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BigMoFos Week 13

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WigWamBam · 03/08/2006 13:32

New thread ...

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Littlefish · 03/08/2006 22:27

I think lislou's comments say more about her, than her dh. Like WWB's, my dh adores me. Yes, he would like me to lose weight because he's concerned about my health, but he expresses his concerns very caringly and in a way that leaves me in no doubt that he loves me.

Unfortunately, it sounds like lislou has lost respect for her relationship (affair etc.) and is seeking to lay blame.

I don't think that everyone thinks like her about overweight people. I am still optimistic that there are lots of people who recognise the qualities in people they meet which go beyond the physical appearance.

bubbaloo · 03/08/2006 22:36

Lol at the Bugaboo-perhaps I should've got your name right,but got carried away with the W's.

I'm on and off the Cambridge diet at the mo and have decided to diet sensibly and properly for a while instead.The Cambridge diet is very unsociable which is fine if you're in all week,but when you're out and about it is so hard.I came off it yesterday,have eaten 3 choc bars today and will be on a low fat/cal diet hopefully from Monday.

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WigWamBam · 03/08/2006 22:40

Bugaboo??? Sorry, sorry - I don't know where that came from!

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dublindee · 03/08/2006 23:05

Schneebly - CONGRATS!!!!

Chuffed to bits for ya!

Thanks for letting me stay guys.
Am trying not to use this pregnancy as an excuse to eat like a horse but am finding appetite has gone WAY up. Have been trying to fill up on fruit tho so reckon baby will be born with a satsuma in his mouth!

suejonez · 03/08/2006 23:24

Thanks for the heads up Littlefish, will nip over to that threda in a minute and have a chat.

FWIW, I think lislou's marriage issues are about way more than her husbands weight problem and whats more she's knows it. Isn't it much easier to deal with something you've done wrong by deflecting your guilt.

As Snoopy always says - "It's not whether you win or lose but where you place the blame"

Is she a newbie, it sounds like it from her post? It's easy to stumble into posts that sound all caring and fluffy and start dumping on people expecting them to help you without realising that some time and effort has gone into slowly building up (virtual) relationships with each other. On reflection, although she was being insensitive by posting what she did on this particular thread, if she were prepared to listen, I think she got some good advice from us - just not the advice that she wanted.

winnie · 04/08/2006 08:56

I wanted to comment last night on the comment made. It is all a bit close to home for me and I decided to not get into it but I commend all of you who have commented

Did anyone see a programme last night on Channel 4 about 3 men who were really uncomfortable with their bodies and therefore found it difficult to talk to women on any level? It was really uncomfortable viewing I had to turn it off I hope they managed to overcome there issues but it just seemed ridiculous to me to be teaching self confidence tricks and not dealing with the underlying issues.

Good luck everyone with the coming week

JackieNo · 04/08/2006 09:59

Hi winnie, yes I saw the latter part of the programme - missed the beginning. All of them kind of started to overcome their issues, and started to realise that if they talked to people, they would begin to see past their bodies, so to speak. The tall guy didn't really seem all that tall to me, and I guess it just shows that what seems like a huge problem in your own mind, isn't necessarily the barrier you think it's going to be from other people's points of view. It certainly was uncomfortable viewing - the large guy was very unsure about the whole thing and almost backed out a couple of times, but did persevere, to his credit.

Must admit, it took me ages to get to sleep last night - I had this thread and everything that had happened on it whirling round in my mind. I wasn't too shocked by lislou's admissions when I read them yesterday, but I think it was only last night that they really sank in, and made me a bit . Like everyone else, I feel very protective of all the BigMoFos, and it did feel as though we'd been invaded. Like WWB says, it does feel like a safe haven here, and it's difficult to remember that other people can come and read what we say. Feeling a bit more positive this morning, though .

hub2dee · 04/08/2006 10:32

Re: the TV prog - I did think it a bit strange though... Like the aim was to see a woman they thought was attractive, go up to her, as quickly as possible tell her she was sexy, then as quickly as possible get her phone number and then aim for a snog. That's not really the best strategic 'pulling' advice I've ever heard !

JackieNo · 04/08/2006 10:37

It was a bit strange, but I think part of the aim was to desensitise them a bit, IYKWIM, to 'practise' making their intentions clear, and to make the whole 'approaching women' thing a bit less of a huge issue in their minds. Does that make sense? Mind you, as I said, I didn't see the first bit, so am only going on the second half.

JackieNo · 04/08/2006 10:54

Suejonez, just sorting out some stuff, and I've got some Avent bottles - wondered whether you'd like them? There are five 9oz ones and one 4oz one. No teats, obviously, but there are also a couple of soft spouts and a couple of white handles . And a milk powder dispenser (though not an Avent one, but same idea). Also a couple of spouts that they don't seem to make any more. And a VIA feeding system (scroll down to the bottom) that they sent me as a free sample and I never used. Would you be interested at all? No worries if not - I might freecycle it .

suejonez · 04/08/2006 11:07

Thanks Jackie - the milk powder dispenser would be great - I was thinking of buying one due to the travel I will have to do initally. I've already gone for the playtex disposable system as its more portable for long trips so the via feeding system would be more useful going to someone else. I think I'll say yes to the 9oz bottles too as I'm obviously not going to continue using disposable when I get home, though I hadn't actually thought that far ahead!

JackieNo · 04/08/2006 11:09

Great - I'll try to remember to bring them along to the meet-up.

suejonez · 04/08/2006 11:09

Winnie - I watched about 30 secs of that programme then thought - hmm maybe not but I lol at hubs disapproval of their strategic pulling techniiqe. I had no idea he put so much thought into it!

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WigWamBam · 04/08/2006 12:17

I find that these kind of programmes turn into freak shows ... "let's all laugh at the funny fat person" kind of thing. Even when they try and pass themselves off as being sympathetic they're very often a thinly veiled opportunity for a cheap laugh at someone else's expense. I usually avoid them as I find them too close to home, and rather uncomfortable to watch.

Dd and I have made a large tray of Tiffin this morning ... anyone care to lay odds on how much of it I'll eat, how long it will last, and how much it will show on the scales next week?

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hub2dee · 04/08/2006 12:32

It wasn't me putting effort into it... these were the professed Best Pulling Techniques of the program's two dodgy guru blokes !

Littlefish · 04/08/2006 12:52

SueJ - do you know yet whether you will have a dd or ds? Has the "man-who-ties-the-string-around-the-important-bits-of-paper" before passing them on to the "man-who-stamps-red-ink-across-the-important-bits-of-paper" come back from his holidays yet?

suejonez · 04/08/2006 12:57

Haven't specified boy or girl just under 2 yrs but most likely to be a boy between 10-15 months becasue so few people want to adopt boys

I have decided that all the ministry staff have taken a six month sabatical or have gone on sepcial string tying/ rubber stamping course as still heard nothing. Still I'm not the only one hled up so at least its not personal - I hope [panic emoticon], actually this looks pretty panicky so will do.

schneebly · 04/08/2006 13:23

OMG - I missed a lot didn't I ?! Agree with the fact that it was insensitive to post such a thing on this thread in particular! I hope you are all okay. Sue - I am praying that you hear some news soon. It must be frustrating beyond belief! I have some friends who went through the adoption process and it was a hard slog for them but you should see them now - I was in tears when I visited them on their 1st christmas together with their sons (they adopted siblings) because I have never seen people so happy and they really deserved it. I am praying for you every day (hope you don't mind). I hope all the beurocracy gets sorted asap and you have a lovely baby of your own finally. You are a caring and intelligent person who has a great deal to give a child so don't think it is personal - you will be an amazing mum.

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WigWamBam · 04/08/2006 13:32

She will, won't she. My fingers are still crossed for you, Sue!

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MrsJohnCusack · 04/08/2006 13:32

she'll be fab

suejonez · 04/08/2006 13:37

You are all so sweet - its gone all lovely and fluffy again

Schneebly - don't mind at all, you praying for me, its a lovely thought that someone I've only met virtually wants to help in that way.

JackieNo · 04/08/2006 13:38

She really will. Now if only we could bring the combined weight of the BigMoFos to bear on the relevant bureaucrats, the situation would be sorted in no time.

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WigWamBam · 04/08/2006 13:40

Oh yes ... squashing them into submission could be just the ticket

Have just had a piece of tiffin. There are 13 pieces left. It's bloody lovely. I'm doomed ...

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JackieNo · 04/08/2006 13:41

Mmm - swap you a piece of tiffin for a chocolate coated raisin WWB? (actually doesn't sound like a very fair deal, does it).

suejonez · 04/08/2006 13:42

that'll be two each then with three left over for DD - but odn;t tell the others