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Anyone interested in joining WWB on a weight-loss support thread for the REAL heavyweights?

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WigWamBam · 07/05/2006 19:40

I can't take the credit for this as it's not all my idea ... but I think it might be a good one and wondered if anyone else with a LOT to lose would like to join with me and suejonez to shift some weight?

I'm not talking about being a size 14 and needing to lose a stone - I'm talking people who are size 22+, those who have a really serious amount of weight to shift. Skinny minnies need not apply Wink - I'm thinking that maybe we would have to be a minimum weight or size so that we know we're all in the same boat together, and we know that everyone on the thread understands how we feel and the problems that we face once we make the decision to lose weight. Perhaps people who need to lose at least 5 stone?

I weighed myself today and have scared myself with what the scales said, and so sue's email couldn't have come at a better time - but I am hopeless at dieting on my own, and thought that maybe the support of others who understand about having lots of weight to shift would be good. As suejonez said in her email to me, we know all about losing weight, we've probably done it a dozen times before, we know exactly what to do and how to do it. We don't need to be told what to eat or how to eat it, we just need the support of people in a similar position to give us the nudge that we need to get on with losing the weight. Standing in front of a WW leader is daunting, maybe owning up to your weight to me would be less intimidating (well, maybe not ... Grin). But at least you'll know that I have as much (and probably more) to shift.

If anyone's interested we could have a weekly weigh-in, whether we post our weight on the thread or just the weight loss would be something we could think about before we set up the thread. I would be happy to have people email me their starting weight and their loss, so we could have a weekly round-up of how we're doing. We could even do something similar to WeightWatchers - set interim targets, get a virtual gold star for every 7lb lost, you know the sort of thing.

Come on, I know there are a few of us very large women out there - shall we do something about it?

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lazycow · 08/05/2006 13:11

WigWamBam

Am I allowed?. I was a size 24 a few months ago (though am a 16 now) and weighed 17st 7lbs. I've always been very big and have to admit as I get older I have even less time for people who are a size 14 or less (and always have been) and who tell me there is no easy answer and that they have managed to lose weight by eating carefully (usually they have lost 1 stone or so).

I really struggle with food and weight so I'd really really like to join. Chances are I'll be a size 24 again soon anyway if my track record is anything to go by Grin

Littlefish · 08/05/2006 13:19

I'll post my details on Wednesday WWB.

I've got my second Salsacize class tonight. I'm the biggest person there (by about 5 stone!), but I managed to keep going for the whole hour last time which really surprised me!

Sue - I can really relate to the mother thing. My mother was/is anorexic and bulimic.

Serenity - I completely agree about needing to still enjoy food. I refuse to eat anything that is sugar free or fat free, on the basis that whatever replaces the fat or sugar will undoubtedly contain nasty chemicals. However, I do definitely need to look at my portion size - I eat enough for about 3!!!

DublinDee, like you, I put on very little weight when I was pregnant. I think I just felt totally content and happy for the first time ever. Emotionally I was competely fulfilled by being pregnant and just didn't feel the need to eat to make myself feel better.

We really want another baby, but it will probably have to be IVF this time, and there is no way they would accept me at the weight I am now. I need to make sure my body is in the best possible condition to make it work.

I will set myself a goal of losing a stone (I can't even bear to think about the rest yet!).

I like Budababe's suggestion about us all having a mini-goal each week (or 2 weeks) like drinking more water, cutting out chocolate or wine, walking for an extra 10 minutes each day. Do you think it would help keep us fresh about this challenge. Otherwise, I'm worried I'll get bored! If we have a small additional challenge each week it might help keep us all focussed. It would also be a common topic to discuss each week. What do you think?

Littlefish · 08/05/2006 13:19

I'll post my details on Wednesday WWB.

I've got my second Salsacize class tonight. I'm the biggest person there (by about 5 stone!), but I managed to keep going for the whole hour last time which really surprised me!

Sue - I can really relate to the mother thing. My mother was/is anorexic and bulimic.

Serenity - I completely agree about needing to still enjoy food. I refuse to eat anything that is sugar free or fat free, on the basis that whatever replaces the fat or sugar will undoubtedly contain nasty chemicals. However, I do definitely need to look at my portion size - I eat enough for about 3!!!

DublinDee, like you, I put on very little weight when I was pregnant. I think I just felt totally content and happy for the first time ever. Emotionally I was competely fulfilled by being pregnant and just didn't feel the need to eat to make myself feel better.

We really want another baby, but it will probably have to be IVF this time, and there is no way they would accept me at the weight I am now. I need to make sure my body is in the best possible condition to make it work.

I will set myself a goal of losing a stone (I can't even bear to think about the rest yet!).

I like Budababe's suggestion about us all having a mini-goal each week (or 2 weeks) like drinking more water, cutting out chocolate or wine, walking for an extra 10 minutes each day. Do you think it would help keep us fresh about this challenge. Otherwise, I'm worried I'll get bored! If we have a small additional challenge each week it might help keep us all focussed. It would also be a common topic to discuss each week. What do you think?

Littlefish · 08/05/2006 13:20

I'll post my details on Wednesday WWB.

I've got my second Salsacize class tonight. I'm the biggest person there (by about 5 stone!), but I managed to keep going for the whole hour last time which really surprised me!

Sue - I can really relate to the mother thing. My mother was/is anorexic and bulimic.

Serenity - I completely agree about needing to still enjoy food. I refuse to eat anything that is sugar free or fat free, on the basis that whatever replaces the fat or sugar will undoubtedly contain nasty chemicals. However, I do definitely need to look at my portion size - I eat enough for about 3!!!

DublinDee, like you, I put on very little weight when I was pregnant. I think I just felt totally content and happy for the first time ever. Emotionally I was competely fulfilled by being pregnant and just didn't feel the need to eat to make myself feel better.

We really want another baby, but it will probably have to be IVF this time, and there is no way they would accept me at the weight I am now. I need to make sure my body is in the best possible condition to make it work.

I will set myself a goal of losing a stone (I can't even bear to think about the rest yet!).

I like Budababe's suggestion about us all having a mini-goal each week (or 2 weeks) like drinking more water, cutting out chocolate or wine, walking for an extra 10 minutes each day. Do you think it would help keep us fresh about this challenge. Otherwise, I'm worried I'll get bored! If we have a small additional challenge each week it might help keep us all focussed. It would also be a common topic to discuss each week. What do you think?

Original poster
WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 13:21

Oh gosh, yes - of course you are!

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Littlefish · 08/05/2006 13:22

Oh POOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Sorry about the multiple postings - particularly as it was so blooming long too. Grin

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WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 13:27
Grin

Impatient fingers, Littlefish Wink

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suejonez · 08/05/2006 13:30

Littlefish,
To answer your posts...

Absolutely agree it would be nice to set little goals and discuss them each week.
Absolutely agree it would be nice to set little goals and discuss them each week.
Absolutely agree it would be nice to set little goals and discuss them each week. Grin

I have two little goals this week - walking 15 mins from tube into work rather getting the tube all the way and I'm going to stop buying food to eat on the way home (obviously normally do that in case I starve to death in the hour it takes to get from office to home!).

Littlefish · 08/05/2006 13:32

Grin Grin Grin

Suejonez - lol at starving on the way home from work! This is me too.

heavenis · 08/05/2006 15:07

So what suggestions do people have for drinking more water.
I know that if I fill a pint glass I find it hard to drink. (although filled with larger then that isn't such a problem for me.)
I need to make sure I eat properly, I make sure everyone else in the house has three meals a day.
I can pick at things through the morning and when it comes to meal times I'm not hungry.

suejonez · 08/05/2006 15:17

I try to make sure water is chilled - I drink it much more easily.

Do you know that you get "hunger" pangs if you're thirsty? Try drinking more in the day (add some squash but just a little) to vary the flavour.

Does't really mmattertoo much if you eat 5 smaller meals - overall calorie intake is important. Unless you're snacking on high carbs all the time, in which case I think it keeps your insulin levels high and tens to make you eat more, in which case I'd alternate a high protein snack (sliced boiled egg on Crispbread) with a carb based snack.

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WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 16:09

I chill my water too - when I'm trying to drink more, I have a half-litre bottle that I keep wherever I am and I just keep slugging at it. It also means I can keep half an eye on how much I'm drinking (or more often not!).

I've heard that you can sometimes (well, often!) mistake feelings of thirst for feelings of hunger, so one of the things I'm going to try and do is have a drink of water whenever I feel hungry. Even if I then have to go on and have something to eat as well, it at least means that I'm drinking more.

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heavenis · 08/05/2006 16:24

I think I'll give filling a bottle a try and keeping it in the fridge.

mazzystar · 08/05/2006 16:34

could i join you? i'm on schneebly's drastic action thread - need to lose 3 stone to put me at the top of my acceptable weight for height and another stone on top of that to be where i'd really like to be.

despite trying hard i seem to be having little success, trying to keep cheerful. i really want to lose at least some before trying to get pregnant again.

schneebly · 08/05/2006 16:35

Hi Mazzystar! I'm here too!

mazzystar · 08/05/2006 16:37

howdy schneebly - have you defected from your own thread? Wink

schneebly · 08/05/2006 16:43

No - I am there too but have fallen off the wagon big style and dont feel able to give much good advice to others Blush. I thought it might help me to join a thread whcih someone else has started - less pressure (not good with pressure at the moment!). I will keep on the drastic action thread though. I also wanted to join the largest Mnetters as I have over 5 stone to loose too

sanchpanch · 08/05/2006 16:46

any chance i can join, i have lost 3 stone, i was 17.8 stone and now i am 14.5 stone, and would love some support to lose last 3 stone?
i have all the usual issues with over eating etc

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WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 17:07

Ah, go on then Wink

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Aero · 08/05/2006 17:54

Wow WWB - your timing is impeccable for me. I lost enough weight (over 4st) after ds1 was born to bring me down to top end of (what is medically) acceptable for height/weight. Lost weight again after dd was born and then ds2 came along - he is now two and I've been waiting for my motivation to return, which it just hasn't.....until now that is, although the willpower is a huge struggle. I know it'd be ok if I could only get a start, but just starting is sooooooooooo hard. I'm not in the size 22+ bracket yet, but if I carry on like this I soon will be. I'm currently a v generous 18 or a 20, depending on where I shop. I'm 5'6". I don't know my weight as I'm too scared/embarrassed to step on my scales. (They live happily under the sofa - out of sight, out of mind). I can take a safe guess though that I'm over 14st, possibly approaching 15st. I need to lose at least 4st - would love to lose nearer 5st, but baby steps - I'll be happy to lose 7lbs to start me off..........

............Do you think I could qualify to join (please)?

PinkKerPlink · 08/05/2006 17:57

Can i join too? I desperately need to lose. i am having a drying out period again (Shock) I am just over 13 stone, size 16-18 and about 5ft8in

Aero i doubt you are any heavier than me dear!

Aero · 08/05/2006 18:02

Oh I'm pretty sure I am PKP. I know I should brave it out and step on the scales.....Blush

I might, but I know it'll only depress me and I feel bad enough as it is.

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WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 18:02

Definitely baby steps, Aero - I know for myself that if I look at the total I have to shift, I'd be straight in the biscuit tin to console myself. It's too big a figure to contemplate (in more ways than one Wink) taken all in one go.

I really scared myself when I stepped on the scales - but it was getting on them that shocked me into wanting to do something about it. I thought I was about 20 stone - I'm a stone and a half more than that, which is horrendous and hideous, and makes me want to run away and pretend it's not real. But I do understand why you would feel frightened or embarrassed to get on them. You only have to feel that way once though - once you know what they say you'll know what the damage is, and every time you look at them from then onwards, you'll see a smaller number.

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WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 18:03

The more the merrier, PinkKerPlink.

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Aero · 08/05/2006 18:15

Am really scared now......I typed that first post after feeling so bad about starting the day with great intentions and the willpower lasted until shortly after lunch time.

I do agree a weigh in is the way forward - that's how I got started before when 15st4lbs scared the life out of me.

I also have knee and hip problems which I know will ease if I'm lighter - so 1000 good reasons to start.

I'm going to give it a go - definitely and I know dh will support too. Will be great not lining the WW pockets too (despite once getting to target weight and couldn't have done it otherwise). £5 is a lot for standing on scales.

Right - mind made up - will weigh myself and try my best to cut down seriously on the amount of crap I consume starting tonight!