No kids allowed at the wedding is on father's day!

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My husband is best man at his close friends wedding and for years we always thought they would be kids at the wedding as our friends do like kids.

Last year I was at a wedding with this couple and the wedding we went to had no kids (apart from close family children) but did allow babies and I over heard the bride to be tell DH close friend" well I think it was very good of her to allow babies because I'm telling you now I'm not" I was abit taken back by this.

several months went by and no mention of if kids were allowed which I found odd because normally people would know well in advance if not to arrange child care. I just sent a text saying I'm looking at booking a hotel are the kids coming so I know how many to book for just to see if they were allowed. I got a text back saying nothing under teens allowed as I want everybody to enjoy a day with their partner and she said she doesn't think it would be child friendly.

I was upset by this and so was my kids as we have been talking about the wedding for so long all of our other friends going are also gutted by this too. To make matters worse I've just realised that it falls on father's day. My husband is great dad and we are both big on spending time together as a family.

My husband friend has to run everything past her she is very much the boss. So it's no surprise he has had no input into the wedding, but I just thought of all days why fathers day with no kids allowed. We both agree it's going to taint the day for us now.

Yes I agree

And that’s not a problem. My DH is going solo to a wedding even my kids were invited to this year. But it’s hours away and only an evening do. So not worth it with 2 young kids who would be tired anyway so it was really a quick decision for me to not go. No big deal at all.

My god, get over it!

Are children your whole personality?

You do also get that venues aren’t infinite? By making it child free, there are more friends or cousins that they can invite who perhaps they would rather be there than kids.

Honestly, even if kids were allowed, I wouldn’t go in your shoes. To be EBF and in charge of three others whilst your DH is best-manning would be much more tricky than staying home.

You know I find these comment really rude. I don't believe you would ever say that to anyone face

I do t think you are unreasonable not to go in view of having a 4 month old BF baby but they aren’t being unreasonable either.

Well, you probably wouldn’t say to the bride’s face that she should have kids at her wedding because you bought her a three course meal when you hardly knew her.

It's their wedding and their choice of arrangements.

Father's day is irrelevant to a child so young you are still breast feeding, so that really doesn't matter.

You have been invited to celebrate with them but if you aren't happy, stay at home. You clearly don't like her so that will be better for everyone.

I did try her that that and they she said to try and get a baby sitter and give baby a bottle.
She said she really wanted us there. It wasn't a matter of I understand

I wouldn't have a clue if an event I was organising fell on Mother's Day or Father's Day to be fair

Given that the friendship is between DH and the groom, wouldn’t it be better if they discussed it, rather than you and the bride?

Me neither it was my mum that mentioned it by looking in her diary to book day off work, she was going to look after our dog

I didn't have a child free wedding as am not a fan of child free weddings. However, I do understand why people do have child free weddings as they're trying to keep within numbers and budgets. Venues can be really strict on numbers. Father's Day is just another day really and can be celebrated the day before or after.

Edited as I completely misread what I was quoting!!

A wedding with an EBF baby is an absolute chore, just stay home amd let dh go alone

Can you celebrate Father’s Day the day after?

A wedding trumps Father's Day by a mile.
Not worth being 'shocked' about.

I totally agree.

I have no issue with child free weddings, I went to 2 last year. It's not an issue. But it's not a favour, so don't act like it is. And why should it be - it's your wedding, you don't need to do me a favour!

For 2/3 to be children, that would mean every single guest would have two children, so four per couple.

Your numbers are completely out. Average number of children per family is two, and many guests will not be in the family phase of life anyway (not yet reached that stage, childfree, children grown up).

It's their choice to have a child free wedding and you shouldn't have spoke to kids about going unless you were sure.

They should have put it on the webpage.

A child free wedding on Father's Day is bad taste. I'm guessing they didn't realise.

Their wedding their choice

People without kids are so clueless, aren't they. You made the right decision for DH to go solo and if the couple ever have children, they will realise what a stupid thing they said.

You clearly don't like the groom either. It's their day, and their prerogative not to have children there. The fact that it's Father's Day is neither here nor there. Celebrate the day before.

Child free weddings are not a new thing, mine was nearly 30 years ago as were others we went to.

She didn't "tell her" OP overheard a comment