Who's getting married this year? 2019 Brides

[tanitani]

I'm getting married in March - just for fun would love to hear from other 2019 brides.
I've been a lurker for a while but first time posting.

If your wedding's soon, how do you feel? Does it feel real yet?
What are you nervous about?

Best wishes to everyone getting married!

Thank you honeybee!
I'm having afternoon tea in london tomorrow with my mum and aunts then going cocktail making next Saturday for my other hen do

We've decided to hijack a night at a festival that we all go to every year for our hen/stag. There's usually about 50 of us who go, everyone who is travelling, moved elsewhere, etc, all come back home for it. With the wedding being in the summer with so much else on we thought it would be easiest!

I'll head off with the girls for the night and the guys will head off on their way, all get glitzed up and then meet up at the end of the night. Everyone is very keen!

My sister suggested doing something too, but I might suggest a nice spa day perhaps with her and my mum. They live about 4 hours away from me so that could be quite a special thing to do together.

Me, we’re going to Cyprus

@HoneyBee03 that sounds great.
I love the idea of a spa day - whether it's a hen party or any other time!
And the festival sounds really fun!

We're off to take photos and wedding video related things today - spent ages on hair and make up. Of course as soon as I step outside my hair's going to go all fluffy right?

@Moretinsel is your ceremony in Cyprus? That sounds lovely and warm!!! (Very cold where I am right now)

Yes, I’m feeling cold too lol. Yes ceremony in a Paphos hotel, just the usual issues of people saying they’ll book and then not. Or not rsvp’ing at all. Dress is picked, flower girl dress picked. Nothing organised for the boys yet!

@Moretinsel
Ahhh sound great - apart from the non rsvp's. Got quite a few of those here too.

With non rsvp's of course you want the people to come ideally, did you/will you chase them up, if so when do you think is appropriate to do so? I don't want to be pushy but at the same time, you want to get stuff done! At the moment we've got 10 days until our RSVP deadline.
Just trying to figure out etiquette.

I'm getting married in October!

So far everything has been reasonably stress free apart from the guest list. We accepted that it would have to be quite big as we don't want to leave people out, but it's at the stage now where I'm desperate for some people to turn down the invitation!

I'm not sure what's happening for my hen - after spending a lot of money on other friend's do's I asked my MOH to make it as cheap and cheerful as possible

I've got my dress already, ordered it all online to save some money and I adore it. Still need to finalise the food, buy outfits for the wedding party and organise a coach for people from the church to the venue - wondering how much I can fob onto my DP...

I'm getting married in October and can't find anyone to do my hair and makeup. So far they either don't reply, or are fully booked

@MaMaMaMySharona

I'm a little bit similar to you here! Everyone is genuinely important but I'm wondering - how do we know this many people???

@CurbsideProphet
Oh that must be stressful! Of course you want to look lovely and feel relaxed knowing that's taken care of. Are there any friends or family who are good that could help? My "hair/makeup" person is a friend who has such lovely natural style that I really trusted her to help me look good.
Of course we'll practice before the day.

@CurbsideProphet can we help you look if you let us know what area?

You're both so kind luckily a lovely sounding makeup artist I emailed yesterday afternoon replied last night, so I've booked her. I'm still looking for hair. We're getting married in October (Lancashire) and I must be so naive because I genuinely didn't realise that I would need to book so far in advance!

I'm a bit worried about people getting bored at our wedding. Ceremony has to be at 12.30pm because that's the only time the registrars could offer. We'll probably do the sit down lunch at 2.30pm. Evening lot will prob come at 7, so I'm not sure what we'll do 4.30-7. The room will need to be turned around, so we'll all be directed back into the ceremony room. Some guests will need to check into the hotel at that point. I suppose if it's a nice day everyone can go outside, but if it's pouring I'm worried they'll feel like we're just hanging around

@CurbsideProphet
Sounds great! To be fair I would have thought the same thing - makeup etc. you don't really think about advance booking!

The hotel guests will probably take the chance to freshen up at that time and relax before the evening maybe? Is there any local or on the site they can do?

I'm not so good with long social events so my wedding is literally 1-5, but there's different cultural things involved that means it works too.

What are you planning for the evening? __

@CurbsideProphet glad you found someone!

My timings are kind of similar - our ceremony is at 1, we're sending everyone off to the venue at around 2 and then we're not serving food until 3.30. There will be things to snack on so people won't be hungry, but there's no entertainment or anything so not sure what the plan is there! Might have to think of something...any ideas?

We're getting our evening guests in at about 6pm as some of them are travelling quite a long way so want them to have as much time with us as possible - means we've got about 2.5 hours for food & speeches.

@MaMaMaMySharona
is there any option to send guests later - or does the timing work best that way? It may take a while to get everyone there and settled so you use up some time there.
Any option for an entertainer or something they can do?

You will have just had a ceremony so people will probably enjoy discussing the ceremony and dress and sharing photos!
You could so some kind of canapés or something to keep them happy.......of course any of these suggestions add to the budget. It's a tricky one.

I don't enjoy things like someone singing with a guitar at weddings, as I feel like we should clap after every song

I'm considering renting croquet sets etc for outside if the weather reports are good. If it's raining then everyone will just have to make conversation

@CurbsideProphet
Yeah I can understand that. A couple of lawn games could be really fun. A friend of mine had an outside reception at some event hall, and they played rounders! Not my thing but it made the atmosphere really relaxed and fun.

We're having the ceremony and reception at a hotel that has a lawn, so if it's a bright day everyone will likely go outside during photos / after the sit down meal. I'm a bit worried that people would get a bit bored hanging about inside if it's pouring down. My friends will be happy of the chance to catch up, but I'm not sure about DFiancé side of the guests!

@CurbsideProphet in my experiences as a wedding guest the only time I've been a bit bored or frustrated of waiting is when we're all waiting around for hours for food! The part of your day that you're worried about is when everyone will have eaten and will probably appreciate a break.

I'm doing tea and coffee after our buffet and we're going to make some nice cocktails. I think if your guests have something to drink, places to sit, people to chat to, you'll probably be okay. Plus some music playing, even just your favourite songs on a playlist? Could you also leave out the guestbook to sign in this time if you're having one? With guests sorting out rooms and things too, I reckon the time will fly by.

And I agree on the lawn games!! We're having just that :) giant jenga, ring toss, hula hoops, etc.

@HoneyBee03

Giant Jenga? I wanna come....

Thank you @HoneyBee03 I feel better now So many things to organise / decide!

Good point that everyone will have eaten and more easily entertained by chatting etc! We're considering some sort of alternative to a traditional guestbook. Something where everyone just has to sign their name. I've been to a lot of weddings where people have faffed about coming up with a nice message for the guestbook / future anniversary cards etc and then ended up not bothering.

ME! 27 days to go and today Ds has woken up with chicken pox - ARGH!

@CurbsideProphet

Have you thought about a big white piece of cardboard that everyone signs? Kind of like a goodbye card or birthday card that everyone's signed - something you could frame and keep maybe? Not sure where you'd get it, but that could be fun.

@QforCucumber

Oh no! How much have you got left to do?

I’m getting married in December - just a few days before Christmas. We’re getting married in a pub about half an hour from us which has a barn conversion that is licensed for ceremonies so the whole thing is in one place. It’s a really lovely old coaching inn that does great food so I’m hoping for good things.

I’m not at the worrying stage yet and not don’t much beyond booking the venue and registrar, I had a little look at dresses last weekend but we’re also ttc and have been for a long time - we have another specialist appointment in Feb so I’m waiting to see what that brings.

As for hen do, my friend and I had already booked a few days in Barcelona this summer, just a little break, but then my sister announced she wanted to come, then my other sister, and so although it wasn’t supposed to be a hen do we’re calling it one now.

I’ll probably just have a night out locally - meal and cocktails - for my actual hen do, although it might make more sense to hold it in the midlands as it’s central and my friends are scattered all over the country. But then that involves travel and hotels and I don’t want to put people out, so I’m not sure what’s best really.

All sorted i think. Getting married in Vegas so less stresses than doing the whole shebang here :)