Paul McKenna's No Pain, No Pain, Non Diet for those who really want to lose weight. No calories, no syns, no humiliation, just shedding stones amongst friends. Thread 8

[Solo]

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. So forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions.
The Paul McKenna system works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

Please feel free to join us. We are friendly, supportive and successful but we're not hungry!!! so come on in and start living your new life today!

Hello. Another newbie checking in..

I've been on many diets in the past, which worked for a while, then I put everything back on again. I really piled on the pounds when I was pg with DD and still have a stone of baby weight to lose - 17 months after she was born! And that's in addition to the extra weight I was carrying before I got pg. In total I have about 40lbs to lose.

I've not got the book yet, but I was intrigued by the 'rules'. If I can follow them, then I think this might be the solution I've been looking for.

Will see if my Sainsbury's is selling the book for £4 otherwise Amazon will be getting another payment.

Welcome crusty :) The rules are relatively easy to follow, but should ideally be used in conjunction with the book and cd...I could even add us too as we are great at hand holding and encouragement!

Aw solo you're the best! You've quite cheered up my night feed. It's very reassuring to hear of other struggles come good. Have some thanks

Or ! (bit tired...)

Sorry on my phone so I can't namecheck everyone!

Hello crusty

Nonny - I have had struggles too, it ebbs and flows but I try to be kind to myself and just refocus when I feel I can.

Big hugs to poorly Solo

DH is on my brother's stag weekend, so I have retreated to my parent's house ( they are back in the UK) They had brought yummy cheese back from France so I may have eaten rather a lot yesterday evening
They are going to take the boys out this morning so that I can sleep some more, hurrah!

Solo we cross posted ! .Welcome to sunshine and crusty

heynonny I often eat irrationally and unlike you I have no excuses apart from feeling tired. As Ali says you just refocus and be" kind to myself" VERY important IMO!!! and be pleased you're on an eating plan that allows you to do so with no probs.!!!!

Morning all.

Solo I love your Christmas post. It sums up for me what has been different about this time: I have fallen off the wagon several times, but each time I've got back on. I never do this, ever. If I go downhill, I fail, I eat crap for two months, then I look for another 'cure'. I actually feel a little bit more relaxed about it this time, like it will work eventually if I just keep starting again. It is just common sense, but I've never been sensible in the past! I do think there's something going on with that trance...

For newbies:

This lot are lovely. Stay on the thread.

They are the best bit about PMK!

Yes I'm very happy here! :) welcome crusty.
Keep persevering hey. I feel I'm getting better at recognising emotional eating but not at stopping it! I'll be going back to the book for advice on that one.
I went to bed utterly exhausted and slept for 11 hours. Must have been the combo of a busy week at work and the run. Thanks for the encouragement solo, 10k is 5 weeks on Sunday must keep going. I figure I need to be able to run 8k beforehand adrenaline will take me the rest but the lighter I am, the less I have to drag around! I genuinely feel slimmer after I run, is that weird? Maybe it's how I see myself?

AAWW Shucks!! Thanks Kinks

Aw Kinky , that's given me a warm fuzzy feeling inside! this is a lovely thread and that's one of the reasons we all lose weight :)

I've now got back to my 2st off!! yippee! and I need to keep going for another stone...1lb at a time. That'll take me to 12st 2lbs. I'm too old to be less I think. I have just seen a pic on fb of an old friend of mine, same age as me, shorter, two Dc's and she's down to an 8-10 dress size and looks really haggard :( I cannot do that to my face.

Oh yes, brother has postponed wedding due to extortionate church costs...:(

It's the age old choice solo, face or ass, face or ass???

I'm tempted to try to lose a lot to see if I can, but I'm guessing I'll look pretty shocking as soon as I get under 11st... Plus my skin is shot, so I know I'll need a full body lift. I just hope I don't get left with a hangy bit where my fat double chin used to be. My DH is sooooo lucky to have such a sex bomb of a wife .

Really well done on 2st though, that's great .

Sorry about your brother's wedding .

Watching Claire from Steps about losing weight on Sky Living. I remember watching the first bit of this a while ago, and finding I really understood where she ws coming from. I might twitter her and suggest PMK.

What age group are you in Kinky if you don't mind? I'll be 48 next month and look pretty good for my years I'm told. I have good genes on both sides and can only hope that that will include no apron when the weight has gone. Notice I said when the weight has gone?!!

Yes, see if you can get her on our thread. We will help her, wont we girls...

Hi all :) I'm a newbie here,
I bought the book last month.....it's still unopened I'm an emotional eater & I find it really hard to stick to things as have zero self motivation so I'm hoping you'll all be able to help me stay motivated :)

Hello Dotty and welcome!
Right, first thing's first; go and get the book and open up the packaging with me now :)

Hi Dotty.

Solo I'm 32, but had DD when I was 19. I put on LOADS of weight, and she was huge (both of them were: DD 10lbs 12oz and (early) DS 10lbs 9oz both born by CS). My stomach was shot at 19 and my skin has been hideous ever since. I had it confirmed that I needed a tummy tuck when I was in my early 20s, but NHS wouldn't do it then as I was too young and, in fairness, I did go on to have DS. Since him, and after years of dieting, most of my skin is awful, including whole trunk, sides, under arms and thighs. I need a good shake and for someone to cut the slack . I did lose weight after DD and did a huge amount of exercise, including lots of pilates, which really helped, but nothing will help my skin. The only way is surgery. I'm not sure if I want another DC though (glutton for punishment), and, ultimately, the state of my body is completely worth it for them. I might just live with it, I don't know. I must admit I'm a bit sad I've never really looked normal. It's pretty grim. I wore a bikini on holiday once when I was 24 and about a size 10/12 and was getting horrified stares everywhere I went. I think I'd convinced myself it wasn't that bad. It really was.

Yeah, but what is normal? everyone is different, so I'm not sure that normal exists beyond being a healthy weight. Our bodies are a map of our lives and it is often pure luck if we don't end up with flabby bellies and saggy chins. You've been through and are going through some awfully stressful stuff; your map is fuller than many.
My biggest downfall was a broken heart x 2. The mirena had caused me weight gain, but then the cancer shock of my Dad and exp cheating was just too much for me. Before those 3 things, I was a neat and trim slimbo...it's all etched into my body now as a part of my life, but I do still want to be a healthier weight.
My brothers OH is a large lady who has lost about 10st and still has about 8 to go. She has a lot of loose skin too, but I know she still wants to lose the weight.
And bugger what other people think. If you felt comfortable wearing a bikini as a size tiny then good for you!!

I gained 4 1/2 st with Ds and he was under 8lbs...didn't gain more than a stone with Dd and she was 2oz more than Ds. I was back to normal post Dd...
Sorry, going on a bit. Just do what you need to do for yourself and your health. Sounds like the skin is there regardless, so just do your best and go with it.

lol Solo I have now read the intro :)

Yay!!! Keep going. Read the thread/s (there are 7 behind this one) and get motivated! and well done on starting your new way of life!

Thank you :)

(Hi Kinky)

The face/ass thing is the reason I will never weigh what I weighed on my wedding day again. I was 9.5st (I'm 5ft 7") and I looked haggarded then and I was only 27. God only knows what I would look like now at 45. The wicked witch of the West probably. I am never destined to be a size 10 or probably not even a size 12 bottom. Bloody English pear-shapedness! I think all the weigh slides down my body and hangs around my butt dragging my face with it. My goal is 10.5 st I think to preserve some plumpness of face. I just want to get rid of the extra half a chin. It is a very long way off though.

Whilst we were away last week we stayed in the same rented house we stayed in 2 years ago. It was after that visit where I saw an awful silohette (sp?) of myself , reflected back at me from the glass front door every time I left the living room, that I seriously started to lose weight. It was impetus enough to lose 2 stone - I am hoping it might work its magic again because I haven't made much progress recently. I looked awful although I suspect there is a hint of the fairground crazy mirror effect going on, the one that makes you look fat, because I don't look quite so bad in RL. However, I am scared I may be deluded about that and what I see in the mirror is what I want to see and what is reflected back in that awful door is the truth!

I am giving up all things chocolate and sweets for Lent next week to help me on my way. I don't have any great religious conviction but I like to give something up for Lent as it is a defined length of time and I know I won't be deprived forever. Also it gets rid of the bad habits left over from Christmas!

You feeling any better today Solo? Have the ABs kicked in yet?

Hello B no, still hacking away. Dd rested her head on me this morning as told me that it sounded like pop corn in my chest! It does!!

You are doing really well B and should be proud. You go back to that thread we met on and see where you have come from :)

'sfunny y'know, I weighed 9st 9lbs at 20 on my wedding day and was a little under 5'11" tall...10 years later at my second try at marriage I was 9st 7lbs. I was just slim, but I've always had a scrumptious tush, wide hips and heavyish thighs. I always thought I was a pear, but I've always had a waist and I think I'm more balanced now~ possibly enough to be an hourglass.

I have on a belt that I couldn't even get around me a year ago...I've gone one notch at a time and have just done up the third hole!!