Paul McKenna's non diet. No calories, no syns, no humiliation, just shedding stones amongst friends. Thread 7.

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The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONCIOUSLY
4. STOP when you are satisfied and full

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches so forget diets, they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. The Paul McKenna system works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here is the book on AMAZON which is all you need to get started!

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

Please feel free to join us. We are friendly, supportive and successful but we're not hungry!!! so come on in and start living your new life today!

You'll be on your tod after today BB i'm afraid 'cos as I said we're off to blighty tomorrow and I don't have my own compooter in London (i do look at Dh's for my emails but I don't go online for long 'cos a lot of babysitting and shopping beckons !! I'll pop in just before Xmas but of course (like everyone else) i'll be busy which Iam now so i'll go.

Hope you see some posters, Merry Christmas to you all

I'm still here, just not really posting much atm.

pp Merry Christmas.xx

Niecie I'm struggling right now to tell the truth and yes, I too was due on, but seem to have missed it again :( makes me feel old...so I eat.
The Dc's are driving me crazy....so I eat.
I have naff all money...so I eat.
My place is a tip and I have 10 round the table for Christmas...so I eat.
Own worst enemy...so. I. Eat :(

Solo, it sounds a bit tough at the moment.

Are you going back to work in January?

My house is also a tip - it seems to be indicative of my general state of mind most of the time. Thankfully, the PIL have been for their stay and nobody is coming round at Christmas at all this year (we have to go to my mum's as my dad can't cope with coming here) so no incentive to tidy up really. I hope you do better than me and rather than running round like a blue-arsed fly, probably on Christmas morning, shouting at the children, you manage to get something done before the day so you can relax.

Come back and have a moan any time, if it helps. We have broad shoulders!

Aw, thanks Niecie.
I feel an emotional wreck right now tbh. I'm all sad and angry...plaster a smile on my face for the benefit of everyone else, but inside, I feel like I'm dying emotionally :(. I'm having some counselling, but I've done that before and I have to admit that it's never helped. I have so much more that's gone on for me since the last lot nearly 3 years ago...:(

It looks like I wont need to think about work for a while yet as the condescending bitch woman at the JC+ said that it'll take some months to get to me (she said loads more too which I wont bore you with, but you can see by my strike through what kind of attitude she had), so I should be ok til at least April which only partially helps me...I need 12 months.

I just a few minutes ago knocked on a neighbours door to collect a parcel. My old friendBill used to live there and he died 4 years ago aged 92. I really miss him. I miss my Dad too and now I'm sobbing my heart out.

I have got to sort my place out and I've got to sort out the Dc's sleeping arrangements as they are driving me to distraction every night, but all of that is going to be such hard work. Redecoration, some plastering...it's the energy that's going to cost me the most though as my ME is not great.

So, I'm going to have a cup of tea and then try to get started on the sorting of Solo's house...it will take a long time and I only have this week when the Dc's are at school. I may have to see if I can farm them over to Mum for a few days next week though I know she wont be best pleased about that.

Thanks for listening. Or not.

Solo big hugs, it all sounds horrible

My head is all over the place atm and I really must focus this week otherwise the scales are going to be heading in the wrong direction.
There is some uncertainty over DH's job which isn't helping matters.

Oh Solo. You sound knackered by everything. I don't mind listening at all although I do feel a bit useless just sitting here reading a screen. If we were neighbours I could come round and offer tea, sympathy and a spare pair of hands for a few hours but I can't do much from here except listen. I suppose I could give you one of these but it isn't the same.

At least the job thing is sort of good news. A few more months will give you a breathing space to do some stuff and hopefully some sort of plan will finally present itself. Or a lottery win, that would be good too!

I am glad you are having counselling and I hope you have found the right counsellor and the right sort of counselling for you. It makes a difference in my limited experience. However, they can't make the money and health troubles go away I know, which would probably get rid of the need for a counsellor in a stroke! I can see why it might feel a bit of a waste of time from that point of view but stick with it for a bit and hopefully it will make you feel better on some level, help feel stronger.

Children can be a pain in the arse can't they but if it makes you feel any better, I think today mine would say their mother is. I shouted at mine this morning. They weren't being that bad really although DS2 was squaring up for a fight about his coat and yelling at him nipped that in the bud but it is not the way to start the week. Talk about getting out of bed on the wrong side!!

Are you even thinking about Pauling or has it all been forgotten for a bit? Maybe it should be forgotten - I sometime think that by thinking about losing weight you end up eating more because food is on your mind. You definitely have to be in the right place and perhaps now is not the time.

Whether you are or you aren't thinking about Pauling, keep posting if you want to.

Thank you my friends and thanks for the virtual cuppa.

I don't know if this counsellor is any good as she is actually not qualified yet ~ I'm one of her 'projects' in order to qualify. I don't mind. I do though, really hope it helps me because I can't go on like this. It just feels like life is flinging more and more crap on top of an already mile high mountain of crap...some time or other, I can see an avalanche occuring and the last time that happened, I ended up in a pshyciatric ward for 3 months. Was a long time ago, but so so fresh in my memory. I was 24 back then, so almost half my life ago. I have had troubles since then that have affected me and my mental state and the worst time was when Dd was a baby and constantly screamed. I actually planned to kill the three of us it got so bad :( but thank God she stopped screaming at 6 months and my head cleared of those thoughts :( it was a horrible time and I felt so abandoned and alone. Not much better now, but I keep telling myself that I'm a grown up and have to just keep going, but it's hard.

I'm not Pauling, no. Haven't for a long time now tbh. I suppose I should try to get back to it.

The kids aren't getting much for Christmas this year again and even the books that I usually buy are by the wayside as Ds only wants one set and they are hugely expensive and I just can't do it :( The Book People are normally very good prices, but they aren't so good this year and the set still adds up to a huge amount, so he'll just not get them.

Right, back to the housework...

Oh solo I wish I could help Are the books available 2nd hand at all or only new?

Solo, what are the books he is after then?

I have no idea if they are available 2nd hand.

I'm a bit annoyed with him tbh as I have been asking him which books he'd like for Christmas for a while, but he kept saying none . I did/do know that he's making his way through the set he'd now like through the school library, but he gets so frustrated when the next one in the set is out with someone else, hence why I thought I'd get them for him. I know he'd read them over and over, so it doesn't feel like a waste to buy them, I just wish they weren't so expensive :( and also, I had some Amazon vouchers which were about to run out, so I spent them just last week, days before he said he'd like them. Grrr! KIDS!!!

Ok, I've ordered them. I found 11 out of the 12 from Scholastic books at a brilliant price and ordered the 12th from Amazon. It was the Cherub series niecie.

Oh fab - they look really good actually! I shall make a mental note for when my boys are bigger :) How old is your DS?

I think kids have no idea about giving you warning on presents, or cashflow, or anything like that. I know I was.
I think boys especially can be oblivious to the realities and practicalities of life, when I compare DS1 to girls his age that is certainly the case but perhaps that is just my parenting!!

Solo - glad you got sorted. The books look like the sort of thing DH would like DS1 to read so he can eventually palm off all his old thrillers onto him but DS doesn't seem interested at the moment!! They look like a good read though. Maybe DS2 will like them more when he has grown out of animals and football stories.

I had a look at the Scholastic site - I have not come across that one before so know what I will be perusing this evening. I could waste hours on book sites and book shops come to that!

Alibaba - if you are on the look out for books and are planning your boys' future reading you might like my favourite book site for children - Lovereading4kids.co.uk. I don't buy off them because they can be pricey and Amazon is easier - I just visit for ideas. DS1 loves reading and is very good at it but he gets totally bamboozled by having to chose a book in a book shop or libraray so I end up having to make suggestions - I think it is part of his condition - sensory overload or something. He likes going to book shops but tends to head for stuff he knows rather than find new things. This site makes suggestions which is useful and puts them into age categories and you can download extracts too.

My Ds is 13. He gets through a book a day!!!
I found that site by chace actually and am very pleased to have done so. I have got the 11 books for £29.99 and a gift worth 5 or 6 £ (through Topcashback with a promo code, so I'll get cashback too!!!), free P&P and £6.00 of free books for Ds's school!!!
Are you both members of Topcashback? if not, mind if I recommend you as I'll get money for doing so once you've earned so much back, so win win!!! :)
I ordered the 12th book through Amazon (which I hate!) and after I'd chosen the cheapest option to buy and paid p&p, it showed me another which was over £2 cheaper!! another reason to dislike Amazon!

I used to be a bookworm like that before I had the boys - having hours to read is one of the things I miss the most!

I have never heard of Topcashback, just had a look and yes very happy for you to recommend me :) I am annoyed that I didn't know about it, I have bought a lot of things recently through sites which are linked there!! Oh well, at least I know now. :)

BBB - that site is amazing. I am reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory to DS1 atm, and he is incredibly amused (obviously) by 'Willy Wonker' and keeps bursting into giggles. It is the most joyous experience

I have a bit of a love hate thing going on with reading to my boys. On the one hand I don't like that I don't get to start my evening because I have to read to one or the other of them but on the other hand I find myself hanging on to the spending time reading with DS1 even though he is 11 and reads very well by himself.. We are reading the Hitcherhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series at the moment, on the last one, and it is so much fun reading stuff like that and hearing DS laugh. Plus, because of how he is, it is a chance to get to spend some time with him without him walking away or asking for food/drink/telly/computer games. I read something by one of the childrens' laureates a while back who said we should all read to our children into adulthood if possible and I reckon that would be sort of lovely..... sometimes!

I am also reading Charlie and the Chocolate factory with DS2 at the moment - probably about the 5th time he has read it/had it read to him. I reckon he was about 3ish the first time he heard it. It also has a good flow to it, doesn't it? Such lovely language. Like Hitchhiker's it is a good one to read aloud. The only issue I have with it is that social services and the benefits system seem to have let the family fall through the net and that the father doesn't seem to be even on the minimum wage in toothpaste factory. Carrots and onions are cheaper than cabbage too so what's with the cabbage soup all the time. And they don't seen to have a toilet so I wonder what the old people do for the loo! Do you reckon I might be overthinking it?!

Oh sorry, forgot to say yes to Topcashback if you want to sign me up Solo. I am not very good at remembering things like this but I will try.

I think you are overthinking it My Mum has never been able to read Lord of the Rings type things because she gets too annoyed with the lack of detail around the production of food and people having clean underpants.

The language has a wonderful flow, we started with Fantastic Mr Fox which feels lovely in the mouth as you read. Dahl was a genius.

DS1 is 3.5, and he was quite wide-eyed at the description of the poverty.

Oooh! lovely, thank you both! just try to remember to go the TCB each time you shop online...it really does add up!

I have PM'd you both.

Solo, I PM'ed you back again.

Hello, Ok just off to look Niecie.

Gosh, things have gone very quiet haven't they?!

Hope you are all OK.

hello Niecie! yes they have!! but I had a lovely surprise this morning! I had been convinced I'd gone way back over the 14st mark, but I stepped on the scales for the first time in ages and there it was!!! I have not gained more than the 5lbs that I had gained 5 months ago! so I've decided to get cracking with iit all again after Christmas!!

Solo that is good!

I'm not putting any on, but it isn't coming off either. I want to lose 5lbs before my brother's wedding in February which I think is very doable if only i can focus myself.

I read a good article the other day from some personal trainer to the stars or other, with a few points to try not to go off the rails over Christmas. Eat cheese not cake was one of them, which I thought was a good rule!