Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Losing the stones one guinea pig at a time...

983 replies

HenriettaPye · 24/09/2013 18:02

Hello quiche avoiders Wink

Lovely shiny new thread- we are a talkative bunch!

First Thread

Second Thread

To be a quiche avoider you must
-have a considerable amount of weight to lose
-be serious about wanting to lose it
-give other members a virtual kick up the arse when needed
-weigh in with us on a Wednesday (or if you weigh in on another day, post your results on a wednesday)

So roll up, jump in and lets lose lbs! and if you are having a moment of weakness just remember... what would clarinet do Wink

OP posts:
clarinetV2 · 18/12/2013 19:40

Well done, everyone who's lost this week.

I have bad news to report. I'm now in the midst (or hopefully at the end of) the longest period of being out of control of my eating for nearly a year and a half. I just can't seem to summon up any of the strategies that have been working for me. Every day for the last more-than-a-week has begun with me thinking it's a new day and I'll be back on plan, but it hasn't happened. With the result that I'm now a whole 10 lb over my target weight which I've been more or less maintaining since the end of September. I thought I would gain over Christmas/New Year and I was resigned to maybe a 10 lb gain over the season, but not in the two weeks leading up to it! The wagon seems to be rolling without me. I'm really terrified now that this is the start of me putting all the weight back on again and a bit extra as well, which is deeply, deeply depressing. Can anyone say anything to help me back onto the wagon? I'm trying not to panic prematurely but the milestone to which I am now dangerously close is 10 stone and if I go over that I've a horrible feeling that it will be the beginning of the end.

Sad
Sirzy · 18/12/2013 19:55

Oh no clarinet.

Do you have before and after photos? look at them, remind youself how far you have come.

Sit down tonight and plan your food for the next few days, include some treats and general christmas niceness so you don't feel like you are punishing yourself/restricting yourself.

You can do it!

Debs75 · 18/12/2013 20:59

Clarinet You have done so well this past year please don't beat yourself up now. I too have put on most of my illness loss which was understandable but I have creeped back into the 14's and I feel disheartened. I find I put on more in the run up to Christmas, I have had 4 parties and 2 birthday celebrations, then after the turkey dinner and the pudding there is no real reason to indulge. We don't celebrate New Year big as no one will babysit 4 kids. I plan to eat sensibly with a few treats up to Boxing Day then once the kids have scoffed all the treats it will be back to soup and counting calories. I may even get the bike out if the weather is nice

What works for you? Is it meal planning, exercising, counting calories? It might be good to reassess what has worked and what isn't working now.

I realised this week that ultimately I want to be healthy. I don't care if I am overweight or not, I just want to be healthy and fit enough to run and have fun with the children. I generally eat healthily, just a bit tooo much, I am on the right path with exercising and actually enjoying it. I know that with time and some patience the excess weight will come off.

clarinetV2 · 18/12/2013 23:20

Thank you, Sirzy & Debs. I'm afraid I'm rather photo-phobic so I don't have any photos at all! But what I do have, waiting in plastic bags for yet another trip to the charity shops, are the rest of the clothes (trousers, shirts, jumpers, jackets) I was wearing this time two years ago - I've already got rid of some stuff, but have been hanging onto the rest just in case I get big again. I tried some of them on the other day when I was having a clear out to make room for all the new clothes I'm buying, and it was staggering how big they are on me now. I think maybe a good way of reminding myself how far I've come is to put them on again. I'll do that before I go to bed. And then to the charity shop they go. No more 'just in case'.

That's a good question, Debs. What's been working for me has been calorie-counting along with a lot of walking, and general training myself to say 'no' to the things I love - which unfortunately remain biscuits, cake, chocolate and bread. I've been only allowing myself these as an occasional treat, and although there have been a few slips along the way with unplanned chocolate and cake fests, they've not lasted more than two days, and then I've been able to get back to calorie counting and treat resistance. Over the last few days I've slipped back into the 'I'll start again tomorrow' mentality which has been my downfall over four decades of yo-yo dieting.

OK, writing that, I think I've given myself the answer. I'm going to focus on tomorrow and not think about Friday, or the weekend, or next week. Just get through tomorrow at a reasonable calorie level - let's say 1500 because I'm going to find it too hard to get any lower than that after more than a week of overeating. Right, that's the plan. Thank you both!

IsThatTrue · 19/12/2013 06:08

clarinet I'm glad you got some good advice. I'd also like to say that just because you have been overrating doesn't make you abad person. Don't beat yourself up. Try and say to yourself that's it's 'just food' or 'just weight'. You've done amazingly and we all know you can lose 10lbs, you just need your head in the right place, and punishing yourself because of your 'slip ' (as you call it) isn't going to make it any easier to start again. Also do get rid of those clothes. You don't need an insurance policy.

Welcome zahlen well done on your loss so far, and good luck!

ReastieYuleANBU · 19/12/2013 07:42

Clarinet 2 weeks does NOT undo your year and a half of hard work. It's a blip and you are STRONG (even though you may not feel it). You have done so well and you will get back on track. Hopefully today you have a good day and meet your goal

MarysDressSways · 19/12/2013 10:35

Clarinet, you've done it before and you can do it again. Tomorrow is a new day Xmas Smile

B52s · 19/12/2013 13:16

What is all the bad food a replacement for?

And what can you replace it with?

phantomhairpuller · 19/12/2013 17:15

Well done all of you who are still going! You guys must have some kind of determination!! I fully intend to get back on track once Christmas is out of the way Grin

Keep up the good work ladies, you're doing us proud GrinGrin

clarinetV2 · 19/12/2013 21:17

Thanks, everyone. Today was somewhat better. I think I've come in at around 1900-2000 calories, which is quite an improvement on recent days - it would have been less, only there were biscuits, cakes and mince pies at a work meeting I went to and I succumbed. But the big difference is that I didn't buy chocolate or buns or anything on the way home to eat in front of the TV! That was something I always used to do, and I've been doing for the last 10 days or so, and I was worried I was getting back into my old habits. I feel much better for not having done that this evening.

B52s I don't think it's so much that the bad food is a replacement (though I'm not denying it has been in the past). It's more of an addiction now, I think - I've been eating bad food for decades and I'm physically addicted. I'm probably quite tired at the moment and ready for a holiday as work has been hectic for a long time, and not all that pleasant either. Which probably means I have less mental energy for my anti-addiction strategies, plus I'm walking less because of the weather, and I feel much more on top of things when I do a lot of walking.

Tomorrow I'm going to have another go at hitting 1500 calories.

Meant to say, welcome, zahlen, and thanks everyone else for your advice and nice thoughts.

Zalen · 20/12/2013 12:49

Thanks for the welcome, I'm finding it's getting harder to keep on the straight and narrow foodwise, lots of chocolates floating around the office and the Christmas fuddle today means far too much food available to pick at.

I knew I wasn't going to be sticking to any diet yesterday, I do martial arts and we were grading so I made sure to have something extra in the late afternoon so that I didn't run out of energy mid way through. I passed and ended up treating myself to a gingerbread cupcake afterwards to celebrate. But with the amount MFP credited me for the exercise I was still under target yesterday. Now just need to see if I can make it through the Christmas period without backsliding too badly, no martial arts for two weeks as the centre is closed for Christmas and New Year, I don't know what I'm going to do with myself.

Clarinet, I'm happy to read that you are getting things back under control, you know you can do this, you've done it before. I'm looking forward to seeing you get past this blip as it will be proof to me that it can be done and therefore that I can pull it back when I slip as I undoubtedly will at some point.

IsThatTrue · 20/12/2013 18:59

I'm not doing so well atm. My appetite has plummeted and I'm eating all the wrong things. Yesterday I consumed approx 30 quality streets 2 slices of white buttered toast (medium sliced) and a few bits of melon, :( so I'm not putting on weight but I'm not exactly eating very healthily.

The problem I'm having atm is my brain is so full of other stuff in forgetting to eat and then picking at bits when I'm starving but not being hungry come the next meal, so then I don't eat! I'm hoping when we've got all the building stuff started at the new place I won't have quite so much to do Hmm ( haha) so I can get back on track. As right now I'm making lists, researching, chasing, booking, gutting, re-purposing, buying, consulting as well as working, looking after ds2. (Now school has broken up dd and ds1 also ) and running then house.

I'm exhausted tbh !

Debs75 · 23/12/2013 20:33

So after avoiding the mince pies I finally opened a box and ate 3!Blush

Had my final pre-Christmas weigh in on Sunday and have stayed the sameXmas Smile which is as good as a loss this time of year. I am 1.5 stones lighter than last Christmas and 2.5 lighter than the Christmas before so whilst it is painfully slow I am heading in the right direction.

So I am planning on enjoying Christmas but not being stupidly piggish, then getting back to it after the weekend. I am allowing myself a few pounds to play with without beating myself up.

All of you enjoy a happy Christmas and I will see you all for weigh in in the New year

ReastieYuleANBU · 24/12/2013 08:00

Gah, not doing so well here. Did a cheeky weigh in a day early and put on 1 lb this week . I think that's only my third gain in over a year and a half. Been eating a bit too much chocolate and had some birthday cake this week as it was my birthday. Also just generally been really hungry and not able to exercise as I've injured my shoulder. And been stuck inside potty training DD for the past week and a half so haven't been anywhere . . And it's not even Christmas yet. I don't know why I'm so blinking hungry all the time at the moment. clarinet how are you going reigning your habits back as I feel like I'm on a slippery slope.

debs that's fab re: 4 stones lighter. I guess we should think positively....this christmas I'm a size 12 - 14, this time last christmas I was a size 18, the christmas before that I was a size 22.

MarysDressSways · 24/12/2013 08:49

Reastie you've done so well! I can't wait to be a size 12.

I was a size 22 when I started. Not sure what I am now. I weighed yesterday and was down 3lb so that's my first target of 4st lost. I'm over the moon but we'll see what the next couple of days does to that!!

clarinetV2 · 24/12/2013 15:59

Well, still not back on track, but better than I was. However, this isn't the time of year to try to reset good new habits, so I'm resigned to a few more days of indulgence, and then serious efforts to get back on track in the New Year. Someone I met on a walking holiday last summer sent me a photo inside a card, and I was stunned by how healthy and happy I looked. I normally hide from photos so I don't have many, but couldn't believe that slim, fit-looking person in the picture was me. And that's the way I want to stay, so I'll get back onto it once the festivities are done. But for now, I've got DD2 with me and DD1 arrives with her new(ish) partner in a couple of hours, so I'll not be online much. Happy Christmas, everyone!

Debs75 · 26/12/2013 09:31

Hope you all having a happy guilt free Christmas.Xmas Grin

Sirzy · 26/12/2013 18:54

Hope everyone has had a lovely christmas without too much overindugence,

I am getting back on track properly tomorrow but not done too badly. Managed to avoid overeating the rubbish.

Sirzy · 29/12/2013 09:17

Only put 1lb on over Christmas quite pleased with that!

ReastieYuleANBU · 30/12/2013 18:30

Hello everyone, hope you're enjoying christmas also.

I've been eating far too much chocolate, it's bought me out in spots I've eaten so much Blush . Have been trying to do my workouts though and fingers crossed might at the minute only be 1 lb on (still time for that to change though..).

I went sales shopping today and never have any idea what size I am anymore. Anyway, I tried on a size 10 dress and it FITTED Shock Shock Grin . I nearly bought it jsut because I was so excited that a size 10 fits me (that's NEVER happened before, ever. Even when I was about 13 I was a size 12). Does anyone know if joules sizes come up big? Please say no Grin . FWIW I then tried on a size 10 top and it was too tight in the arms....but we'll not dwell on that, we'll focus on the positives :)

Hope you all have a lovely new year. Let's make 2014 the year for us to get to our goal. What are everybodys plans for NYE? I'm staying in bed and getting an early night as usual [boring]

Sirzy · 30/12/2013 18:45

My NYE plans are the same as yours!

well done on the size 10s fitting, that is my main goal for next year weight wise I want to get into size 10s I am just into 12s now so should be realistic.

Perhaps we should use New Year to try to get more people posting on here? Should I start a thread in chat inviting people to join us?

MarysDressSways · 31/12/2013 09:31

Hey all! I've put on 1lb since this time last week. I'm happy with that, thought it would be loads more! I had puddings, chocolates, cake, cheese, potatoes, baileys etc. All the Christmas joy!

I'll see if it levels out now I'm back to being good!

MarysDressSways · 31/12/2013 09:35

Oh and a house party for nye (on the rum and diet coke rather than wine!)

New members would be good. Keep everyone motivated!

Debs75 · 31/12/2013 19:57

Hi everyone. I only put 1lb on over Christmas as wellXmas Shock I am cautiously eating and waiting for next week as my losses are usually a week behind so this gain could easily come on next week. I was pretty good though. I made sure I ate sensibly at mealtimes and them just had a few more snacks and treats. Luckily almost all the treats have gone so after alcohol tonight and roast beef and sponge puddings tomorrow I can get right back on track.

Sirzy · 01/01/2014 11:51

Happy new year everyone!

16/5/13 I weighed 16 stone exactly, that was when I realised I needed to change.

1/1/14 I weigh 12 stone 6 :)

By this time next year I will weigh under 10 stone.