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BigMoFos Week 18

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WigWamBam · 07/09/2006 10:10

New week, new thread ...

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WigWamBam · 08/09/2006 12:01

Thanks ... going to bed now.

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coppertop · 08/09/2006 12:53

WWB I hope you feel better soon. xxx

suejoneziscalmernow · 08/09/2006 17:09

Sorry you're not well WWB. Hope you feel better soon - sod the housework, it will still be there in a week or two

Lemonaid - don't I did get email - but I will go check in my spam box as the ddest things do end up in there.

Reserved my flights today, they're on hold for 6 days - leaving 26 Sept, returning 11 November. Eek!

suejoneziscalmernow · 08/09/2006 17:10

"don't I did get email" - what?! What was I when I posted that?

I didn't get your email

lemonaid · 08/09/2006 17:15

Have sent again to be on the safe side.

Just think -- flying home with Junior November 11!!! This is all sooooo exciting!

WWB -- Don't do housework (unless doing it makes you feel better). Look after yourself for a bit, that's much more important.

suejoneziscalmernow · 08/09/2006 17:22

Yes I did get that one and replied. I have resent reply now. Hopefully you'll get it this time.

Thanks

Sue

Dottydot · 08/09/2006 17:37

Hi all - I need your help to get me through this week... I've had some bad/scary health news (lump behind my eye - they're not sure what it is but I've got to have a scan and then have it removed). Got the news this morning and all my good eating over the past 6 weeks has completely broken down. I've had a bar of chocolate and packet of crisps so far, no water - I feel like everything's going wrong.

Sorry to splurge, but I'm panicking about what the lump might be and my gut reaction is to eat.

Words of wisdom/tellings off needed!

lemonaid · 08/09/2006 17:38

Nothing yet. Not sure why. Have sent you my other email address in case my hotmail has decided that it's allergic to your aol...

suejoneziscalmernow · 08/09/2006 17:47

Sympathy dotty - its so easy to be thrown off by scary health things. Packet of crisps and bar of chocolate is not that bad - I regularly treat myself to them with no noticeable side effects.

Try to keep busy and do the best you can, thast the only advise I can give you. Just think when your treatment is succesfully over, you will be kicking yourself for putting back on the weight loss that you worked so hard for.

lemonaid · 08/09/2006 17:55

Sorry Dotty, didn't see your post. Sounds very scary. When do you get the scan?

Dottydot · 08/09/2006 18:58

Thanks - I've just had a relatively healthy salad for tea (only relatively because it involved bacon and avacado!) and so feel nice and full and hopefully not likely to stray into the chocolate tonight!

Don't know when the scan will be - the neurologist phoned me this morning to let me know the result and said I'd get an appointment soon... Looking at it positively, it can't be anything too awful or they'd get me in asap??!

JackieNo · 08/09/2006 19:13

Dottydot - that is a scary thing, though as you say, you can take some comfort from the fact that they're not whisking you in asap. Can you treat yourself in other ways - go and have a haircut/massage/swim? Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

flutterbee · 08/09/2006 21:42

oooh Sue November 11th is my ds's first birthday, now it's going to be a doubly good day as I will be thinking of you flying back with the little one

Haven't been around much lately as things have been all go because DH has just been offered a new job, and I won't be around much next week because DH is on holiday and we may go up to Newcastle to visit my Grandparents (they have never seen DS)

So I may not be around for weigh in next wee but I shall be taking the scales and will report on our return, or we may not go at all, God I love not having to make definate plans and just going with the flow.

hub2dee · 08/09/2006 21:56

Sorry, wwb but pmsl @ your dh after 2 hours wait for the loo.

I forgot to post loss after yesterday's weight in. Down 1 1/2.

I shall soon lose the 2 1/2 I put on eating fine cheese and ice cream in France !

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WigWamBam · 08/09/2006 22:30

Thanks for that, Hub ... I did come out occasionally. Usually just to wash my hands, then turn around and go back in again. A "How are you feeling, dear?" might have gone down a little better ... although at 5.30am maybe I was expecting too much.

Flutterbee, taking the scales on holiday with you would be above and beyond the call of duty, you know!

Dotty, so sorry to hear about your lump, it must be very stressful. I hope that you can take some comfort from the fact that they don't seem to want to see you urgently - although I know that even then it's worrying. Will be thinking of you.

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1sttiger · 08/09/2006 22:53

hi dotty
new to net, we all know a little of what is bad for us makes us feel better, hope the crisps were your favourite flavour,sending you a bit of my strength hope it helps you through

suejoneziscalmernow · 08/09/2006 23:20

are you feeling a bit better now WWB?

suejoneziscalmernow · 09/09/2006 09:46

Anyone else listen to the programme about addictive behavious on Radio 4 this morning?

They were including compulsive eating and cmpulsive shopping at well which was refreshing. And the comment was made that compulsive eating was not about being greedy and that people who had a probelm with compulsive eating didn't enjoy it whilst they were doing it.

suejoneziscalmernow · 09/09/2006 09:59

I'm going to write down what I remember despite there being no-one else on at the moment or I'll forget it... (I have substituted food/eat but this applies to all addictions)

people with an addiction to food, eat to change the way they feel eg depressed, sad, stressed etc. It isn't about food per se or being greedy it's about trying to change an existing feeling or behaviour. The high actually comes the moment that you make the decision to sccomb to the addiction, the minute you decide that you are going to eat and not from the actual food you eat. There is also a theory that you also eat in order for the guilt you feel afterwards to displace the sadness/depression/stress (albeit not a very healthy alternative!). In fact the food doesn;t help at all and makes you feel worse - you do not enjoy eating in this way compared say, to choosing to treat yourself with something nice.

Advice wasn't much of an advance on what we have fallen into doing ourselves.

  1. recognise when its happening and understand why you are doing it - say to yourself "I am trying to change how I feel now by eating and I know from experience that it is not going to work"
  2. talk to someone about it - professional or friend (or Mumsnet) discussing it helps reinforce that eating does not help you improve your mood.
  3. treat yourself as an experiment - what will happen to your mood if you don't eat? Sit on your own in a room (say watching TV or reading) and observe how you feel as the evening goes on without eating and if you "survived" without eating. The point being that we all survive these moments whether we eat or not and need to learn that.
  4. you will always be an addict, learn how to manage it.

Interesting.

JackieNo · 09/09/2006 10:52

Thanks for that sue - very interesting. I didn't hear the programme, but wish I had. Might investigate the Radio 4 website - sometimes you can download things, I think.

suejoneziscalmernow · 09/09/2006 12:01

It was the programme hosted by Giles Brandreth (yuk!) the woman psychologist was rubbish but the two men were very interesting.

JackieNo · 09/09/2006 15:17

Suejonez - someone on the adoption board asking about experiences of single women adopting - she's been pointed in your direction...

JackieNo · 09/09/2006 15:19

Listened to the programme, by the way - very interesting, and you've got all the points down so well that actually I could have got away without listening. It's this programme and you should just be able to click on the 'listen again' link, in case anyone else fancies it.

Dottydot · 09/09/2006 17:22

Thanks WWB and 1sttiger - it does help being able to splurge on this thread! Better day today (although not perfect - sausage bagel at 2pm 'cos I was working most of the day and didn't have access to anything else!). But hopefully back to normal eating now. I've read a bit more about the type of lump it might be - hopefully nothing too nasty, but will need an op to get rid of it.

JackieNo · 09/09/2006 17:47

Well done dottydot - it's not the giving in to temptation that does the damage - it's the thinking 'oh well that's it, so I might as well eat badly for a week' mindset - you seem to be managing to avoid that one. Reassuring news on the lump, too .