Wedding invite QR code asking for bank details - is this a thing?

[Newbie2023]

AIBU to find this really odd - are we just totally out of touch with current wedding invitation protocols, or is this a thing now?

We’ve received a wedding invitation card for a friend’s son’s wedding, with a QR code to scan to say whether we will be attending, to access menu choices, etc.
No problem at all, happy to do these - but…

The QR code takes us straight to online forms that ask for our names, addresses, email addresses - ok.
However, the second page of the site asks us to enter our bank card details, and can’t move on without doing this, so can’t say if we’re attending, see a wedding list, give menu choices, etc.
It says the 7-day trial to use this site is free, then we will be charged monthly….
This feels a really odd thing to ask of your wedding guests, but happy to be told we’re just really out of touch!

Is this really actually a thing now?

Advice very welcome! TIA

The world has gone insane.

What would happen if you put in fake bank details?

It could be a mistake, or maybe not....

I know of a couple getting married who sent their bank details out with the invitation so guests could make cash gifts directly to their account.

That's a completely different scenario!

As with any online transaction, it wouldn’t go through.

It is wild that people immediately assume this couple are up to no good, rather than "oh there is a mistake here somewhere, I will give Anne a buzz to let her know"

Couples generally like their invited guests and want to host them.

But the OP says in her further post that it isn't a mistake and the bride and groom are aware of it...Why on earth would you have in input your bank details before you access the menu etc?
I think if the bride and groom are ok with this, its very inappropriate.

This is deliberate, the couple want you to pay for your meal choices hence the bank details request. I'd decline the invitation citing GDPR issues and see how they react. It's a very sneaky way of getting you to pay for the wedding, the cheeky fuckers.

I’d just message your friend saying you’re uncomfortable entering your bank details into the website, would like to attend (if you would!), and ask if menu choices could be sent via text?

🤦🏽

It is not deliberate and they do not want OP to pay for their meal choices.

Are you one of the couple? How do you know it's not deliberate? After all the bat shit cheeky wedding requests I've seen on here over the years, nothing surprises me when it comes to weddings.

Scam?

The bride and groom clearly see no issue with using an RSVP platform that requires a subscription but offers a seven day free trial.

Some people would be fine with this. Some people wouldn’t be. For that reason, it’s certainly an odd choice by the B&G. But there’s nothing nefarious about it!

So is it deliberate or a mistake/scam?

Did the couple want a "free wedding" as all guests pay to attend? Or is it some chancer that saw the banns and has tried to cash in by using the info somehow?

She doesn’t say that. She made no reference to the B&G being aware, and her ‘it isn’t a mistake’ refers to what happens within the link.

Surely you can just contact your friend to check?

It says the 7-day trial to use this site is free, then we will be charged monthly….

That is the OP says the link says. It’s quite obvious that it is the app asking users to sign up to the app rather than the B&G asking for money for guests to attend.

It’s quite obvious that it is the app asking users to sign up to the app rather than the B&G asking for money for guests to attend.

Apparently not so obvious for some!

I know, so ridiculous all the passive aggressively refusing to go and not understanding it’s obvious they’ve made a mistake setting up the website.

No, the mistake is that the bride & groom think it’s a free to access RSVP website and must not realise they need to pay to use it so their guests don’t get charged.

Don’t be do ridiculous, the couple aren’t asking people to pay for the wedding 🤦‍♀️ They’ve simply misunderstood the website they’ve set up, they probably should paid an initial fee to use it and they’ve set it up wrong.

It’s actually astounding how many people are so confused by this.

What is the world coming to? The most expensive part you'll ever host and you can’t even be bothered to send proper invitations and then inconvenience your guest by having a confusing RSVP where they have to put their bank details to reply? Some people have no class, and I expect they won’t have many guests either.

It´s all very well saying it is a mistake, they set it up wrong... yeah, all ok. But I, personally, would not be putting my credit card details into this app. If I cared about the bride & groom I would contact them about it. And if I am simply put, what the Spanish call a "compromiso" (someone your parents want invited because they were invited to these people´s kids´wedding), then no. I would just let it slide, if they are curious they will ask me.

I'm assuming the issue us not about attending but the glitch with the website B&G are using to handle the RSVPs. If OP tells her friend, it can be relayed.
Sounds as though the website/system isn't a free one, which is an oversight.

Is it just me who would sign up for the site (using credit card just in case), RSVP and choose my food, then immediately cancel the subscription and go on with my day? No need to get outraged or contact the couple.

Good heavens, that's so grabby. What on earth gets into some people when they plan their weddings?