT I have noticed that if she buys a burger for example, she only eats about half of it and bins the rest, the same for pie and chips, she'll eat the pie filling and pick at the chips, so I reckon she actually eats just enough to stay the size she is, she doesn't overeat - although if she wrote a food diary, it would be something along the lines of 'Breakfast wrap from McD's, Subway sandwich, bag of crisps, KitKat, takeaway pizza, chips'

I used to be really envious (I have lost just over 2 stone since Jan, by going to Slimming World and seriously restricting my intake) until I realized that although it looks as if she eats loads of unhealthy stuff, she actually she eats very little of it. I don't think she ever gets really hungry because if I bought a burger, it would be gone in 20 seconds, not picked at, then thrown away.

I remember that thread with lots of people saying they often forget to eat and don't get strong hunger pangs. If I was like that, I would be slim. I get very strong hunger pangs. Yes I can ignore them and have in the past, but it feels horrible. In fact there have been many times when I don't actually want to eat, but I eat to stop the hunger pangs.