(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

Morning everyone,

Back on the diet train

green I hope you dcs and dh are feeling better. Do you/did you have a nice plans for your birthday?

The dress is very nice. What shoes would you wear with it?

pom what kind of changes do you need to make at work? Complete career change? I do, my boss is being very difficult and I'm really unhappy. How are things otherwise?

sol how are you getting on?

Can I ask your no diet, clothes and lifestyle advice. I feel that if I ask you guys you won't judge.

Me and oh stupidly had unprotected sex last week. I just come off period so I didn't think too much about it but yesterday I got a strange feeling and I have been getting a lump in my throat and me sense of smell is heightened. It's far too early for pregnancy do you think I'm worried about nothing? I am quite stressed at work and ds1 is being quite difficult recently. God I sound so stupid writing this down.

I think very unlikely Rachey what day were you post period? You are probably worrying more as stressed with work and DS1. Can you tell when you are ovulating? I know I'm normally around day 15-16. I always get bloated etc

Sorry to hear your boss is being difficult and you are unhappy. Time for a career change of move to a different job?

I just don't feel as happy but I know I have a good job which would be hard to get elsewhere. It's quite stressful at times. tbh when my current boss retires, I will leave as his replacement will be a cow, she dislikes me anyway (I had problems with her last year and you all gave lots of support). I will need to leave in next 2-3 years anyway as once she's in charge she will be awful.

Hope you had a great Birthday Green did you get nice presents?
How's things Sol ?

Back later.

I agree with Pom about it Rachey. It's probably just the worry making you think about symptoms more? You don't sound stupid at all.

Sorry to hear about work (for you both). It's difficult to know what to do for the best really? Hope it all improves soon for both of you.

I had a nice Birthday, thank you. Actually managed to get shopping! I didn't buy much. I couldn't be bothered to look at clothes and I have far too much makeup and skincare. So I many wandered round enjoying being child free.
My parents and in laws gave me money, but I didn't spend it. DH also told me to buy myself something, so I failed really!

Rachey, I've only wore the dress once and wore an old pair of denim Keds. Not very exciting. I will probably wear some sandals or clogs with it,

Haven't thought much about dieting, but I seriously need to do something drastic and long term very soon.

Thanks green and pom it sounds so silly and reading that back makes me sound 16.

I did ask oh if it would be a bad thing and he nearly had heart attack. So I'm guessing dc3 is out the question

pom sorry to hear your work situation isn't great either. I need a kick up the back side I've been there 14 years. I don't get any symptoms when ovulating but I'm always spot on with my period every 28 days and I normally ovulate around day 10-14.

How is the no sugar going? Are you still managing some runs a week?

green less would look amazing with that dress. As would hassdeen type sandals. God I love summer

I'm off to Croatia tomorrow for work for a few days. Really gonna miss the boys, at least oh has some support with his mum about.

I weighed myself last night and I'm 10st 5lb which isn't bad. Considering I haven't been sticking to ww. I really will knuckle-down soon.

sol hope all is going well with you?

I hope you have a nice time in Croatia Rachey. I thought it was lovely when I went.

How are things going with you Pom?

Sol'are you okay?

Could someone please motivate me? I'm just getting fatter and I can't seem to drum up enough energy to care. My days mainly seem to consist of school runs and tidying up after people. Children are being difficult this week too.
I need a kick up the bum.

I need motivation too Green I've been totally rubbish and feel fat and sluggish. Attempted a run this morning and felt every one of my gained lbs (still 5lbs up on pre Easter weight).

Have a great time in Croatia Rachey 10stone 5 is fab!

How are you Sol ?

Morning all,

green and pom lets all get motivated together. I'm dreading stepping on the scales after Croatia. Lots of meat, carbs and ice cream but I'm back on it today.

Hope you all have had s good weekend? I really missed the boys and oh. I doubt I will go away with out them again.

i have decided against the tummy tuck at the moment. I'm going to look at personal trainers to change my body shape. I'm still holding out for a third dc so don't want to spend 8 grand then get pregnant again. (This is only ifs a buts as oh not so keen)

green have you decided what your going to spend your birthday money on?

I'm trying to feel motivated today.
As usual I'm totally disorganised after the weekend and hadn't cooked what I'd planned to. So I've made a massive pan of Ramen (with courgette noodles) and I'm trying to have a fast day.

At least you've actually exercised Pom. How long do you normally run for?
Planning on doing some proper exercise after the school pick up.

We had a nice weekend. Went for a belated Birthday meal yesterday. I even saved room for desert, so I was gutted that they'd ran out of tirimisu and Creme brûlée! So I didn't have one at all.

Good idea to try a personal trainer Rachey. I still think tummy tucks look brutal!
I don't think we'll be having a third. Although I was feeling slightly broody at the weekend. Stupid hormones.

I'm actually thinking of buying a biker jacket Rachey. I'm really fat at the moment, but was thinking it might be something to aim for?

I'll try to post more tonight.

green that sounds delish. I love ramen. I started off well today but have just eat a bar of green and blacks at 9sp oops.

Have you seen any nice biker jackets? I have owned a few and would recommend whistles or such like. They fit amazing and last well. My whistles jacket still looks good at 6 years old, but doesn't fit anymore. Go to places like John Lewis where you can try on lots of different brands to find the right one for you. Also but a size down as they stretch over time. (That's what the guy in all saints said although I'm sure he just wanted me to buy the jacket )

Oops posted too soon.

I hate that broody feeling. I'm like that at the mo although now is not a good time for baby no 3

I was looking at the Whistles ones online. Good tip about a John Lewis, I'm not even sure of the wearabouts of Whistles in town!

It will probably be some time before I can squeeze into a 16 again so I have plenty of time to research.

Have you tried the Ohso chocolate bars? They are tiny, but I'm sure they are only about 4 or 5sp. Not as nice as Green and Blacks though.

I keep meaning to mention powdered peanut butter. It's amazing on yogurt and very low in calories (and points). Has anyone else tried it?

I'm trying not to think about food. I've had my dinner and even though I'm full bad thoughts about what I could eat are drifting into my mind. I might go tidy my bedroom, it's further from the kitchen.

I think I'm going to try another fast day on Wednesday or Thursday. I'm going to clean eat and avoid carbs on the other days (well avoid sugar, bread, pasta and rice mainly)

I've put on 4lb since last Tuesday I can feel it as well. I'm very bloated and feel crap.

Evening all? I hope your all enjoying the weekend?

Ive been very bad and not dieting at all. I will start again on Monday and plough my way through the extra 4lbs I've gained.

green how are you getting on with the fasting? I've never heard of ohso bars, or peanut butter powder. Both sound delish.

pom how are u getting on?

sol you ok?

I failed at the fasting Rachey. I'm hopeless.

I'm sure your 4lb will disappear quickly though.

We've booked a holiday today. Going on Friday. Now I'm mega stressed out.
I need to do an emergency dash to the shops tomorrow. I'm going to find my summer clothes tonight and see if anything fits.
I'm regretting it now.

I failed too and have gained 2lbs.
But going to get back into it .... really !!!

have a great Holiday Green There's loads of nice tops in gap and M&S. Powdered peanut butter sounds amazing (off to google)

How are you rachey
Sol hope you are ok.

So, I'm thinking of some new motivation strategy for us i.e. a miracle.

green I have just received a H&M catalogue which have some great summer wear and very reasonable.

Where are you guys off to? I'm very jealous. I doubt I will be going on holiday till my honeymoon next October

pom I agree I need a bloody miracle I just have no will power at the moment.

I'm still feeling abit funny, I'm due on my period tomorrow. I can't wait as I've felt very heavy and bloated all month.

I'm also hoping for a miracle!

Definitely check out the peanut butter. You can get it on Amazon.

We're going to Menorca. I hope it's nice. I've been before but it was a very long time ago. I do remember that they make a very nice cheese (it's typical that I remember that).

Tomorrow's shopping dash will just be to Sainsburys. I like their stuff though. I have the H&M catalogue. I'm going to order from them after the shopping trip.
I'll have a look at Gap and M&S too. Thanks Pom.

I hope you feel better soon Rachey. It's funny how some months you feel rubbish isn't it?

Ok weight not good. I'm still feeling sluggish and bloated. It's been going on for a month now. I don't normally do this but I'm booking a gp appt. maybe I have Ibs or I'm intolerant?

Or maybe I should stop eating?

Sorry to hear you're not feeling well Rachey. I hope the doctor can give you some answers.

I'm super jealous of your holiday Green, I hope you have a lovely time. I know a few people that go there every year and love it.

Have you being doing any more runs Pom? I'm up for a miracle, definitely need one.

I have sat down to post on this so many times, but something cropped up halfway through. I started extra hours in work, the kids have been sick and we are halfway through the ASD diagnosis process with DS2 - so it's been busy. Dieting stalled so I started The James Duncan Diet on Sunday and I've lost 7.4lbs since.

Ahhh DS2 has just woken. Post more later.

Babies are in bed so I can post again now.

So I started the James Duncan Diet on Sunday because I bought a pair of fitted size 16 trousers, as in no stretch fabric which I have been living in. Oh I was bloody mashed in to them, it was grim. I felt really low.

So no more up and down / on and off slimming world, it was time to woman up and put some effort in. And I am fucking starving! But 7 and a half pounds in 2 days is spurring me on. I have my best friends hen party next week and I want to look good if the pics are going to be on Facebook.

It's been a tough few weeks for me with DS2's pending diagnosis, I missed posting on here though.

Here's to impending skinniness!!!

It sounds like you've had a difficult time Sol. I really hope things get sorted out for your son soon though. Do you know how much longer it will be?

7lb is amazing. I know what you mean about putting some effort in. When I'm back from my holiday I'm going to have to get serious (for real this time)

Trip to the shops was successful, Sainsburys has some nice things in. I've ordered the rest from H&M. It took the whole bloody morning. Sainsbury's is hell.

Still dreading the holiday. I couldn't pre book seats together as we booked so late. We have to get to the airport before 5am so they can seat us together (apparently its Law that the children have to sit with us). Luckily it's only a 20min drive at that time of the day. But DD1 can't even wake at 7:30 without a major grump.

How are you feeling today Rachey?

sol great hear from you. Sorry things don't sound easy at the moment. At least ds2 is getting the right help. I hope you and your husband have time for yourself as I've heard it can be quite draining.

Wow 7.5lb sounds great. The James Duncan diet is great. Hardcore thou, I only managed 5 days.

green sounds like a successful shopping trip. I hope all 4 of you have a great family holiday.

pom how are things with you?

I couldn't get s gp appt, I have to call at 8.00 I'm sure it's nothing but I'm just so bloated at the moment, and very uncomfortable. None of my clothes fit well anymore. I'm sure I couldn't have a huge weight gain so quickly.

I'm feeling pretty down at the minute. And I Can't stick to my diet.

Sorry for the miserable post.

Thanks for the kind words, it's been really full on but the end goal is that DS2 will get lots of support and help, so I'm looking at it as positively as I can (although I have a wobble every once in a while). I can't change how DS2 is, and autism is part of him, so we will just push forward to make the world easier for him.

DH and I get loads of breaks, more often than not separately, but we get out for dinner every 3 months or so. I'm a big believer in taking time to care for your mental health and we are useless to both of our kids if we are big balls of stress. On the whole it works well, but the divorce/seperation rate of parents of kids with additional needs is huge.

I kind of screwed up my diet today. I had garlic bread, about 5 small slices. But that was my dinner. And I had an apple in a moment of panic that it might undo some damage. Now I'm having wine. It's been a long day.

I hope you're feeling better Rachey, I'd put the diet on pause while you get everything sorted. You don't need any more stress.

Glad to hear you got lots of Summer stuff Green. Is there anyway you could lift the kids in to the car still asleep? Maybe bring a spare set of clothes to change in to at the airport. Or you could bribe them with a Mc Donalds breakfast

You sound very positive Sol. I think it's very difficult to get an assessment before they are 5 in the UK (I may be completely wrong) So it's great if he can get the support put in place.

A relation has Autism (won't go into detail). He needs a lot of support still, but he has left college and is running his own business. His family have pushed to get everything available for him but it's been worth it.

I'm sure the Apple will balance everything out.

I think I will just lift the children into the car, great idea, DD1 hates clothes on for bed though.

I still haven't packed. DH is still at work (I'm very annoyed, this always happens) and the suitcases are in the loft. So I'm drinking wine. I will have to deal with it tomorrow, I work best under pressure.

I felt very fat and sweaty today. Think it will be a month on Exante when I get home.