Asked for honeymoon contribution as gifts - should we give bank details?

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In our invitations we said not expecting any gifts but if they want to, then something for our honeymoon would be lovely. Feel awkward even saying that! But I know people usually want to get you something and we’ve already got a house full of “stuff”.
someone asked the other day if we want cash or whether we’ll share our bank details. What’s the done thing? I guess a lot of people don’t do cheques these days and maybe don’t have cash. But does it seem icky to send our bank details? I was thinking of emailing out some final details for the day before the wedding to guests so could include it but I’m really not sure!!

If you don't want gifts just say "no gifts required". And leave it at that

If you want money, then own it.

If you genuinely don't then no fake if you really must we'll accept our honeymoon paid for.

100% no bank details.

Wow, you're judgemental! I'd rather have the £25 (which I'd still consider generous because I'm not a grabby cow) than your taste in unnecessary vases. Most people don't have room to store all the extras. We said no gifts, but the few who didn't respect that went straight to the charity shop because our house isn't big enough for anything not needed.

Bank details are fine for most normal people and make life so much easier. I'm never convinced couples actually get the cash by the time the envelope has gone through so many hands.

Same. £25 is still a lovely gift - I wouldn't ever expect people to give hundreds of pounds.

I'm grateful that we never got given any gifts instead of cash and that people took us literally.

I would find it really annoying if I'd said "no gifts" and then got a load of stuff that I didn't want or need.

I'd prefer to have nothing over a vase that Aunt Muriel chose, that would likely be not to our taste and a total waste of her money.

I'd find it a bit strange for someone to buy me bed linen or a bin!

That's why we put the "we don't want or need anything and your presence is what is most important to us". Some people didn't give anything and that was absolutely fine - I wanted to have a bloody brilliant party, not see how much of the cost of my honeymoon I could recoup.

There's a tradition of giving a gift at a wedding, so if you say nothing on the invite you'll be bombarded with messages about "have you got a gift list", etc, which is why we put a note on our invites about no gifts or honeymoon contribution.

Only give out your bank details to those guests who specifically ask for it. Otherwise it seems pushy.

Have a secure post box (locked) and attached to solid table with chain (discretely) for your cards and envelope gifts at your wedding. It has happened that an intruder or wait staff sneaks into wedding receptions and steals envelope gifts.

And the last thing you want is for your parents to have to guard unlocked monetary gifts all weekend while you are staying away.

Trailfinders do a gift list. I booked my honeymoon through that. It's really good