(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

Re houses, definitely make a list of things you love about your current house that are non-negotiable on any new house.
I did this but forgot that I loved my big downstairs hall....I mentally went through every room but missed the hall! Now my new (well as of a year ago) house has most things I wanted but a poky hall. Bear in mind settling into a new place too - it's taken me a while here (small place where a lot grew up here and haven't moved, it is lovely, but I will be encouraging mine to go away for a least a bit. I have slowly found friends, and guess what, it turns out we're all "incomers"!)

And as someone else said, schools can turn around quickly with new leadership. Or equally a good school can start to coast and not so as well as it "should".

I smiled when I saw the comments about a third baby or not. This morning I started looking at my wardrobe and now have a pile of maternity clothes. I really think I am too tired and old, but keep wondering how I'll feel once I'm not up feeding. I might just be ruthless and give the clothes to a charity so they can used and not sit in the attic for years.

Someone way back asked when I am going back to work - I have two months yet. Problem is that I haven't got baby sleeping well yet, so I'm too tired to do much exercise. I am having a bit of success in being a bit more disciplined about what I snack on. Telling myself to eat similar to what I give the children helps.

And back to houses, I found that once we'd decluttered the old house ready for photos for the sale, it looked lovely and I didn't want to move!! But we had to for DH's work. And I always remind myself that the new neighbours who moved in next door (terrace) were really bloody noisy.

Oops. Just gone to put on my new 'holiday' dress, and I'm busting out. It fitted perfectly before I went.

I'm sure it will be false weight Rachey

Well done on healthy snacking Miffy DD(2) still doesn't sleep well, we co sleep a lot! But need to get some sleep when working....

Have a fabulous holiday Green

I hope you are feeling better today Miffy. Have you got any good de littering tips. I'm always trying to declutter, but end up buying more or people keep giving me stuff for the children.

If I could accept that I don't want a third child I could get rid of a lot of stuff. But there's still a niggle.

Your breakfast sounds awesome Rachey, don't worry about your dress. It will just be bloat from eating a different diet. I bet you'll lose it as soon as you get home and eat more normally. I'd also live to see your kitchen? Did you mention that you got an Ikea one?
Enjoy the rest of your holiday. It is really hard going away with small children. I think that's why I've been putting it off. I've got it all to look forward to starting from tomorrow. Plus I thought the Villa with private pool would be great but not I'm worrying about them both drowning (I do worry too much).
My swimsuit makes me look vaguely acceptable.

Beyond The secondary schools in our town are 'good' on paper. But I know a lot of teachers so I get to hear all the horror stories. We also live on the border of Gateshead and Durham and a lot of local children go to school there. So that's 7 schools to choose from. We are also thinking about private school. Plus children often want to be with their friends from primary, so they might be keen on a school that you don't like. It's probably too much to think about at the moment, we don't want to move.

Sol. I will fly to yours at least twice a year if you buy a castle. That will be amazing. We could have a weekly savings plan for all the food and booze.

My case is packed for my holiday. I've painted all 20 nails. I've removed no body hair, that will be attempted tomorrow morning.

Good luck with the hair removal Green

Sol I forgot to say, I love the idea of a castle. Maybe we should all just live together and home ed?!

Have a lovely time Green I'm sure the pool will be safe. Looking forward to hearing about it on your return.

Hi All,

sorry I haven't been around. I've been having a dreadful time in work, hours are being reduced and a group of (arseholes) people who've worked there longer than me and one who was hired at the same time as me, have banded together and decided my contract shouldn't be renewed and they should take my hours. I am swinging between rage and feeling very sorry for myself. They don't know I know yet so I am being super professional and getting on with my job, but secretly I would like to punch them all in the face.

Management are crap in my job and I can see them bowing down to group pressure. So I am seeing out my contract and busily updating my CV. Jobs in my field are quite hard to come by so but I reckon the group will turn on each other in September/October and I will be sitting sweetly in a new job. I know why they don't like me, they found out I am way more qualified than them and seem to have taken this as some sort of offence. They went from being really friendly to refusing to speak to me.

On the dieting front I have been doing ok. Lots of soups and veg with hummous and I've been very active. TOTM is here so I will not be weighing myself for the next few days, I don't want to be annoyed about my weight and cheesed off because I'm fat.

Sorry for the really dreary post. I just needed to vent on here.

Oh Sol That's dreadful. How can those woman be so awful :( I think it's a very good idea to get another job. They sound like childish bullies and I feel enraged on your behalf. I imagine you don't want to stay there anyway? Could you talk to the management though, in case they could be in anyway supportive??? Would you have a case for unfair dismissal or anything like that? Are there any behaviour type policies? We need an employment law expert on the thread..... There is a job section on MN, is it worth posting there? Don't let the b*itches get you down.

Glad you have been doing well on the diet front, I haven't been doing as well and so my weight is pretty static.

sol I'm so sorry to hear about your shitty situation. I hope you get out of there and find an excellent job where they appreciate you.

I agree with beyond is there a hr or management and put in a complaint so there is a paper trail and if you are unfairly dismissed you can sue their arses?

Thanks for being so nice Beyond and Rachey, there is HR but she is really crap. It seems the lunatics are running the asylum. I'm going to leave and try and be a professional, I can't go in and make a scene because I need a reference. Hours are being reduced for everyone and that's just the way it is.

Just had a bloody big chinese takeaway tonight so let's just say the dieting isn't going so well

I'm sorry I have been MIA it's been a busy week.

Flight was delayed 4.5hrs coming home so we didn't get back till 3.30am then ds2 woke at 6.30 we then spent the whole day in ikea sorting out our kitchen. (Which is nearly complete)

The official sats are in I put on a whopping 14 pounds in a 10 days Wtf?!? I have a weekend of eating and drinking planed (ds2 birthday tomorrow) then I will tackle this extra stone head on.

Sorry for my self indulgent post.

sol how are things at work ?

beyond how are you getting on? Still any thoughts on moving?

miffy how are you doing?

green hope your holiday is going well and your having a great time

Rachey you sound like you had a great holiday, was it lovely to get away? I can't believe you went to IKEA on such little sleep. Me and DH would be heading for the divorce courts if we'd gone sleep deprived.

I am starting Exante AGAIN tomorrow. But it's 2 and a half weeks until we go away and I want a stone gone. I am really busy for the next fortnight so I am hoping that will help. I'm going to start INsanity on Tuesday too.

Better run, kids have woken up. Happy Sunday!

Hi sol yes it was great to get away, but I felt that it might have been easier if ds1 had kids his age to play with, as I think he got a little bored in our company.

Good luck with starting exante tomorrow. Let me know how insanity goes?

I am doing a 4:3 for 12 days as I have seriously stuffed my face with cake and loads of sweet stuff so I'm back to the gym hardcore tomorrow.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all well.

Got back from holiday this morning (also around 3:30am). Not feeling too bad as we all went to bed and the children slept in.

We had a great holiday. I've ate and drank my own body weight in Parma ham, bread, olives, steak and cava!
I'm not sure how much I've put on. I think about 8lb? My weight was very up and down before I left. It's DHs Birthday tomorrow so we are going out for a meal. Then I'm back to WW on Wednesday. (I don't want to but I think I just need to face the music and get back onto some sort of sensible eating regime rather than the starve/binge cycle that I keep falling back onto)

Good to hear that you also enjoyed your holiday Rachey. It is difficult to keep little ones occupied. We found it easier this time now that they are older and play together, but DD2 was still hard to occupy at times!
Good luck with the gym and 4:3.

The people you work with do indeed sound like a bunch of arseholes Sol. I hope it gets sorted out soon. How is the Exante going today?

How are you both Beyond and Miffy? Enjoy the rest of the bank holiday.

green welcome back, sounds like an excellent holiday glad you and the family had a great time.

Going back to ww sounds very sensible. At least you get weighed every week and have that fear/motivation of seeing changes on the scales.

Happy birthday to your dh today. Where are you going for a meal?

It was ds2 1st birthday on Saturday so we had a picnic with friends then on Sunday a family bbq needless to say lots of scoffing was undertaken

Thanks for the encouragement. I was well and truly shocked by my 14lb weight gain but in hind sight I did eat a lot of foods that I haven't touched in ages (hello curros and chocolate sauce) I managed 600 cals yesterday but I did an hour circuit training at the gym. Today I'm hoping to eat about 1400.

I have realised through my weight loss/gain journey that all along alcohol wasn't what caused my gain but the eating that I did along side.i have really reduced my overall alcohol intake and it hasn't made much difference to my weight but when I change my eating the scales change dramatically (up or down)

Hope everyone has a great day. The weather in London is hideous and I'm wearing my bright yellow rain Mac and hunter wellies. I look very out of place next to the suits but hey at least I'm dry and not killing people with my extremely long umbrella

Hello

I had a very food and drink based bank holiday weekend. I can tell by my clothes and face I've put on loads of weight... Planning a fast day tomorrow and sticking to 1500 from Thursday onwards. Feeling so cross with myself. Feels like I instantly get to about a stone of goal weigh then I pile the stone back on that I lost taking me back to a very frustrating 2 stone to lose.

Rachey Some of that 14lbs must be water and I bet you lose quite a few lbs very quickly. Well done on your 600 cals and the training. Interesting re diet, I think we have to accept it's for life and not diets we need - sigh. Yuk re flight delay and also amazed you managed ikea on so little sleep. It's pouring down here, just took DD and DS to soft play , made me realise they re pretty well behaved compared to some!

How goes exact Sol ? I found about 4 days worth in the back of the cupboard, might have to do a 4 day quick fix at some point. Good luck with insanity. Hope job searching goes well and so sorry you ar win this rubbish situation.

Sounds a fab holiday Green Lots of luck with the weight watchers. Lets all try and being really good, I don't know how we can get really motivated again :(
Hope you and DH have a great birthday meal.

How are you Miffy ?

I'm going to settle the DC down with a DVD and do my nails. Did hoovering and dusting pre soft play and just the study left to de clutter but just can't face it!

Well I braved going to WW today, 7.5lb on. I'd also put 3.5lb on last time (after my Birthday). So 11lb on in May.
So I might have a little cry tonight (into my wine). Tomorrow is a fresh start. I'm just going to stick to WW points for the week and see what happens. Like you say Beyond it needs to be a lifestyle not a diet.

Sorry, DD woke up.

I love your outfit Rachey. I keep looking at yellow macs. Maybe I should get one next year when I'm thinner!

You are very brave going to soft play during half term Beyond. Hope you got your nails done.

How are you doing Sol? How long till the holiday now?

Are you okay Miffy?

Sorry I've been missing, DH was away for a bit and I was so exhausted between work and the kids that I was in bed very early. Insanity is very full on, I am very out of shape. When I'm doing the abs section I look pregnant, whatever angle I sit at my stomach bulges, it's gross. Exante is going ok. I had some hummous and carrot sticks and I have zero point soup for later - I appear to be mixing diets together.

Glad you had a good holiday Green and good luck with ww. Are you doing the new points plan?

You sound really frustrated Beyond, it might be best to write off the bank holiday weekend and refocus yourself (although it's bloody hard). How is your running going?

I hear you with the wine and food problems, I was trying to low carb and low sugar until it meant no crisps and wine . You'll lost that 14lbs in no time. How did you find circuit training? I'm looking at signing up to a circuit training class but I'm not sure what they're like.

I bought some clothes for my holiday and it is safe to say that they are very Mumsy. They're cotton 3/4 length shorts and when I saw them I thought "Oooh they'll be handy for trailing up and down to the beach". I would never normally pick such an item but they are so comfy

I'm leaving it until the day before we go away to buy my swimsuit. I'm hoping all the dieting and exercise will mean it will be less of a depressing experience.

Hope you all have a lovely day!

Oops I forgot to put your name in my post Rachey, sorry.

You're doing really well Sol. Is Insanity even harder than the Shred? (Not that I've even tried that!)
My stomach is my problem area. If I could just cut it all off the rest of me would look fine. But the bulge will be because of your muscles separating, so please be kind to yourself.

Even mixing Exante with real food will be low calorie? So probably more sensible anyway (although that amazing loss when you do the full 3 weeks of Exante is tempting!).

Most of my holiday clothes resembled nightwear! Lots of comfy trousers (elastic waists!) and cotton Tee shirt dresses from H&M. Everyone was wearing them! I just took some blouses to wear with the trousers on an evening. Although it was great having our own villa with a washing machine. Plus not being in a hotel meant I could just wear the same few things I felt comfortable in without anyone noticing the repeats.

I'm just sticking to WW points (smart points).
I've had my own head spinning at the thought of Exante/Fasting/low calorie diets. That's when I lose the plot completely and go off the rails.
So yesterday I just stuck to points. I had one portion of bread and one sweet potato. Everything else was protein/veg/ fruit.
I had points left and I was tempted to have crisps and a crappy WW snack bar. But I think I need to get out of that habit so I had fruit, oats and Greek yogurt instead.

I really need to get out of the wine and crisps/cheese routine so I'm hoping I can find the will power to keep that to 2/3 times a month.

I've been reading lots of 'life affirming blogs' and I think I just need to be happy about things. That starts with eating properly everyday and exercising more.

I was pleased with how much walking I was doing before my holiday so I'm going to continue to stick with that. I'm still paying for the Davina online workouts, so this month I'm going to fit those in 3 times a week.
I need to sort out my stomach so I'm going to look at my Mutu programme properly and start that (once the Davina is cancelled).

Sorry for the epic post. I hope you all have a great weekend. Please wish me luck on avoiding the wine.

Morning all,

sol how are things at work? Have been thinking of you this week, as I know how awful it is to be in a situation like that at work.

Well done for starting insanity - are you insane to do it mixing diets sounds good. What ever works for you.

green good luck avoiding the wine. how is Ww going? It's good that you are sticking to it and still having points over.

How have the Davina work outs gone? I did look into the mutu and I think it might be something I will do once I have lost all my weight.

beyond how are you doing this week? I feel your pain with the stone away from goal feeling. I'm suffering the same.

How was half term? Did u manage to do your nails?

miffy how's ur week been?

I have been trying to do 4:3 but I haven't really managed to do stick to 500 cals. I have been eating well and exercising thou.

Morning everyone,

Hope you don't mind me joining! I've lost a stone since having my son and have another stone to go.

Had some issues with food back in my teens so am trying not to get too obsessive about it but that's sometimes a little difficult.

Mostly going with 'eat less, move more'. The moving more would be a lot easier if the weather could please be a bit more consistent! Nothing worse than getting yourself and baby ready for a nice long walk for it to then start pissing down 60 seconds in!

Hello,

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. Welcome Daisy Well done on losing a stone. Are you trying to follow a plan?

I have pretty much had a foody week! Avoiding the scales and planning a 3 day fast from tomorrow. I am going to fast 4 days a week/ when I don't have social plans. So aiming for Sun/Mon/Tues (although may not manage 500 on all 3 days). Then Thurs, Sun, Mon, Thurs, Fri. Stick to 1500 other days (Ha how hilarious would that be). Running bit stuck on week 6, run 2 which is 10 mins running, 3 mins walking, 10 mins running. I am going to try and move up to run 3 next weekend which is 25 mins running, think I have a psychological block. I'm still pretty slow but hoping this will improve.

Have a party to go to in 2 weeks and would really like to shift 5lbs. Feeling really blobby.

Well done on calorie restricting and all the exercise Rachey. When are you planning to weigh?

Liked your post Green felt it was very motivating. Sorry about yours weight gain but I am sure it will be off soon. Can you link any of the blogs? IS the Davina work out good?

Sol saw some tummy control swimsuits in M&S, might be worth a look and I think they have an offer on at the mo. Impressed with your insanity work outs.