BigMoFos Week 18

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New week, new thread ...

Gosh no sue - really don't need that - it seems to be coming off quite nicely without. Day at home wouldn't go amiss, though I may have to take one anyway if DD's off sick tomorrow, poor thing. She's picked up a bit since arriving home, so hopefully false alarm...

don't sound so defensive lemonaid - you KNOW that two pounds a month loss is my new ideal, don't you? I know it sounds dull but is for the best really (honest)

I know, SJ. "Half a pound a week is two pounds a month" is my new mantra. It just felt like SUCH a good week this week that I was a bit disappointed. And I guess I thought I'd have more of the inital honeymoon period of a diet where the weight falls off before I got to this stage -- when I've lost weight before the bulk of it has been at the rate of half a pound a week, but at least I had four or five weeks of 2lb-plus to give me a head start. This time after the first two weeks it's been straight into the slow-but-steady category.

hello all, back from being pampered at mums, its lovely just to have time with the kids when I don't have to worry about making meals/housework etc. Also I think I have lost 3lb which is probably a result of enforced healthy eating and sensible protion control at mums.
Hi to anyone new! i haven't been around much this week but I am not really dieting atm, more trying to deal with my food demons and learn to eat more sensibly.
glad the suit got to you ok Sue, I love buying kids clothes don't you! I have officially banned myself from buying any more althought that didn't stop me letting mum buy dd a lovely dress in Next.

Weighed myself and hadn't quite put back all the weight I lost after Christmas (4lb short!), so that was a relief, as I have been gorging on biscuits and crisps over the summer holidays! 18st 8lb at the moment. Aim to lose 10% as my first target, so 26lb. My real test will be the weekend - I've always allowed myself a glass or two of wine on previous diets but I'm aiming not to drink until our works Christmas do. I loooove alcohol but it makes me crave crisps, crackers, cheese, bread - all the good stuff! Good luck this week, fellow dieters!

So when am I invited round to your mum's, Justamum?

Hi guys
Glad to hear so many of you sounding so positive! I am feeling more in control sue - I think it is the fact that I had had to start organising everything else in my life because of my degree has made me take stock and say 'right, what else needs doing?' IYKWIM? I think the motivation for my course might be spilling over into other areas. I had a really good day today foodwise and walked DS to nursery then back home and the same to collect him 2.5 hours later so I got some exercise too. I ate proper meals and felt quite full - I didnt really even want to snack which was great. I just hope I can keep it up - I am still a bit up and down because I am still seeing a CPN for PND and then the M/C on top of that but I am feeling good today. I seem to feel better if I have achieved something in a day whether it is college work or a clean house or making a really nice, healthy meal from scratch - sad isn't it!

Good for you, Schneebly Pats on the back for little goals achieved are really important IMO.

Thanks Fauve How are you getting on?

I'm fine, thanks. I had a bit of a downer last week, not least because I had put on a pound in spite of making great efforts - but also because I had mother-in-law issues [groan] - but I'm all chipper now because I lost a lot this week And MIL is comfortably re-housed in de luxe retirement place where she can make war on the manager and not on me.

sounds like the perfect week Fauve - what more could a girl ask for?

Fauve- you can come round to my mums any day, she should be available on tap; the best of it is that she works ft as well, but won't let me lift a finger while I'm there except make the odd cup of tea. I'm glad to hear you have lost this week and that mil issues are sorted.
I'm in a funny mood, since DD was born everyone has been saying how much she looks like me and instead of being proud my heart has been sinking every time someone has said it. My mum has told me off about putting myself down and its started me thinking about my self image, we had a load of old photos out and you can actually see when my self confidence vanished when i was about 13/14.
I was a skinny child but at 14 I was my adult height and a size 12 and I thought i was hideous but I was always hungry. Mum has always been very diet conscious and openly admits that she was too hard on me at that age because I suddenly started eating more. With hindsight we realise that a teenager who grows and matures very rapidly has a higher calorific requirement that an adult of the same height but at the time I thought I was greedy and mum was scared of me developing her weight problems (of course the irony is that she didn't have a weight problem for most of my childhood-just a perceived one)
It didn't help that when I was about 16 my sister told me that a boy had said to her "how come you are so pretty when your sister is so ugly" in her defence she was only 11, but tact has never been her strong point.
I don't know where all this introspection gets me, probably into the counsellors chair. Does all this stuff that went on in the past to cause a problem have any relavance in sorting it out? Its not as if i harbour any resentment to my mum or sister. I still have no idea how to stop feeling out of control about my eating habits, it feels like its taking over my life at the moment. I don't know whether I have a touch of pnd because I feel like I can't pull myself together.
sorry, this has turned into a ramble, i'm going to go to bed, goodnight

WELL, since you ask....

Nah, you're right - I'm just glad to be feeling a lot happier than I was at the weekend.

Sorry, X post, Justamum, was responding to Suejonez. Sorry to hear about how your mum made you so calorie conscious. I hope I don't sound trite if I say I'm sure all of us on here probably need to do serious work on our self-esteem issues.

"at 14 I was my adult height and a size 12 and I thought i was hideous but I was always hungry. Mum has always been very diet conscious and openly admits that she was too hard on me at that age because I suddenly started eating more. ....at the time I thought I was greedy and mum was scared of me developing her weight problems"

God Justamum - you could be talking about my mum. She was shocked to realise redently that I have always thought I was fat, she says I never was as a child or teenager, but the truth of the matter is that I went on a diet at about 14 and she went on and on about how lovely and slim I was and still says to me probably once a month how lovely and slim I was after I'd been on that diet. Doesn't take a genius to think - well if I was lvely and slim for 6 months then I must have been fat and unlovely for the rest of the time.

She's really fixated on that particular six months when it seems I was perfect! And it still has the ability to make me feel inadequate. But I am learning to just leave it behind and if she say it again, I will tell her to stop re-emphasising it and move on...

hands up who thinks I'm going to say that!

Hi Sorry

WWB I haven't emailed you my weight yet I haven't had chance to weigh myself yet!

Am going to the gym tonight so will post my result on after! I'm pretty sure that it will be a gain though as have been pretty slack this week

I would just like to share that I went to a fish and chip shop and didn't buy any for myself.
We'd taken the ds's swimming and bought it for them on the way home.

I nearly forgot to do these

Alittlebitshy: -1lb (total -18)
Coppertop: -2lb (total -9)
Dottydot: -1.5lb (total 5lb)
Fauve: -5lb (total -12)
Flutterbee: -5lb (total 24lb)
JackieNo: -1lb (total 27lb)
Justamum: -3lb (total 4lb)
Lemonaid: -0.5lb (total 7lb)
Suejonez: -1lb (total 15lb)
WWB: -1;b (total 17lb)

Some cracking weightlosses there - and two big, shiny, sparkly crowns needed this week ... one for Fauve and one for Flutterbee .

Off to start another thread ... sorry it's all so late.

Meant to mention ... suejonez, I know you said you thought you'd stayed the same but you've gone down a pound according to my record (and you won't want to argue with that )

New thread is here .

heavenis - I'm sorry but thats just not normal

I actually have chip shop chips once every week but have then with baked beans. Love it - helps me stick to my diet and avoid wrse takeaways like indian and pizza.

I know it's unheard of.The first time I have ever no got anything for me. I really want to tell everyone these aren't for me,I'm being good don't you know