People noticing ?

[StrongLikeMamma]

I’ve almost 12lbs. This is amazing to me as have been 3 stone over a healthy bmi for a few years now.

I’m losing with jabs and am only on week 4. I don’t want to discuss it with anyone. But am guessing people will ask me. I just feel really defensive about sharing this information. Not sure how to handle it, if the question comes up.

Does anyone have any helpful thoughts/ advice please?

I never said she had to! but its stupid to think that people won't know you are lying just because its come off slow. Up to her what she says. I couldn't care less.

Goodness this kicked off.

no one has to tell anyone, if you consider it private medical info and wish to hide it or lie to friends and family, it’s a personal choice. Others chose to not lie or hide it.and that’s also fine.

for me, I don’t really see it as private medical info, no more than taking parcetemol for a headache, and I don’t think it’s something to hide or be ashamed of, and by lying and hiding it I think it perpetuates the myth it’s shameful. Everyone views it differently.

I’ve a friend who has now lost 9 stone, after being morbidly obese for over 3o years, he was sort of avoiding the subject but if asked he was telling everyone he did it through sheer willpower, diet and exercise, I’d bet good money he’s on the meds, not least due to his gulp reaction when I said I was on them, and now several of us are and he sits silently as we discuss it, I think it’s like he lied at first and now can’t get out of it. No one judges him though. Maybe a bit cringey but he’s a lovely guy, who started before all of us, lied , as back then you did, and now I think is too embarassed to say he’s been lying all along.

i recall the first time I said i was on them and how brilliant they were, and everyone was asking questions as they fancied it and him and his wife just sort of sat woodenly like they’d been caught out. He is lovely, but back then I think lying was way more common than it is now. And once you’ve lied it’s really hard to put your hands up and say look I know we are good mates but I’ve been lying to you for the last 18 months, 😳

No one is owed my personal medical details as a service to reduce the apparent perception of shame around WLI. If you feel you want to tell everyone for that reason then that’s up to you. No one else should be told or have it suggested that they owe a public service in this way.

This idea that not volunteering private details is being a lying liar is just so odd. So many people keep so many medical details to themselves about all kinds of topics, it’s just that losing weight eventually becomes noticeable and judgemental idiots or just people lacking in social skills are then able to interrogate you about it in a way they couldn’t do about other topics.

What definitley does perpetuate the idea that WLI are shameful is the people who trot out judgemental questions like “you’re not on those jabs are you??” Like the colleague at the clinic a PP mentioned.

I feel so sorry for your “friend” and the fact you and your other friends have been silently judging him for so long and deciding that his responses mean he’s hiding vital information from you that you’re entitled to. You still don’t know what he’s done to lose weight, for goodness sake. Yet you just know he’s a liar and his wife too. But sure, you’re not judging him.

I don’t think it’s hard at all to say “actually I have been taking the injections, I just didn’t feel comfortable telling everyone initially”. I wouldn’t judge anyone! She what? I stopped smoking with hypnosis - so what? I’ve not smoked for 20+ years. Who cares how?

I actually wonder if it’s the big food companies (who want us addicted to their sugary products) that feed the media with the negativity that the general public then churn out as gospel. It’s not in their interest for everyone to get healthy! Unless they start producing healthy foods!

I’ve lost three stone. People notice. However, few say anything because by saying ‘oh you’ve lost so much weight’ essentially translates to….you’re not obese anymore.

Some people do see it as hard though, and some think it’s private medical details, and don’t consider it lying if they make people think they did it with diet and exercise alone; I guess it depends on the person. I mean I didn’t find it hard, but I don’t think it’s shameful and I don’t see it as private medical details either,

I do think the private medical detail thing is a bandwagon being jumped on to justify why some people just really don’t want to tell people. That in some way they feel ashamed and that’s utterly tragic.

To feel ashamed of taking a prescription drug for the reasons it is prescribed. It’s something to be proud of. And it is why people are jealous, resentful and judge. Given a chance they’d all be on them if they struggle with their weight. But cost and weight limits rules a lot out.

i do think that’s why some folks lie. They feel ashamed or embarrassed.and think people will judge them as some fat loser who can’t do it alone. I can tell you they don’t think that when you’re standing there in your size ten jeans 😂

Well you’re not. So why is it an issue? Surely that’s a positive. Obesity is something we can’t hide, everyone can see it.

"I do think the private medical detail thing is a bandwagon being jumped on to justify why some people just really don’t want to tell people. That in some way they feel ashamed and that’s utterly tragic."

This is another case of you making a judgement in the face of people either telling you nothing or actually telling you the exact opposite, @Brightlittlecanary

Yes, everything on a chat forum is pretty much that, it’s opinion. A judgment. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Posts like this, with the kind of language you’ve used are exactly part of the problem. Calling people “ashamed” or “tragic” for keeping medical stuff private just feeds the same types of judgments you claim to dislike.

Anyone has the right to share or not to share what they want, it’s called boundaries, they are not a flaw to be picked apart. Not everyone feels the need to turn their medical information into a round robin Christmas card.

People on here bang on about other people being fat all the time. There’s lots of judgement.
I’m not planning on lying. I just don’t want to talk about my weight. Fat or thin.

It’s good to know few people comment!

Only DH knows.

Exactly.

Thank you. Lovely message 🙌

I'm slim, always have been.

I wouldn't care at all if a friend lost weight using WLI! I'd be happy for them. I wouldn't mention it unless they brought it up first. Because...why would I? I don't tend to comment on people's bodies. I hate it when people comment on mine!

I agree that if someone is judging you for getting help with a medical problem, then they are not a good friend.

Ive been using WLI since feb, nobody noticed or asked (outside immediate family who knew) until literally the last 2/3 weeks, started at 15 stone 8 and currently 12.2 so has been slow and steady loss.
The last 2 weeks, literally have lost 2 more lbs and loads of comments from work colleagues. Possibly because ive finally stopped drowning myself in old clothes and now am wearing smaller clothes that fit better!
To anyone thats directly asked Ive replied that ive been on a health kick, eat less, move more. I also had a close bereavement in the summer so I think they assume grief related weight loss too. Ive only had one person ask directly if I was taking 'those horrible injections!'
Frankly its no ones bloody business but ultimately people will make their own assumptions.

Well done to you! 🎉
It’s those kind of questions that are just really rude!

I think I absolutely am a bit ashamed- not of the using MJ but of the weight I got to. And I don’t want to discuss that figure with many people. Even my wonderful husband, who is right behind me re the jabs and even does them for me, doesn’t know how much I weighed. And I don’t feel like I’m remotely lying saying I’ve done it through diet and exercise because I have to a large extent. I don’t get appetite suppression like most people and have to use a fair bit of willpower (I do get a bit of food noise reduction, which helps, but I’ve eaten very healthily to achieve the loss I have because I still eat fairly big portions). If I hadn’t a good stockpile of pens in my fridge I’d possibly consider going it alone.

We’re all different in what we choose to share, and that’s perfectly fine.

Don’t attack or be defensive, I said being ashamed was tragic, not the people themselves , and you know this. It is tragic that people have been made to feel this way , these drugs are fantastic, what we are all doing is a huge benefit for our health, obesity is hugely dangerous health wise. And yes some people do feel ashamed of taking them. Because of the fear of judgement. From others. Or because it shows we are fat enough to need them.

and I get that, I just approached it differently, I knew I was clinically obese.mmy bmi was I think 32 when I started, it was no secret I was obese, you could tell by looking at me, like every other obese person.

I guess I’ve been lucky as I told everyone, well, apart from work, and everyone was supportive, as said up thread a few friends and family members now on them themselves, even my husband is now on them. And none of us hide it, apart from the one guy who I think started well before. Who I am absolutely sure has lied and now doesn’t want to admit it, but can’t really join in our conversations on them, he just looks embarassed when someone says to him well done, you did it without help. But again I get why he did that.

there is no argument here, we are all on the drugs, we all deal with it differently. I won’t change my mind that there is nothing to be ashamed of, and I won’t change my mind that if anyone has a problem with it, they are the issue, not me.

Well, at least it’s clear that many of us who like to keep medical details to ourselves are not doing so because we are ashamed or embarrassed. I agree that there is nothing to be ashamed of. No one who is taking WLI injections on this thread, and some that aren’t, agree that it’s not shameful.

it’s this insistence that shame must be the reason why people don’t divulge details to others on demand that’s odd.

Really this isn’t the opportunity for a pile on. I didn’t say everyone, and I didn’t insist it was shame for everyone either.

look if you just want to attack someone, I’m not that person. Move on. As if will get old very fast. Trust me.

pile on? Ok.

I’ve lost 2 stone and it’s really obvious. Everyone noticed. I’m a gym goer and I just said I did a “cut” as bulking for too long. Only a couple of PTs in the gym asked none of my friends asked.

And hopefully he’s been 100% supportive?