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BigMoFos Week 18

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WigWamBam · 07/09/2006 10:10

New week, new thread ...

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suejoneziscalmernow · 07/09/2006 13:44

being forgiving of yourself after you binge is not legitimising it, though I know what you mean. I do sometimes feel uncomfortable about being relaxed when I've put on weight as it does seem like I think its OK when I don't really. I can't think of a comparison but its somehow about separating something you do that you don't like from who you are. Your DD having a trantrum does not make her a bad child but a child with bad behaviour.

I know you know this as we've discussed it before! But sometimes it bears repeating - we need to separate out our difficulties with food from what we think of ourselves as inherently valuable people.

suejoneziscalmernow · 07/09/2006 13:46

some psychiartist somewhere must have come up with some kind of coping stratgies for compulsive eaters when they are having bad days - I wonder if we could find them on the net somewhere?

Littlefish · 07/09/2006 14:52

WWB - I'm here too, and ready to boot up bum, sympathise, empathise, hug or whatever you need. Sue is absolutely right about needing to separate the behaviour from the person. Eating badly does not make you bad.

I'm so sorry you have fallen down one of the holes again. I do this regularly too as you know. However, very gradually, the holes in my road are getting a little more shallow, which means they are easier to climb out of. I hope yours are too.

Keep talking to us. We all understand.

Littlefish · 07/09/2006 14:54

Well done to everyone on your weightlosses. You are all doing so well! Can I be your cheerleader? Perhaps I could dress up in a short skirt, crop top and pompoms?

Well, I had to do something to make WWB smile .

suejoneziscalmernow · 07/09/2006 15:02

if WWB needs a laugh, she should read my trauma with social worker visit here , far more amusing than you cavorting with pom-poms

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WigWamBam · 07/09/2006 16:37

I saw your Social Worker thread, sue ... they're on a different planet, aren't they. I can't believe you wimped out of telling her straight!

Cheerleader outfits, hey ... maybe we should all have some? Now that would upset the skinnie minnie MNers who get so wound up by people's weight ...

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JackieNo · 07/09/2006 17:42

Now there's an idea. For the Oxford meet-up I did fleetingly consider getting a t-shirt made with 'BigMoFo' on it, but decided against it (can't think why).

suejoneziscalmernow · 07/09/2006 17:44

No I can't beleive that I wimped out of being far more blunt either. It's not like I normally hesitate. I suppose I should have been flattered that she was so convinced that my sex-life was so rampant she needed to warn me .

When Junior is re-adopted in the Uk, I will be able to say "you can all sod right off now and mind your own businesses". I can;t really complain, compared to many I had really reasonable social workers.

One friend was told by a SW assesing her prior to applying to adopt that her dog would be a problem (they have one King Charles spaniel ), that they had been married too long (18 years), that her husband wasn't committed enough (she knew him well after all having spoken to them for at least 30 minutes and he is quiet, heaven forbid quiet people should be parents) and they didn;t have enough experience of children (hands up who did prior to having them?)

JackieNo · 07/09/2006 17:48

Incredible the amount of hoops you have to jump through. Nearly there now, though.

lemonaid · 07/09/2006 19:42

I lost 1lb, total 7.5lb, but probably forgot to sign my email again [d'oh emoticon].

Well done to Whoops, DottyDot and Flutterbee! (and everyone else)

schnnebly -- that's how I piled on the weight last time (pregnancy and then m/c and then comfort eating, and then never lost any of it before getting pg with DS) so I really do sympathise. Now I'm here nearly 3 years since my m/c and finally doing something about the weight.

WWB -- sorry the depression is hitting you again (that comes out a bit tritely, but I really am sorry). Does it have to be unhealthy stuff? I know a recipe for banana milkshake that's actually pretty good for you but that you would swear had ice cream or something in it that I used to have when I was feeling inclined towatds food-naughtiness and seemed to satisfy my cravings for badness.

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WigWamBam · 07/09/2006 20:45

Lemonaid, I didn't get an email from anyone I didn't recognise ... I wonder why your emails keep disappearing into the ether?

It doesn't have to be badness for me to shovel it in, it can be anything - it's just out of control eating and it can be good stuff as well, just too much of it. Although the bad stuff will always go first.

I need to get a grip, I think, I lost it with dd and dh big time this evening and have been a big blubbering mess all day.

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JackieNo · 07/09/2006 21:04

Lemonaid - did you send the email to suejonez instead of WWB?

WWB - I'm not good at hugs, but sending a virtual one your way.

lemonaid · 07/09/2006 21:07

Did the bigmothers address. But maybe I did .com instead of .co.uk (or the other way around, whichever it is)

whoopsfallenoveragain · 07/09/2006 22:30

Well done everybody,

I've been having a bad day today and I wouldn't be surprised if I've put all 4lb back on

But I did go and swim a few lengths in the pool al;though didn't manage the mile I wanted to swim as I got the times wrong and only the outdoor pool was available so it was getting a bit cold to stay out there at 9pm!

suejoneziscalmernow · 07/09/2006 22:50

Lemonaid - very impt that you share healthy banana milkshake recipe immediately!

lemonaid · 08/09/2006 10:26

1 fairly ripe banana (not hideously squidgy-ripe, but mustn't be under-ripe). Slice relatively thinly (not slivers, but not huge chunks) and freeze the slices laid out flat on (e.g.) baking sheet or something like that. Once frozen solid, whizz in blender with approx half pint semi-skimmed milk (keep meaning to try and see if it also works with skimmed as that would be even better) and a dash of vanilla extract (not essesnce). Ta-daa!

lemonaid · 08/09/2006 10:31

P.S. speaking of emails (OK, actually I was speaking of bananas right now), did you get my nappy email, SJ?

JackieNo · 08/09/2006 10:34

Thanks lemonaid - will have to try that. Happen to have a few ripe-ish bananas atm.

coppertop · 08/09/2006 10:41

That milkshake recipe sounds gorgeous.

How are you today, WWB?

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WigWamBam · 08/09/2006 11:44

Crap ... but thanks for asking, ct. I've been up all night with D&V (dh's response after I'd spent the best part of 2 hours on the loo ... "Any chance I can get in there now?"). Still feeling really down, and feeling awful about losing it with dh last night.

If I was a drinker I'd be pissed by now.

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JackieNo · 08/09/2006 11:47

Oh no - how horrible for you WWB. Can you try to look on it as a sort of detox [not very hopeful ]? Keep drinking the water - and don't even think about the banana milkshake (sorry).

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WigWamBam · 08/09/2006 11:51

Banana milkshake ... bleeeeeeee!

I don't know how I got dd to school this morning, I was doubled up in pain. It's gone off a bit now, thank heavens, but I still feel really rough.

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JackieNo · 08/09/2006 11:56

Can you sleep it off? Snuggle down in bed and set the alarm for when you have to collect DD?

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WigWamBam · 08/09/2006 11:58

I meant to go back to bed when I got back in, but the house is a tip, so I've been trying to do some housework. Very ineffectually!

Might go and have a lie-down for a bit.

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JackieNo · 08/09/2006 12:00

Do it! the housework will keep. Get DD to help you with it when she gets home. Hope you start to feel better soon.