Anyone interested in joining WWB on a weight-loss support thread for the REAL heavyweights?

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I can't take the credit for this as it's not all my idea ... but I think it might be a good one and wondered if anyone else with a LOT to lose would like to join with me and suejonez to shift some weight?

I'm not talking about being a size 14 and needing to lose a stone - I'm talking people who are size 22+, those who have a really serious amount of weight to shift. Skinny minnies need not apply - I'm thinking that maybe we would have to be a minimum weight or size so that we know we're all in the same boat together, and we know that everyone on the thread understands how we feel and the problems that we face once we make the decision to lose weight. Perhaps people who need to lose at least 5 stone?

I weighed myself today and have scared myself with what the scales said, and so sue's email couldn't have come at a better time - but I am hopeless at dieting on my own, and thought that maybe the support of others who understand about having lots of weight to shift would be good. As suejonez said in her email to me, we know all about losing weight, we've probably done it a dozen times before, we know exactly what to do and how to do it. We don't need to be told what to eat or how to eat it, we just need the support of people in a similar position to give us the nudge that we need to get on with losing the weight. Standing in front of a WW leader is daunting, maybe owning up to your weight to me would be less intimidating (well, maybe not ... ). But at least you'll know that I have as much (and probably more) to shift.

If anyone's interested we could have a weekly weigh-in, whether we post our weight on the thread or just the weight loss would be something we could think about before we set up the thread. I would be happy to have people email me their starting weight and their loss, so we could have a weekly round-up of how we're doing. We could even do something similar to WeightWatchers - set interim targets, get a virtual gold star for every 7lb lost, you know the sort of thing.

Come on, I know there are a few of us very large women out there - shall we do something about it?

No bigger girls in tonight?

Or just not wanting to admit it

WWB I think it's a great idea

I know that ideally I should lose around 5 stone, but am far too scared to weigh myself and find out the horrible truth. I weigh lots, but I'm not size 22+ (more like 16-18) so would you still let me join?

I bet there are loads of people who'd be interested. I find it quite depressing when people are talking about losing 7lbs or something, as I know how much more I've got to lose.

I did pop myself on a GI thread but then bought the books and didn't start it so have been far too embarassed to go back. I did lose 3 stone once through WW but since having DD have put it all back on again, and for some reason really don't feel like going back to WW meetings at the moment

Ah, what the hell; you're in

I've joined in with threads before but always end up feeling like a freak, or feeling that the other posters on the thread just don't understand - and it's really demoralising when they start going on about how lardy they are, and what bloaters they are, when actually they're skinny minnies. It's people who have found that, and who could do with a bit of like-minded support, that it would be nice to do this with.

This way we'd at least know we were all in the same boat, and wouldn't be lining the pockets of the fat cats (ahem) at WeightWatchers!

I do know exactly what you mean. I have some real life friends who are size 10 or 12 and grumble about having to lose weight and make out that they're in the same boat as me, but they're just not! it is extremely demoralizing

I know it's all in the eye of the person needing to lose the weight, and I'd never want to belittle someone for only needing to lose a small amount, but it's really not the same thing - and I find it makes me feel terrible when they harp on about how hard it is to lose half a stone and how they can understand how I must feel - with the best will in the world, they have no idea.

Plus sometimes I think that people look down on me for being so heavy - people think that fat people are stupid, blah blah blah, and it might be nice not to have to worry that there were people on the thread who felt that way.

Well I will def join then and I think others will too

You'll probably think I'm too much of a skinny minny to join this - 12 stone and 5ft 2. But yes, I can see your point - that someone who is 9.5 stone coming on and saying they desperately want to be 8.5 stone is probably not going to have the same issues as you.

best wishes and happy weight loss to all who sail on this thread.

btw I once read a very good book by Shelley Bovey about losing LOTs of weight (accidentally got it out of the library without realising that was the emphasis of it)

Thanks, IJ. I think you're right that those with lots to lose usually have different issues to those with a smaller amount - maybe some would see that as a sweeping generalisation but I think there's a lot of truth in it too. I know for myself I have issues around food and I probably need to address those at the same time as addressing the weight. But the weight has to start coming off; I am putting my health at risk, I want my see my daughter growing up and at this rate I run the risk of a heart attack before she's 10 years old.

You could be our mascot if you wanted

There was a thread like this at the beginning of the year which I joined but then it fizzled out. I had at least 5 or 6 stone to lose and on friday I broke the 3 stone mark which felt like a real milestone for me. The weightloss is slowing up now but I'm determined to keep going and I'd love to join this thread if you'll have me!

Wow - well done on your three stone. The more the merrier ... if you think that joining with a thread like this would help then you are more than welcome.

Sneaky little bump to catch anyone else who might feel they wanted to join us.

WWB I have sooooooooooooooo much weight to loose but don't own any scales but know how you feel about people who say they are fat and are tiny

Kanga, would you like to join in with us even without the scales? If you wanted to weigh yourself you could use the scales that they have in Boots, or if you didn't then you could just use the thread for support in eating healthily, or avoiding your trigger foods? Maybe judge your weightloss by the way your clothes feel? It would be lovely to have you along.

can i join. i started ww last tuesday 15st 1.5 and i'm only 5ft1. i was on a hen weekend so not looking forward to the weigh in

Come on in, the more the merrier!

Thanks WWB

I don't ever go shopping so wouldn't be in BOOTS iyswim

but will join you all

Can I join in under this pseudonym, WWB? I'm a regular poster, but only my alter ego is overweight You can bet I'll forget anyway, and out myself...

I've been losing weight, and recently got down to just over 13 stone - roughly a stone's loss - but I seem to go up and down rather unpredictably, so last time I weighed I was 13st 4lb. I have similar health concerns as you, so I really must, seriously, continue to lose weight. And not put it back on!

So can I join, can I, can I???

Of course you can ... you'll have us all speculating about who you are though and it will drive you barmy making sure you don't out yourself

(You can tell me; I shan't tell anyone ... )

Count me in please!

Am a size 22 (24 in some things!) and weighing in at 15st 13.5lbs!!!

Am doing E-diets - have been for 2 years!! Did Atkins and lost 2 stone - gained 3. Tried GI. Tried Slimming World. Tried WW for years.

Currently on E-diets Mediterannean low GI plan. Been off wagon for about 10 days but climing back on tomorrow.

Would love the extra suport from here!

FWIW WWB and RTKangaMummmy - never visualised you both as being overweight!

WWB - Here I am!!!! I have lots and lots and lots of weight to lose . I wouldn't feel comfortable posting my weight on here, but would like to get some support. I had my first counselling appointment today. We didn't even manage to get onto the issues with food before the hour was up !!!!!

That's what I like about MN ... no-one judges you on appearance because they can't see you! Now here's a bit of trivia about Kanga and I ...we both have the same (very impressive ) bra size ...

To get down to what would be considered "normal" I have at least 11.5 stone to lose. I'm never going to do that, but I have to shift at least a good proportion of that.

Littlefish, how was the counselling? And how did you fins the counsellor? Have often wondered whether something like that would be of any use to me, because I definitely have issues around food.

BUDABABE that is why there will never be any photos of me on here

Deffo Cuddly is what I am

There's been photos of me ... nude ones at that ... are you in then Kanga??

I'll have to invent mythical children, won't I? Hmmm, that should be fun... And they can have really weird names...and do really wacky stuff...