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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:51

I don't drive ... lost my nerve about 7 years ago and haven't driven since. Was going to get some practice and use the car over the school holidays but dh got his new car early and I don't really fancy smashing up his pride and joy! Have been thinking about refresher lessons but haven't had the nerve to book them yet.

Go and get your dh sorted out ... dh left MIL's ten minutes ago so won't be home until 11 (I should be grateful she's not 5 minutes round the corner anymore really, shouldn't I!). Thanks for the chat and keeping me occupied - I really do appreciate it.

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suejonez · 07/08/2006 22:36

I go off to aqua [smug emoticon] for a few hours and WWB is on confession trial!

My callow youth WAS my 20's so don't have any more of an excuse than you really. Also gave up drinking - liked myself better!

I was a real goody two-shoes growing up only when I left home that I flowered

suejonez · 07/08/2006 22:36

oops trail not trial!

JackieNo · 08/08/2006 09:20

You see - all this exercise does you no good at all. But I still need to do some (even bookmarked the 'how to start running' link from another thread, but haven't plucked up courage to try yet.
WWB - sorry I had to dash off last night - hope your DH got home safely, and that you can enjoy having him around again. DH and I had a 'little chat' and I have to say, I have been on MN a little too much recently, so I've agreed to cut down a bit, at least in the evenings. He did say 'you're so involved with a group of people you've never met and are never likely to' and I said 'Actually we're having a picnic in Oxford next week'. He also complained that when I read a book, I shut out the world - well that's how you read, isn't it? Or is it just me? Anyway - all made up now.

winnie · 08/08/2006 10:29

WWB, I wantes to talk to you last night. I am sorry I disappeared. My brother and niece turned up unexpectedly. It was good to see them but I felt bad for abandoning you. I know what its like to be having a bad time and in need of a distraction. I am glad you got to chat with jackieno. How were you afterwards? Hope you are having a better day today.

winnie · 08/08/2006 10:30

wanted obviously

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2006 12:17

I'm OK today, thanks Winnie - still down but less out of control! Dh turned up at about 11pm, hopefully he's ours now for a bit ... although I was horrified at the amount of stuff MIL has left at her old house for us to sort out, so I guess it's not all over yet. She hasn't sold the old place yet so we've got a bit of time to get it sorted out though.

Jackie, it was very sweet of you to indulge me last night, I feel a bit about it really. My dh sulks about MN sometimes, he really doesn't understand how attached you can become to people you've never met - although with all of this SWMNBM stuff going on he's starting to understand that MN runs far deeper than he'd thought. He hates me disappearing all evening so I limit the time I spend here now too ... but when the cat's away

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MrsJohnCusack · 08/08/2006 12:21

I'm sorry I wasn't around for more distraction last night WWB - though as it was our wedding anniversary should probably talk to DH! He is very understanding about Mumsnet luckily, he has asked how I'm going to manage when I'm in NZ and so can't post at the same time as most other people!
the answer to that is, am a bit worried actually

JackieNo · 08/08/2006 12:22

WEll quite - looking forward to him going off diving at the beginning of September - it'll be wall-to-wall MN (if it's still here). And don't be - I was just sorry I couldn't chat a bit longer. DH has the tendency to get caught up in websites/online games etc when he's getting one of his bouts of depression, and because I've never found anything that interested me in the way that MN does, he hasn't seen me do this, and he's worried that it means I'm getting depressed. I'm pretty sure I'm not, though.

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2006 12:31

He has a point, you know. One of my signals for depression is getting obsessed about things like MN - although I recognise it when it's happening. I've had brilliant support here in the past when I've been in a really bad place, but I also know that MN is often not good for me when I'm depressed so I tend to keep away more.

The difference with MN, I think, is that the community spirit here is far stronger than it is with a lot of other geek sites. Dh posts on a geek site for Touran drivers but they tend to post mainly practical stuff about their cars - they don't share personal stuff, and they don't chat about things as much as we do - so they don't "know" each other in the same way. We're more like real people in a way.

MrsJC, it'll probably be strange not to be talking in "real time" - but there are people here from all over the place so you'll probably end up talking to loads of people you've not really spoken to before. That's if MN is still here once all this crap is finished.

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suejonez · 08/08/2006 13:37

Interesting day today. Had to go to the doctor as I have a bite on my face which has swelled up (attractive - look like I've bene punched in the eye by a boxer). Whilst I was there I spke to her about my weight and how I thought the way i was losing weight at the moment was not "normal" ie not going particularly mad and still putting weight on, only losing about 9lbs over 13 weeks which isn;t that bad except that its the first 13 weeks and I'm very overweight so I would have expected it to start fast and slow down.

When I last lost a lot of weight I was on metformin (due to fertility treatment) and I wondered if that was behind finding it a bit more normal losing weight. She looked it up in her book and guess what? Metformin is now recognised as having an effect in helping weight loss for PCOS (though not licensed for that purpose) but she has agreed to prescibe it to me anyway for a month and see how I get on with it.

I wasn;t sure it made a difference last time but I'm going to give it another go and see if it helps.

JackieNo · 08/08/2006 13:40

Suejonez that sounds hopeful - good news .

suejonez · 08/08/2006 13:45

Re depression and MN - I'm not sure that spending more time on MN causes depression. WHen I get depressed I prefer to stay indoors on my own not do much and MN fits in nicely with that desire! Before computers I would have resorted to books (which have now been relegated to bed or tube journey!).

Why don't we try to fix a regular chat evening - say Friday evening when anyone who's around can come and chat real time on BigMoFo's. Those who want to limit their time can come on and have a few hours of "quality time" then just dip in occasionally at other times. Or set yourself a timer to go off after 15 mins every day otehr than Friday?

Thoughts?

Littlefish · 08/08/2006 13:54

Hi SJ - I like the idea of a regular chat night, but Friday is a bad one for me - it's when dh and I sit and chat as it's often the first night of the week when we're both in at the same time!

What does anyone else think?

JackieNo · 08/08/2006 14:01

Hmm - like the idea of regular chat too, but think it's nice that it happens spontaneously (of course, it could still do that). I guess I'll try to post more during the day, and limit it a bit at night (except when DH is away, of course). I am on here a lot, even if I'm not posting, so cutting down a bit would be healthy. And DH is a fine one to talk - he checks his emails on his mobile phone during meals . We've agreed we'll try turning off the internet connection for a couple of days next week (I had to plead for not doing it on Wednesday!) - probably next Friday and the following Monday (so we don't get too much in the way of withdrawal symptoms). AAARGH! It's a terrifying prospect, but I'm sure we'll manage. Just realised that means I won't be able to chat about the picnic till the Saturday. Oh well, it's worth it for a bit of marital harmony (and maybe he'll forget anyway!).

Quootiepie · 08/08/2006 14:51

Can I join in?

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2006 14:54

Depends whether you're a Big MoFo or not You're with the real heavyweights now! Most of us here have at least 5 stone to lose, some of us 10 or more.

You have to promise that you're not the kind of dieter who to tuts and sighs about being a lardyarse just because she can't do the zip up on her size 8 jeans

We're very friendly and I think most of us have found these threads really supportive.

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Quootiepie · 08/08/2006 15:03

im not sure how much I weigh now... about 14/15 stone?

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2006 15:08

Of course you can, I was joking!

It's more about attitude really, some of us were cheesed off with 7 stone people posting about being bloaters, and whingeing because they needed to lose 4lb and how hard it was. We just wanted a place where people understood how large people feel, and where we could feel supported in a way that those 7 stone people couldn't manage to support us.

We do a weigh-in on a Wednesday, but not all of us weigh in. Some just follow the thread for support, whichever you would feel more comfortable doing. It's all pretty free and easy but it seems to work. Email is [email protected] if you want to join the weigh-in, otherwise just hop along for the ride.

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Quootiepie · 08/08/2006 15:37

so, i get to weigh myself tomorrow havent been weighed since last week of pregnancy. Do I email my weight to that address then? [confused emoticon]

lemonaid · 08/08/2006 15:51

Can I join as well? I really need to lose at least 5 stone although I may set 4 as my initial target as I know from experience that that last stone is the worst.

I've properly lost weight twice before. First about 3 stone in my mid-20s doing WW meetings, then I met DH and started eating the same as him in spite of the fact that he is male, nearly a foot taller than me and far more active, with predicatable consequences. Then I lost about 3-4 stone doing the Scarsdale diet more or less on my own (started off with a colleague but then she moved on to another role). Then we started ttc, I got pregnant but had a m/c and I did some major comfort eating and the weight all went back on. I'd just begun to think "Hmmm, really ought to lose some weight" when I was pregnant again with DS. Now he's 18 months and I have to accept that I can't really describe it as baby weight any more .

I really want to lose at least the 4 stone before ttc #2 and have signed up to WW online (trying the NoCount plan to begin with) as I can't make the meetings this time.

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WigWamBam · 08/08/2006 15:59

Welcome, lemonaid - hope you find this thread as supportive as I have.

QT, if you want to join the weigh-in, you can email me your starting weight on that email address, and every Wednesday after that you can email me what you've lost (or not ) so that I can post the losses on either the Wednesday evening or Thursday morning. If you'd prefer not to weigh then that's fine too. Or if you'd rather I didn't know your weight then you can keep your starting weight to yourself, and I'll just post your losses.

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Quootiepie · 08/08/2006 16:06

na, its ok. No secrets on MN!

fluttergandhibee · 08/08/2006 23:06

Well I started my walking today, I am going to be going3-4 times with my brother who is also on a major diet and my lovely DH has told me he will come with me everytime my brother can't go.

Today DH and I only had a short walk but sadly that is all I can manage at a brisk pace, I think we were walking for about 20 mins.
I must start swimming to take some of the pressure of my joints as my back is in terrible pain after any exersize due to my weight, its just that horrible feeling of being in a swimming cossie and having to make it too and from the pool without anyone seeing you

Hope your all well, I'm so glad I started on here with you lot it has really given me something to focus on I know I only started 2 days ago but my God I would have given up on day one if I didn't have the weekly weigh in to think about.

What time do you all normally weight in?

RenegadeFauve · 08/08/2006 23:56

Hello fluttergandhibee - I've started weighing in at Boots, where they also print out my BMI - so it's any time I can make it to Boots. They have the weighing machine in a nice secluded area.

Well done with the walking and on marrying a supportive dh - where did you get one of them from? With swimming, I sometimes wear one of those white towelling robes which they get you to wear in spas - then you just have to flick it off before plunging into the water. Or else a huge towel works for me, again flick it off at the last minute.

Everyone else has done so much chatting on here while I've been on hols! I'm very relieved to have stayed the same and not gained vastly, because I did love the cheese in France, and did not really hold back much. However on other fronts I was good, although I did no exercise at all mainly due to the heatwave. Still I didn't even attempt any yoga stretches. And now I'm off (on Sat) to visit rellys for a further week, so will have to try to limit intake there - and exercise just a little.