Thanks winnie, I got it. Don't blush about it; it can only get better from here on in.
I probably ought to apologise for my post earlier, I was really angry and probably should have resisted the urge to hit the Post button. It's not like me to make such angry posts, and if I offended lislou then I'm sorry - but I stand by every word I said. I still feel really wound up by her post, I can't get it out of my mind at the moment. That's how people see us, isn't it - they can't see any further than our bulk. It's crap, it stinks that some people really only see value in people is what they can see.
I hate it that the label in our jeans is more important to some people than the words we say or the things we do. I hate it that you can try and explain the way you feel to someone, and they can still not see through the fat to the human being underneath. I know that people think that way; I hear it every day when people make comments at me - but it's hard to stomach on a support thread like this one where you think that people can see beneath the blubber to the intelligent, articulate, kind and funny people that we are, and then realise that actually they're still going to judge you on the size of your arse.
Sorry, bit of a ramble but I had to get it off my (substantial!) chest.