THE ULTIMATE WEIGHT LOSS PLAN EVER!!! COME AND JOIN US AND PAUL MCKENNA !!

[Solo]

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONCIOUSLY
4. STOP when you are satisfied

I've C&P'd part 5's links as they are helpful.

Here is the book on AMAZON which is all you need to get started!

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful for cravings.

Please feel free to join us. We are friendly, supportive and successful but we're not hungry!!! so come on in :)

Hello ladies. I don't seem to have posted for a few days. Had a bit of a hectic week last week. Hope everybody is OK today.

DS1 starts in a new class today after the shinnigans with him being taken out of the mainstream at the start of term by his new school. Just hope he is OK and he proves to everybody that we made the right decision. I don't want him to be even more messed about! He was so enthusiastic this morning, it would be a shame if the school were right plus I would look a fool.

I really need to start listening to the CD I think but I am reading a good book at the moment and when I go to bed I keep reading that and then don't have time for the CD!

Hope everybody has a good week.

Niecie - I listen to the CD once I have put the light out to go to sleep. It doesn't wat into reading time then .

Ok day here today, soooo tired due to staying up too late last night. My parents were here and we had cheese and too much wine. They did take the boys out for an hour though so I had a nap this afternoon which was lovely. I had the house to myself for the first time since I had DS2!

Early night needed tonight.

I seem to be doing alright, except for the weighing. I signed up to a fat club at work before I started Pauling so it's difficult to avoid. Anyway, the weight is coming off so it's actually quite motivating.

Tarty well done

I'm having a tough few days, mainly due to tiredness. Both boys awake in the night last night again. Grrrrr.

I'm still here and static. Seem to have gone off wanting to scales hop every day 5 minutes but nothing is happening and I've got to do something soon...got lots of stressy stuff going on with Ds and my life atm which is not helpful

Hello! It is a bit quiet round here this week!

I am doing OK. Actually, for a change, I am doing well. I feel in control. It has been a good week although it might go a bit to pot as I am going out tonight for a pizza with two friends who I haven't seen properly for quite a while. I might have one of the 'light' pizzas anyway as they are very nice and then I won't have to leave loads. And because it has salad in the middle, I won't have to order a gigantic salad all to myself. But if I over eat, who cares. I shall just continue to follow the rules as soon as it is finished.

Part of the reason I am in control is that DS1 is sorted in his school and for the first time since the beginning of term I don't feel like I need to be fretting about him. I do fret about him, as he has been moved up 2 classes and I am worried that he won't physically be able to keep up with the writing and note taking required, but it isn't a full-on, sleepless night fret any more which makes a pleasant change.

Also, I am busy I think. Not blue-arsed fly busy like last week but pleasantly absorbed. I have started a City and Guilds design and craft course and have spent a long time and a lot of money messing about with paints and colours. Very absorbing.

Does anybody else find, when they are very busy, that they have trouble slowing down their eating? I had a very hectic day last Wednesday and I found myself at one point, eating a currant bun the kitchen standing up at such a rate of knots that it bearly touched the sides. I had been racing around all day so that when I got the chance to slow down and eat something (I was hungry) I was still rushing. It was very weird. Actually what was weird was reaslising that was what I was doing.

Solo, hope your DS is OK. Is he the problem or is he having problems? (Don't say if you don't want to). Hope you feel better soon too.

Alibaba - have your parents gone? I sympathise with rude parents although you sound like you can at least talk normally to your parents and their rudeness, although horrible, isn't constant. I have long since gone passed that point with my father. I totally get the 'I'll show you' eating you mentioned a few days ago.

Hello to Caer and Tarty. You sound like you are doing really well.

Hello everyone. I have been keeping a record of everything I have been eating but haven't weighed myself yet though I might do tomorrow. I am doing well I think but I have this horrible feeling I won't have lost anything which will really confuse and upset me.

I am still not fully well after last nights ambulance summons but dh has taken ds1 to look at a school and dd and ds2 will be going to bed shortly so I can just chill.

Niecie, Ds is not really the problem, but he told someone at school about something he really should've said nothing about to anyone, (involves a boy of 13/14 and a drunk passed out girl of similar age), a vile act (alleged) and a video being made of it. The boy in question has got the arse that my Ds has told a boy that has basically spread the tale around the school. Ds is afraid for his safety, but wont let me interfere. I've said I wont interfere unless this boy touches my Ds, then I'll be making lots of noise. My worry outside of my worry for my own child, is that a girl was (allegedly) sexually assaulted whilst unconscious and she doesn't seem to want to do anything about it, even though she appears to know it happened (must have been told). You can see why I'm at a loss here...?!

FAB why the ambo?

That sounds awful . My advice would be to inform the school.

I thought I was having a severe asthma attack and several puffs off two inhalers did nothing to relief it so nhs direct sent an ambulance. Turned out it was an anxiety attack and I had another on that lasted all of yesterday too.

I weighed myself today and I have lost 4lbs in total since I started writing down everything I ate and drank since the 24th September. I weighed myself on the 25th and lost 3lbs that first day and 1lb since. A pound a week is the usual recommended/expected weight loss isn't it? Slow off = stays off? I plan to walk to school and back which will be a round tip of 1.5 miles so that will help.

How is everyone else doing?

Fab what a nightmare. I am asthmatic, and I get panic attacks and it is really hard to tell them apart at times. I also find that one tends to lead to the other, which is helpful. Not

Solo what a horrendous situation :( I haven't got kids of this age yet obviously, but isn't this one of those times when you just pull rank and say 'I'm the adult, this is what we are going to do'? I don't envy you at all.

Niecie well done on the eating, you do sound really calm about it :)
I actually have a really good relationship with my parents, we just have these occasionally blips. And I am getting much better at being firm with them about boundaries without losing my rag, and after I had spoken to Dad the other night they haven't said anything. We saw them on Sunday, they came up here and stayed and we had a lovely evening. Then they looked after the boys for a couple of hours on Monday afternoon while I went to bed.
We even choose to go on holiday with them sometimes

My eating is going a bit wrong atm. I am just so knackered that I can't get my head straight. I'm not putting any weight on, but none is coming off either.

Oh Solo, that is a real dilemma isn't it? If you hear something second or third hand it is a difficult call on whether you can really say anything and if the girl won't talk then going to the police is going to achieve nothing. Do they all go to the same school - the girl included? The fault lies with the boy who blabbed really not your DS who only told one person but I don't suppose the other boy sees it like that. I just hope it was some teenage prank that the boy made look much more or worse than it really is.

I have been thankful that because I don't have a daughter that I have avoided the worst of the teenage sex/pregnancies worries but actually I think the situation that boy has created is the male equivilent - the worry that as teenage boys my DSs won't get the boundaries quickly enough to stop one of them getting into serious trouble.

I haven't a clue what to do on this one, thinking about it. I just wouldn't know where to start so I don't envy you.

Fab I'm all for an evening out but not in an ambulance! Hope you are feeling better. That must have been scary.

On the plus side, losing 4lbs is great! Well done!

Alibaba - be kind to yourself. Not putting on is good and if you manage that when faced with the sleep deprivation of the pre-school years you are doing well in my book.. It means you are still in control. Glad your parental issues are only blips and you enjoyed their visit.

My night out was OK. I ate all the pizza but it was a light one and one of those tiny deserts they make in Pizza Express which are just made for people like me who want desert but never have room. I shouldn't have had a slice of fresh bread and butter when I made the boy's packed lunches late last night (oh the lure of fresh bread!) but we will gloss over that in an otherwise OK sort of week.

I think Ds is Ok and survived to the weekend. I think that I am just going to stay out of it unless this boy does anything to my Ds. I don't like to think that something awful has happened to this young girl and that no one has stood up for her, but I don't know anything first hand and as you say, if she wont make a complaint, then there is no point in saying anything. God help anyone that ever touches my Dd though .

No indeed, Solo. Alcohol has a lot to answer for doesn't it. Girls getting attacked and assaulted, boys getting beaten up - I am really dreading that entering the equation and it doesn't sound like it is far off if 13 and 14 year olds are involved.

The advantage of having DS1 with his SN is that I can't imagine him having much of a social life. It is sad but at least he will be safe, sat at home on the sofa with his parents (poor child). I can imagine DS2 being another kettle of fish though. That boy is going to like to party! Hopefully he will remain sensible but I am sure we will have some difficult times with him.

Is anybody else too hot? I hate this weather. Anything over 23C is too hot for me.

Last night I was just thinking to myself I haven't had puffy ankles for ages and today, they have ballooned a bit. Typical.

That is not the point or the case tbh. My advice to you would be to ring the non emergency phone line for the police and tell them what you know and only what you know. They will advise you if you need to do anything else. If this girl has been assaulted one day she may well regret not saying anything and the magnitude of what she has experienced may well be too much to get over.

I realise that sounds like I am putting pressuire on you and I am really not. I just thing people doing nothing when they know something can cause a lot of pain.

Do you know for sure that something actually happened Solo? I am wondering if the girl was just asleep and the boy was playing the 'big man' (although obviously a sick warped version of a big man) and making it look like he did something when he didn't. I really can't see what the police can do without the girl making a complaint. It is all hearsay or some horrible sick prank.

Is it just the rumour that has gone round the school or the actual recording?

But I don't actually know anything FAB, I'd just be relaying hearsay which is worth nothing.
My Ds has a really hard time at school and I don't want to move him despite him often asking; it's an excellent school as far as learning and qualifications are concerned. He had totally changed his mindset since going back 4 weeks ago and was doing really well. I don't want that to change and my first concern in this case is my own child. Harsh as that sounds, Ds is a bullied child and I don't want to make things worse for him.

Afaik, no recording has been seen. Ds said he hasn't seen it, it's just a verbal relay.

My first reaction was to go to the police, but I don't think there's anything that can be done without the girls cooperation and if I were to start the ball rolling in the sense that the girl is questioned, the boy is questioned, Ds is questioned etc etc, then everything is dropped because everyone (including the girl) says it didn't happen; Ds's life is going to be unbearable and I'm sick of cuddling and comforting a crying 13yo because he's so unhappy.

I do understand. Just a really awful situation. Do you know the mother to talk too or do you think you could talk to the school? If it is all made up then it needs stopping?

Solo I can understand that, and you are right, your first thought must be your own child. As he is uninvolved in the actual thing that (allegedly) happened, i don't think you need to feel that you ought to say anything.

I have to say that it does sound like the kind of idiotic thing kids that age make up, because they don't actually realise the full import and ramifications of such a thing.

We've had a nice afternoon. DH finished work early and we got the paddling pool out for the boys. Then DS1 got in the sandpit and got sand all over us, so I took the boys in the bath while DH BBQ'd. Just trying to get them into bed now so that we can flop.
I must get more sleep tonight. If any of you see me around the boards after 10pm please tell me to go to bed!

No, I don't know any of the parents.

I'm not going to go to the school either, not unless the crapola hits the fan and sprays Ds.

I think you are right Solo. There isn't much you can actually do anyway, unless your DS was there when the event happened (I won't call it a crime as I am still hoping that it is either some sick brag or a set up where the girl wasn't actually assaulted and it just looked like it). The police won't be interested at all and the school will be stuck in the 'his word against your word' situation if you reported and still won't be able to do anything.

The girl has to come forward but short of forcing her into it I don't think you can and even if you did, it wouldn't be your place to do that. That is the job of her friends and family, not a stranger.

I'm so bloody angry. Ds often stays with my Mum over weekends and there are little gits kids that I keep telling Ds are not his friends, but he is taken in by their occasional friendliness and goes off to 'hang around' with them. Today, they were apparently all laying in the sunshine, Ds with his trainers next to him and when he woke up...trainers gone, socks gone and my Mums (ancient) mobile phone and Ds's free bus pass all gone...they bloody well robbed him. He has one trainer, Mums phone minus the battery and nothing else. He had to walk home and ended up with glass in his foot (I haven't seen it yet). Apparently the culprit snapped the pass in half and flicked it somewhere; this according to another boy. So now Ds can't get to and from school without paying, he can't do games and PE at school or wear anything other than his Primark plimsolls and my Mum can't take out her mobile phone which she has in case of emergencies as I don't have the money to replace any of this stuff (will take weeks to get replacement pass and cost £15). I'm livid.

FFS what is wrong with some people? .

I may have an old mobile knocking about if that is any good to you?

I could also have some plimsols.