Wedding ruined please help

[Londonlamb]

I’m writing this in the hotel room after marrying the love of my life because my dad ruined it
I don’t have much family so from my side the invites were him and 2 cousins I asked him to walk me down the aisle and it was all well planned out
he turned up before the service but brought his new girlfriend and 3 children I’d never met any of them before and the times he has spoken about them was negative
I felt really uncomfortable during the vows knowing strangers were at my wedding and the eldest child who’s a teenager was making lots of noise
we spent 2 years saving and preparing for this day and every tiny detail was organised so it’s been turned upside down by strangers in crap outfits coming along
We have an hour before the party and meal starts and the seating has been organised for the invited guests only so there’s no food or place for them
i want to tell my dad to leave and take them with him but I’m scared to push him away
my make up is ruined and the lady who done it left ages ago no one had checked on how I am my husband is talking to my cousins who are angry too what to do to salvage the day? I can’t believe I have let this over shadow my day but I’m angry and upset they are here
I have no friends so there’s no one here to support me I’m still trying to work out how to pee by myself with this dress on I just wish I could start the day again properly but it’s nearly over and I didn’t enjoy it we haven’t even got a honeymoon because we can’t afford it
is there anyone who can give me a bit of support and advice please

Oh darling I hope you have had a fab day now …
congratulations upon your Wedding and wishing you no more dramas with your Dad.
xxx

I've come late to this thread but just want to say Congratulations and sending you a big fat hug!

I'll say this as nicely as possible as I'm sure you're stressed enough, so it's not fair to judge you as one would judge a regular person on a regular day. One adult and three kids, or even four extra adults, is hardly 'ruined the wedding'. Usually caterers have some spare food anyway, and if not, well the unexpected guests will just have to do without.

RTFT

I hope you managed to salvage the rest of your day. Congrats 🥳

Try to deal in the positive with your lovely husband and ignore your dads family if there causing you strife. All the best xx

Op I am so glad it worked out.

your dad behaved appallingly.

ti turn up at your wedding with a new (and intimidating) girlfriend and her badly behaved children who had not been invited is dreadful.

I hope your dad recognises how badly he behaved. And I hope this new girlfriend doesn’t last. But no matter how awful the girlfriend is, it was your dad who let you down.

wnjoy the honeymoon

Congratulations! Your dad has behaved appallingly but I'm so pleased you managed to rise above it and salvage the day.

What a lovely family you've married into, @Londonlamb! Your new husband (Eeek! 😀) sounds lovely and supportive and your FIL is an absolute diamond.

Put the incidence of your DF and his chavvy entourage behind you and enjoy the years to come with your new family. 🌹

maddy68
"She obviously need not have invited them all but she needed to be very clear.
I find it strange that she would have invited her dad but not his partner. And it should have been clear and a conversation should have been had"

"I meant by her ruining for herself by giving it headspace. ...they turned up , they shouldn't have been there, move on and enjoy the day , don't spend it crying in a bedroom."

It was quite clear that a whole lot of people thought you were talking nonsense and you still are.

Have a wonderful honeymoon OP. Glad it all turned out well in the end.

Oh I'm glad this was resolved nicely and the venue staff did the "dirty work" for you all!
Have a lovely surprise honeymoon, and only keep the people who care about YOU around you

I know right now it seems horrible...but in 20 years, this will be the stuff of funny stories. Especially if you cap it with, "And to top it all off, I could NOT get my dress up to pee!" (Name here) finally rescued me!"

The only times a wedding is utterly ruined are when someone is left at the altar...either by a runaway partner or one of the pair having a stroke immediately before the ceremony, OR someone standing up and blurting out, "They can't get married! He/she did (insert truly horrible thing). I've been to weddings that were ruined. Forge on ahead, knowing that you'll still be married, and all of this will fade with time if you allow it to do so!

As for your father...don't invite him to functions anymore. He has no sense of occasion, and will certainly embarrass you again!

Am really glad your day was saved what a lovely update. Enjoy your honeymoon x

Congratulations OP. Have a fab honeymoon ❤ and marriage.
Good that they left peacefully and sounds like your fil is a champ.

Congratulations on your wedding.😁
You've married into a good family and FIL, SIL, and others rallied and saved the day.
Good luck😎and enjoy your honey moon.

It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and a whole lifetime of love ahead of you. Congratulations and wishing you every happiness 🥂💐