Paul McKenna's 'I Can Make You Thin' Thread #15...The New Beginning!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread #15 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.

Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.

Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things!

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2014 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Virtual Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is there? We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! :)

See, I would find that hard Milly as my Dc's would be questioning why I wasn't eating what they were ~ especially if it was something extra special!

I need to listen to the HGB again, but I'm not finding it having the same effect it did the very first time I used it. Not gained weight, but am seemingly stuck at the moment!

Doing ok.

Had a little slip up last night as we had chip shop dinner. I had cod in batter and mushy peas as I didn't fancy chips. All going well except I stupidly ate in front if the TV! Ate a little but too much as u wasn't concentrating but my goal for today is to eat every meal at the table.

What does everyone do about foods they can't chew? Eg soup or yoghurt?

Morning all.
Yesterday went well I feel.
Had a day out with my SIL and the children so we had a picnic. It was hard to eat consciously sitting on the floor, trying to chat to my SIL (because to not to would be rude!) and stop my children (ASD and very active) from absconding into a maze. However I put down my sandwich between bites and really enjoyed it. Once I'd eaten it I opened a packet of crisps but put it back in the bag because I just didn't want any more.
By the time we got home I was starving! So, I had a cup of tea and a biscuit. Normally having a biscuit would tip me over into a frenzy of eating everything in sight but this time I ate and enjoyed my biscuit and that was that. Hurrah!
Tea was pasta and bolognaise sauce and I chewed lots! I also spent an hour at karate.

mrsmiles With yoghurt I suppose I just try and put the spoon down between mouthfuls.

I feel quite positive. I listened to the track last night again. I'm listening to the original track rather than the gastric band one.

Tonight will be interesting as it is pizza night in our house, a routine that is sacrosanct! I do struggle not to over eat on pizza night so I will have to be extra vigilant.

Sock, thank you for sharing the positive experience at a picnic. I'm having a picnic today with a friend and all our children.

Had greek yoghurt with honey for breakfast today and did just put the spoon down in between mouthfuls and savour the taste.

Something strange that I've noticed is that I'm eating a lot less fruit! I'm fancying nice vegetables and salad too but not really fruit. That's strange because I normally really fill up on fruit!

neverputasockinatoaster- we have pizza night and although I really enjoy it, I find I'm eating around two thirds of what I used to and end up feeling full. The chewing, savoring, and not wolfing it down is really doing it for me. It's so nice to find a non restrictive way of eating. I never feel deprived.

Wow! listen to the two of you!! you are encouraging me!

With soup, porridge, yoghurt or anything like those things with a sloppy, runny consistency, you can count to 20 with each mouthful, but don't forget to taste it properly or the satisfaction may not be as good; leading onto hunger pangs...which may lead you to overdoing it!

Mrs perhaps the words because I normally really fill up on fruit! are the reason you aren't wanting fruit? your mind knows that you may just eat fruit not for the sake of it (can't find the words), but it's your filling up food? does that make sense? but it doesn't matter; the veg and salad are excellent foods to fancy :)

Solo no one has to eat food they don't want to here . If my kids don't want something they don't have to have it so if I eat something different they get it. Eating food you don't want or don't enjoy one hundred per cent is counterproductive to this way of eating to me.

Not sure if I explained that too well but I have been doing this for over fifteen years now so I have always allowed each member of the family to have imput into what food we buy and eat.

I get that Milly but if you are on a tight budget and meal plan for the week, then it's not always possible to do the eat what you want in terms of "I fancy beef steak tonight so we'll all have steak" if what you have in reality is chicken thighs. My Dc's generally get what they are given, but I'm very lucky that they are good eaters and enjoy my cooking.

Hello everyone. I'm so impressed by how well you're all doing, well done! I know we're not supposed to be negative, but I feel like a complete failure. I managed 2 meals eating mindfully, and then just forgot until after I'd eaten, at which point I'd overeaten yet again. I'm so annoyed with myself.

I did dig out the ICMYT book & CD, but have yet to listen to it. I have decided just now that I shall put the CD onto my MP3 player, listen to it tonight in bed and start afresh in the morning.

I did notice yesterday whilst eating my carvery that I was enjoying it less and less (someone wrote on here - Solo I think - that enjoying the food less was your body telling you it was getting full), and I actually couldn't finish everything on my plate. Which is pretty much a first!

I think I need to get the emotional eating book & CD too, as I definitely eat to feel better or for something to do, even if I'm stuffed. Had Pringles and dip last night, even though I was still full from the carvery I hadn't actually finished less than an hour earlier!

Sock, I know exactly what you mean about seeing a sofa in the mirror. I see a big fat toad when I look in a mirror. Sorry, I know that's horrible and negative, but it is what I see and how I feel.

Gosh, I'm sorry for the all-about-me essay. If you managed to read this far, well done and thank you!

Morning all.
Yesterday was interesting! I had a late breakfast because I wasn't hungry any earlier but then that meant I wasn't hungry at lunch time. No problem. By 4.30 I was starving! So, as DS was having a McDonalds for tea (DD at a sleepover so DS having a treat) I got some fries and a muffin. I ate the fries slowly, chewing loads, and really noticed that actually they aren't that nice if you eat them slowly!
I struggled to eat the pizza mindfully as it is an evening where DH and I have a movie as well. However, I didn't eat more than two slices because I left time between each slice before taking another.

I am noticing a shift in my thinking. I keep remembering clothes I have tucked away in the cupboard from my thinner days and I get a little thrill of excitement at the fact that I will be wearing them again soon. I have plans in place already to climb Snowden with my son next summer.

Poirot I shall give you an encouraging and un mumsnetty hug. I am not a sofa and you are not a toad. Let's ditch this negativity and focus on the future where we will be slim and healthy and have a normal, non obsessive, relationship with food!

Sock, thank you. You're right, focusing on a positive future is the way to go. The past can't be changed (not even the past that is just 5 minutes ago), so the only thing we can do is affect the future.

It's funny you say about the fries not tasting all that nice after all. I have noticed that quite a lot of the food I use to 'treat' or 'reward' myself, or that I binge on before starting another diet, doesn't actually taste all that good. I'm not really keen on chocolate for the most part. Two slices of pizza taste good, but after that it's a bit meh. Fast food really isn't that pleasant, if you pay attention to the taste. Yet I still eat it as it's a 'treat'. Except it actually isn't, is it?! I actually enjoy a tuna salad with full fat mayo more than a Big Mac & fries.

Well done on your progress! You're so positive about it all, it's very encouraging. I can see that you and your son are going to actually be climbing Snowdon this time next year.

I an on a budget too Solo but by everyone contributing their choices to the shopping list, we all manage to eat food we all enjoy.

4 lbs off this week yay!!!!!!!

4lbs off this week sorry that had to be done in bold. This GB is really helping.

I find that what Paul says in his CDs so spot on. A few mouthfulls is all your body needs to feel satisfied. After a few mouthfuls of the most delicious food all your senses are satisfied and you can if you ate very mindful, stop eating. The fourth mouthful of something is generally never as nice as the first mouthful.

Solo I would think your children eat whatever you give them because they are genuinely hungry for their food which is good. To me bringing up my kids to have no food issues was paramount after my own childhood with a mother who controlled every morsel of food that went into my mouth. I did not want to be The Food Police with them otherwise I feared my daughter would grow up with disordered eating like me and most women. That's why I felt it important for us all to imput the food shopping list each week.

Solo correct me if I am wrong but in your previous post you say that if you are serving spag bol and you dint really fancy it, that you will go to the fridge and eat your stash of little snacks things . So if you are eating the spag bol but it's not what you really want and then going to the fridge after and eating more of what you do want, then isn't that overeating? If you ate what you wanted in the first place you wouldn't need the extra food, would you?

I assumed Solo meant that if she didn't fancy the spag bol she'd have the snacky bits as an alternative not as well as. So it wasn't extra, it was instead of.

O ok but I think she did say to me that if she has to eat tge same meals as her children because otherwise her children will question her. So then she goes to the fridge to eat her snacks bits after which tends to go against the ethos of this woe.

Milly Possibly Solo doesn't actually eat with her children, so wouldn't sit there eating something else with them? Or maybe she means she may decide that although spag bol had been planned, she doesn't fancy it and therefore would make the other stuff in the fridge for everyone?

I could be completely wrong, of course!

Anyway, as I said I have been doing it for fifteen years now so I tend to find that as long as u always eat following the rules then it works. I have been on this thread for three years and have kept the weight off but find that people come and go and those who don't lose weight tend to not stick to the simple four rules. They then say that this way of eating isn't working for them but in reality it is them not truly applying the methodology to their lives which of course isn't always easy. The proof of this way of eating, in the end, is if you can lose your excess weight and keep it off and do this for life and maintain your weight. A few people have managed it .Many people tend to go back to dieting again though it would seem ,which is a shame. I shall bow out now.

No, Solo said that she eats with the kids exactly what they are eating even if she doesn't fancy it and then eats her nibbles.

Good Luck and may you all succeed and change your relationship with food forever and lose your weight.

Thank you Milly

May I ask, how long did it take you to get into the habit of eating this way?

I don't eat nibbles and dinner. I was trying to get across that If I didn't want what I was cooking for the kids, I would probably have my pepper things or somesuch from the fridge, but it really is rare that I do this. It was more of a 'have something in reserve that you love in the fridge/cupboard/shelf so that you can eat something you love and want to eat if you don't want to eat the thing you are serving for the family meal as planned'. Think that reads ok and makes sense. It's what I thought I was saying before anyway. My children always love whatever they are handed, so if I was to eat my peppers instead, they wouldn't care too much anyway as they aren't big fans of those, but 99 out of 100 times, I will eat exactly the same as they do :)