Easter target met, let's get some summer losses!!

[RufusTheReindeer]

Hi, following on from the lose a stone and half thread those of us with more weight to shift (me!) would like to carry on

Is there anyone out there to join?

I will go first

I have reached my Easter target and I would like to lose between 7 and 12 pounds ready for the summer (I may lose more in the autumn but I don't see the point if I can't maintain it)

I have let things sill a bit so my intention is to calorie count as I did before with no chocolate or alcohol from Tuesday for a few weeks. Then I will relax the choc and booze rule

yummy
georgous

that is not helping Rufus!

Did you make it yourself?

Would it be worth increasing calories (within sensible limits) for a few days to see if you can break the plateau?

Shock your body a bit??

I was talking to a friend today (who I think is giving up on the dieting for a while ) and she said that she just hates being hungry

I don't struggle with hunger too much on a normal day but I just fancy stuff...usually high fat sugary stuff. Then I start eating and can't stop!!

rabbit

Yep made it today, the theme is birthday cakes and I was going to make a piñata cake but couldn't be arsed!! So I made a cake that would appeal to my 12 year old dd

I am not having tea as I just ate loads of maltesers

Damn you cake club!!!

I think a wobble now and then is fine as long as it doesn't get out of hand...I fear mine is getting out of hand so I really need to stay on this thread

I so need to stay as well.

Coolio

It's doable because we have done it before..it's just a blip

Half term I'm on holiday and I'm away/have visitors for the next few weekends so I need to up my game during the week so I can relax a bit at the weekends

Up the game Rufus.

Thanks for wishing me luck Rabbit.
I wish you luck too.

I understand how you feel about being hungry. That was a really terrible problem for me before I started doing 5:2.

Now it isn't. And that has changed so much for me.

In short , pre-5:2 I had got to the point when I just couldn't stand being hungry. On my first couple of fast days I felt quite ill. On the very first one I got headaches, got dizzy and even felt sick.

I thought that this was hunger. After watching some Horizon programmes about carbohydrates , I realised how my own intake of carbs had increased over the years . Thinking it through a little more, I also realised that my feeling ill when I no longer had carbs in my system was actually me suffering from 'withdrawal symptoms'.

Once I realised this I understood how important that it was for me to get carbs in their right place.

I had honestly felt so ill on my first fast days that I couldn't believe it. I read other people talking about their first FDs . Not many complained about feeling particiularly ill on them. So I realised there was more than just fasting causing the problem.

I had read that hunger comes in waves. Now I realise that it does. Now , if I start to feel hungry I know I can stave it off with a warm herbal tea or a glass of water. I learnt that it will calm down so now I don't panic.

Since my early FDs, my relationship with hunger has dramatically changed. I don't often feel really hungry. So much so, that I can now actually eat very little without feeling terribly hungry.

I am currently learning to better understand my body. I believe , for example, that the reason why I am plateauing at the moment is because I am not eliminating correctly . That must be because I ate very few veggies recently as I just didn't want to spend time on cooking. However , I need veggies .

Anyway without wanting to lower the tone too much though I am plateauing I am still on course. I am still learning when I can and when I can't cut corners and do what I like with food .

So Rabbit - IMHO it's ok to feel hungry - but there's hunger and then there's hunger...

Has that given you food for thought ?

Agree with saymwa completely

I found that in the first few weeks I drank gallons of water, that might help as well

Good luck with the next few days ladies

Ah ta Rufus !
Me too on the water front ! Just couldn't stop drinking at the start. Now I still drink a lot , but I can pause for breathe now it is less so.

I think my biggest problem is that I just luuurve foods that are high in calories and I am in the process of learning to not jump on apéritifs or cakes deal with temptation. And , for me , that is 'work in progress' .

Ps Glad you're feeling better Ruf .
Pps . Deer is still cooking on stove at the side of me ( and so am I !!! )

Morning All,

I am 5ft 7". I started out at around 76kg which is 12 stone. This was at the start of January when I joined the first thread, committed to losing weight for Easter.

I decided that I needed and wanted to get down to the weight I had been when I got married - 65kg. I got down to 65kg which is 10 stone 3lbs. And I did this by Easter .

Whilst I was losing that weight. I realised that I could cope with feeling hungry and therefore I saw now I was capable of living long term at a lower weight.

On the way down I felt healthier and looked better. I had begun to enjoy my clothes again. I had also found out that once I got to a healthy weight, anything less would be a purely aesthetic choice. So , now I realised that the decision of the weight I really wanted to stay at was up to me.

This was a big thing for me to take on board . In the past I'd always given that kind of decision over to something external to me - magazines, tv , film star criteria - had been my references . Now I saw I could decide what weight I wanted ( rather than needed ) to be . This was, and still is , a very personal decision .

Where I live it gets very hot in the summer. Lighter clothes are needed. But, to feel comfortable in them I need to be slim. So that means living at a lower weight. I am now aiming for 59 to 60 kg which would be between 9st 4lbs to 9st 6lbs.

I have explained before on this thread how this next stage of my weight loss is bringing up lots of feelings linked to my past. This is because the last time I lived down at those lower weight I was 16. That's a long time ago.

So , slowly , slowly I am returning down to my 'younger' weight and discovering what it takes for me to live there.

This week I have lost 1/2 a kilo which is 1 pound . I am happy anlut that. This week I have been learning to balance out my food choices - food for pleasure cream eggs, coffee and walnut cake with foods for health lentils, beans and oranges and at this week has been about me switching to include more healthy less silly foods. I have realised that , though some foods I can choose, others I actually do need.

So, it's onwards and ( gently and slowly) downwards here.

Hope you're all well and that you're having a good start to your days.( Happy belated May Day by the way )

saymwa

Well done you

That's very impressive weight loss. Mine has come to a grinding halt and I only want to lose another 11 pounds. I think you are right about finding your weight though

Never mind I will look for my mojo in a minute...it's probably under a cushion or something

I found a pair of jeans but they didn't have my size (will order them) so to console myself I bought a handbag and pair of sandals. We are fitting new wardrobes tomorrow so I obviously want to fill them up!!!!

Hope you all have a good day and weekend

that's an impressive weight loss :) you also sound very positive which is nice to hear and must be a boost rather than seeing it as a chore.

I would like a fanfare before I make this announcement... There is food in the house! woohoo.

I don't drink much water at all I really should more, I squeeze lemon or lime into it to give It some flavour when I do drink it. bought some reusable ice cubes today as I find that I drink more when it is ice cold. and I don't have the freezer room for whacking great bags of ice.

Hope you found your mojo Rufus ?
Sorry to hear that your future jeans are on hold at the moment but I am pleased for you that you found some pretty sandals. Do you understand what has happened with your mojo ?

Great news that you've got some food in your cupboard Mother Hubbard Super! No more carrot soup for you then!

Today has been a non fast day for me and I have not felt hungry at all ! I am finding this new situation very strange. I am still quite thirsty and have drunk quite a bit again. Bit I have bought a loaf of wholemeal bread , dried apricots and prunes and decided to make a meal out of that who says I can't ?

All the best to you all ( and good luck with the wardrobe-putting- up + partner (?) Rufus )

Give it a go saymwa, if it doesn't work it can go in the locked box of memories that the fateful quorn freezer meal goes in that we all never speak of . dp made chicken wraps tonight with sweetcorn kidney beans peppers and salsa. was nice to have real food as opposed to freezer delights. feeling a bit crappy now been to my grandparents with my dad and they have again started on my dad about his weight, they are incredibly rude about it though and pick on him for it making comments like he should be eating raw carrots or he doesn't need to have tea because hes got that much spare ect. tonight I lost my cool and told them they were being incredibly rude and it made me not went to spend time there. that they would not put up with it if someone was so rude to them. didn't speak to me as I left :/ feel bad but it is every time we visit and gets worse each time. how is everyone doing today

Hey super

Glad you have food! Really sorry about your dad being hassled.mmsome people really have no clue that their lectures (either well meaning or superior) can drive someone to eat!! And make their situation worse

saymwa

It's been 4 months and although I am maintaining fine I still want to lose weight and I think I'm finding a bit difficult to be very strict again

I've not had too bad a day and I weigh in tomorrow, I was comfort eating at the beginning of the week so we will have to see

Wardrobes will go up with my husband doing 90% of the work and me offering helpful comments like

"Are you sure that's right?"
"It's doesn't say on the instructions!!!!! Ooh wait, yes it does"
"I'm bored, are you going to be much longer"
"I'm getting a beer, do you want one?"

Straw poll....... Do you wear clothes when you weigh yourself ? I take my jeans off (as they weigh 2lbs) and my husband just wears his pants

Morning All,

Super , Are you ok ? I think you are being very brave . But I am also worried for you. Please do take care of yourself.

What you have said has bought to mind my own daughter . One of the reasons why I feel proud of her is because, whilst I take the time I need to resolve unresolved conflicts with my own parents, she has continued to prioritise her own needs . She sometimes, even insists about them and thereby has called me - her parent - into line.

My relationship with my parents has consequently become my responsibilty . I am worried that you are taking on too much responsibilty for your father. I wonder if it would be best for him to learn to stand up to his parents and consequently be in a protective role towards you ?

Again , regarding my own daughter , because, at times, she has pushed me to face my own issues - often simply by not stepping into my place, I am very happy to have found myself in a more protective role towards her .

That she does not shoulder burdens which are not hers has been of a great relief to me - really ! Another bonus is that we get to spend a lot of lovely times together - the two of us, (without too much un-necessary time with my parents ) .

I hope you are ok today Super. If nothing that I have talked about feels appropriate to you then I hope you will not take it on board. As I have said, I am worried for you and would give you a big hug if I could Love. xxx

Rufus , what weight do you want to be at ? Were you comfort eating because you had been ill or was it for a different reason ?

Re weigh-ins, I once went to a nutitrionist and when she weighed me she insisted that I wear only my underwear (even told me to remove my socks !) so now I do the same in my own home .

Good luck with your DH+wardrobe malarky today.

And here , gardening and will also have to do some prepartion for work on Monday. ( )

that makes sense saymwa, it is important that you feel that your dd can be independant from you and encourages you to take control. I would ordinarily keep well out and let him deal but it was making me very uncomfortable unfortunately temprement wise my dad is so laid back it is water off a ducks back whereas I find it hard to ignore someone being rude. it will all iron out next time we see them. I do not like ds (age 6) to think it's acceptable to call people fat and pick at their food choices/make jokes about their exercise so I feel if my dad is going to ignore it I will have to tell them. never mind eh, am a hardfaced cow at the best of the times I'll be fine . wow Rufus hope your wardrobe going up goes well I put a greenhouse up with dp few weeks ago, was hilarious. it consisted of me standing there going this is taking ages, can we just leave it like this, I think you have done that wrong . glad to see that everyone is maintaning or losing I think I will have put on this week with the distinct lack of good food and I haven't done as much walking we shall see. I take shoes off to weigh but not clothes because I do it at my grandparents house don't own a scales. I do try to wear the same kind of outfit on those days though like leggings instead of jeans. my resuable ice cubes are fantastic just got to be careful not to swallow one!

Rufus I think you are right by the way. my dad has a demanding job and is always working strange hours but when they get at him it sort of drives him to prove them right rather than wrong

I have a friend who weighs here once a month or so because she doesn't have any scales

I have maintained this week which I am a little disappointed with, but I know it's because I have not been watching my calories as I've not been well

I have got busy weekends for the next two (not this one) which will involve being social and eating and then a holiday at the end of the month. I am really going to struggle. I think I need to maintain for this month and any loss will be a bonus rather than pressure myself to lose weight and fail

It's a pain cos I want to buy some clothes for summer and I know I want to be lighter even if I leave it until September, so it's cheap capsule wardrobe here!!

Hope you are all staying positive, I do get defensive if my dad's wife has a little go at him (but I don't make too many comments because he married her!) I used yo get annoyed with my husbands dad but now I leave him alone unless he has a pop at one of my children...and then it's open season!!

Also hope you all have a great mayday weekend!!!! Will let you know how the wardrobes go...there may be photos!! Or not

Hello All,

Rufus,I do hope that your wardrobe putting up went well ( and that your wardrobe's up ).
Ok for the maintaining . Keep on girl.

Super, hope you've enjoyed cooking more than carrot soup now that you've got your larder all kitted out.

Here, Ive just finished bottling and sterilising my deer.

Managed to do some more gardening today .Had a reasonable week-end food-wise . So that will hopefully help re the weight loss when it comes to FDs this week. - We'll see.

Tomorrow , up early to do Jillian Michaels before work so must get to bed now.

Hope your weeks get off to a good start.

Hi all.
I have stayed away from here a bit because I had a few wobbles. I think I am getting back on track now though?
I didnt want to post a whole load of woe is me stuff, didnt want anyone else to catch the wrong mood iyswim, and needed to sort through what I was doing.

I didnt wobble too far I dont think. I shall see tomorrow to a certain extent[weigh day]
And even though I wasnt posting and didnt lurk much, I jolly well knew you were all here, so you were all in my mind

Anyway..

Actually forgot to add, that part of the reason I feel back on track, is that now May is here, the w is not long now , so dont have anywhere to hide weight wise really.

I weigh first thing in the morning, with nightclothes on, if anyone is interested!
So feel that I am neither fully dressed, nor fully naked!
Our scalews probably isnt the best, so I dont think it registers the difference with shoes or not for example.

imo, the older people are rudest about weight. I cant quite work out why. Whether it was war rations or something?
And they tend to be the ones who dont like to leave any food on their plates, perhaps for the same reason.

Hey everyone

Hope you are having a good few days. I am trying for a fast today as I've not been very good this week

Wardrobes are up (took ages) just need a few more shelves and things which hopefully DH is getting today

I have a habit of clearing my plate, I end to make sure that when DH plates up he gives me less. That doesn't work when it's some of my favourite food!!!

Going to try and be good (except for coffee and maybe a slice of cake tomorrow as I'm out for dinner at the pub tomorrow night!!

I did my weigh in yesterday, and I am exactly the same or maybe 1/4lb less.
So I am a bit relieved really.

Back on track.

I never did like leftovers on plates, and I didnt change when the kids came along, so I dont have a problem there. And will leave food on plate at home or away, so again I have it easy in that regard.