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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

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BigMoFos Week 22

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WigWamBam · 05/10/2006 10:16

OK, here we go ... a new thread for a new week. Big fat hairy line drawn underneath last week, and here's to a better week this week.

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NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:37

By you I meant me!!! Not you.

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WigWamBam · 10/10/2006 21:39

Dh has never known me slim (and I'm over 20 stone) but he finds me sexy ... my opinion is that being sexy isn't a state of body, it's a state of mind. It's how you think and what you do, not what you're wrapped up in.

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WideWebWitch · 10/10/2006 21:39

lol at not even a chin.
I saw a photo of myself at the weekend, minutes after it was taken (so I couldn't even say oh, that was AGES ago) and I was shocked.

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:39

OK I will try to go 2lb by 2lb and for every 2lb I lose I will reward myself with a Twirl. Ooops I mean I will put 2 euro (I am in Ireland) into a piggy (how apt) bank and then I will spend the money on fabulous new clothes for my reduced frame!!!

WideWebWitch · 10/10/2006 21:40

lol no19!

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:41

So is everyone on this thread trying to lose weight?

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WigWamBam · 10/10/2006 21:43

Everyone on this thread is losing weight!

Let me tell you a little bit about us ... our "creed", if you like.

The BigMoFos are about attitude as much as anything: some of us were cheesed off with 7 stone people posting about being bloaters, and whingeing because they needed to lose 4lb and how hard it was. We just wanted a place where people understood how large people feel, and where we could feel supported in a way that those 7 stone people couldn't manage to support us.

We do a weigh-in on a Wednesday, but not all of us weigh in. Some just follow the thread for support, whichever you would feel more comfortable doing. It's all pretty free and easy but it seems to work. Email is [email protected] if you want to join the weigh-in, otherwise just hop along for the ride.

Our rules:

No beating yourself up (we will do that for you if necessary)
Each week is a new week and you leave last week?s problems behind
No pedantic grammar corrections (unless what you typed really doesn?t make sense) we are quite smart and will work out what you mean.

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NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:44

I saw photos of myself with ds at my brother's wedding and I was shocked. Shiny fat face and rippling acres of arm, etc. I do agree with WWB though about state of mind - and when dp is with me I do feel desirable, sexy, etc. It's just when I see myelf in the mirror or in photos, or when I am fighting with clothes in the changing rooms of shops that I despair. I think somehow I am surprised every time I see myself - as if my mental image of me is still of the sort of tomboyish girl of 18 who is really a bit of a distant memory at this stage!

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:47

Fantastic! That's brilliant to have a weigh in. Like WeightWatchers except it's not eight quid a go. I will definitely do that. Hooray!! I feel quite motivated.

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 10/10/2006 21:47

Agree NumberNineteen - I'm always surprised to catch sight of myself in a shop window or mirror. I'm definitely different in my mind's eye.

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WigWamBam · 10/10/2006 21:49

Hmmm ... I never thought about charging £8 a go ... talk about a missed opportunity

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NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:50

How interesting that you feel the same Jackie. I have never really spoken to people about this before. The anonymity of the internet is really great for this I must say. I will tell you a secret - in M&S the other day I took a size 18 top and put it on a size 14 hanger before going into changing room. (As if changing room assistant would care!) I am a bit ashamed of myself for that. Ooops - no beating selves - sorry WWB will be a hard habit to break!

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 10/10/2006 21:52

It's not the sort of thing any of us talk about in RL, I suspect - but it's just brilliant to have these threads, because we all have very similar issues with food. It's been as important for me to have the chance to chat with people about why we eat too much as the purely dietary, if you like, stuff.

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:54

Well one of the things I have liked looking through this thread is all the lovely clothes links! Brill! Green wrap dress YUMMY etc.

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:57

Do you email [email protected] with your real life names or is there a way of doing it through the site?

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 21:58

Sorry I am going to be the clingy new best friend!! Thanks for all your words of maturity and wisdom. I hope I can lose 2lb this week and I hope you all lose your targets too. I am off to walk the dog!

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 10/10/2006 21:58

Real email addresses, which (in my case at least) show my real name. You could always set up a hotmail (or similar) account in your Mumsnet name - a lot of people seem to have those.

Dottydot · 10/10/2006 21:58

Hi Numbernineteen! I also have a different picture of myself in my head - of someone younger and smaller! In my mind's eye I'm a size 14... Bizarrely, the woman I tend to sit next to at WW said that when she last lost a lot of weight (she's just had a baby and trying to lose it again!) she couldn't get used to being smaller, and used to buy clothes way too big. I'm the opposite - depressed myself completely yesterday by trying on size 16s and finding them all too small (damn Debenhams for allowing me to find the one pair of size 16 jeans that fit - now I think I actually am a size 16..!).

Ho hum. I've come to a stand still with losing weight I think. Have lost 20 lbs in the last 10 weeks but the last 3 weeks haven't lost much at all (1lb...). Can't think how to get it all going again - I was doing so well and still have another 20lbs to lose.

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 10/10/2006 22:00

You and me both Dottydot. Am resolved to get going again. I have been slacking, tbh, so if I just get back to not thinking 'oh it's ok, I can just have a bit of chocolate', I might start losing again.

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 22:00

20lb!!!! That's fantastic! If I could do that I would be thrilled. Isn't it meant to slow down a bit after the first while? How did you do the 20lb? Well done.

Dottydot · 10/10/2006 22:03

I am thrilled, just getting a bit fed up and reverting to eating more treats than I really should... I joined Weightwatchers and pretty much followed their no count plan. So, basically cut out all my sugar (which was tons in my case), started drinking lots of water, pretty much halved all my meal portions (and portion creep is happening - I must get back to smaller portions!), more fruit and veg and less of the naughty stuff! It's all good and I know the principles and will probably lose more IF I STICK TO IT... (just telling myself off for a moment).

As ever my brain knows what to do but my body and cravings overrule it from time to time!

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 22:06

I read about a diet plate which has portions on it. It's quite shocking when you see what an actual portion is supposed to be, isn't it? Little heap of pasta, minispud, matchbox sized piece of cheese. Is most alien to one like me who cooks half a bag of pasta for one person and pretends ds eats an adult sized portion which of course he doesn't so I eat for one and a half!!!

NumberNineteen · 10/10/2006 22:09

this is the diet plate I don't know if it works or not. And I don't work for them or anything btw.

JackieNoHeadJustABloodyStump · 10/10/2006 22:10

Hey - is that your first link, NumberNineteen? Very impressive. I've seen those plates too. It is a bit scary, realising how much a 'portion' of something is.

Dottydot · 10/10/2006 22:11

I must admit that was one of the biggest changes for me - I use a side plate now, so even if I'm feeling greedy and try to put loads of food on it, it's still only a side plate! After 10 weeks of doing this, dp's ordinary sized dinner plate looks huge! Definitely think this helps - and yes, I did feel hungry in the first couple of weeks, but you do get used to it. I have a diet coke with my tea - fills me up, and I always have a treat after tea - WW chocolate bar or something else that's naughty but not tooooooo bad. The evenings are my weakest times and I've learnt that the only way to get through them is to allow myself something so I'm less tempted to go and raid the kids' sweet drawer!