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BigMoFos Week 22

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WigWamBam · 05/10/2006 10:16

OK, here we go ... a new thread for a new week. Big fat hairy line drawn underneath last week, and here's to a better week this week.

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littlemisssensible · 11/10/2006 12:55

Having a crap week .

Caught a terrible cold from dp over the weekend so I was dragging myself to and from work monday and tuesday, as well as around Tesco's yesterday evening too!

Feeling brighter this morning although I forgot to weigh myself . Probably havn't lost anything as I've been eating comfort food like tomato soup with thickly buttered soft rolls; hot chocolate with cream and mini marshmallows; sponge puds and custard etc, etc, etc.

Actually I havn't eaten very much but its all been those sorts of choices. Mainly because dp has been trying to look after me and he knows that I'll eat those choices with out arguing!

Oh well! Feeling better now, so I'll put last week behind me and go onward and upward into the new week

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WigWamBam · 11/10/2006 12:55

Oh - no death penalty?

Oh well, that's different then.

Slavery it is ... here, 19, 19, 19 ...

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littlemisssensible · 11/10/2006 12:56

Welcome to No19 by the way, and I promise I'm a model citizen, Your Majesty!

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 11/10/2006 12:57

Sorry to hear you've been feeling ill, littlemisssensible - and glad you're starting to feel better.

TawnyHoowwwlllll · 11/10/2006 13:31

5 and a half pounds!!!! I nearly fell off the scales. I am dead chuffed. So glad we drew a big thick line under last week

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 11/10/2006 13:32

Blimey Tawneyhowwlll - well done you! . I'm going to weigh later once I've picked DD up from school (if our house hasn't flooded with all the rain).

TawnyHoowwwlllll · 11/10/2006 13:39

Well I put on 2 and a half last week as AF was in town. Just goes to show how much I bloat at that time!

Total is now 9lb I am aiming for a stone by the end of october.

The other night you were all talking about goals, some to get in a slinky dress etc. Mine is for my DP to be able to pick me up and throw me on the bed, like they do in films. Sounds daft when I type it out but there you go.....

suejoneziscalmernow · 11/10/2006 14:03

I'm happy too as I lost the weight I put on last week - caused by eating too much and no other reason!

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 11/10/2006 14:10

Well done you too sue.

justamindlesszombiemum · 11/10/2006 15:18

Hi again, hello no19,or should that be your majesty! I am only a sporadic mofo as I have given up trying to lose weight for the time being. I will start again soon when I can't fit into any of my clothes and I won't be able to afford new ones because my salary has gone down by almost half now I will be part time!!!! (panic)
WWB can you try to sell me on to slavery, just to see if anyone would buy me, in my early 20's when I was just curvy rather than fat, I did go down a storm in Egypt, my then bf was offered a lot of camels for me and my childbearing hips. I doubt I would be worth so much now.

btw, I am actually a hairy handed trucker, real name of "Gaz", I am only an overweight 32yo mother of 2 in my fantasies!!!!

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WigWamBam · 11/10/2006 16:13

Ah well, if we're talking fantasies, I'm a ...

... second thoughts, better not

They like their ladies large in Egypt, justamum, so I dare say your dh could name his price in camels ... or go to Turkey, they positively drool over large ladies there.

Just don't fall for a waiter like my sister did ...

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NumberNineteen · 11/10/2006 16:31

Sorry lot of photoshoots, walkabouts, etc get in the way of Mumsnet (ma'amsnet). Thank you for kind welcomes. I LOVE the idea of being picked up and thrown on the bed. Or if we ever get around to tying knots, etc, being carried over the threshold. Poor dp hale, hearty and fit as he is, would probably have a hernia if he tried to lift me now.

What a fabulous goal!

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WigWamBam · 11/10/2006 16:33

What a goal ... dh should be afraid

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flutterbeebonfirebanger · 11/10/2006 16:50

Hi ladies,

Sorry agan that I haven't been here much over the oast few weeks. Life is well and truely sucking at the moment and can we guess what the obvious side effect of that is.........Yep thats right I am using it as an excuse to eat.

Just to fill you in I am still feeling really ill, DS is really ill and on anti-biotics and DH has just started a new job and to top it all off the boiler has broken down and we have had no heating or hot water for a week tomorrow.

Nothing another packet of crisps won't change though

So I can't remember if I gave my result last week so just in case last week I put 1lb on.

and

this week I have put another 1lb on

The only up side is that I must have changed some habits somewhere because normally it would have been double that in weight gain.

I'm going to really really try this week I just have to get over this mental hurdle.

Littlefish · 11/10/2006 17:08

Hellooooooooooooo everyone.

Welcome No19. I'm not trying to lose weight at the moment as I'm having counselling, and until I sort out my emotional issues, the food issues will just keep coming back. However, I try and post quite regularly here as I find it so helpful and supportive.

This week, I would like to report in a big, loud, proud voice........

I DIDN'T CRY AT COUNSELLING THIS WEEK!!!!!!

This is a real breakthrough for me. I managed to explore my feelings, feeling safe and secure, without falling apart at the mere mention of my mother, my childhood, food, breastfeeding, school or any of the other million things that usually set me off.

suejoneziscalmernow · 11/10/2006 17:57

Good for you Littlefish - I have the opposite problem - iron control to a ridiculous degree. I once had hypnotherapy to help me with the issues around my father leaving. I was definitely hypnotised and found it very relaxing and as a side issue she did get me thinking positively about exercise (different session NOT the same one!). However when it came to trying to talk about my father, my fists clenched, my arms glued to the chair and my lips firmly shut. She was trying to get me to imagine my father was there and what I would say to him. Just couldn't say a word - we had to give up in the end.

I can talk very openly (only face to face though, no internet revelations here!) about my life traumas and how they make me feel but it comes from a very rational place inside me and it doesn't really touch me (IYSWIM). Takes me a lot longer to really get over difficult situations as I do repress how I feel. I went straight from IVF to adoption (about 3 week gap) and I would say it was at least 18 months in before I really managed to grieve for the child I would never have. Very odd feeling - grieving for that at the same time as beginning to get excited about the child I would have.

suejoneziscalmernow · 11/10/2006 18:05

Littlefish - I can now say that what I want from my father is for him to be the dad I deserve and not the one I've got! I also accept that isn't going to happen and that its OK (even normal) for me to be pissed off about that. And that the want that he doesn;t want me does not make me "unwantable". Does that make sense?

Pschotherapist friend of mine said many years ago - "does the fact that someone (eg your dad) thinks you are useless at something actually make you useless at it?" So simple but it has always stuck with me. Of the answer is no, thats just their opinion and probably a pretty rubbish one at that.

I think you're fab and I know what I'm talking about.

Dottydot · 11/10/2006 18:21

Flutterbee - I know about your boiler traumas and that would definitely make me turn to the biscuit tin... Hope you're managing to make some progress somehow with it.

Well I can tell I've got PMT 'cos I've got such bad chocolate cravings. Ordinarily I might fancy a bar of something but don't act on it - at the moment I neeeeeeeeeed some!

Littlefish · 11/10/2006 18:33

Thank you SueJ. I think you're great too . I'm getting ridiculously excited about the idea of being a cyber-aunt to Junior along with all the other MoFos. It will be so strange, but so lovely, talking to you when you are home again!

TitianRed · 11/10/2006 18:56

Can I join the weigh in, please? Didn't know the email before. Will send details asap. Feel like I've got a cold coming. How many calories in a Lemsip (only joking!) XX

violeteyes · 11/10/2006 20:24

hello, feel a bit of a crasher but would like to join please? joined ww on monday, know what you mean about 7stoners worrying a bout weight.i have at least 5 stone to lose-to be what i consider okay, probably still too big! feel quite embarressed of self. first baby 8weeks ago, but only 1 stone over prepregnancy weight.don't want son to be ashamed of me when older. . . .this is not first time been big, quite up and down. . like my mother. . .

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WigWamBam · 11/10/2006 20:35

Welcome to MN and welcome to the MoFos, violeteyes

It really gets to me when I hear people say they don't want their children to be ashamed of them when they get older. It's sad that we should feel that anyone would think that, let alone our children - but of course we know that society looks down it's collective nose at us.

If it's any consolation dd is 5 and isn't ashamed of me ... she heard me saying I was losing weight, asked me why and when I told her that it was because I was too fat and needed to lose weight to be healthy she looked at me gone-out and said "But you're not fat, Mummy, you're lovely". I don't know how long that will last for though

Don't be embarrassed, be proud that you have taken the first steps towards losing the weight.

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lemonaid · 11/10/2006 22:01

My issue isn't that I don't want DS to be ashamed/embarassed so much as that I don't want to be "dieting" when he and any other children are old enough to remember it. I think that'd set off the whole "issues with food" cycle over again with another generation. So I want to get this licked now. I'm not kidding myself that I won't need emotional support from a group like this even when I do get to a healthy weight, though, or else I'll slip back into bad habits.

justamindlesszombiemum · 11/10/2006 22:05

violeteyes, don't be too tough on yourself with an 8 week old, your body is still adjusting after pregnancy. particularly if you are bf and you will be sleep deprived as well which is not condusive to dieting. My dd is 6mnths (where on earth did that time go!)and she is still my excuse- well actually one of many excuses!!
I'm not saying don't try to eat sensibly, just don't set yourself unattainable goals!

justamindlesszombiemum · 11/10/2006 22:12

lemonaid, I totally agree with you, I desperately don't want food and dieting to be a big issue with my kids. Mine, like yours are small enough now for dh and I to get things sorted before they are old enough to remember. I think we have a few changes to make over the next few months because just now we are not living the way we would like to be. Right now though I have to concentrate on getting out of this black hole of depression I have found myself in.