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Weaning

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15 WEEKS OLD AND FOOD!

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loopyredangel · 13/02/2008 22:54

My almost 15 week old has been showing a keen interest in food for a couple of weeks now, putting hands in his mouth when we are eating, leaning forward when we have food, fussing when he sees us eating. So today I tried him with some baby rice pudding and he couldn't get enough he was pushing the spoon to his mouth, and was excited everytime the spoon was approaching his mouth. He now weighs 15lb and has been breastfed to this point and Iwill carry on breasfeeding, but is it okay to carry on feeding him, he woofed down a full tin of the small Heinz Rice Pudding. I fear the health visitors won't be happy, but DS seemed so relieved, content and a happy little boy after he got his food!

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Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:32

SORRY, TO CORRECT MY POST. WHEN I WROTE:

"After 17 weeks (if you need to) you should be ok with baby rice mixed with breastmilk"

"there are THOUSANDS of people who introduce baby rice at 17 weeks."

"These first foods are not dangerous"

"I do not think you can really go wrong with baby rice and formula. "

I was still on the belief that 17 weeks was ok. I only realized my error when hercules1 made a post to correct me. I have never said yes to under 17 weeks though. I was also upset throughout because I had the pressure and in my case I HAVE ALREADY WEANED , due to docs advice and pressure, and just worry about the damage. As all I am hearing is kidney damage, intestinal damage. That is the whole point really, I do not mind the correct advice, but felt that I actually did not have much sympathy for what happened in my case, and was worried sick the past few nights and yes I was reduced to tears. Thanks Talldaddy and Mrsbadger, there are some decent people who understand what I have been through and am still going through now.

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:37

Also the main point Lulumama, is that I weaned early because of docs advice and misinterpreting the WHO guidelines. I started weaning at 4 months (so Dec 2007 ). I am not talking about having weaned 10 years ago. So feel I am to blame because I succumbed to the pressure, misread infos and was badly led by doc. So I weaned fairly recently end of 2007 - baby is now 6 months. That is also my point.

Lulumama · 17/02/2008 10:39

you shouldn;t feel like that, if you had a doctor, someone who you trust , telling you to wean, takes a strong mother to ignore the advice of a doctor....i am sure your little one is fine, you don;t need to make yourself feel bad for this at all.... you did what you were advised don't leave mumsnet! there is a lot of support here for all sorts of things...

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:40

Ok folks..Changing the subject , can anyone answer this?:

Just noticed my baby has been chewing a plastic rattle and there are teeth marks????? But she has no teeth??????????? How on EARTH can that happen???

Habbibu · 17/02/2008 10:41

Bekkie - 4 months is probably not ideal, but it is highly unlikely to be a disaster (and I say this as a confirmed 6 month BLWer!). You haven't beaten or neglected your child, you have tried to do your best and in hindsight you think a choice you made was wrong. Well, my dd is 16 months old. I dread to think of the number of times I'm going to make wrong decisions, stuff up, etc in her life. I guess we just put them behind us, learn from them and move on.

Habbibu · 17/02/2008 10:42

Gums are really really hard in babies, Bekkie - the teeth are just below the surface - has she ever had a really good go at your finger? It HURTS.

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:48

thanks habbibu - yes she bites hard. actually the bite marks are as if i would have bitten on it. a week ago it was confirmed she was teething..maybe we will see teeth soon?

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 10:49

bekkie - these discussions are probably not the best place fot you to be if you are feeling so fragile and easily upset.
When I post here I am also posting on other threads at the same time and responding to various points made as well as adding my own.

Someone else posted (I think it was you) that not everyone was as strong as me and they had not been able to stand against pressure from others around them and that we are all different and I should understand that. My return post which you've quoted is in reply to that post acknowledging we are all different and I would have done things differently had I given in and acknowledging that yes, I am probably lucky that I have the sort of personality able to resist pressure but at the same time I had weaned one of mine at 4 months as I knew no better at that time.

It would be very hard and tbh not what I come to mumsnet for if I had to carefully read every single post made and doctor every post I made in a fast moving discussion to ensure I didnt inadvertently upset someone.

Rl discussions of this nature are usually between a much smaller number of people and much slower so easier to be aware of each and every point and emotion made.

I corrected you as you said and then you seem to object that I continued to assume you hadnt changed your view point. Well, that does happen I'm afraid on this type of forum.

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:49

lulumama thanks too..

Habbibu · 17/02/2008 10:50

Quite possibly. And at that point KEEP YOUR FINGERS AWAY FROM HER MOUTH! I say this from very very bitter experience...

What you'll likely see first is a little line in the gum - tooth gradually makes it way up over a few days after that. It can take quite a while from the start of teething symptoms to a tooth, unfortunately.

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 10:50

You see now the discussion has completely changed tact again since I started my last post!

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:55

I think anyone is allowed to use these forums. By nature I am not easily upset or take things to heart.

But when it concerned a little baby and I have been through alot to get her - failed IVFs, ectopic and I suddenly realise that I could have made a mistake to harm her - i could not help but panic. It took 8 years to get her!

A bit different when it concerns your precious little bundle of joy.

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:57

yes little line on the gum. Taking ages though to come through though so drinking battle still there..

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 10:58

Yes, but Bekkie this is not like rl when the people you are discussin these issues with know all your history. You have blamed me for upsetting you and yet I do not know you or your history or how you are feeling at any point in the discussion. I post simply to engage in a discussion and respond to posts accordingly. It is fast moving and posts get crossed, over looked or just missed or forgotten.

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loopyredangel · 17/02/2008 10:58

I feel for Bekkie, I too am worried that I could have damaged my little one, by being so desperate to satisfy my baby by giving him food way too early, of course I have not given him anything since even though he is acting very hungry and doesn't seem satisfied with breastmilk.
And now that the dietician said I can feed him from 17 weeks I don't know what to do for the best! Very confused 2nd time mum:~

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Lulumama · 17/02/2008 10:58

you are obviously a devoted mum, or you would not care so much and be so distressed, enjoy her and don;t stress about the things you cannot change.. hope you stick around

Lulumama · 17/02/2008 10:58

you are obviously a devoted mum, or you would not care so much and be so distressed, enjoy her and don;t stress about the things you cannot change.. hope you stick around

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 10:59

Hercules1 stopppppp!!!! you have explained youself, it is enough

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 11:00

Of course anyone is allowed to use them but you made the point that you were going to leave because I was horrible to you. I am now simply defending myself and explaining why I said what I did.
I am also trying to warn you that if this is a topic area which is going to upset you when people discuss weaning then you cannot expect people not to discuss the possible harm of early weaning in order not to upset you and therefore you will still get further upset in the future. You yourself have said you get very upset at this.

bluenosesaint · 17/02/2008 11:01

Sorry you feel upset by what has been said Bekkie. I'm sure its not peoples intentions to upset, just to impart knowledge (which we all love to do )

You sound very much like me you know. I am still riddled with guilt over my failed attempts to bf my dd1 and dd2 and the fact that i have successfully bf my dd3 only serves to make me feel worse about my elder dd's

Parenting is full of guilt. I often feel as though my eldest dd is like an experiment, God love her, i feel like i'm forever making mistakes with her that i correct in time for my dd2 ...i'm equally convinced that i will be correcting my mistakes from dd2 ready for dd3 (so in theory, my dd3 will be perfect )

I guess we need to let go of the guilt and distance ourselves from the information so that we don't take it personally, just hope that it educates someone else further down the line ...

If you manage to do it, please let me know how ...

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 11:02

Hercules1 STOPPPPPPP!!!!! You have explained yourself it is enough - does it look like I have left??

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 11:03

You see you posted at length about how horrible I was to you but now you dont want me to stop defending myself....

Should noone post anything about research or current guidelines and instead just say do what you want, go with your mothers instinct?

hercules1 · 17/02/2008 11:06

Bekkie - sorry as this will annoy me soon. You really cant expect to post in length about how horrible I've been and how much I've upset you then tell me to stop posting now. I really am genuinely sorry you have hard a hard time with your little one but not sorry about posting about weaning. That doesnt make me horrible. Perhaps if you were able to acknowledge that you now realise I wasnt being horrible to you?

Bekkie32 · 17/02/2008 11:08

We have our wires totally crossed. Hercules1.

It is fine to carry on defending yourself and posting guidelines.

The stoppp!!!! was indicating I had understood your explanation as to why it may have seemed you offended me.

pelafina · 17/02/2008 11:09

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