What age would you consider young to marry?

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Just that, really

It seems frowned upon if you’re under 25 in our circles, most people assume we want a long engagement but we just want to get straight on with planning!

Any age. Why would anyone ever do it?

I'd say between 21-25 is young, however you're able to understand the magnitude of what you're doing. Whereas 20 and under is just too young generally. I got engaged at 19 and am glad that we didn't go through with it.

Of course some people partner early in life and it works for them! Equally, one of the most acrimonious divorces I've ever witnessed occurred between two people who married in their late 30s.

Married at 22 in 1999. My friend the same age as me celebrated her 5th wedding anniversary the month we got married.

I look at my kids in their late teens, both legal adults, and think they're no way ready to be married for a good while yet.

So I'd say 25 onwards would be a good age for our current society. Settling down later is more the norm than it used to be.

I’d say under 25 is ‘young’ and if it was one of my DC I’d ask a lot of questions.

But I definitely wouldn’t disapprove-as I moved in with my now husband aged 18 (he was 19) 😂 30+ years later we are still together

Same, @anonymous98 and it was such a surprise as we all assumed they had more idea of what they were doing than those of us who married earlier!

I don’t understand why so many posters think under 30 is too young to get married. Especially when women on Mumsnet seem obsessed with marrying before you have children.

We’re 26, engaged and I’m pregnant with our first baby. We’ve been together for 6 years. I also have a degree, a master’s degree and a professional career.

I only know one couple who got married before their early 30's, so I guess that's my 'normal.'

For women:

• Should be illegal = Under 18 (I think it already is in most countries)

• I personally think it's "too young," but it's not breaking any laws = Under 21

• "Young" by my standards, but not "too young" = Under 25

Most women I know got married between 25 and 30.

For men, being honest I'd add a couple of years to each of those age ranges! I think men mature a bit more slowly, and very few lads in their early 20s are likely to be good husbands and parents. They are just too flighty and want to have fun and go out with their mates at that age.

Of course there are always exceptions that prove the rule.

Married at 20 in 1980 . Still married to him .

I got married at 18 (he was 19) and it was far too young. We were divorced by the time I was 19 due to him deceiving me about serious issues.

I think under 20 is too young and would want my kids to be older than that when they marry.

I got married at 28 but I'd been working since 16, travelled for a year (18- 19) and had bought a house with my then partner. We'd been together since 18. Children born in my 30s.
My daughter is 24 and has been with her boyfriend for 3 years. I would like her to wait a while to have children. Not the marrying but having children as they both have good jobs and enjoy travelling. They're planning to buy a place soon so I'd rather them save for that, rather than for a wedding.
However, my mum married my dad at 20 and they're still together, she's now 76 and my dad 80.

I think under 28 is young

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Married at 22 (1984), five children (twin daughters came along last) by the time I was 28. Divorced after 10 years, remarried at aged 35, still married - 25 years and counting.

People are marrying much later than they were. When I was 21, many of my friends married straight after graduating. I was later in my 20s when I married but I’d already been engaged and jilted (not quite on the day, but close).

For info, under 18s can no longer marry in England and Wales. It used to be they could with parental consent but law changed in February.

Married at 24 - I was the first in my group of friends. Silver wedding anniversary later this year. There were a few negative comments at the time about my age, but they were all from DH's friends who were older - my friends were totally fine with it, (or if they weren't, they were polite enough to keep it to themselves!).

Under 25 I'd say.

I was with my now dh from 17 and we bought a house when I was 22. I wouldn't have wanted to marry before 25 though, wld have been too young. Even though we did eventually marry, I just felt way too young before that!

I’m getting married at 27 and that feel young 😂 but I think that’s because we’ve been together nearly 10 years and had our first child when I was 22 which felt like I had all elders eyes on me like I was a teen mum 😂

I think anything 23 onwards is a fine age to get married.

infact, I don’t think age matters (to an extent obviously!!) but more the time you’ve been together. I’ll never understand people who marry after 6 months. I know it works out for a lot of people but it baffles me that they can be so sure when they’ve been together less time than it takes to create and start raising a child🫣

Been married 8 years this year, got married at 26. Looking back way too young although we're still together and happy. None of my close school friends are married yet, first this year!

Please ignore the above post. It is on the wrong thread and I have asked for it to be removed.

Below 25 is practically unheard of these days. So I would say that was very young.