Wedding ruined please help

[Londonlamb]

I’m writing this in the hotel room after marrying the love of my life because my dad ruined it
I don’t have much family so from my side the invites were him and 2 cousins I asked him to walk me down the aisle and it was all well planned out
he turned up before the service but brought his new girlfriend and 3 children I’d never met any of them before and the times he has spoken about them was negative
I felt really uncomfortable during the vows knowing strangers were at my wedding and the eldest child who’s a teenager was making lots of noise
we spent 2 years saving and preparing for this day and every tiny detail was organised so it’s been turned upside down by strangers in crap outfits coming along
We have an hour before the party and meal starts and the seating has been organised for the invited guests only so there’s no food or place for them
i want to tell my dad to leave and take them with him but I’m scared to push him away
my make up is ruined and the lady who done it left ages ago no one had checked on how I am my husband is talking to my cousins who are angry too what to do to salvage the day? I can’t believe I have let this over shadow my day but I’m angry and upset they are here
I have no friends so there’s no one here to support me I’m still trying to work out how to pee by myself with this dress on I just wish I could start the day again properly but it’s nearly over and I didn’t enjoy it we haven’t even got a honeymoon because we can’t afford it
is there anyone who can give me a bit of support and advice please

Congratulations and lovely to read your happy ending and surprise honeymoon. Wishing the two of you all the best

Congratulations!
Your new family sound lovely. 🌹

What a great update OP. Have a wonderful honeymoon.

I've got a lump in my throat. I'm so so happy for you. Fabulous update 😃🎉💒👰

Congratulations again @Londonlamb I'm so pleased it worked out for you in the end. Enjoy a fabulous honeymoon.

Wow! Glad it all ended up ok and sounds like you have wonderful In Laws into the bargain. Yay!!!

huge congratulations!!!

You're a stranger on the internet but your update made me cry.

Have the most incredible honeymoon OP. You sound a genuinely lovely person who deserves infinitely better than that twatty man. I hope you have such a wonderful marriage and that you and your husband forget the most incredible family.

You will look back in years to come and piss yourself at this memory I promise. Your in-laws sound fab too.

Ah congratulations to you both so glad you have lovely in-laws .

You seem like such a bright spirit OP to have turned around and had a positive day after all that! Hope you have an amazing honeymoon

Put it behind you and enjoy the rest of your day or it will stay with you for a long time.
Be as positive as you can, your cousins sound great and your new husband has done the right thing.
Wising you a long and happy marriage.

Totally 100% agree with this post- OP this is your and your new husband’s day- firstly CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR WEDDING!!!!! Secondly- agree about letting your hubby, cousins & groomsmen ask you father and his entourage to be respectful & politely leave and you will speak to him when your ready AFTER you’ve had your day- I’m so so sorry your in this situation and I really wish you had more people around to love & support you but you need to focus on your new life as a wife- congratulations again 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘😘😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

I skipped to the end to find out you had a great day and now a surprise honeymoon.
auch a wonderful day all in all.
huge congrats

So so pleased for you! Have a wonderful honeymoon

I didn’t see your post yesterday, but I hope you got it sorted out; no one ever deserves to have they’re wedding date disrupted, it’s was your day to shine, I hope your father realises today what a selfish thing he did & that he apologises to you both.
Don’t worry about not having the money for a honeymoon, spend time going for lovely romantic walks, if you can have a day trip to the beach, take a picnic ignore who’s around you just make it about the two of you, have a special meal a sort of date night. I didn’t have a honeymoon & I got married in the middle of winter but we did some of the things I’ve suggested & we’ve just celebrated our 33rd anniversary; remember it’s not about the destination it’s who your with & making those treasured memories together xx Congratulations sweetheart I really hope your day got better xx

Congratulations and big hugs to you.
My dad came to my wedding in brown cord trousers, we were in Scotland on a Sunday with my husband to be driving around to try to find him trousers. He then made his speech whilst eating a sweet and moving it around his mouth.
He then chatted to my mum all night leaving her husband, my DSD alone looking lost.
I find him embarrassing and was raging. Then 6 months later at my brothers wedding my DH got drunk and told him what he thought of him (brilliant) and I told him he was dead to me. He has never met our daughter, it is sad, but some people are so selfish they can't see anything but their own lives.
Wishing you all the best, the wedding day is the start, not the end...you can always renew your vows after 10 years xx

Congratulations! It sounds like you have a lovely new family there x

You’ve probably seen loads of messages by now, but I couldn’t help but want to give you mine. My mum and stepfather totally ruined my wedding! I have very little positive moments to remember and those I do have involve my dh and his family and dearest friends. We celebrate 24 years this June (and 32 together last April), so the point is crap wedding or not is doesn’t define your marriage. Yes I still carry a lot of hangups from my wedding day which was far from perfect/dreamy, but at the end of the day its a single day. My honeymoon was incredible and we recently (somewhat late due to covid) celebrated a second honeymoon (i.e. our 20th - yes we do celebrate 24 years but as I said loads of thing have conspired to intervene) that proved that we’re still as much, if not more, in love that when we married.

My wedding day was shit and yes that’s an awful memory to carry forward. BUT my marriage is still strong and I hope that once our kids have, all, finally flown the nest we will settle back into a wondrous retirement together. By this I see us travelling the world and doing things we’ve never been able to, together, because of kids.

So, just because the wedding didn’t go to plan, doesn’t mean the marriage wont be long lasting, strong, and wonderful!

PS…. I’m trying to persuade my party hating DH to have a wonderful (in my opinion) 25th party!!!

I read your post and felt so sorry for you, but what a lovely update. Your new DH and his family sound amazing. Enjoy your honeymoon xx

Congratulations and have a wonderful Honeymoon ❤️

So glad it turned out all right in the end OP. Just think though, you could have had that wedding in a recent thread where the groom was shot!

So glad your new husband stepped up to make things right. If you marry the right person they will always be there to back you up. Thank you for the update. You sound like you married into a lovely family.

Just wanted to add my congratulations 🎉. Enjoy your honeymoon, what a lovely surprise, you deserve it!

Your husband and your new family sound wonderful OP - have a wonderful honeymoon and future!