Need to lose weight before ttc no2!

[ColdFeetWarmHeart]

I thought I'd start a thread as it's likely there are others in the same position.

Gave one DD who is 2.3. Would like to have another child at some point in the non too distant future but firstly I really need to lose weight, as

1. I'm far too heavy at the moment and my knees and feet have started to ache with the strain etc. I really don't think I'd cope physically being pregnant at this size
2. I have PCOS and the erratic periods that go with it. Weight loss supposedly helps with this (no personal experience to date) My plan at the moment is to be sensible - more home cooked meals with plenty of fruit and veg, and less processed crap! I really don't eat well, especially lately (I work evening shifts, and we moved house 3 weeks ago - I h Ave been grabbing what i can, when I can!)

I shall technically be starting on Monday, as I will be spending some of this weekend meal planning. But as of first thing in the morning I shall be starting on 3 meals a day instead of constant grazing!

I have never really had tww issue. My cycles were so erratic before I never really knew when I was going to ovulate or get af. I tried taking my temp etc to get sense of cycle but never really got anywhere. I think I prefer it like that. I drove myself crazy thinking about how long it would take to get pregnant instead!!

I go to bluewater quite often marking. Only about 15min drive for me. Plus I find it quite easy to take dd there. Plenty of family toilets, and I let her walk around if she wants to. If we go into local town she has to stay in pram. Too busy or cramped in places .

No big plans for mothers day here. Roast dinner at my parents.

I posted earlier but for some reason it's never shown up, no idea for Mother's Day now.
Dh should have been at a wedding today but has man flu
Tomorrow we were going to be doing something for Mother's Day after dh recovered from his hangover,which he won't have now, but is ill
Sunday he was going to be working, but whole site closed as a guy got his arm ripped off on Thursday night.

OMG yellow that sounds horrific!

That's shocking Yellow

Plans for Mother's day here are to take my mum out to a national trust property locally. I'm going to have 'my' Mother's day after we've moved

V envious of the Scottish house talk. We are also near London and suffer the same ridiculous house prices.

Not weighing in this week as the packers have packed the scales (and I know the number would not be good anyway)!

Haha, very good excuse to not Weigh yourself TakesTwo

There's a big investigation in it just now, he is only 20.
Doesn't work in the same bit as dh but has shaken him up a bit, there's loads of men dh does work with, with missing fingers. It's a bit Dickensian sounding.

That is an excellent reason to not weigh in, I've not done it either
I've been so tired and starving the last few days, trying to make good choices thou.

Bless, thoughts are with your DH and their Colleagues xx

Hello all. An mid move so haven't for on here much the lat couple of days but hope all is well!

I have had a bad day today. So tired. Had far too much sugar............

Hi all,
Havn't had a good Week, but it hasn't been a horrific Week either. Been mainly naughty Dinners really!
How is everyone?

I am checking in quickly while waiting for my Next VIP slot!!
I haven't weighed for the last 2 days. Tuesday was awful as I ate far too much sugar. I have really tried to cut back on the sugar in the last day or two. Sugar just leads to more sugar for me. A quick hot chocolate at work to warm me up leads to more hot chocolates, which leads to chocolate/sweets. I try to be good, but have zero willpower when I am tired. I just scoff all sugar in sight! Proper addict!!

Anyway, overall my food is getting better. Still having my main meal about 1pm, and taking a sandwich to work to eat about 7. It means I am snacking a lot less, which can only be good. It will show on the scales eventually. My next mission is......
.....not to go anywhere near a shop when I am tired! I went to Aldi on Tuesday when I was quite tired, but I wanted to get out of the house. Took DD to Aldi to get easter egg hunt kit, and ended up buying several bars for myself, as well as strawberry laces and a pack of chocolate biscuits!!! Ooooppss!!

And, I seriously need to start doing some exercising. I would love to be able to run up the stairs without having an asthma attack or feeling like my legs are going to buckle beneath me!!

marking do you keep a food diary at all??

Not discussing what crap I've been eating.
Have been out doing gardening so slight exercise...
And I'm 4 days late for AF but BFN.
Not testing again until at least another week.

As I said before I was 3 weeks late with ds, don't know what to think.

Hi ColdFeet No I don't, I wouldn't dare write down what I eat on a bad Day! On a good Day it's a bowl of Bran Flakes and a Diet Shake during the Day, and then just dinner. So not much to write down really! Do you do it? Do you find it helps? I'm glad your finding taking a Sandwich to Work helps you Snack less.
Ohh Yellow How exciting? Although I'm sure your trying not to ponder on it too much!
How's the move going TakesTwo? And how are you feeling?

try not to think too much yellow - keep as busy as you can for the next few weeks

Writing down what I eat definitely helps! I find the best way is to keep a running total of what I am eating. It helps me to reign it in if I want to binge. I find I automatically eat less if I know the exact calories of what I am eating. Adding it all up at the end of the day doesn't work for me-its hard to keep a running total, especially an accurate one!
It's not so much the sandwich that is helping, its being organised enough to make the sandwich, rather than running out of time and grabbing cereal bars etc! I have reduced the amount that I try to do in a day, so I can make sure I always have time for my main meal between 12 and 2. What would often happen before is that I'd be busy all morning, not have anything to eat before I went to work, and then graze on cereal bars, crisps and chocolate the whole time I was there!

I'm having a bad Weekend, gonna start fresh again on Monday!
Hope everyone is having a good Weekend xx

I feel a bad weekend coming on easter weekend.....my DM has just invited my MIL over for a family gathering on Easter Sunday, which means I will have her staying at our house that weekend. Saw her this weekend (though thankfully she was staying at her friends [who she spent all afternoon slagging off]) and she was a miserable moo (to put it politely!!)
I think I may be driven to chocolate, or faking an illness so that I can retire to bed!!!

Oh dear ColdFeet Sounds like a fun Easter Weekend for you! Very nice of your DM to invite her though! My DM was down last Week, I am much more close to my MIL though than Her, so other way round for me! This Weekend a complete write off in the end. I enjoyed all the food, but I'm annoyed at myself for binging so much Anyway, started again today. My Goal of loosing 13 pounds by Easter (Which is only next flipping Week!!) Doesn't seem achieveable now. Will weigh myself tomorrow and see the damage done.

Just been out the back for over an hour playing football with ds and dh. Surely that's a good thing?
Not been eating rubbish today, thou I am making creme egg cupcakes for a friend so I will have to try them.

Also 8 days late, rheumatism flare up, usually a week before AF but sti no AF.
However saw my tests were expired over 6 months a go, so ordered new ones, should be here in a couple of days not testing again until then, and throwing the old ones away.

Not nice of DM to invite her without even so much as a warning!! I was looking forward to the 4 day weekend, but am dreading it now. Can only do a few hours with MIL before she starts moaning and snapping at everyone, or creating an argument over stupid stuff with DH. She hasn't stayed at ours often since DD born but past experience has told me that one night really is enough!!!

I had aimed to get down to 15st by easter marking - still got 10.75lbs to go as of this morning!! ooh dear. will keep plodding along!

playing football for an hr is brilliant yellow. I couldn't be out there for an hour at the moment even down here, let alone up in scotland. i have asthma so not a good idea to get out of breath when its cold etc.
I didn't even give it a thought that tests go out of date - still have some from 3years ago when I fell pregnant with DD!! Do you think you could hold out until friday before taking a test again??

Tried to have a chat with DH over the weekend about when we will start ttc/when I will stop taking the pill. His answer is start now/whenever you want etc. But now I have reservations. Not about having another baby. I definitely want another one. But I just don't feel ready to stop taking the pill this month. I bought some evening primrose oil over the weekend, and would like to be on that for a while before stopping the pill. My PMT is horrendous when not on the pill (proper mood swings, want to scream my head off without knowing why and end up rocking backwards and forwards) so am not looking forward to that part of conceiving.
I would also like to lose a little bit more weight before we start trying. Or at least get a bit further with creating new/better habits. I have created a little exercise plan for myself that will gently increase my fitness, and is quite gentle so should still be able to continue it in pregnancy (famous last words).
I don't know - parts of ttc scare me for some reason. Mostly the health aspects I think. I was really tired for first trimester last time, and I wasn't spending all day looking after a toddler and all night working!! DH had to put up with my craziness in the run up to falling pregnant. I really hope I do not get like that again as I wouldn't want to take it out on DD or seem weird to her etc.
Anyway - need to see my husband before I can fall pregnant anyway!! Saw him today for a total of 5 mins!!!

It wasn't that cold, dh was in a t shirt. We must be hardened to weather. Lol
Thou might just be us, I'm forever seeing kids the same age as ds that belong to friends in full snow suits and hats when ds is running a round in just a hoody.

It was slightly nostalgic playing yesterday as dh and I used to play football together as kids.

Yes, playing Football for over an Hour is deff good Work Yellow! My goodness, Creme Egg Cupcakes sound too good not to try! Have you taken any more Tests? I think I'd be taking them daily at this point! I would also never think to check the Dates on Tests, didn't know they had Dates on them actually!!

I did a Test yesterday, as I had been feeling sick the past couple of Morning. BFN, I wasn't surprised, I had AF over Mothers Day, and only started Ovulating today, so would have been pretty surprising if I was Preggers, or even feeling symptoms that early! I also been getting 'Kicking' Feelings in the bottom of my Stomach. I googled it, and apparantly, because I had a C Section this is normal! Very strange, feels like I have a Baby bouncing around in there again!

Oh dear ColdFeet I feel for you. Does she have to stay with you for the whole 4 Days? I'm with you on the Goal, I need to loose 9 lbs by next Thurs!! Although, if I could just loose 3 lbs, I'd be in the 13 st bracket, so that would make me feel slightly better. It's hard with all the Easter Treats out in the Shops! If you don't feel ready to stop the Pill just yet, then don't. Wait a couple of Months, or longer. You might feel more ready/prepared then? I know what you mean about AF coming back when your off the Pill, I used to suffer horrendously when I was younger. Have had 2 since coming off the Pill in Jan, luckily they havn't been too painful, but they have been very heavy, and as it always used to be the other way round, it's taking some getting used too! Whats the Evening Primrose Oil in aid of? Good on you for the Exercise plan! And yes, seeing your DH when TTC will help!

yes perhaps you are just hardened to it. Some people feel cold more than most. DH leaves for work most mornings in just shorts and a t-shirt. he might put on a thin jumper if its frosty. whereas I will go out with 2 jumpers and a big coat! lol

kicking feelings because of a c section - very strange marking

she won't be staying with us for 4 days-I will be putting my foot down. DH and I need some time together, and DD needs time to chill and do her own thing etc.
Because I have PCOS my hormones are all over the place. When I stop taking the pill I suffer from a lot of symptoms, including the mood swings, heavy yet infrequent periods, night sweats etc. I have taken evening primrose oil before, and it helped with the night sweats at least. I'm hoping it will help with the moodiness/irritability as well lol

I tried evening primrose oil a while a go, made me less crazy but had no sex drive at all, so would be rubbish for me ttc.