Paul McKenna's 'I Can Make You Thin' Thread #15...The New Beginning!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread #15 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

HELPFUL TIPS!
Lots of chewing; at least 20 chews per mouthful.

Ask yourself "am I really hungry?" Listen for your 'full signal' and leave at least a mouthful on your plate at every meal. Eat your favourite thing from your plate first so that if you get to the full signal, but have your favourite food still sitting there, you aren't going to 'make room' for it because you love it, it will have already gone.

Admire something about yourself every day in the mirror.
Try to move more; dance around the living room or walk to school...use the stairs...small things, but good things!

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2014 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Virtual Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Ps. Could we all try to sign in at least every few days so that someone is there? We have established that it's no fun talking to ourselves and also that if there is a new joiner, it's good to say 'hello and welcome' to them too.

Ok! Let's Focus and See Ourselves wearing that body we desire! learning to love ourselves is an important daily step, so let's become LOSERS in order to be WINNERS!!! :)

Fantastic news JDD!!!

My daughter was trying to give me some chocolate today and I was totally uninterested in it. I used to eat far too much chocolate!!

Brilliant JDD! That's exactly how it should be.

Welcome FootballMum. You'll definitely fit in well here. I was dieting for about 20 years when I found this WOE. Sometimes the panic sets in and I think about going on a diet. Then I get hungry and realise there's no point!

Well I managed 3 runs last week and shaved 30 seconds/kilometre off my PB last night! Scales haven't moved yet but I'm actually not worried because I know this will get me healthy and tone me and the weight will start to fall off.

Thanks guys. I've done the Havening video and listened to the trance and self sabotage track, plus I'm well on my way through the book. It feels much more relevant to me than ICMYT even though I didn't think,it would!

I've had a dawning realisation that perhaps my problems go way back to childhood when my Dad left and I saw my Mum for years struggling with her weight and trying umpteen diets in a totally unsuccessful attempt to win him back . My depression and binge eating have gradually got worse since my Mum died 3 years ago but I've spent all this time blaming it on stress and work. It's been an emotional day and I feel really tearful and confused and guilty because I'm almost blaming my Mum for my problems. I've even been through CBT and it didn't bring these feelings up. I'm going to do my havening before I go to bed tonight and will really try and channel these feelings to see if it helps.

TooBig that's an amazing weight loss. I really hope I'll be as successful!

Yay " JD" ...I'm the same with chocolate. I tend to put one piece in my mouth and just let it melt and not chew. Then I really taste and savour. Mmmm.!! now that's what chocolate is about.

"football" sorry your having an emotional day but it's all ok, just go with it, no matter what you feel. Tomorrow is another day.

Footballmum I found that things from my teenage years came up when I was doing the CD's. I was amazed as I thought they were all buried and forgotten. Felt a lot better when I had balanced myself out.

Now you need to do the balancing track and put the guilt into one hand and the opposite into the other hand. Choose one or more from the list of antonyms in this list that fits with how you would like to feel. thesaurus.com/browse/guilt Don't ignore the feelings you have otherwise you could end up with them being unacknowledged feelings like in the other track.

Congratulations on the running Alittlefaith!!!

I DID IT!!! I can't believe I've actually just thrown food away! I had a lovely tuna salad wrap for lunch and ate it while listening to the "Listen While You Eat" audio trying to ignore the references to eating with a knife and fork. I got about two thirds of the way through and thought "I think I'm full" but I would normally just keep going. So I put it to one side and had a glass of water and answered a couple of emails. The wrap kept calling to me so I had another bite and, as with all the others, chewed really slowly and I really didn't enjoy it!! So I chucked it in the bin!

This might sound daft to everyone who's been doing this for ages but for me its a bit of a revelation. I NEVER feel full, I ALWAYS wolf eat EVERYTHING on my plate and I NEVER throw food away (even if its on someone else's plate).

I'm actually looking forward to doing the food shop this week so that I can buy food I want to eat, rather than what I "should" eat.

I don't know whether its going to result in any immediate weight loss but I've decided to hide the scales away but concentrate on trying to change my body shape through exercise rather than diet. I've got a big wobbly belly that's out of proportion to the rest of my body so I'm starting the mammoth task of trying to strengthen my core.

I've been reading the book and listened to the cd, which is great - although I'm not sure which side I should listen to when he's talking over himself?? - but struggling with the Havening. I don't seem to be able to recall the "feeling". I know I was anxious/stressed/bored etc in certain circumstances, but I can't FEEL it when watching the Havening DVD - how do I judge it on a scale of 1 to 10? (Sorry if I'm not expressing myself very well here!)

Yay!!! Football

Hi Kaz...have a look over the last page or so as some of the ladies were talking about the very question you have asked.

Hi Kazz. You'll see from my last but one post that I had the same problem. It helped to read the whole book because it made me realise that it doesn't have to be a feeling you have when you're eating or about to eat. It can simply be an overwhelming negative emotion that you have experienced and need to bring to mind because chances are it's all connected. I think I'm going to re-read the book because I don't think I've taken it all on board. I agree though, Havening feels really strange at first!

Thanks I'll read through the posts, have been skimming some of them.

I know I eat when I'm stressed, anxious or bored, but I don't know how to evaluate that on a 1 to 10 scale when I'm not actually stressed, anxious or bored. Does that make sense?

Solo, how you feeling? Any news yet?

Is anybody doing the other techniques in the book. I am doing the 22 day tracker, I also find the instant calm technique very good. I do that at my desk and nobody has a clue. I stopped havening after the first 5 days but have done it for the last 2 days and feel good.

I do feel a bit daft havening and sometimes keep going over the same emotions but it does seem to put me in a good frame of mind. Plus he uses havening in his smarter book so I use it for that too.

Kazza when I do the Havening, I simulate the feeling that I get when I want to eat rather than the emotion that causes it. I have found that the feeling reduces during the Havening process. Sometimes I have to do it more than once for that feeling. When you get the urge to eat something when you're not hungry, how do you feel?

Kazza I do it by thinking about a particular recent instance where I felt that I HAD to have chocolate. Because it was recent I could remember it and rate it. I could only do that once I'd been paying attention to those times when I are for emotional reasons.

Footballmum that's great, well done.

What do you guys think about this? I have a sweet tooth and like to eat a sweet 'treat' in the evening. It could just be a digestive biscuit or some chocolate that's lying around. Strictly speaking, if I eat my dinner slowly and stop when I'm full I don't have room for pudding and should wait until Im genuinely hungry later. However, I tend to fancy eating something sweet about an hour later. By then I'm not stuffed but not hungry either. If I eat something sweet then I eat it slowly and really enjoy it and I'm not doing it for emotional reasons or as part of a binge, just because I like the taste. I feel that I shouldn't be doing this though. What do you do about puddings?

Hmm I don't know how I feel when I eat for emotional reasons I just know I want something, usually something sweet.

It takes a bit of practice. Ask yourself what's going on at that moment. Are you stressed? Bored? Lonely? Feeling down because of your weight or failing at a diet? Or are just just treating or comforting yourself because you've had a hard day?

I've realised that I eat to distract myself from
Uncomfortable emotions even if that's just boredom at work or frustration that my child won't go to sleep.

Hi all. Just popping by to say hello and hoping you are all getting on well. I have lost a couple of lbs, but that's not as a result of Pauling.

I hope to be back soon :)

Hi Solo, sorry things aren't so good for you, lots of folk here routing for you (includes ones you hardly know like me!)

Now I have the book on my iPad am hoping to read it more instead of constant mumsnetting (not doing too well so far this morning!)
Am on holiday soon and although I won't be thin-on-the-beach this year, if I follow the guidelines I won't spend the holiday storing up supplies to eat in the evenings etc - should just be a more relaxing experience (I overeat on holidays as a combination of stress, feeling responsible for everything, and deciding to "treat" myself for a week).

Hi Solo. I was asking about you on thread the other day. Are you still feeling sick? Have the scans helped? Poor you, must be so horrible.

Hope everyone is enjoying the lovely weather this weekend.

Sorry to hear you're still feeling ill, Solo. Continued prayers for you.

I weighed myself this morning and have lost a further 3 lb taking my total since starting the emotional eating to 23 lb. Very happy with this!! I have felt more inclined to eat between meals in the last couple of days though. Did the self sabotage and emotional balancing again last night and will do the havening some time today. I have been listening to the overcome emotional eating track regularly along with the I can make you thin track.

I made rhubarb crumble yesterday. Probably won't help my weight loss!! Neither DD or DH like it.

Just have a little portion then. Can you freeze it in small portions and have it spread out over a month? or I could pop round to help you?