Calling all Motivational Mondayers!!

[TheOneWithTheHair]

And anyone else who wants to join in. The idea of this thread is a way to record weightloss, motivate each other, discuss which methods if any we are using to lose weight and give the occasional kick up the bum.

Right you lot. I was going to wait until new year to start this thread but I think that if I'm going to have my head in the right place to start, I need your help now. I haven't weighed yet I'll do that on the 1st but I think I probably have 2 1/2 stone to lose. Last time I had 3st to lose so I'm seeing that as a postitive.

So, are any of you still out there? Who'd like to join me?

Welcome back if.

I don't know what's putting me off eighty. I think I feel fat even though my clothes are the same. I went shopping today and I tried on a couple of gorgeous jackets in a size 12 that were too big. I just feel fat. :(

Reastie and eighty, well done on no pancakes. I wasn't going to but I felt resentful for some reason and had one with Nutella.

Reastie I'm glad your dd is getting on fine. Long may it continue.

The thing is that I am generally a positive person and I don't complain much in rl. I don't think I am fat, it's more that I feel it atm. I think it's because I'm very busy from now until July and I rarely get time alone.

I badly need this time. I'm that sort of person. I don't look after myself well when I get busy so I think that manifests in thinking I'm fat. I have no idea why. I think if I weigh in the morning and realise I haven't put on half a stone I will feel better rather than letting it build up in my head and then not wanting to deal with it.

I don't really like the personal shopper things. Maybe all the ones I know are too conventional so every time I talk to them, they try to put me in stuff that's the same as everyone else.

Dh and I had breakfast out this morning while waiting to see dd's head teacher. Toast and marmalaide for me (no butter) while dh had a sausage toastie.

Egg for lunch and soup for dinner so I should do ok today. I need to remember that I do have good days. I always only seem to remember the bad ones. I don't think that helps with positivity. I usually tell myself it's realism!

Hair - don't be too hard on yourself, its only, what, a couple of weeks since you were attracting wolf-whistles if I recall . I'd really like to figure out how to both cut myself some slack and try to make the best of myself as I am, and also keep the motivation going to get slimmer and fitter. Fed up with stomach-related angst - although thankfully I think I'm out of the possibly-pregnant territory again now, that was annoying! Oh and I too don't moan about this stuff in RL, so thanks to you lovely folk for giving me space to vent

Hair you sound really down about things . FWIW I'm exactly the same as you re: just needing some time to myself. DH is the same. Is there any way you can get a couple of hours to yourself anywhere in the week? Has the shred helped at all with your feeling fat feeling? I know exercise really helps that for me.

eighty this time next year it WILL be you, think positively! Also think about all the muscle you'll build from your exercises which will mean you burn more calories just by sitting there.

Feeling a bit miffed today. Found out the school DD has just started nursery at will be co ed from September (is a private girls school). I found out from a neighbour having read it in the newspaper. You'd think they would send a letter to parents or something. Feeling annoyed as one of the reasons we picked it was as it's a girls school and they must've known before we paid all the deposits etc what would happen. Sorry for hijack there, am feeling quite and about it all.

kato what was going on with you that you didn't share the other day?

stealth I will keep asking how's everything with you?

Hair hope you're having a better day today?

Hi everyone, thank you for all your lovely messages and sympathy. It was just what I needed tbh. I'm feeling loads better today. I intend to weigh in the morning to see what's going on, and I need you lot to kick me up the backside if I don't.

I was going to post after the school run this morning but I got a call from work at 7.20 this morning from work asking me to talk to twelve local BBC stations about something in the news atm. And it had to be done live in 1.5 hrs. It was tough going!

Reastie I wouldn't have bloody contributed £15 for an Easter present either. That's ridiculous! I wouldn't give that for Christmas either. It is a bit off from the school but I can reassure you that dd goes to a co-ed indi and it's wonderful. There are only eight girls in her year, out of thirty, and they are all thriving. Your dd's school is going to take many years to build up even 50% boys so don't worry. (Dd's school was all boys until 4 yrs ago).

eighty try not to be envious. You are doing so well, especially with your exercise. Don't let this make you feel demoralised. You will be the envy of the school mums soon enough if you keep it up.

If, it's a tough thing to balance all those things. I haven't managed it yet but you expressed how I was feeling. Well done on your nsv of not looking pregnant anymore!

Well I weighed. I've lost 3lbs in the last 11 days! Shred must be doing its thing after all.

I clearly have completely lost touch with my own body though.

I'll weigh again on Monday and put that one into the ss.

Is everyone ready for the weekend? Willpower high?

Hi everyone, sorry for going AWOL. DS off nursery with shivery temp and a bit of sickness. hardest part is how distressing he found it 'Is this my fauly Mummy?'

Also having a battle with Arnold Clark about MOT repairs!

That's on top of my work problem which I think has calmed down now, but I have to go to residential refresher training (I'm also an instructor for my site) with him but I think it's all going to be alright.

I weighed mid-week and was up to 145 lbs, but this morning back to 142 which i can live with but that on top of everything else was just too much!

I'm all calm and zen now... honest.

hair you're doing great, but it's hard to fight the 'fat feelings' I sometimes like to look at old pics to help remind me what fat indeed looks like.

eighty don't be down either, you do a brillso job of getting out there fitness-wise, I think we need to try and help each other as we're totally the same - go and beast a session then load up on shit! I think I've foud help biscuit -wise with the power of Aldi chocolate rice cakes...

reastie there's nothing worse than feeling out of control, like with school. I'm sure it'll all be fine, and I'm glad DD is finding nursery okay - are you looking forward to all these lovely sick bugs she'll be exposed to?? tbf this is the first time DS has got poorly since he started last year.

if cutting ourselves slack is the tricky one. If I ever get the hang of it I'll let you know!

Hope I've not missed anyone out, glad to be back x

Interesting about sugar though, I watched that Horizon docu about cutting out fat nd sugar.. two v hunky docs, was a treat!

The twin who cut out sugar actually became pre-diabetic, as his body had to compensate for the lack of sugar! Goes against all the old thinking.

Kato, it sounds like you're having a tough time. I hope ds feels better soon and your battles are resolved quickly.

eighty, NYC! I want to work for your company. Seriously though, I'm glad you've got the chance after you missed out on Dubai.

I'm another fan of chocolate rice cakes. Aldi have some really nice ones but I'm not sure how they do on calories. The sugar thing sounds like the thing that the so-called experts are doing their best to keep secret. Namely that too much is not good for you, nor is too little. Moderation is the key but it's not as interesting or as good for money spinning as coming up with the latest fad diet.

eighty Dubai and NYC? (even though you didn't go to Dubai in the end), Wow, you sound very jet set. FWIW my chocolate intake this week end has been awful, so I'm with you on eating obscene amount of choc.

Hair you're goign to be a proper celeb parenting expert soon aren't you . Did you enjoy doing the other programmes?

Kato yes I found that programme interesting too. How is the DS? Tbh I'm dreading all of the nursery bugs DD will get. I'm emetophobic (think I've mentioned that before?) so just the thought of tummy bugs is enough to make me twitchy.

STS here today, which is fine. Just so long as it doesn't go up! Did a max insanity workout and lots of gardening yesterday, which burnt lots of calories but made me absolutely ravenous so ate alot including lots of chocolate but hoping it was just my body compensating for all of the calorie burnage. So nice to have some nice weather again, was outside in the sun with no coat on yesterday, can't even remember when I last did that, and it felt good

Morning everyone. It's gorgeous here.

I have now officially lost that 3lb so I've put it on the ss. Yay! It feels good to have made some progress at last.

Well done on all that exercise Reastie. I bet it will show later in the week. Did you ever make a decision on that 5k run for school?

Had a nightmare of a weekend. Dd went to sing in a hospice with school. I tried to warn her about what a hospice was but she (and others) were very upset after. Then she had her first singing competition and it went very badly. I can't tell you how distressing it was, seeing her up there trying to sing songs that were beyond her reach. It was awful for her in a room full of people. Everyone was lovely but I am fuming with her teacher.

Anyway, how did everyone else get on this morning?

Hair how for you with her teacher for the song. Was she affected by the hospice to make her voice shaky or was it just too hard for her? Want to give a huge pom pom wave for 3lbs, that's fab. I decided against the 5k [wimp].

The song was too high. She has a naturally low voice (like me). She was not great in practice at home but she could do it. I started a thread in chat. I'll find a link.

Shame about the run but I understand why you didn't want to. Teenagers can be brutal!

Link here.

I'm glad that most people seemed to understand where I was coming from.

Where is everyone? Yesterday was Monday. I expected guilt and triumphs.

Why????

Hi Hair, everyone, sorry not to check in yesterday wasn't intentionally hiding, just flat out... Anyway, am back to 11st, phew, and have updated hallowed spreadsheet Looking at the spreadsheet, I can see that my progress has slowed, but after losing 4lb in 2 weeks at the start, I was extremely grumpy and anxious, so I think this slower rate is working out better in terms of sanity and the longer-term. Now onward to 147, next target... please do keep me on the straight and narrow

Incidentally, this thread slipped off my 'I'm on' list, and in trying to find you all again I came across another thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/a1990791-I-need-to-stop-eating-and-get-some-motivation-nothing-Ive-tried-helps-any-suggestions

I haven't read it all (nice to see you popping up Kato!) but I loved the comment there by AllowedButSometimesNotChosen, briefly, that you can basically start to see yourself as the size 10/ whatever person you want to be right now - ok, you still have a backlog of weight to lose, but already you are making size 10/ whatever person choices, and enjoying your new attitude... She puts it rather better, this is just to sum up...

Anyway, this seems to be a possibility for the maintaining-motivation-whilst-also-being-kind-to-yourself plan. I felt cheered by it anyway, and since reading this and mulling it over I think I've actually eaten less too. Sorry this is rather long... be interested to hear what you think.