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So what am I doing wrong?

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 15:25

In the last 2-3 years I have put on 2-3 stone almost without realising it. I have been exercising on and off for about 4 months and trying to eat better. I haven't lost a thing. My weight is up and down and I am just so fed with it all.

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Tortington · 18/09/2010 15:27

go to the doctor and get checked out make sure it isn't medical. if it isn't you are just not doing it properly. i tried a few weightloss plans and the worst is telling myself that i could just eat 3 small meals and that going up the stairs at work twice was excersise!

so i finally found my weighloss plan that worked. for me it is low carbing. i am quite strict about my carb intake and i don't fuck around telling myself that just a small potion of pasta is ok- becuase it isn't.

if you are intrested in this plan, click on my name and follow the link to my MN blog where there is some information.

hth and good luck

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 15:31

I have been to the GP so many times and all blood tests come back fine. I saw him again yesterday and he agreed to do more but keeps telling me I am fine.

I come from a family where the mother and both grandmothers were large in middle age and I just do not want that for me and my children.

I just don't have a clue about calories and what I should eat and I also have food issues which I fail totally to deal with.

I will click on your name now, thank you very much.

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 15:40

What vegetables can I have and is it no fruit full stop?

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Tortington · 18/09/2010 15:52

no fruit.

this is about no sugar - no natural sugar - no sugar.

this is about - if you cheat - you have fucked up the previous 3 days of dieting.

this is about taking responsability and admitting you are fat and you want to do something about it.

i took this option after i was fucking fed up to the back teeth, after i realised that i was the fat bird in the room and no matter what i wore i wasn't attractive. that i could only shop in fat girl shops, that my doctor asked if i was pregnant as soon as i walked in

that i refused to eat in front of people becuase i thought they would think horrid things about the fat girl eating.

the excuses i made for myself were endless, tomottow tomorrow - i was always doing it tomorrow.

oh i just bought grapes - i'll eat the grapes i'll do it tomorrow.

i haven't got the money for a protein ( meat) rich diet, i'll do it when i get paid.

if you want to do it do it.

google, find out things
favourite recipes n the puter
favourite blogs that help
add www.fitday.com and mark your progress
write yourself a chart
buy yourself some decent scales

tell yourself i am doing it right now. throw the grapes n the bin.

or don't do it and be unhappy

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 15:54

The kids can have the grapes Smile.

I have some digital scales but they are 11 years old and I tell myself they aren't accurate but accept it if it says I have lost an ounce or something Hmm

My weight has been lost 9lbs, put on 5lbs, stayed the same for 2 days this week. All over the place. And by breasts are far too big.

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 15:55

my not by.

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Tortington · 18/09/2010 15:57

invest in new scales - you need to be confident about your weighloss, you need to punch the air and pat yourself on the back when you have lost 2lbs in a DAY!

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 16:02

Can you recommend any please?

With the meat, I am wondering if I would be better cooking a joint and then slicing it to eat for lunch rather than buying the packs with 2-4 slices in?

So far I have tried 8 usernames and all used already on fitday.com!

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 16:04

Can I have cereal?

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Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:05

yes why not, i dont cook joints - as (ironically) i am not a huge meat eater, i love fruit and veg, but then i was fat!

spices are the key

Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:05

NO!!

look up no carb!

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 16:06

Do you eat more fish then?

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pinkbasket · 18/09/2010 16:06

Oops Blush.

I am going to get the kids and will go via the shops to get what I can eat.

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thelunar66 · 18/09/2010 16:14

Agree with Custy... absolutely no carbs is the only way.

Struggling with this at the moment. Put on 10lb sneakily over the last year Sad

Alcohol is my weak point.

Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:22

yes, if you like fish ( i don't unless its from the chippy - which i cant have lol) then this diet is for you, if you like fish you are laughing

count your carbs - try 20 a day, now if you consider that ONE slice of bread may be that or more - its not as easy as you think

you have to get a varb value for your vegetables - google them. toms and onions are high carb, no root veg ( although radish are ok i found out recently) my stapes are cabbage, cauli, leek and onion - onion is my downfall.

chipmonkey · 18/09/2010 16:30

Can I be the voice of dissent?

I don't think cutting out whole food groups is a good plan long-term. I used to do a no-fat diet, yes, I lost weight and looked great but it was unsustainable because in the back of my head I was always waiting to go "off the diet" to eat chips or chocolate again and I knew in my head that I was not going to live my entire life without ever eating those things.

I am now doing Weight Watchers which is based on calories and saturated fat levels in food and they make it easy for you by condensing calories and fat down into "points". Nothing is forbidden.

Now, I don't intend to count points forever either but what I am learning is that I can have a small breakfast, small lunch, decent dinner every day. I can have wine once a week. I can have either a takeaway or eat out once a week. I can occasionally have a little bit of chocolate or a biscuit.

How I got to the place I am is by overeating at lunch, picking up bars of chocolate on my way out of work, eating out and getting takeaways too often. Oh and having butter and mayonaise with everything.

Alcohol also a weak point here!

Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:36

vodka diet coke is the key.

dissent away! i completely agree which is why in my op i mentioned that you have to find the one that works for you

but in essence you are absolutley right, your choice at this point has to be a lifestyle choice ...forever, you can lose two stone, then eat cakes for three weeks and start over.

Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:37

CAN'T lose two stone then...

thelunar66 · 18/09/2010 16:38

Are you saying vodka diet coke is OK?

Tortington · 18/09/2010 16:43

oh to the H.E.L.L. yes!

rubyhorse · 18/09/2010 16:48

Vodka diet coke is one point on WeightWatchers Wink.

rubyhorse · 18/09/2010 16:50

As is any single measure of spirit and a sugar-free mixer. Gin and slimline tonic, whisky and soda, etc, etc. But - they have to be singles, and measured!

pointydog · 18/09/2010 16:57

I think where you might be going wrong is "on and off" and "trying" to eat better.

You have to eat less than you currently do every day until you start to see results. Nothing happens if you eat less for three days and then eat all teh usual stuff.

MollieO · 18/09/2010 16:58

I did the Idiot Proof Diet which is low carb. A mish-mash of others like South Beach and Atkins but less oppressive. Works will when I cba. Having been ill this week and lost 9lbs with no effort I've decided to have another go at low carbing as it seemed relatively easy at the time (once I was motivated). Book is a good read and has a lovely associated recipe book.

rubyhorse · 18/09/2010 17:02

I agree with Custy and chipmonkey, even if they don't quite agree with each other :). You need to follow a recognised weight loss plan.

After DS was born I had medical problems which made me put on a lot of weight. Once they were sorted, it didn't come off again, no matter how hard I tried to cut back and exercise more. I was convinced that my medication was wrong, so decided to join WeightWatchers and follow it to the letter, so that I could go back to my GP and prove it wasn't working. Guess what? I lost over two stone!

There are loads of options out there, and one of them will work. There's low carbing, low GI, WeightWatchers, Slimming World, Scottish Slimmers, and all the replacement shakes type ones, and some online ones that Tesco and Sainsbury's do. If I were you, though, if you're not confident on food groups and so on, then I'd choose a little bit of everything and count it type diet, and one with a weekly meeting so that you can get lots and lots of advice as you start off. But it's your choice!