Wedding invite QR code asking for bank details - is this a thing?

[Newbie2023]

AIBU to find this really odd - are we just totally out of touch with current wedding invitation protocols, or is this a thing now?

We’ve received a wedding invitation card for a friend’s son’s wedding, with a QR code to scan to say whether we will be attending, to access menu choices, etc.
No problem at all, happy to do these - but…

The QR code takes us straight to online forms that ask for our names, addresses, email addresses - ok.
However, the second page of the site asks us to enter our bank card details, and can’t move on without doing this, so can’t say if we’re attending, see a wedding list, give menu choices, etc.
It says the 7-day trial to use this site is free, then we will be charged monthly….
This feels a really odd thing to ask of your wedding guests, but happy to be told we’re just really out of touch!

Is this really actually a thing now?

Advice very welcome! TIA

I’m dying to know how this one turns out. No way on earth would I give my bank details, even if they have a good reason for asking. I just wouldn’t do it.

We went to a wedding years ago and the couple sent out a text to guests on the morning of the wedding that ‘they would like money and would like it today!’ I could not get over it, my parents always said it was vulgar to talk about money gifts, or counting money in front of people also.

How much is the charge after the free trial? What do you get for your money.

I hope it's a mistake not a new thing.

Not unconnected..... I'm on a teachers' FB site. One recent post was where candidates for a job were required to hand over social media passwords.

Let us know how you get on.

Sense of humour sadly missing on this thread....

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Not unconnected..... I'm on a teachers' FB site. One recent post was where candidates for a job were required to hand over social media passwords.

I doubt that this is true. They may possibly been asked for their social media 'names' but not their actually passwords.

I can't see the point of that either, its easy enough to create another one.

I'm okay with being told I'm missing the point or something is funny to others so please point me to the bits you think needs a sense of humour?

This

This thread is bananas, I love it. House points to all those who have repeatedly patiently explained that this is not the B&G demanding bank details/card details in order to change their wedding to the guests.

@LibertyDuck no, you're not the only one that would keep things simple and just do it and cancel 😁

Do people really think it's the bride and groom asking for the bank details, and not the website? Really??

I wouldn’t know who was asking for it and wouldn’t give it to either party.

If you read the whole of the 3 posts from the OP 🙄, you will see she has already checked and it is NOT a mistake.

Most QR code sites offer the user (in this case the bridge and groom) a free trial then THEY have to pay to keep the QR code (try before you buy) and it sounds like they haven't actually paid.

No as a guest its not your job to pay.

Very strange. I'd email the couple and query it....they probably aren't even aware!

Except thats not how these site work.

I know because I have used several of them for my businesses. Anyone using the link gets the bank details to proceed message when you haven't paid for the service and the trial ends. Its basically a dead link, that redirects you to a standard sign up page for the QR company.

@Newbie2023 please could you clarify as its unclear to us 🙏

Have you spoken to your friend already and she has told you that you do have to put your card details in?

What service are they using for the form? I’m intrigued as to what the card details could be for other than continuing to use the service (which the B&G should be paying for).

I think maybe contact them to explain what’s happening as they may not be aware that the website is, in effect, forcing people to register for a trial period and asking for bank details before it will allow an RSVP. If they’re not aware and don’t amend it I can’t see them getting many takers.

I wouldn't be happy about that...B&G should be paying for this.

Its the sort of situation that if you're not on top of, you suddenly find you've a year contract with a monthly payment.

Hi friend. I will cannot progress the webpage without giving card detail which I will not be doing. We are able unable to attend delete as appropriate.

Another example of a modern life over-engineered approach to a situation.

When we got married we sent invites in the post with a SAE for the RSVPs and any dietary requirements. No one died from the stress of walking 50 yards to a postbox, and no one had to whore their credit card details over the interweb.

Before people can RSVP they have to sign up to a free trial period of the site. Card details are asked for in respect of a subscription once the trial free period expires. If you don’t physically cancel the subscription the payments will be taken automatically. Lots of sites use this practice, including newspapers behind pay walls. I think it’s cheeky to convolute a simple RSVP in this way, and I don’t think many people will take it up because they know they’ll forget to cancel after the trial period and then they’re locked into a subscription they don’t want.

If this is the way they have set it up before an RSVP can be processed, and they’re aware that bank details are asked for, then yes. OP has already established it’s not a mistake.

Same

but seriously if one doesn't already have direct contact details for the bride and groom then is it appropriate for one to be at their wedding - much better to have dinner and drinks and photos with the parents (one's actual friends) and to hear all the gossip afterwards

I’ve never seen a subscription being required for the recipients of a survey/form. The owners (B&G) of the form, yes, but not those you want responses from.