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Do Not BLW!

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user1494494728 · 11/05/2017 10:29

Yesterday was the final straw, I can’t keep my mouth shut any longer, Baby Led Weaning has gone seriously, dangerously wrong (if it was ever even right to start with).

I attend a weekly mums group, of which I (as far as I’ve worked out) am the only one who is doing traditional weaning. Yesterday, I sat quietly and watched a 7 month old baby have a bacon sandwich for her lunch. A BACON FUCKING SANDWICH. After producing this nutritional feast for her toothless child the mother then looks around and asks where she needs to go to get baby vitamins. It took everything in me not to scream out ‘try the vegetable aisle in the supermarket you stupid bitch!’. I asked if this was the childs lunch or just a snack, to which the reply was, oh no it’s her lunch, she loves bacon and it’s so easy for her to hold’, well… so is a fucking shoelace but I wouldn’t give it to my baby for lunch. Meanwhile, another mother next to me opens a tub of humous and gives it to her 6 month old baby (yes, the whole pot) with a handful of toast. The other mothers chimed in and said how incredibly healthy the baby was because it was eating chickpeas, clearly they have no idea how much salt is in a slice of bread let alone a full sized tub of humous (some pots of humous are known to contain 4 entire crisp bags worth of salt). For dinner that night this same child would go on to sit at the table and gum at a piece of carrot and lump of chicken. Try and working out how much nutrition this child has had today?

In reality there’s only so much you can give a 6 month old baby who hasn’t got any teeth and has swallowed nothing but milk it’s entire life. Going from this to sticking a lump of celery of even chicken in it’s hand is bloody cruel. Naturally it’s going to want to play with it before it eats it, which is why all BLW mums say 99% of the food lands on the floor and very little in the childs actual mouth.

I recently found out that not only has virtually no research been done on BLW, but it was also invented by a Healthvisitor. We have been feeding babies on healthy, nutritious purees for thousands of years then a health vistor comes along with no research whatsoever and starts a fad. The only clear research done on BLW shows that it can be harmful to babies who are struggling to gain weight, doesn’t that tell you enough? (for the mum who’s thinking blenders haven’t been around that long remember that in third world countries today women are still chewing food up and feeding it to their babies, it’s naturally what we are supposed to do, BLW is NOT natural).

Then there is the choking hazard which I’m only going to step on lightly, the day you see your own child properly choke (and one day it will happen) will possibly be the worst day of your life. Why risk this earlier than need be? It’s ludicrous, what’s the rush and what’s the point other than putting your child at risk for a fad? One of the mothers at the group recently said ‘oh he’s only choked a few times’. Well for me that’s a few times too many. And no, a baby CAN NOT choke on puree, if you’re confused as to why look up the definition of choking.

Bread is easy, cheap and soft, it’s fast becoming the staple food of choice for BLW mumies and there’s no arguing that, I’ve watched it happen first hand. In those first years of life a babies cells are developing the fastest they will ever develop again, this is the time that as their mummy we need to step up and make sure we give our child everything they need, it not about giving the baby a choice it’s about giving them a chance and a healthy start. Yes if you want to give your child hand held snacks, great - do it all day AS SNACKS, but please get in your kitchens and make up some healthy, nutritious pureed or mashed foods and spoon feed every last little drop into their mouths, this time will go so fast and least then you can look back and say you gave them the best start you possibly could.

OP posts:
Justwaitingforaline · 11/05/2017 11:00

I did BLW with DD, now 2.5 because she point blank refused to be spoon fed, and still does when it comes to yogurts/pudding/soup etc. I remembered my HV saying that 'food under 1 is just for fun' and that they still get the bulk of their nutrition from milk. DD nibbled/gummed/played with food until she was about 10 months then suddenly, it all started vanishing and she began to eat food properly.

It's each to their own. Not my monkeys, not my problem. There's nothing wrong with BLW, traditional weaning, a mix of both etc. Just feed you baby how you want to and let others do the same.

Sirzy · 11/05/2017 11:00

I just fed ds. Didn't feel the need to label it I gave him some puréed and some finger food.

The issue isn't the way that food is given but the food that is given. That said you can't judge on one meal and it's always worth remembering "foods fun until one" is a good approach anyway!

Maudlinmaud · 11/05/2017 11:04

Tbh honest it's that long ago I can't remember what I did with weaning, I remember Annabel Karmels recipe book. Don't think I would have given bacon as it's a bit stringy.

Reow · 11/05/2017 11:04
Grin
Do Not BLW!
Gileswithachainsaw · 11/05/2017 11:05

Don't look like she's had many kale smoothie does it Grin

Increasinglymiddleaged · 11/05/2017 11:07

It does make me laugh how people can get wound up about this kind of thing. I have always been Hmm about the BLW evangelists but I suspect the babies grow up fine either way.

I pretty much BLW'd with DD2 as the only things she would eat off a spoon were pureed fruit and yoghurt. She fed herself, it was quite amazing what she could eat tbh. I pureed far more with DD1, they are both good eaters meh who cares really?

I also think it's strange about the pearl clutching around bacon whereas if it had been a bit of ham that would probably have been considered fine. Cheese also has loads of salt and no one ever mentions that at all.

Heirhelp · 11/05/2017 11:07

The NHS clearly advises that all children between the ages of 6 months to 5 years old who have less than 17oz of formula a day should have vitamins and that all babies should have fingers foods as part of their diet from 6 months old.

zzzzz · 11/05/2017 11:07

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Increasinglymiddleaged · 11/05/2017 11:08

NHS has said more than half of the population will be clinically obese, so when I see a tiny baby munching on a bacon sarnie or a pork chop yes it does get to me

WTAF does that have to do with obesity?

StinkyMcgrinky · 11/05/2017 11:08

You're getting mauled because of the way you wrote the OP. There was absolute no need for it to be so aggressive and insulting.

Maybe if you had come on here and explained, rationally, your concerns and worries you might have had a mature conversation with people.

Fragglez · 11/05/2017 11:09

So pureed bacon would be fine?

And carrot sticks are the work of the devil. Obvs.

namechange20050 · 11/05/2017 11:10

I don't think you can blame the obesity crisis on blw. One of the aims of blw is that the baby feeds themselves to suit their appetite. First blw foods are things like cooked veg and porridge. Bulky, fibrous stuff that it's impossible to over eat. It can be argued that by pureeing everything you make the sugars more available & break down the fibre. This is not as healthy as eating the whole food.

CatsCatsCats11 · 11/05/2017 11:11

Well aren't you lovely Hmm

SolomanDaisy · 11/05/2017 11:13

Umm, either babies ingest nothing from BLW or they're eating a load of damaging crap. They can't both be true. What's definitely true is that a seven month-old has very limited need for additional nutrition on top of milk, which is why letting them progress with eating at their own pace is fine.

I hope you're giving your baby the NHS recommended vitamin supplements OP, rather than just sneering at others.

TheLegendOfBeans · 11/05/2017 11:13

I was about to come on and say how utterly unbearable you sound; people like you make me hate being a mother at times, but justwaiting gives the measured and IMO correct response:

It's each to their own. Not my monkeys, not my problem. There's nothing wrong with BLW, traditional weaning, a mix of both etc. Just feed you baby how you want to and let others do the same.

BeMorePanda · 11/05/2017 11:13

the phase BLW may have been an new faddy invention but giving your kid a bowl of food and getting on with it is nothing new

^ this.

BLW is only a "thing" because some one gave it a name to make a few quid. And parents these days just love a "thing".

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 11/05/2017 11:14

I really think Ella's Kitchen need to re-think their PR strategy.

PickleSarnie · 11/05/2017 11:14

I could liquidise these for you if you'd prefer? -->Biscuit BiscuitBiscuitBiscuit

MiniAlphaBravo · 11/05/2017 11:15

Would love to know what the cavemen used for pureeing. Didn't think blenders were invented then. But apparently this has been going on for 1000s of years according to op.

Anyway what a nasty post. You do make some good points about salt. But most purée babies I know also eat lots of pre prepared food which has probably got lots of additives in it and FYI lots of blw babies eat fruit, veg, meat and fish which do not contain salt.

furballfantastic · 11/05/2017 11:15

I chew up a nice bit of veal and spit it into my baby's mouth, in the same way the mummy birds on nature progs do.

MyFavouriteName · 11/05/2017 11:17

Lol.

newbian · 11/05/2017 11:18

MiniAlphaBravo they chewed the food and then gave to the babies. Like birds.

kel1493 · 11/05/2017 11:19

Sorry op but you come across very rude.
I didn't want to blw as I prefer led to give purées. But plenty of parents do and it works well. I did give my lo things to hold himself as well though, and he was fine.
But yes people can give their child whatever they wish, regardless of what you think about it.

elQuintoConyo · 11/05/2017 11:19

All I got from OP's post was 'wua wua wua wua-wua wua' like the adults in Peanuts.

Trip trap old bean!

rogueantimatter · 11/05/2017 11:20

What is the philosophy of blw?

Avoiding over-feeding by spoon feeding more quickly than the baby's satiety response can trigger?

Introducing a variety of textures so that the baby learns to enjoy them?

Presumably, if you spoon feed a baby by offering only when the baby clearly wants each spoonful the baby won't 'overeat'.

The posters who say, 'Why do you care what other parents do with their babies?' Because it's natural to care about all babies not only our own and feel sad/angry/depressed when we see babies eating foods that are probably harming them.

The problem with bacon isn't just its salt content - the nitrites in bacon and other cured meats are a known risk factor for bowel cancer - which is increasing and presenting at earlier ages.