People noticing ?

[StrongLikeMamma]

I’ve almost 12lbs. This is amazing to me as have been 3 stone over a healthy bmi for a few years now.

I’m losing with jabs and am only on week 4. I don’t want to discuss it with anyone. But am guessing people will ask me. I just feel really defensive about sharing this information. Not sure how to handle it, if the question comes up.

Does anyone have any helpful thoughts/ advice please?

Well said @SilenceInside. You have a toxic work environment @WelshRabBite.

People do not have to disclose private medical information or answer intrusive questions.

If you’re obese then 12lb may not be noticed by others beyond you’re partner especially as this time of year when you may have moved into jumpers and bulkier coat. If or when people notice they won’t say anything at first because it’s rude to comment. In my experience in spring when you take off the bigger winter clothes and will have list more weight people with ask. Depending on the person I told them about using mounjaro or just the other bits. I had one school Mum who wanted to just check I was OK and the weight loss was planned, she is a lovely lady and I know it was genuine concern.

Depends how slow and steady

Not really, even if you lose a 1lb a week utimately everyine notices, any less than that, and well that’s a load of money for very low results.

I have lost about 30% of my body weight since the start of this year. People started commenting after the first couple of stones. I just smile and say thank you and don’t get into any discussions about how I have lost the weight. I haven’t told anyone other than my DH and my best friend. It’s my medical information and I don’t share details of other medications I am on so I don’t see why I need to share about Mounjaro. Again it’s personal to everyone how they deal with comments and what they share or don’t share.

I mean breezily saying thank you or similar sounds just perfect you have acknowledged the person without getting into anything you don't want to.

I went into a clinic I work in
Had not been there for 10 months

None of them recognised me
One at the end stopped me and said ah it's you
How have you lost so much weight?
I hope it's not the jabs she said !!!

Mortified

Have lost 6 stone so at least they noticed

People comment on my weight all the time, and almost always "accuse" me of being on mj, it's never a polite enquiry. I've lost just over 3 stone over 5 months.
I have never told anyone, and will not do so. Only my OH knows and it will stay that way.

Why on earth would you be mortified? If you’ve taken the injections it’s something to be proud of. That you’ve taken control of your health, losing weight, following a healthy diet (I assume). If this randomer hopes you’re not on the injections it is her who should be mortified, either as she’s writhing in jealousy or completely ill informed.

I would notice but I wouldn’t comment, because I think it’s none of my damn business. If a friend approached me about their weight loss, I would chat to them, but I also find other people’s weight and diets unbelievably boring.

Come on. It's obvious that at that moment in time, this woman from the clinic was making a negative judgement, coupled with a potential accusation based on that negative judgement. Putting the poster in the position of having to discuss a personal health matter with a relative stranger, whilst having to either deny or defend her personal health decisions. Which is mortifying, in the sense of extremely awkward and a difficult position to be thrust into.

People like this woman from the clinic are not the sort who would ever feel mortified about their own rude intrusive questioning.

I don't volunteer the info that I am on MJ but if people ask me directly I say yes. If I know or perceive that they are themselves interested in losing weight then I might discuss it a bit more with them.

The judgement still astounds me. If you had been looking ill and then someone sees you looking better would they say "you're not taking antibiotics are you?".

see I guess I just react different, as honestly, she’d feel mortified after I responded.

But then I am very outgoing so I wouldn’t bat an eyelid about putting her right, maybe that’s why no one has ever said it to me in work, that and I guess as I am quite senior.

Friends and family as said I proactively addressed it, told everyone up front, and sang the praises of the drugs. I do look much healthier, so it really is hard for people to argue with.

I had three stone to lose and kept a low dose so the weight has come off slower than most. I’ve been telling everyone that I’ve given up drinking. No one wants to hear that so there are usually no follow-up enquiries!

@Brightlittlecanary but even then, your individual response would be to go on the attack and verbally slap this woman down until she was mortified. Which is still forcing you to respond in a way that is potentially uncomfortable for you and for her. The issue is with these people who can't filter things for appropriateness before the words get out of their mouths. Not with the response from the other person, whatever that response is.

Not really, I’d simply say something like yes of course I’m on them, they are fabulous, used for over 2o years, 15 years in testing, biggest advancement in medicine in decades, very safe, I feel amazing, blah blah, and if she was fat I’d recommend them.

look honestly anyone who judges it’s about them. Not us.

Yes, of course it's about them and not us. Which is why it doesn't upset me or ruin my day on the occasions where someone has made such a direct enquiry. It reduces my opinion of them. But it does not and should not force me to reveal information about my private health decisions to them, just because they made the rude and intrusive enquiry. And me not doing so does not mean that I feel judged, or ashamed, or embarrassed.

I'm very much out and proud with it, but it's easier because everyone who's asked has been someone who I have the kind of relationship with where we talk about that stuff anyway. They're all people who I'd probably ask too if the tables were turned! And everyone has been really encouraging, although again that could be because these are people who like me.

It's probably harder if you are more private about things like this though. I also agree that as time passes, it'll become more likely that people will presume you're on WLIs anyway.

You 'owe' nobody your personal medical details, Op. Your body, your business.

I've lost over 100 lbs - still have more to go - and just smile and agree when people tell me that I have lost weight. Only one person has asked so far if I was on 'skinny jabs' and I replied that I was eating less and moving more, which is the truth. People can think what they like.

Exactly and if you have been fat your entire life but then happen to find that motivation the minute all the jabs have come out.... play the other card. They all know you are lying if you say you dont jab.

And? So what? Op doesn't need to tell her medical history to anyone else if she doesn't want to.

If everyone is assuming that anyone who has lost a lot of weight is on WLIs, then why are they asking them how they did it? Crack on with your assumptions, but asking a question when you think you know the answer and then deciding someone is deceitful if they don’t confirm is arsehole behaviour.

If someone is massively obese
and they lose weight very slowly over a looong period of time - I certainly wouldn’t think WLI

and if I found out it was…. I’d think “poor sod, for everyone else it seems to work in a flash!” Or I’d think “you should have quadrupled your dose about 2 years ago!”

Does anyone know op? Partner? Family? Very close friend?