Healthy Revolutionaries!

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Oh Okay, hardly original. :)

But describes us all. :)

Me today,

B- apple, yogurt, cashew nuts and honey
L- salmon and salad
D- honey sesame chicken legs with a greek salad.

O&DW FRs!

My point made exactly with that last post...bloody phone.

As I was saying, a very quick post as I'm on my phone but a few friends of mine are doing a 30 bag in 30 days challenge. Basically, you chuck out 30 bags of crap. Can be tiny bags, can be bin liners but you do one bag a day. I plan on starting that this weekend

I love chucking stuff out.
Will start as soon as I can leave the house again to get to the charity shop.
(poorly DS not up to a trip to oxfam )

Wellies glad your session went well.
Are we still writing down our food?
me today
bacon, egg, tomatoes and mushrooms fried in welsh salty butter
home baked maple ham with salad
Oven roasted potatoes with peppers and onions, cod in sweet wine sauce, broccoli with cheese sauce and peas and carrots .
Rachels Dairy Vanilla Yoghurt with chopped banana
couple of squares of Green and Blacks Anglesey sea salt chocolate

aaaagh! Lost post!

I was just saying that a 30 bag for 30 day challenge sounds great!

I will not write daily food meals for a bit I think, but please do not let that stop anyone else!!! I might slip though as that really is a bit of a habit. I have already in y head planned lunch and dinner!

Amanda hope your little boy is better soon.

also [soppy emoticon] thanks all of you for your support. I have told no-one in RL what I am doing with this counsellor. I really appreciate you all being there and being interested.

Good luck with your goals everyone.

Hazel I tend to plan a fast day for when dinner is something I'm not too keen on . Well done on soft drinks in the pub.

Wellies you're going to have such a fabulous breakfast. I love Greek yogurt etc.

Milly just yum. Your food sounds delicious.

I am on day 3 of my mini fast week. (only day 3???,!) mat times it's so tough. But I know I am looking forward to a lovely meal every day.
and I'm hoping that it is all for the good, health and weight wise.
I had chilli last night with some nachos on the side, and a v small glass of merlot and a small bowl of chocolate ice cream.
I then ate a bowl of shred dies with a banana as I was clearing up after the DCs were in bed. . I should have just had a cup of tea.

Tonight we're having macaroni cheese, which I love.
I think I might change things around next week and either do 5:2 or 18:6.

O&DFRs.

Thanks wellies he is charging around "rescuing" everyone in sight. A recovery much like that depicted on the Calpol advert

wellies with or without your food diary it will be great to hear your thoughts for the day tbh.

Morning!

Glad to hear your DS seems to have recovered today [Amanda] Chilli & nachos I love that.

Wellies Your breakfast stuff sounds fab. I really struggle to eat first thing. Maybe I need to try some different breakfast ideas out. Ah, soppy wellies I’m really interested. I have counselling myself and whilst we’ve touched on my relationship with food, we’ve not delved into it. I think that might be one for the new year.

Milly the cod in sweet wine sauce sounds yum! As does broccoli in cheese sauce

I didn’t exercise last night (naughty) but we did sort out our memory box together which was nice. Some of it made me cry (since when did we go from lovely birthday cards with lots of lovely messages to “Hazel, Happy Birthday, DH x”??) but mostly we laughed & reminisced, so hopefully it might reignite some romance. I also did my first bag of 30 last night – I couldn’t wait until Saturday! DH doesn’t quite know what I’m doing as he’s a bit of a hoarder so I’m attempting to sneak stuff I know we don’t need to keep into a bag each day. The stuff from last night was all paperwork – so I have a big pile to shred today. Tonight I’m going to bag up some clothes for the charity bin I think, as well as continue to sort my wardrobe out.

Didn’t paint my nails but did cuddle up with DH. So a reasonably successful evening in terms of my goals. You’ve got me thinking actually wellies maybe I need to focus on goals less. I’m going to look at your thread in Good Housekeeping too.

So, food.

Yesterday:
B – none
L – spicy veg soup with roll
D – sausage casserole with green beans
S – left over tortilla, chocolate, hot chocolate. No alcohol.

I’m already feeling better just because I’m eating better. My stomach feels flatter and I definitely feel more energetic.

Today:
B – none
L – spicy veg soup with roll
D – I think it’s spag bol so I’ll have a small portion of spaghetti but will treat myself to a little bit of parmesan
S – I only have a few squares of chocolate with me today so hopefully, just that.

I said to DH that we could have a glass of red each with dinner tonight but he said he doesn’t want to drink until tomorrow

My focus today is on work. I’m sure I’ve cocked something up with my accounting system at work so I need to sort that. I also want to get some filing done and do some of the boring stuff that needs doing but keeps getting put off.

Un-mumsnetty but I do love our little group (although it’s missing some vital members at the moment) – it’s so nice we can chat about stuff other than weight loss. I think a healthy mind is just as important as a healthy body & you’re all helping me achieve both

GoodMorning Ladies, hope your all having a lovely day. Im in bed with a cup of tea on my laptop. Very very lazy but I will make up for it later. Im making soup today. Butternut squash and ginger........and Parsnip and cumin. mmmmmm!!!!!
Amanda you seem to be doing well with your fasts.
Hazel.....its lovely to hear you and DH are making time for one and other. It can be sad to look back and see how in love you once were and then to realise that now your so busy with life that romance has taken a back seat. DH and I were like that until about 9 years ago. We split up, seriously split up, but then things turned around and we fell in love all over again. Now nine years on we are still like a new couple in love and our cards are romantic and mushy etc. We go on date nights a lot and cherish each other so much more. It took something serious as splitting up to make us realise all this.
Wellies Counselling is amazing and really helps you to look at yourself differently to how you normally do. I had it years ago and it was a turning point for me.
I know I havnt been on this thread for long but I too think its lovely and very glad to have found it.

Me today.....
Once slice bacon, 1 sausage
Frothy coffee with maple and vanilla and Green and Blacks Orange Chocolate shavings on top
One banana
small portion homemade chicken curry, 2 poppadoms , chutney,
glass of coke
one ginger oat bar
lots of cups of tea

Milly your menu looks good. Delicious food but small portions.

Hazel really well done with your eating and with getting time for you and DH.

I am becoming increasingly aware of my food problems. I think fasting makes me focus on what I really want/ am hungry for and my reasons for eating IYSWIM.
So I know that unless I have a rule such as fasting, or no snacking then I will easily Hoover up calories without noticing I'm eating; a bite of cheese or bread while I'm making DS lunch or a handful of cereal here and there etc. it all adds up.
Also, comfort eating through stress and tiredness. I am unbelievably tired ATM. And feeling quite low and I find it hard not to comfort myself with biscuit/ cake etc with my tea.
So I need to "diet" because the tiredness ain't going away. I am not suddenly going to get a bunch of helpful ppl around to help with DCs so I have to just get on with it.
And I like the feeling that fasting gives me. It's like "comfort not eating"
2 more days of mini fasts and then a weekend of (hopefully) mindful and enjoyable eating. Next week I will have a different fasting arrangement.
Cheating a bit today as I've been up since 4am. I've had a white tea and I'm having a white Coffee with a dash of gingerbread syrup. Yummy.

Hi All,
honey baked ham omelette
chicken stuffed with garlic and herbs cooked in white wine with carots and broccoli
Apple and big wodge of Very soft Somerset Brie
Terrys chocolate orange .....ooooo about 7 segments.
lots of tea.

Morning everyone!

Nothing to report really. Am managing to have my breakfast each day and it does seem to make a difference to my eating later on.... I am possibly eating less overall, as am not getting starving hungry and then bingeing.

Portion size is definitely an issue for me!

Milly scrum. I love Brie. I love eating British cheeses. Total yum.

Wellies thanks for the update.
Definitely agree about bingeing when super hungry. Although I often find that breakfast makes me more hungry (but that's probably be use I like a carb based brekkers) I have noticed this week that I can't maintain mini fasts without snacking after dinner.

Keeping distracted and having a nice meal to look forward to are helpful in avoiding anytime eating for me. There we definitely certain as that are tougher than others.
Yesterday I had a major fasting fail. I had no sleep on Wednesday night and was up at 4 after a tough night with dd. at 2pm I just had to eat so I made a large ham baguette. It was nice . Then Greek lamb stew with Cous Cous for dinner. Yogurt for pud. But then I ate a slice of raisin bread.
I can totally see why women pile on the pounds when they become mothers. I gained a lot of weight in pregnancy blue I ate a lot. Now that weight has gone, I'm a slim 10, and I'm ok with that. But I can see how it would be easy for me to be overweight. It's not what I would call "baby weight" but just that the tiredness, and the unique combinations of stress that come with having young DCs would so so easily have me comfort eating all day. When I am having fun with them, out with them, it's different, but when it's a day of just crawling through the sleep deprivation and trying to do my best (and failing) I could snack my way to a size 22, no problem.
Mindful eating was great for me at certain times. When DH and I first got together I could go days without thinking about food. That's what the excitement and optimism of a new relationship does. I used to work long hours of unpaid overtime without thinking about food, when i feel happy that is so simple. Comfort eating is, without a shadow of a doubt, my issue.
I'm not really sure how to resolve that tbh, so for now I will try to be a better person, enjoy my beautiful DCs, for whom i am enormously grateful, try to find my postal perfect intermittent fasting regime and lay of the biscuits

Oh, today
B: coffe with gingerbread syrup, 1 slice raisin toast, 1 apple, handful of Cheerios (asda own, as I am a nestle avoider) 5 giant chocolate buttons
D: cheese and ham omlette with "actifry" chips.

Morning all,

Was terribly unmotivated yesterday so couldn’t be bothered to post . Feeling better this morning though!

Diary first:

Weds:
B – none
L – spicy veg soup with roll
D – spag bol (fusilli bol really)
S – chocolate, 1 dry cracker

Unfortunately I cocked up a bit by having a very small glass of wine with dinner and then a 175ml glass of wine when I popped out to see a friend (DH didn’t drink at home and had 2 beers out). Came home and we decided to share the remainder of a bottle of red – a few sips each before we tipped away both glasses, it had gone vinegary

Thurs:
B – none
L – spicy veg soup with roll
D – chickpea and chorizo stew
S – Ugh. Twix bar and a grab bag of quavers. Oh and a cappuccino and two biscuits. AND a glass of wine.

Such a fool. Still, I’ve lost 1lb since Monday and I’ve maintained that so I’m not going to beat myself up too much.

Today:
B – none
L – pasta with cheese, tomato and cucumber
D – no idea. Fishfingers and veg if I get my way
S – I have 2 biscuits with me and a pack of jaffa cakes. I’m going to aim to not eat the entire pack of jaffa cakes. If I go out tonight I will either have 2 gin and slimline tonics or 1 glass of wine.

Milly soup sounds lovely. My favourite ever is curried parsnip (ooh and broccoli and stilton)

Wellies well done on having breakfast – I really need to do that.

Amanda Maybe try something other than fasting and mini-fasts for a while? You’re so tired, it’s no wonder you’re hungry and you need food to keep going. Xxx

I wonder why us women have such a different relationship with food to men? My DH is super slim and generally eats very well but it doesn’t worry him to eat sausage rolls, crisps, etc. He’s lost his six pack and I don’t look at him and think “ugh” but I feel he looks at me and thinks “ugh” because I’m no longer a size 6 (as I was when we met). Of course, he doesn’t but I wonder if this is the pressure of the media telling us we should all want to be like Cheryl Cole, etc? It does concern me, especially as I know I look at these women in magazines and I feel sad that I’m pale, not at all toned, lumps and bumps, etc. It’s really battered my confidence and I think that comes across in how I am with people now. In my teens, I was super confident and felt beautiful, I’d get a lot of attention from the opposite sex and I felt great. Now I honestly feel ugly, I look in the mirror and I’m disappointed. I’m absolutely sure my DH doesn’t feel like that when he looks in the mirror. I envy men for this.

I’m also aware that I am shallow. I had to admit to DH last night that I’m scared to come off the pill. My skin is amazing now and beforehand it was terrible. I’m scared of weight gain. I’ve never been happy with my body and I doubt very much I’ll be happy with it after pregnancy. Does every woman feel like this or am I just not really ready to TTC?

Goodness, very deep thoughts from me today! So. Anyone have any nice plans for the weekend?

xxx

I can't speak for every woman Hazel but I feel/ felt like that.
Women are judged by the way they (we) look. It's a true feminist issue and an integral part of our patriarchal culture that objectifies females.

It is possible, IMHO, that you are panicking prior to ttc. Pregnancy will change your body. But everyone is different in this regard. The younger you have DCs, the better chance you have of springing back IYSWIM.
I am as slim now as before I had my DCs and I had my first when I was 39 .
I am more confident than I was in my 20s tbh, even though i am more lined etc.
Ageing will change your looks and your figure anyway. We all just have to learn to live with it. And maybe try to break free from the pressure to look a certain way. I feel a responsibility to be less "shallow" now as the mother of a dd.
Imvvvho, fear of sagging/ stretch marks is not a reason to not have children. There are many reasons not to, but not this. Time will do its own thing anyway.

You speak much sense Amanda
I think I am panicking a bit. I think I’m panicking about the whole lot. Pregnancy, childbirth, baby(!), poo, vomit, crying, illness, school, teenagers – it’s not just having a cute baby – I’m setting myself up for a life of proper responsibility. Seems impossible given the fact that in my head I’m still 18. I’m very worried about how it’s going to change my relationship with my friends who have chosen not to have children/have grown up children. They’ve already made it clear they won’t want to be so involved in my life (which leads me to question what sort of friends they are to be honest) when I do have a child. Then I have to think that I have lovely friends who do have young babies and who I’m enjoying spending more and more time with. I know I want children, I know now is actually a good time to get on with TTC, it’s just venturing into the unknown which petrifies me

Goodness, completely off topic! Sorry! xx

Oops! there you go. Answering your own question
It is scary.
But if I can do it (and enjoy it) at my age with no outside help then you will be fine (tired and terrified, but fine)
You'll always have us

Hazel The pill mimics being pregnant in a way so pregnancy might also give you amazing skin.
I felt scared stiff to begin getting pregnant and quite scared when I actually got pregnant immediately BUT when I got used to the idea I completely changed. I loved being pregnant and the only thing that mattered was having my baby. Once the baby came the last thing I really worried about was me or my weight. Babies just seem to change you and your world. I had my first when I was 29 and my second when I was 30. Never thought about being a Mum until we actually decided to go for it and having been through the whole thing now I loved every single minute of being a Mum. Surprised myself really.

Was my Wedding Anniversary today. My husband bought me a beautiful bunch of flowers, large box of chocolates, more chocolates, a very large box of Chanel Number 5. He took me to the pictures and then we went to our favourite little restaurant for dinner. Lovely day.

Me today:

Chocs and cup of tea
half a banana
Coffee
Gammon, pineapple and salad
Crème Brulee
Coffee
Chocs

Ha ha!!

Happy Anniversary Milly
Lovely celebrations

Happy Anniversay Milly!!

What a lovely way to spend your day.

Hazel I have started a post several times trying to respond to your fears and worries and how I felt also, but find I cannot quite articulate properly what I mean. I am mulling on it and will reply properly soon, I promise. But, the upshot is that what you worry about and fear could have been written by me also. I was terrified of being pg, and what it would do to me and my body which I loathed, and was worried about my body image etc. But somehow, the reality of having a baby is just so wonderful- despite all the very real difficulties and changes it makes to everything that it makes it worthwhile. I know you will have heard that before, but it really is very true on a visceral level. What Milly wrote is also my experience.

It is also true that some friendships drift or scale down when you have children because the pressures on your time is different. If people are saying they will not be bothered with you if you cannot go out and do the same things- well, they are toxic people that you may find you are better off without howver painful it may be at first. Real people understand how life changes, and will accommodate that somehow. I have a friend who is a real party animal, dedicated single girl etc (we are all in our 40s) and a career girl and so on. I see her rarely now, but when I do, it is because she has come to stay for a weekend and she chills down to our level. She gets that I cannot go out on the lash for a weekend in Amsterdam. So she comes to us.

My thoughts are a bit all over the place, but yes what you fear is exactly what I feared. I will try and get something coherent together and post again when I have. :)

Thank you There was lots of lovely food on the menu by the way but I hadn't had gammon for so long that my mouth watered at the thought of it