Wedding invite QR code asking for bank details - is this a thing?

[Newbie2023]

AIBU to find this really odd - are we just totally out of touch with current wedding invitation protocols, or is this a thing now?

We’ve received a wedding invitation card for a friend’s son’s wedding, with a QR code to scan to say whether we will be attending, to access menu choices, etc.
No problem at all, happy to do these - but…

The QR code takes us straight to online forms that ask for our names, addresses, email addresses - ok.
However, the second page of the site asks us to enter our bank card details, and can’t move on without doing this, so can’t say if we’re attending, see a wedding list, give menu choices, etc.
It says the 7-day trial to use this site is free, then we will be charged monthly….
This feels a really odd thing to ask of your wedding guests, but happy to be told we’re just really out of touch!

Is this really actually a thing now?

Advice very welcome! TIA

This seems bonkers.

Just send a nice card saying you can’t make it.

This sounds like they have messed up whatever online service they are using. I would just let them know.

I'm confused. Why do they need your bank card details? I've never heard of this before.

Yes that sounds insane. I’d get in touch and query.

I think this is what has happened! I'd contact them and let them know.

No definitely not. I'd be pointing this 'glitch' out to the bride & groom. Sounds like they haven't fully looked into the site or feature they're using.

Not a chance in hell I'd give my babk details.

I’m also thinking it could be a mistake on their part.

If it’s not, can you add a random card / account number (something like 0000 0000, not one that might be another person’s) and see if the system lets you proceed to the next page? Or is bank authentication also included in this package? 😂

I think they will be completely unaware of this and actually really embarrassed when they find out. Sounds like they have probably paid for this app and not realised that all of the guests will have to commit to a 'free trial' (where you enter your bank details ready for payment to kick in at the end of the trial if not cancelled)
I think if you just go along with it and then cancel the free trial as soon as you have RSVPd then it would probably be fine, but equally loads of people will ne confused and asking them so it's probably good for them to know asap and let them sort something else out. Feel sorry for them!

I agree! I think they think they’ve found a free online RSVP service but haven’t realised it’s asking everyone for bank details to sign up! I’d message them separately and let them know the problem, bet they’re super embarrassed 🫣

Such a strange reply

Asking for bank details to RSVP is stranger.

God, don’t fill it in! Bloody hell. Contact them independently and say if you’re going or not, and that you won’t be giving over your bank details.

Wow.

I use QR codes for forms when gathering details for our annual work team building days. This is not normal. It sounds like they've cocked up the link.

It sounds like it's just a mistake with the company they're using. I'd just let them know.

Definitely not normal. Sounds like a scam

Thank you so much, everyone, I’m so glad to know this isn’t the New Normal!
I’ll contact them tomorrow and hopefully get a solution :)
I really appreciate your feedback :)

More normal to assume it’s a mistake and check with the couple, rather than just boycott a wedding

This. Presumably the link the QR code uses is wrong. Either that or they want a small wedding with just their own friends and immediate family but couldn't face fighting their mum's insisting on inviting scores of her own friends who they don't really want there, and this is a way to weed you all out!

How odd. I use MS Forms and QR codes all the time for surveys so I just assumed they had done that! No idea how it would charge you, must be a specialist site you are signed up to/have to be signed up to?

You might be right!
it isn’t a mistake, guests do have to input bank card details in order to accept/decline invitation, give menu choices, etc.
I don’t know the son well at all (am a friend of ‘mother of the groom’)….but can’t even send an acknowledgement as there is no physical address to respond to, simply the QR code.
I am doomed!

Why on earth would they need bank card details. Very odd. I certainly wouldn’t risk that.

Tell your friend ( mother of the groom) that you can’t make it.

I'd send you rsvp directly to your friend and if that isn't good enough, query why bank details are required to attend their wedding and make it clear you won't be using the form / attending if you have to provide this information.

That's really odd!