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BigMoFos Week 18

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WigWamBam · 07/09/2006 10:10

New week, new thread ...

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justamum · 09/09/2006 22:01

hi all, I've been off gallivanting round northern england as I went to see robbie last night (don't worry I'm not going to get all crazed again although I would leave dh for him should he ever ask!) There's nothing like running up multiple train platforms with rucksacks and trainers on to make you feel like a giddy teenager again instead of a 30something boring mother of 2, I am paying the price today of not going to bed until 3am. We ended up in the dodgiest bar in Leeds, they didn't have any tonic for my g&t & offered sparkling water instead!!!! it made me remember why I never go into town any more.
On a good note I ended up going with an extremly slim friend of mine & was consequentially very restrained on the eating front, I usually find all those food stalls totally irrestistable. (when DH is paying, not me)
Dottydot, hope you are ok, you've done the sensible thing by going straight to the drs, it sounds pretty hopeful that it isn't too serious.
WWB, hope you are feeling better; from your tummy bug and your depression, your first post about the way you were feeling made me cry 'cos I understood just what you were going through
I won't be around this week until Thurs because I am going to my mums as DH is in Germany
Sue- has the snowsuit got to you yet? I only posted it on Thurs as I kept leaving it in the car.

whoopsfallenoveragain · 09/09/2006 22:03

I don't think I'll have done very well this week especially as I've just polished off a bottle of wine!
Have had a bad week hopefully things will perk up early next week

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 00:19

Thanks so much Justamum - snow suit did indeed arrive fine yesterday so very fast. Very grateful - I've been sorting out babies clothes this eveing - junior already has more clothes than me and I don;t even know what size he is yet! I keep forgetting about things I've bought and buying more. Thankfully have stopped now!

coppertop · 10/09/2006 13:15

Dotty - Wishing you the very best of luck for the op. Fingers crossed that the news is all good. xx

WWB - I hope you're feeling a little better today. xx

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 15:10

I'm having a desperate to eat weekend, and bought a packet of biscuits at the supermarket last night and ate them all . In my (small) defence thre were only 6 in a packet. I was dying for a Thai take away but managed not to and had c couple of nice ham sandwiches instead. I can;t even say this is depression or stress or anything. If I'm honest - I JUST WANT A LOVELY TAKEAWAY!

People keep asking me out for drinks to say goodbye and we end up eating as well and I just think I've got a taste for it again. You know when all your nice healthy stuff in the fridge that you normally like looks horrible!

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 17:42

Must be really difficult sue - I think you have every excuse to be relaxing a bit about what you're eating, so don't beat yourself up about it. Try to make good choices, but just accept that things might be a bit haywire for a while (what's the food like in Kaz?) and you just have to go with the flow. Once you're back and starting to get into some sort of routine you can start to think about this again (of course, if you live on cabbage in Kaz you might lose loads of weight ). FWIW, I'm having the same sort of weekend, but without the excuse that you have for doing it. Have been snacking constantly, and though I'm trying to keep to vaguely healthy things, it's not always working.

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 17:45

And the awful thing is jackie that even if depression sn;t your excuse to eat - it soon arrives if you have eaten too much. I can already feel that I'm getting upset with myself for having a chicken sandwich and cinnamon bun in starbucks.

Hopefully I have stopped the rot as I've persuaded my mum to come swimming with me in about an hour. Don;t think it'll burn many calories but would be nice after a hot day and something to do away from food!

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 17:51

Mmmm - starbucks. Have a good swim, and be happy that you're not giving in to it - you're doing something about it.

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 19:16

In case TitanRed pops in - here's the BigMoFos creed that I mentioned on her thread.

BigMoFos Creed

The BigMoFos are about attitude as much as anything: some of us were cheesed off with 7 stone people posting about being bloaters, and whingeing because they needed to lose 4lb and how hard it was. We just wanted a place where people understood how large people feel, and where we could feel supported in a way that those 7 stone people couldn't manage to support us.

We do a weigh-in on a Wednesday, but not all of us weigh in. Some just follow the thread for support, whichever you would feel more comfortable doing. It's all pretty free and easy but it seems to work. Email is [email protected] if you want to join the weigh-in, otherwise just hop along for the ride.

Our rules:

No beating yourself up (we will do that for you if necessary)
Each week is a new week and you leave last week?s problems behind
No pedantic grammar corrections (unless what you typed really doesn?t make sense) we are quite smart and will work out what you mean.

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WigWamBam · 10/09/2006 19:32

I agree with Jackie, Sue ... don't beat yourself up (it's in the Creed so it must be right ). It must be hard when everything is so up in the air at the moment but once you're back and everything is starting to settle down again it might be easier to get stuck back in again.

Am very jealous of your cinammon bun, they're gorgeous ...

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loopylou0612 · 10/09/2006 21:27

Hello. I am a first timer to these threads and I am really inspired by some of the things I have been reading! Just a few questions though, if someone wouldn't mind...

  1. Is this a specific club, or do you all go to different clubs and then have your own weigh in?

  2. What do I need to do if I want to join in?

  3. Are there 'club rules' that need to be followed??

Thanks for your help!!

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 21:27

Feel a bit better having had a swim. Mum and I had chips on the way home but as we only had our locker money we had to split a large bag of chips which I had with beans. Though not great, I am feeling OK about it now. Will repeat to myself regularly - "it is OK if I don't lose weight at the moment"..."it is OK if I don't lose weight at the moment"..."it is OK if I don't lose weight at the moment"

loopylou0612 · 10/09/2006 21:28

Sorry, scrap that last question, I have found the rules!

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 21:30

Hi LoupyLou - glad you found us - just join in if you fancy.

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 21:32

Co-incidentally Jackie mentions the BigMoFO's creed below! Most (though not all) of us have a lot to lose (ie 3 stone plus) so if you don't have much to lose you may find some of the more specfic diet threads better. Also most of us have issues around food so a lot of the chat on here is about how we are feeling and how we can help each other out. If you want to spend a long time losing weight slowly in a "safe" place, this is the thread for you. If you are going to complain about being half a stone overweight, we will probably sit on you

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 21:35

sue.

loopylou0612 · 10/09/2006 21:38

Well...

I currently weigh almost 16 stone and am wearing a size 18-20. I seemed to put on loads of weight when I was pregnant and haven't really been able to shift it since. I joined Slimming World about 3 months ago and di quite well, but then I fell off the wagon and put it all back on again.

As big as I am, I actually love going to the gym, which is something I never thought I would hear myself saying. Part of my downfall is that the creche has been closed at the gym for the last 8 weeks so I haven't been able to go as regularly as I would have liked.

I too suffer on and off from depression, although, touch wood, this has been under control for a while now. I am a classic comfort eater and this is one of the things I would like to try and put a stop to.

I am rejoining the gym from tomorrow, have landed myself a new job and am returning to Slimming World too. Even though I am in 'that club', can I still join in here? I would like to get involved with other people fighting their weight issues because I understand what a long and difficult battle it can sometimes be.

Oh, and by the way, I have 6 stone to go before I'm at my target!

JackieNo · 10/09/2006 21:40

We're all doing our own thing, LoupyLou - some are doing formal diets, Weight Watchers, Slimming World etc, I'm just trying to eat smaller portions and have healthier snacks. Whatever works.

suejoneziscalmernow · 10/09/2006 21:41

If it helps I have about 8 stone to my target, currently in a 26. have an interim goal to get down to size 20. I am trying to follow my dctors advice and lose 2lbs per month but have only just started so not sure if I can be that patient.

If you are a comfort eater read my post further down about the radio prog on yesterday morning, you might recognise yourself!

loopylou0612 · 10/09/2006 21:48

My interim goal was 10% of my weight, but I have found it really difficult to get to. So I was thinking of aiming for a 14 on top and a 16 on the bottom. Previously, I managed to get into a 16 on top comfortably although still an 18 on the bottom.

Have just bought some knee high boots which cost me £100 (most expensive thing I have ever ever bought myself ever!) and they are lovely but I've got a bit of overhang at the top so need to do more leg work!

I am really looking forward to it now. Thanks everyone!!

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WigWamBam · 10/09/2006 22:10

If I start thinking about the sizes I should be aiming for I will just start digging into the chocolate, so I don't think about my goals in terms of either weights or sizes - I'm just taking it one (small!) step at a time! I'm size 26-ish bottoms and size 32 top, so I'm sure you can understand why I'm not thinking too hard about being in a size that starts with a 1 - even size 20 seems a long way off. Hang it, even size 24 seems a long way off!

I'm psyching myself up to start going to the gym; mummyhill lives pretty close to me and we were going to go together, I just need to get myself in the right frame of mind for it (after bad experiences last time). I need to up my exercise (I walk everywhere, but it hasn't helped much), I have always found it easier to lose weight when I can exercise as well. I'm the biggest I've ever been, though, and exercise is harder than it's ever been.

I didn't spot the link about the radio show, sue ...

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loopylou0612 · 10/09/2006 23:47

My friend and I started going to the gym together, but she got fed up with my lack of childcare and hassled me for weeks about it. I hated going alone to start with, but once I'm plugged into my mp3 player, I don't care! When you go the gym, they should be able to give you some sort of routine that you can do that will suit your needs.

I agree it does help to go with someone else and if you can WWB, I would certainly give it a go. Swimming is also good, but if you're anything like me, it'll take some doing .

I'm at the stage now where I like exercising and plan to continue with it. Just can't seem to get over my phobia of full length mirrors or cameras.

Good luck WWB!!

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WigWamBam · 11/09/2006 08:56

I've had quite a lot of name-calling both in the gym and in the swimming pool - it was pretty upsetting and put me off going back to either (although I have gone swimming since, but never on my own). Mummyhill has promised to be my Rottweiler and scare everyone off from having a go at me at the gym though so I really haven't got much of an excuse.

I'd get an exercise video out but I don't think that the floorboards would stand it ...

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iPodthereforiPoor · 11/09/2006 22:42

Ipod sneaks back to the BIgMoFo's looking sheepish -
Hey - you might remember me from some time ago when this was all starting off - No? OK then!!

Well, anyway I just wanted to say how impressed I am at the ryou are all working at your own issues.

I STarted the year doing really well but feel off the wagon in June and have been eating loads of crap again - ok, binging... It sucks that I was doing so well and now have put back on the weight I had lost ~ atleast 2 trouser sizes. I have given myself a sturn talking to again and just wanted a hand or six to climb back up to where I was mentally in my battle with myself...so, can I come and play with you guys again?

suejoneziscalmernow · 12/09/2006 00:41

Of course you can come and play but only if you forget all about failing and just focus on being as good as you can be, to stick around for ages and ages and ages, be kind to yourself when you're not as good as you could be and support each of us when we're being pathetic. We try to rotate it so that not everyone is being pathetic at the same time but doesn't always work that way

If I hadn't been on this thread I think I would be the same weight as I was 18 weeks ago (or even heavier ). Though I do have to remind myself of that from time to time when I feel I'm not being good "enough", on reflection I can see that I'm in a better place than I was then.

How philosophical! I'm off to bed...