Need to loose A LOT of weight.... fancy joining me?

[phoenixflower]

I need to loose half my body weight to be considered a healthy weight.

Started today and would love to support and have the support of others!

Who fancies joining me?

I was told by my uk gp to ignore the bmi. To reach my ideal weight according to bmi I need to lose 5 stone. He said that if I lost 5 stone I would be being treated for an eating disorder. I have very broad shoulders, 38HH boobs which don't go down with weight loss (they were this big when I was a size 12 ). My waist is a large size 14/small 16 and my legs are very slim. Bmi is based on the 'average' person and in order to get an average you have to have extremes so it will never work for everyone. That said, where I live now they do everything by bmi so I'm screwed!!

Hi, I'll join here if that's Ok please.

I'm on a mission to lose some of my weight, I have already lost 2 stone, want to lose enough to get into size 14s comfortably, think I have 5 stone to get to that point, currently in size 18tops and 20-22 bottoms. Am a lot heavier than I look, but hey ho. Want to lose a couple of stone and then TTC, will keep trying until (hopefully) getting preg and then maintain a healthy food plan throughout - well that's the plan.

Puddlepuss I'm so pleased to see a post from someone who has not experienced GPs saying you need to be in a certain BMI. BMI is a very bad judge of things, there are people who play rugby, who are fit, muscular and toned, very little fat and their 'BMI' is probably way over 30, but you would never consider them to be overweight. I personally am going for a clothes size as opposed to a weight, although I am going for a certain weight before I start TTC!!

100years, Exactly! My dh is 6'4 and very muscley without an ounce of fat but is on the boarder of overweight/obese. There's no way on earth he's overweight - stupid stupid stupid system (he's a rugby player btw). I've decided that at size 14/16 and 14.5 stone none of it matters as ,ong as you're comfortable with yourself and healthy. Good luck with the weight loss and the ttc and congrats on the 2 stone already gone!

Thanks puddle :)

Just bumping so I don't lose this.

Me too. Being crap today and last couple of days so don't feel like posting but will be back soon.

hi everyone

keep smiling and being healthy

Post anyway, Silver, and we'll try to talk you out of your crapness!

Thanks MrsKitty. Was just considering what to get for lunch (whether to be 'fat' or 'good') and thought i'd just check on this thread in case it motivated me to be good. and your message has worked, i'll go for the low fat option and try to get back on track. Thanks you!

I weighed myself yesterday and there was no difference in a week. I wasn't really expecting there to be but there was a little bit of me hoping..... Still, it inspired me to do 20 mins on the Wii Fit (when I had planned to lie on the sofa with MN while the kids were in bed) and I didn't die!! So positive news really

Good for you, Silver- What did you have?

at PuddlePuss not dying . I really need to start doing some exercise - I just don't know how people do it with small children- where's the time?

The countdown is on for my return to work...Want to lose as much as I can before then (and would like to actually fit in to some work clothes TBH!)

i went for the low (well, lower) fat option - prawn sandwich, low fat crisps and raw carrots and houmous (sp?). Not that low in points but i have to eat a reasonable amount or i eat loads when i get home. And to be honest, my fat opion would have been a more substantial lunch then drive across to morrisons and buy sweets/chocolate/whateevr i fancied and eat 5 times my daily points allowance in one sitting (is it any wonder i pile on the weight if not sticking to a diet rigidly?!).

I managed to lose some weight before returning to work after mat leave - like you i was determined to fit into some normal work clothes, and also didn't want to shock my colleagues with my massive weight gain. i have however put on two stone since then . Anyway, if you're still on mat leave at least you have an excuse for being overweight - my DS is now 2.5 and i still have a big fat baby tummy!

Can't really use baby as an excuse for fatness this time around- I had Gestational Diabetes with DD so had to be really careful with my diet...As a result I weighed less when she was born than I did when I got pregnant. It's the neverending shovelling of chocolate I've been doing since she was born that's piled another 2 stone on to my already not-insubstantial bodyweight .

Still, it's going, and I'm still feeling positive about weightwatchers 7 weeks in (which is the first time in a long time that I've actually been feeling good & positive about my ability to do this). I'm hopeful that a decent loss before I go back will keep me motivated to carry on once I'm at work again. (does finger crossing count as exercise? )

Hello everyone! I've had quite a bad week as we had a naming ceremony for our daughter on Sunday and then I returned to work after mat leave on monday (although I've dropped to 3 days a week and so have finished for the week today!). I have been so disorganised, dd was teething and up until 3 am on Sunday night so ended up with take away on Monday night.

I was doing that burying my head in the sand and not looking on here, then glimpsed Silver's message and realised it wasn't just me that was feeling that way. I have since weighed after work tonight to see the damage and have lost a lb so I am now just under 17 stone. Obviously that is still a lot, but it's nice to be under that stone mark.

MrsKitty - really glad you're feeling so positive! It makes me feel positive about things too.

Silver that sounds like a scrummy good lunch - well done you!

Puddlepuss - you are inspiring me to use my WiiFit when dd is asleep soon...

Aaaarrrgghh!!! I feel even worse now that I've heard how well you are doing! (and hendo, you too are excused by baby fat whereas my baby fat is now toddler-and-before-you-know-it-pre-schooler fat ).

As I said, I was doing ok earlier but on my way home from work I stopped off and bought a pack of five large bakery cookies, two choc bars and a pizza for my tea ( v v ). I've eaten it all (can't believe i'm admitting it, thank god it's anonymous on here) as dh is working late. Feel sick and so pissed off with myself. I know, I know that tomorrow is another day etc but I'm so fed up with this fucking cycle I get into.

I always do this, I do ok then feel absolutely COMPELLED to break my diet in a spectacular fashion . Or sometimes I don't even notice the compulsion, I just binge and barely even notice what I'm doing (or of course i know what I'm doing, but I barely think about the consequences).

Anyway, tomorrow is another day and all that ......

Positive thoughts, Silver. Even when you really don't feel like it . It makes a huge difference. Last nights binge is not the end of the world - forget about it, and get back on the wagon this morning.

silver28 I was doing well until dd woke up every hour, 3 times an hour last night. In the end I gave up, went downstairs and ate crisps and chocolate. While I was eating them I knew I shouldn't be but I find that when I'm feeling down or stressed my brain can tell me that I shouldn't be eating crap but somewhere in me there is an overide button and my hand has an automatic movement from packet to mouth. If this happens I just have to move on to the next day and try again (while mentally beating myself up because my rational side has an overide button too!)

hope your DD is ok silver? how old is she? forgive yourself for eating rubbish and move on - its the only way
also try and think of the nice new clothes you can have

we have had an awful weekend with DD too, she scalded her foot on saturday and 6 blisters developed. lots of tears and crying and hopping like a rabbit.
3 hours at A&E is not the best way to spend a saturday evening
she is getting better now and managing ok at school [loving the attention actually] .....

pheonixflower hope all is well with you, if you're feeling like it come back and let us know how you're doing. You have done me the most massive favour by starting this thread...

silver not sure that excuse I can actually use as my DD is 9 months old and I was exactly the same weight about 3 weeks after giving birth as I was before getting pregnant. I have type 2 diabetes usually controlled by tablets but it had to be controlled using insulin during pregnancy so I had to be superstrict about what I was eating. I was just very overweight before!!! I am hoping to lose lot of weight before trying for number two in the hope it will help with my glucose control second time round!

silver and aristocat hope your dd's both feel better soon.

I also know exactly what you mean about being compelled to just go crazy. When I fall off the wago I tend to properly binge like you describe and then hate myself for doing it, but once I get it into my head that I want to do it I tend to just obsess about it until I do. No idea why it happens, or why i can't ignore it. I've been trying not to then 'overcompensate' by eating nothing or too little the rest of the day or next day as I think I then get into a bit of a cycle and keep doing it. I'm trying just to start again almost straight after and I am finding so far that tactic seems to have helped me in the last few weeks...

thanks hendo

Hi all. Hendo, I completely agree with what you say, re obsessing over eating something ( eg chocolate) and not being able to ignore the feeling until I've given in and eaten it (and then feel like shit, overcompensate, obsess, eat, feel like shit.......). You're right, we just need to be normal after 'failing' as otherwise it turns into a cycle, but it is do hard.

By the way, it was puddlepuss who's DD was i
up all night, not me. I only have a DS (and he's fine by the way )

Duh! Must learn to read.

puddlepuss hope your dd is feeling better and that you catch up on sleep soon.

can i join you all, im a size 18/20 top and size 20/22 trousers, im 5ft 9 and weigh 19st 7lbs and very ashamed of it!!! ive been on orlistat for a month and lost nothing whatsoever so im trying to be inspired and trying to try harder and am going to look around a gym tomorrow to see if i can motivate myself to join, will see if everyone there is thin or fat, if everyone is too thin im not going as i wont have the confidence!!! im in mansfield in notts if anyone by any chance is near here and wants to meet to support each other please do i need all the support i can get!!! im getting married next year and dont fit in my dress i think i need to loose about 4 stone by august to gte into my dress with no alterations but by bmi to get to normal weight i think i need to loose about 7/8 stone but i dunno. id be happy eith loosing 4/5 as felt much better when i was that size than i do now, anything else is a bonus!!

Thanks hendo although there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with her. I think she's running an experiment - let mummy have 12 hours peace one night, 2 hours the next, which mummy do we like best??? Little madam darling!

Hi MissTired. I know exactly what you mean about the gym - I wish I was nearby to have a gym buddy but I'm in the wrong country so WiiFit it is .