(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

Argh stupid phone. I'm sorry if there are loads of posts by me today.

I'm having a day of it ds1 is holding his poo and is very miserable

sol have a great holiday. Thanks for the advice about the speech therapist I will love to here the advice. Ds1 doesn't have many words at all. Maybe 3 or 4 at a push. It's just mainly sounds.

I'm also intrigued by something like buggy-fit, shirking but have the same worries as you. So if you could go first and either reassure me or warn me off that would be great

Well done on the 10k solitude, very impressive! Hope you have a fabulous holiday!

I'm loving thinking of it as resistance training, Mship. I'll be using the same mindset from now on!

3.5lb's is brilliant, Green! Well done.

I would be fully supportive of trading in the heels if it means being more comfortable Beyond. However I did get a lot of stick as a teenager for being the only one to go clubbing in flats so I may be too pro flat shoes!

I hope your DS gets the support he needs, Rachey. How's he doing now? Hope he's feeling happier (feeling happier being a more pleasant way of saying I hope he's managed to have a poo!)

Thanks everyone. I just felt I'd let myself down at the weekend. (I put 11lb on in May which has undone almost all of my weight loss from last year ).
I haven't had a great time diet wise since Wednesday, I've been feeling very stressed out and miserable. I've had homemade pizza tonight which was nice. Tomorrow I'm going for an afternoon tea with DH (an anniversary gift 2 months after the event).
I have a plan from Sunday. I just need to actually start it and stick with it. I'm optimistic, I love a good fad diet.

I shouldn't have bought the beauty box Beyond. I have far too much beauty stuff too. Probably about 3 years worth, I have to stop buying it to cheer myself up.

I hope DS is feeling better Rachey, like I've mentioned before DD1 didn't talk much till she was 3.5. As long as your Doctor/HV knows your concerns they'll get you sorted out (im sure you've said that you've done that). I used to feel really guilty about it and think I'd did something wrong, but DD2 never shuts up so it's more to do with the child really! He'll be fine, but I know that it's a real worry.
Are you going to get the new Lean in 15 book? My Mam gave me a supplement from the paper with a selection in, it looks good. Plus I notice Joe has done a chat on MN too. I might try to read that at the weekend.

I just remembered that my cousin did the buggy fit Shirking, she liked it. If it's the one you pay for you will probably get the first week reduced or for free? I wish I'd pushed myself more when my 2 were babies. Our local Sure Start did a one too.

How are you doing Daisy?

I hope you've bought that swimming costume now Sol

Evening all.

Sorry about the silly short posts earlier.
Friday's is a busy morning as both dcs attend tumble tots so by the end of it I'm frazzled. Glad the weather has been nice so we've been in the garden playing with ds2 new birthday presents (sand and water table)

Thanks for the concern ds1 just hates pooing it's been going on for at least 5 months he just holds it in. He isn't constipated and his tummy is soft. The Drs just keep giving us movicol but nothing works. We have to change his nappy 9/10 times a day as he holds it in but a little escapes. His poor bottom is very sore. This is also delay us with toilet training.

shirking thinking about exercise that soon after birth is amazing. I haven't been to buggy fit but I have seen them in the park.......it looks very sociable

sol 10k is amazing. I take my hat off to anyone who can run (and you beyond) hope you and your family enjoy your holiday.

green 3.5 is amazing. Just draw a line under these last few days and start fresh. How are you potty training? just going for it?

I weighed myself on Thursday and I was 10st 8.5lbs but I think I have undone some good today. I've got to stop making sweet corn and courgette fritters for the boys. They are so yummy with baked beans

daisy, shirking , mship how's ur week been?

I have a big house warming party to go to with a lot of my friends that I haven't seen in awhile so I'm quite excited. I also feel that I will consume a lot of prosecco

Hope you all have a good weekend

Thanks for the welcome. Weight loss / fitness plan off to a slow start - I've just demolished a takeaway curry

Well done on the 3.5lbs Green fantastic!

Rachey does your dc understand you and any simple commands? Eg. Put the ball under the chair? My nephew had delayed speech but as his comprehension was good they weren't too concerned at the time. He's 3 and still says few words but he's getting there. (Sorry if this has already been discussed).

daisy I've found a buggyfit group in the park near me. I'll go next week and let you know what it's like. Hoping I won't look out of place in my maternity leggings!

My social life is already being overrun by my ds1's. He has two parties this weekend and I'm the taxi driver. He's two. Thought I had a good few years before this all started!

have a good weekend. Enjoy your parties and afternoon teas.

Not a bad week here but If I haven't put on I'll be gobsmacked unfortunately. Haven't so much been eating badly discounting a few days but have been very lazy so apologies in advance if you see a rant from me on Sunday after I weigh myself!

I'm going to ask DP to go up in the loft for me tomorrow to dig out my old work-out DVD's. That way I can't use the weather as an excuse and can stick DS in his bouncer whilst I dance around the living room like a professional idiot. Must remember to shut the blinds first. I don't mind DP and DS having a laugh at my expense but the neighbours will need to find their own entertainment I'm afraid!

Sorry to hear you're not feeling great, Green. I hope you enjoy your afternoon tea! What plan will you be following?

The fritters sound amazing, Rachey!
Enjoy the party and Prosecco!

Looking forward to your buggy-fit review, Shirking.

Ladies yesterday I had 2 scones with jam and cream, a glass of wine and a daiquiri.

Back later - felt need to confess !

What flavours were the jam and daiquiri?Wine is essentially grape juice. You've got at least two of your five-a-day in!

Beyond I could have murdered a daiquiri last night! It was a loooong week. DD is usually a pretty easy baby apart from the cling, but she had jabs this week and we had one evening of overtired screaming and projectile vomiting as a result. She's fine now, doing her favourite activity - nursing and dozing on my lap.

I think I've been ok with the snack and junk avoiding so far this week. Tonight will be a little testing as we're having the PILs and some visiting relatives over for dinner, and they're bringing dessert. I've made a double batch of chilli in the slow cooker, it's great with rice and a little light sour cream.

Morning all!

In a very good mood as I've just weighed in and am 2lbs down!

Just about to stick DS in his bouncer so I can squeeze a work out in then off to a family BBQ/roast later (depending on how the weather turns out).

Beyond, scones are my absolute weakness and I very rarely drink now but would would never turn down a

daiquiri - sounds like a great afternoon!

Your poor DD, Mship. Really glad to hear she's feeling better. That chilli sounds lovely, enjoy!

How's the weekend treating everyone?

Green Sorry you are feeling down. Can you pinpoint anything? Or is it just general unrest? It's horrible feeling liking that. We need to start looking more into mindfulness.
I hope your afternoon tea was nice. I hope you had 2 scones like I did Ho
Don't stress about the 11lbs, maybe this is just has not been the right time for you to lose weight, there's no point in beating yourself up over it, hopefully you'll feel more positive soon and you'll be able to focus again in the meantime maybe concentrate on being healthy and strong? I read a little of the blog you posted and it was really good.
Although, I do like a fad diet as well :) and they can be good for getting going again. Which fad diet is it?!

Did you like the beauty box? I had a quick look at it yesterday but there weren't many things in it I needed/wanted. I have a study full of products and so am trying not to add to them although like you, I do buy things to cheer myself up. Last week I purchased the Essie gel top coat, will report back.

Rachey sorry to head DS continues to have poo problems. Did you get referred to a general paediatrician/constipation clinic? It must be so upsetting for you and DS. Really hope improves soon. I'm sure you looked at diet and good fluid intake already. Would reward charts help? Sorry if this has already been suggested and tried.
Well done with the weight :) and hope the house warming was good and you did have loads of prosecco :)

Shirking Strawberry. Love your way of thinking! Hope your tax driver duties weren't too dull and I really really want a curry now....

TheMship Hope your DD is feeling better. Well done on avoiding junk. When are you planning to weigh in?

Super well done on your 2lbs daisy I wish I had the motivation to do a work out dvd (I'm so old, I've got the cindy crawford video!

I had a run yesterday and am doing a semi fast day today (800 cals). Still over my post holiday weight though due to excess of cake/chocolate and and alcohol.... Need to be more disciplined, my plan pre holiday was working.

Work bit meh again. Lots of restructuring and people having to reapply for jobs, not directly affecting me at the moment, but I'm worried it will filter down to my team in time. Need to be more mindful and not worry about things that haven't happened yet I guess. Although, I do feel my team isn't working as well due to staff changes already, so if it was worse, I'd just leave I think. Not as happy there as I was although I love the job, the people aren't the same.

Hope Sol has a fabulous holiday. Hope everyone had a nice weekend.

Thanks everyone. I think I've probably undone any weight loss after this weekend.

2lb is brilliant Daisy. You sound very motivated. How was the BBQ?

Is the baby any better Mship?

Has your weekend been good Rachey? Friday sounded like hard work. You are doing really well with the weight loss though. You must be close to your goal again?

The afternoon tea was lovely thanks Beyond, just the one scone with lots of cream and jam.
I think the miserableness might be hormonal (I'm all spotty with crazy mood swings), I get like this every few months.
It's a feeling of unrest like you say, then everything seems too much to cope with.
I was okay till Thursday. I'd planned to go and get my brows sorted and get some gel nails done. Then I was going to tidy our bedroom properly (in my head I felt like this would all make me much 'happier'). But I ended up having to do a mad tidy up of the whole house because our builder suddenly found time to come to measure up the house with an architect.
So now the extension we have been talking about for 3 years is becoming a reality and the thought of sorting through all of our stuff is very overwhelming. The loft is full and will have to be emptied to rebuild the roof. We will also have to move out and DH wants to move in with his parents (they have room but this could tip me over the edge).
So all of this has set me off comfort eating.

The beauty box is nice, although I won't use some of the stuff. I've also got an impressive beauty collection. I'm going to have to sort through it all again and take some stuff to the woman's refuge.
I have the essie gel setter top coat. Is that the one you have? Or is it that brand new one? I like Essie polishes. Nothing seems to last long on my nails at the moment. I could open a nail bar with my polish collection.

Will you find a similar job easily? It's a shame when you love it.I've also worked with people who've made the everyday running of things less than pleasant.

I'll post about the diet tomorrow. I can't be bothered to find links tonight.

The blog I linked to did inspire me to book DD2 swimming lessons (where you go in the pool with them). I never felt confident enough to do that with DD1. So healthy, strong and confident would be great.
( I'm also trying to give zero fucks!)
Picture of afternoon tea (did I mention that I had 2 G&Ts?!!)

Morning everyone. Sorry about the self indulgent moaning last night.

I'm thinking about doing this diet thebloodsugardiet.com/

I think we have plans for the weekend (involving meals out) and I bought lots of fruit the other day. So this week I'm just going to try to be healthy and read up on the diet properly and try to think of meals to cook. I might start next Monday.

Was the housewarming fun Rachey?

Hope you are having a great holiday Sol

Hi all! Thanks for the good wishes re baby. She's absolutely fine now, happy as a clam. beyond usually I weigh in on Wednesdays but sneaked a look this morning and I'm almost another 2 lb down. I was really good all weekend and only had a small portion of DMIL's lush treacle tart. I made sure to savour every little bite .

Maybe TMI but is anyone else struggling with constipation while losing? I'm really having to watch my fluid intake and have started taking fybogel again (had some post partum to help get things moving). I think DD nursing so much is great for the calories but we think she's getting about a litre of milk daily as that would be roughly what she would need in formula for her weight, and that's a lot of liquid that isn't available to me.

Sorry to hear about your work situation, Beyond. I went through two restructures before finally taking voluntary redundancy on the third (it was that or relocate to another office with a 2 hour commute whilst heavily pregnant - no thanks). It was awful at the time but turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I hope it all works out for you.

Funnily enough Green, due to the redundancy situation and some other family issues we ended up living with the in laws for a while. I get on with them brilliantly but it was still very difficult. As soon as there was an 'end date' to it it felt far more manageable though. Very jealous of your afternoon tea, looks lovely! Hope you enjoy the swimming lessons, when do they start?

Glad to hear baby is feeling better, Mship! I know it's not to everyone's taste but I find green tea helps me avoid the constipation issue.

Green that's an awful lot going on. If living with in laws would push you over the edge, don't do it, could you look into renting for a few months?
I identify a lot with you say, I certainly think tidy house, tidy mind but get quite overwhelmed.
Well done on taking the plunge (so to speak) with the swimming lessons.

Your tea looks lovely. I've loads of polishes too, keep trying to get rid of things/ pass on to people as well. It's the gel setter, I used it last week and think it's quite good.

That diet has had really good reviews, good luck with it, tempted myself....

TheMship I always had a glass of water while bf. Well done on your 2lbs.

Glad things worked out for you daisy I do think it's the push I may need, I am currently doing a course though and would like to finish that first.
I couldn't get as job as good Green, that's my dilemma. But I do feel increasing maybe a change would be good.

Hi everyone,

I'm here in Spain,everyone is asleep but I am up, it's so annoying. As you can imagine the diet has gone to shit while I'm away but I have been exercising while in the pool with the kids, lots of lunges and high knees, I must look like a nutter I don't care, there's no one to see me except the kids and DH.

Just a heads up though, I bought the M&S slimming swimsuit and it is the most impractical thing ever. Its really hard to get on as its quite tight and its even harder to get off when its wet, so save your money for something else.

Green is there anyway you can ship your kids off for the day so you can start clearing out some stuff? Or start small, say a cupboard a day or something? I'd rent if I were you, I couldn't live at my in-laws, I'd be done for murder!

Rachey i will be back at the SALT the week I'm home from holidays as we have several one-to-one sessions set up, so when I've done that Ill post up all of the exercises she's going to give us.

Beyond, can you sell your shoes on eBay or a facebook selling page and make some money (to buy more shoes with) , my friend does this and makes great cash doing it.

Mship I'm glad your baby is feeling better, its awful when they are sick.

Daisy, Shirking there's a great buggy fit near me and it looks brilliant, I wish I had done it. Have either of you tried trampoline workouts? I've signed up to one in a few weeks time, I'm not sure what to expect.
I can hear restlessness coming from one of the bedrooms, I think my toddler is climbing out of his cot again. Better run, be back later!

I hope you are having a lovely time Sol. How long are you away for?
I did the same in the swimming pool on holiday. I'd love my own swimming pool. it's probably the only form of exercise I really enjoy, shame you have to take most of your clothes off to do It!
I'll bear that in mind about the M&S costumes. I borrowed something similar from my Mam last time we went away and hated them. I found the Asda costume quite comfortable (it was much thinner)and it did a reasonable job of holding everything in. (Plus it was only £12!)

Thanks again for your kind words about my self indulgent moaning. I'm just going to try to stop worrying about it. Once we have decided properly on plans we will have more of an idea about if we'll need to move out. It probably won't be till next year anyway.
I'm just going to concentrate on further de cluttering. I had spoke to DH about spending a day clearing the garage and another in the loft. So I might ask my parents for help.

Well done on your 2lb Mship, that's brilliant. I'm so impressed at your discipline around food! Glad the baby is better too.

Daisy we started swimming last week. She isn't too keen and has been very clingy this week, hopefully once it's a regular thing she'll enjoy it more.

I hope you're having a nice week Beyond. I keep giving stuff away too! I'm like some sort of skincare/cosmetics pusher.

My diet has been terrible this week. I have zero motivation again. I can't bring myself to get on the scales.

Are you okay Rachey?

Maybe your course will lead to bigger and better things, Beyond!

We all have off weeks, Green. Just give yourself a break from the scales and get back on it next week! I'm sure she'll get used to the swimming. That's something I wish I'd done as a child, I can't swim and it feels a little too late to learn now!

I also can't try out anything to do with trampolines, Sol as they scare the shit out of me. I can't even watch my nieces and nephews on them, it makes me feel a bit sick!

And now I've made myself look a tit with my swimming and trampoline admissions I'm off, haha!

Hope you're all having a lovely week (especially you Sol, have a great holiday!).

Evening all,

Wow this week has sped by. I didn't realise I hadn't posted since last week I'm actually falling asleep while I type. I will post in the morning as I have help with ds's (which means I get to use my phone without hiding it for ds1) x

green. wow that afternoon tea looked delish I'm glad you had a good time.

It all sounds very stressful getting all that building work done, but also very exciting?! I love getting stuff done in the house. Have they set a date yet? I agree if the in laws is too much maybe a short term let is the best option. Is it expensive to rent where you are?

I agree I love a good tidy up I just don't get the time anymore (I don't live in a pig sty but it's not as neat as I would like)

How are you feeling now? Xx

Sorry I have a very clingy 1 year old at the mo. Will post more soon.