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What age would you consider young to marry?

160 replies

cerealchops · 05/04/2023 17:31

Just that, really

It seems frowned upon if you’re under 25 in our circles, most people assume we want a long engagement but we just want to get straight on with planning!

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Hopingforno2in2023 · 05/04/2023 17:36

I would say under 21 would surprise me, anything over that I wouldn’t bat an eyelid.

GoldenGorilla · 05/04/2023 17:38

Under 25 I’d think of as being young to marry. Wouldn’t disapprove of it, but it would be unusual in my circles.

Lolaandbehold · 05/04/2023 17:39

Well I don’t know anyone who married under 30 so I would consider that young.

CremeEggThief · 05/04/2023 17:39

I got married at 25 20 yesrs ago and felt that was seen as quite young even back then.

I personally know very few people under 30 who have actually got married since the early 2000s anyway.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/04/2023 17:41

Honestly I think it depends. Straight out of Uni so 21 feels different to been working since 18 and 21,iyswim. I'd generally think 24 and under is young, 25-30 is ideal if you want kids,

Okunevo · 05/04/2023 17:41

Under 21, the age you used to need parents permission

Milkand2sugarsplease · 05/04/2023 17:42

I was 23 first time round and, looking back, can see how immature I was. I should never have married him and 38yo me knows that. 23 yo me knew better at the time.

Having said that, I have a friend who married younger than me and they're one of the happiest couples I know still.

rumpsteak · 05/04/2023 17:43

I got married at 22, 25yrs ago and that wasn't uncommon amongst my peergroup then, It feels young now though.

CraftyGin · 05/04/2023 17:43

I got married at 21 and am still married to the same person 37 years later.

Chickoletta · 05/04/2023 17:46

I got married at 23 almost 20 years ago. We were young but we knew we were right for each other and have grown together over the years. Still very happy.

wheresmymojo · 05/04/2023 17:47

I obviously wouldn't disapprove or judge in anyway but if I meet people under 30 who are married I think of it as being young.

Most in my circle were 35ish

Greensleevevssnotnose · 05/04/2023 17:48

I was 19 ( divorced x 3 ) 31 and 35 most of my friends around 30.

Bienemajas · 05/04/2023 17:49

Women - under 25

Men - under 30

HappyMe6 · 05/04/2023 17:52

I don’t think anyone can say wether it’s going to last, yes it’s young but I was married at 20 divorced at 27
but have been with my second husband for decades very happy still and under 30 when we got together, we did live together years before got married though

SiliconHeaven · 05/04/2023 17:52

I was young, 30 years ago aged 23.
I was right though, when you know, you know ♥️

(probably not but I love my husband)

Lavenderflower · 05/04/2023 17:52

I would say under 25.

35965a · 05/04/2023 17:53

I would say under 25 generally, although in my social circle only one couple were married before 30. Now mid-30s most are married.

Lorrymum · 05/04/2023 17:54

I married at 19 in 1977, still married.

PuttingDownRoots · 05/04/2023 17:56

I was 24 (and now DH 26). We had been together since 19&21 though.

Other contributing factor was DHs job... in those days (12 years ago!) The army only recognised marriage as a formal relationship. If we wanted to live together and for me to accompany him on foreign postings, we had to marry. We had also got through the "big" relationship test of initial training by then (apparently only 5% of Officer candidates have the same partner at the end of Sandhurst as they do at the beginning).

In a more normal scenario... I definitely think 24 is on the young side!!

Violinist64 · 05/04/2023 17:58

I was 24 and have been married nearly 34 years. That was quite average then. I had my children at 26, 28 and 31 and again it was quite usual at that time.

Nw22 · 05/04/2023 17:58

I got married at 25. We have been married 7 years now. I didn’t feel young at the time but now I think I would be shocked by someone marrying that young 😂. Very few of my friends are married yet.

ThisIsntMyUsualUsername · 05/04/2023 18:01

I marry people. I generally think under 25 is quite young nowadays but many of my colleagues married around age 20 and have been married for 30+ years.
I got married at 28 and it felt right for me. I was a far more mature person at 28 than I was at 23/24! Having said that, maybe that growing up came from meeting my husband and knowing he was right for me and settling down a bit together.

anna2101 · 05/04/2023 18:02

I'm 29 and the wedding invitations just keep coming - the past two years have been quite wedding busy - at first largely from people who met each other at university but now some that met later too. I got married at 24 - the first one from my friends by a few years.

2chocolateoranges · 05/04/2023 18:09

I’d say under 25 was young to get married.

but saying that, dh and I got married when I was 23 , however we do celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary this year. I would be slightly horrified if my dd came home and said she was getting married at 23. Hypocritical I know but now that I’m older 23 seems very young.

Dacadactyl · 05/04/2023 18:10

I would say under 25 is young.

I'm 37 now and was only just 25 when we got married.

DH is 39 and he was 27.

That being said, most of our friends got married around 28/29, with a few into their early 30s. Our cousins on the other hand all started getting married in their 30s.