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BigMoFos Week 13

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WigWamBam · 03/08/2006 13:32

New thread ...

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 20:21

That'll be "before dd went to bed", obviously ...

Sorry, it's been a long and frustrating couple of weeks.

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 20:23

Oh WWB - that's the hardest time for me too, I think - when I'm alone in the house, with no prospect of any company, and pissed off with someone.

Perhaps now would be the time to regale us with your scurrilous stories, if you have any .

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 20:26

One day, when I am very, very drunk, I will regale you with my scurrilous stories. Right now I am not very, very drunk!

It's the school holidays so I'm stuck with dd all day and not getting a break in the evenings or at the weekends - so it feels really tough. And I'm at my worst when I'm on my own, miserable and lonely ... I'm better in the daytime when dd isn't at school but these evenings have been really hard.

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 20:33

I'm not normally at home with them 24/7 (hate that phrase, but it's useful!), and I find it very full-on. There's no respite (well, there's CBeebies). I was lucky enough to get a bit of time to myself on Saturday, which I really appreciated. Perhaps you need to take up crafting of some sort (or do you already)? I was reading an article in Easy Living magazine about how most people no longer make anything with their hands, and it's such a therapeutic thing to do. I'd love to be creative, but am not really good at that kind of thing. Would keep the hands busy, though, on those long lonely nights.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 20:38

I do cross-stitch - big, realistic pictures, can't stand twee and cutesy! It's not easy to find the time with a 5 year old though. I make the odd card as well, but again I end up doing it with dd so it's not usually very relaxing! Come the evening I'm either too tired or there's too much housework to do.

Otherwise I'm hopeless ... can't paint, can't draw, can't dress-make, completely untalented!

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 20:52

Sounds great - better than me! I'd love to be able to make useful stuff, too, like clothes. Never really got the hang of threading a sewing machine, though.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 20:56

Am too much of a wuss to use a sewing machine! Dh is a dab hand with one, as long as all he has to do is make it go in a straight line ... he can make curtains, but doesn't stand a chance with anything more ambitious. Plus he'll say he's going to do something for months and months - and it never gets done (have only been waiting for 8 years for the lock to be put back on the bathroom door ...)

It would be something good to learn; I hate having to pay Evans prices for clothes - particularly clothes as badly made as Evans are, and it would be nice to be able to make my own. Am just too much of a wimp! Plus I have problems with my hands, so too much hand-sewing or manhandling of material is painful - at least with cross-stitch I know it's going to take ages anyway, so it doesn't matter if I can only manage to do a couple of minutes at a time.

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 20:59

Yes - why do they always take so long to get round to doing things? Mind you, I can talk - it was only about a month ago that I got round to putting all the spare Christmas cards away in the filing cabinet. They'd been sitting around on the side in the dining room sticking their tongues out at me every time we ate. And then when I get round to doing something I think 'Why on earth didn't I do this sooner!'.

JackieNo · 07/08/2006 20:59

Am very of you having a DH who can use a sewing machine, by the way.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:03

It was either that or I got someone in to make them - I think it was the threat of it costing money that got him onto the sewing machine, to be honest!

I think he just gets used to the way things are ... our bedroom ceiling is half-painted, and has been for years, we had the doors stripped at the same time and while some of them are now painted, others are still bare ... I could do it myself but decided to wait and see how long he'd leave it and we're up to 10 years on some of it

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:04

You're right - I just don't notice a lot of the chaos here - only when someone comes to stay.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:06

Oh yes ... we do chaos well here, too. I won't be winning any prizes for good housekeeping, and dh certainly won't be winning handyman of the year (not for his DIY, anyway )

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:13

Are you tetering on the edge of a scurrilous revelation there WWB? DH is sulking upstairs because I'm spending too much time on MN. Dunno what to do really, so I've left him to stew. On the housekeeping thing, I'm feeling a bit because I pointed someone on a thread in the direction of the FlyLady website, and they're now really going for it and have started a thread for like minded people - I've signed up to the emails from the FlyLady site, but haven't actually been doing them.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:16

Teetering ... he's pretty handy in some areas, let's say

Most of my scurrilous revelations go back way too far to be of any interest really! Although I don't really have suejonez' excuse of callow youth for most of them

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:17

I saw the Fly Lady thread ... that was your fault, was it?? Seems a bit ... intense, shall we say!

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:18

Hmm - I haven't got any that I can think of either. Did I have a wasted youth, I wonder? (I hardly 'had' any youths - that's the problem!)

JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:19

Yes - the FlyLady stuff is terribly American, but I like the idea. Unfortunately I prefer to read about cleaning rather than actually do it.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:21

I was far too sweet and innocent for my own good when I was young ... made up a little for lost time in my 20s though, but nothing too scurrilous (apart from the much older man, and the one who happened to be married ... although in my defence I didn't know at the time).

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:21

I hate cleaning! Hence the chaos around here ...

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:24

See - it's all starting to come out now . I haven't done anything worth talking about. Maybe I'll have a naughty old age.

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:30

The older man ... hmmm, was an interesting pairing. He was my staff sergeant (I was in the TA), I was 22 and he was 46 ... the age and rank caused a bit of a hoo-haa at the time but I still can't see why. He was very sweet until we got together, remained sweet to everyone else but was violent to me. Took me a while to work it all out and get away but I was very niave.

The married one fizzled out very quickly, was a complete flop in bed and once I found out he was married he was gone. Turned out that he was married to an acquaintance of mine and because I'd never met him, I didn't know. He was even older . I'm easily led

I think I ought to have my mis-spent youth now ... I've never smoked, never done anything illegal, bit of a boring old whatsit really.

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:37

There you go - a proper confession. And another non-smoker - me too. Just never even tried it. Mind you, I've wondered whether taking up smoking might help me lose weight, since giving up smoking seems to make people put on weight, but I don't think it's the smoking as such that does it - it's a psychological/habit thing. Just like I've even considered making myself throw up - haven't ever had the guts to do it, though, thank goodness.

JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:37

'had the guts' - sorry - inadvertent pun there!

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WigWamBam · 07/08/2006 21:42

at having the guts!

Have never even tried smoking, just doesn't appeal and never did. Even the thought that it might help me lose weight wasn't enough for me to even think about it. Proper goody-two-shoes me, never smoked, never done illicit substances, didn't even have a drink until I was well in my 20s and don't drink at all now. You can just imagine a sober military bandswoman, can't you ... I was a bit of a freak!

It's odd, I've considered the throwing up thing too but just can't bring myself to do it - I guess it's because underneath it all we know that it's the wrong way to go about things. Mind you, I'm not quite sure what the right way is either because it always ends up with me feeling really screwed up and jacking it all in ... but not this time.

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JackieNo · 07/08/2006 21:44

I guess that makes you the designated driver a lot of the time then! I did drink (especially when I was a student) - still have the odd one, but don't really get drunk.

I'm sorry WWB - I think I'm going to have to go and talk to DH and see what's up with him. I may not be back tonight... Hope your DH gets home soon.

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