To renew vows after wedding disappointment?

[unicornbear]

I got married last year.
I had always wanted a small wedding abroad with just close family there and a couple of friends.
We ended up having a big wedding in the uk. We couldn't have it abroad because my husbands kids wouldn't have been able to come and Dh didn't want to get married without them there. Also some other relatives and friends we cared about wouldn't have been able to come. The guest list just kept getting bigger and bigger when we realised we couldn't invite some people and not others. Anyway, it really did not turn out at all like I wanted.
Do you think it would be ridiculous to have a very small renewal of vows abroad. Maybe with just us or maybe with our parents. Or is it now too late.

I could tell them the truth it's only you who suggested otherwise!
Maybe it is you who cares too much what other people think.

Do it. It's basically a holiday with a nice day in the middle! What's not to like.

Er, you asked what people think!

My DP wants to know why you hated it. Especially as guests loved it. Intriguing.

I was v unwell at the time. As I said I didn't want a big wedding, I also have anxiety and it was awful for this. Had a panic attack just before walking down the aisle. I also felt upset that the some of the few people I really wanted there were dead.

That intriguing enough for you.

*I also felt upset that some of the few people I wanted there were dead.
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Surely this was always going to be the case though?

OP, no-one on here can stop you from wanting to renew your vows. But you asked in your first post Do you think it would be ridiculous to have a very small renewal of vows abroad. and the consensus is pretty much, 'Yes it would be ridiculous'. If you still want to, fine, but you'll have to accept that most people will think it's weird, and that you're either being a bit of a princess or that one of you broke your vows months first year of your marriage.

Yeah I know it would still be the case but having so many people there and people I didn't particularly want magnified it for me.

Done with this now, it's making me upset. Bye, thanks for your contributions.

Unicorn come back!

Elope just you two. Make it your own and have fun. I know what you were missing because me and my DH eloped and did his DD 2 years before, and we all loved our days although both very different !

No excuse for offence by others when you've already provided and done the day last year.

If this is what you want, of course you should do it! Doesn't make any difference to anyone else and there aren't any rules for renewals it's about what you and DH would like.

I think you are disappointed at how uncomfortable you were on the day lady year and if creating this new relaxed and happy memory helps you move past that it's a good thing. It's basically a holiday and you and your DH showing how much you mean to each other - nothing wrong with that at all!

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It sounds like a lovely idea. If it's important to you and you can afford it then do it.