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Hotel expecting me to share a bed with one of my sons

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MollyBunny154 · 08/02/2023 00:53

I have had to travel nearly 3 hours away from home to a specialist Childrens hospital as my youngest son is 11 and is being admitted very early in morning for day for tests.
My oldest son is 19 and has come with us as I don't like traveling on my own.

I booked to stay at premier Inn for 2 nights , paid for a family room, was assured it would have a double bed sofa bed and pull out bed so 3 beds.

Turned up and checked in tonight went to room and found they had given me a twin room with just 2 beds.

Went back to reception as thought they had perhaps given me wrong key. They said that was correct key and room and there was nothing they could do as hotel is fully booked. I was told I would have to share a bed with one of my son's

It was too late to find another hotel so reluctantly went back to room.

There is no way any one could share a bed with my youngest son, he moves around in his bed constantly all night.

I don't think it would be appropriate to share a bed with my oldest son.

I've had to give my sons the beds and I'm having to sleep on floor, using a coat as a blanket as don't even have any spare bedding.

Am I wrong think it's not right to have to share a bed with one of my son's.

What would you have done in this situation.
Am I right to be annoyed.

Any advice much appreciated
Thanks in advance

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AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:14

BungleandGeorge · 08/02/2023 09:12

@AIBUYesSometimes has it not occurred to you that maybe the autistic 19 year can’t be left on their own at home?

Has it not occurred to you to read the thread- first post?

My oldest son is 19 and has come with us as I don't like traveling on my own.

Cloud9isnowclosed · 08/02/2023 09:14

@AIBUYesSometimes the OP rang PI to go through booking so am sure she (and they) were confident that the most appropriate room booking had been made...

BadNomad · 08/02/2023 09:15

AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:14

Has it not occurred to you to read the thread- first post?

My oldest son is 19 and has come with us as I don't like traveling on my own.

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Maybe because her youngest is a handful and she needs support with him.

AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:16

BadNomad · 08/02/2023 09:10

The rooms that are family rooms are for 2 adults and a child.

Yes. That's why she booked a family room.

You are missing the point. A family room is always a double bed. Then there is a single sofa bed(s) for a child (not a 19 year old).

You don't get 3 single beds in a family room.

Clear now?

BadNomad · 08/02/2023 09:18

AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:16

You are missing the point. A family room is always a double bed. Then there is a single sofa bed(s) for a child (not a 19 year old).

You don't get 3 single beds in a family room.

Clear now?

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Three beds is three beds. 19-year-old in the big bed. 11-year-old in the pull-out. OP on the sofa bed. Where's the issue?

saraclara · 08/02/2023 09:18

Why on earth are people being so unpleasant to the OP?

Is perfectly clear that PI gave her a room with two single beds for two adults and a child, despite her having confirmed by phone that she would be getting a family room.

There is absolutely no reason to question why she brought her 19 year old, for instance.

This thread is just nuts. It's the most straightforward of issues with PI clearly in the wrong, yet OP is being attacked left right and centre.

AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:18

BadNomad · 08/02/2023 09:15

Maybe because her youngest is a handful and she needs support with him.

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Support from another child who is autistic? Well, maybe so but that's not what she said is it? I am basing my posts on facts not speculation.

shinynewapple22 · 08/02/2023 09:21

I think I understand OP. You booked a room to sleep 3 people but it only had two single beds in . I can see that would be difficult no matter who the people are . I think posters have misunderstood and think you and your family are refusing to share a double bed .

I hope your son will be OK. Flowers

loveinthe90s · 08/02/2023 09:21

@AIBUYesSometimes
YOU are missing the point as well as being simultaneously patronising and dim.

OP BOOKED a family room for three people, herself, adult DS and child DS.

She was given a twin room with two single beds instead.

She has no sofa bed or double in the WRONG room she was given.

It's really simple.

Why is this thread so painful? Poor OP. Hope you get a refund!

BadNomad · 08/02/2023 09:23

AIBUYesSometimes · 08/02/2023 09:18

Support from another child who is autistic? Well, maybe so but that's not what she said is it? I am basing my posts on facts not speculation.

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Not all autistic people are the same. Some of us are quite capable of supporting others.

She said she doesn't like to travel alone. You're assuming that means she has issues. I'm taking that to mean she doesn't like to travel alone with the youngest because he has greater needs. Your "facts" are speculation too.

DysmalRadius · 08/02/2023 09:23

This thread is approaching Tory party levels of cuntishness...

Tessasanderson · 08/02/2023 09:24

Sounds like a mistake was made but you also blew it up out of all proportions. He is your son for gods sake. Were you worried he would touch you up? I wouldnt give it a seconds thought to share a bed in an 'emergency' with any of my family. No way would i let one of them sleep on the floor.

I would have had a good laugh, a nice nights sleep and next morning double checked my booking and then complained and asked for a refund if they hadnt provided what i booked.

Ultraninja · 08/02/2023 09:25

Honestly... it really doesn't matter why Op decided to take her older son with her. Why would anyone even question that? What difference does that make to anything?
Op booked the room she needed for her and her boys, and has a confirmation to prove it. She didn't get the room she booked. A refund is due, it's as simple as that.

It's stupid to question whether PI actually provide the room that Op booked - they do and there is a confirmation of the booking.
It's stupid to start telling Op that two of the party should have shared. They were single beds for a start, and Op knows her boys better than any of you do.
It's stupid to relate anecdotes about your experiences, or how you love sharing with your children. That has nothing to do with Op's experience.
I hope all goes smoothly at hospital today MollyBunny.

RingRingRingGoesTheTelephone · 08/02/2023 09:26

Well there wasn't enough beds in the room so they should have sent you to another hotel with enough beds for 3 (assuming your booking was correct). If you are booking a family room in this situation I'd check that it's 2 beds and a sofa bed, we've stayed in places where it's a double and a sofa, not a problem when you are a couple with young children. I think personally I'd be booking a separate room for a 19 year old son anyway.

Maroon85 · 08/02/2023 09:26

JusteanBiscuits · 08/02/2023 08:40

Problem is, the 19 year old is too old for "family room". A friend had a similar problem as room was for 2 adults and a child, but they were able to get a pop up zbed type thing out for the youngest. I hadn't realised any premier inn had rooms with single beds in!! They claim to only have doubles / sofa bed so that's a definite area for complaint too.

The 19 year old is one of the adults on her booking.
If she was complaining that there was only a double bed and a pull out bed in the room she booked, that would be different. But she booked for 3 people and was given a room that only fits 2 and suggesting 2 people sleep in a single bed is stupid.
I also can't believe they had no spare bedding. I'd be complaining about a lot of things if this was me.
Hope your son is ok OP, and hope things can be sorted before tonight.

Tessasanderson · 08/02/2023 09:26

Ahh, take it back completely. 2 single beds changes things. Kick off with them. Hope you get an apology and a refund

saraclara · 08/02/2023 09:27

Tessasanderson · 08/02/2023 09:24

Sounds like a mistake was made but you also blew it up out of all proportions. He is your son for gods sake. Were you worried he would touch you up? I wouldnt give it a seconds thought to share a bed in an 'emergency' with any of my family. No way would i let one of them sleep on the floor.

I would have had a good laugh, a nice nights sleep and next morning double checked my booking and then complained and asked for a refund if they hadnt provided what i booked.

You'd share a single width bed with your adult son (or even daughter)? I'm not sure that's even physically possible. I certainly wouldn't put my adult son in that uncomfortable situation.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 08/02/2023 09:27

@AIBUYesSometimes, it doesn't matter why the OP's older ds is travelling with her. That's none of our business and doesn't change the fact that she booked a room for 3 people and was given one for 2. There is literally no need for you to be judgemental about this... it's totally irrelevant to the thread and makes it look like you're just searching for a stick to beat the OP with.

Can't believe how eager some posters are to kick others when they are down. The OP is travelling for a hospital appointment with her two autistic sons and has had to spend the night sleeping on a grotty hotel floor because the hotel didn't honour her room booking, and yet some of you still want to make it her fault?! FFS!

saraclara · 08/02/2023 09:27

@Tessasanderson sorry, we posted at the same time

LittleBearPad · 08/02/2023 09:29

saraclara · 08/02/2023 09:27

You'd share a single width bed with your adult son (or even daughter)? I'm not sure that's even physically possible. I certainly wouldn't put my adult son in that uncomfortable situation.

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Rather than sleep under a coat on the floor? Yes.

But then I wouldn’t have accepted a room with two single beds in for three people.

MrsMariaReynolds · 08/02/2023 09:29

I'm sorry to hear that Op. Not to pile on, but the last two times I've stayed in a Premier Inn, the experience has not been up to its usual standard. I hope the chain's standards are not starting to fall.

I've stayed in many family rooms through the years and from your description you have definitely been let down by this hotel. You are well within your rights to complain. Although, fair warning, last time we complained about our experience (a fuse popped in our room overnight and we were left without any electricity) we were given a link with a form to fill out and got a half-assed apology some weeks later. No refund.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 08/02/2023 09:33

LittleBearPad · 08/02/2023 09:29

Rather than sleep under a coat on the floor? Yes.

But then I wouldn’t have accepted a room with two single beds in for three people.

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Neither would I, but perhaps with two autistic sons in tow, the OP may have felt that standing her ground would have been too upsetting for them. Or maybe, like many people, the OP isn't as confident and assertive as she'd like to be, and simply didn't feel able to stand her ground. Who knows? She shouldn't have had to argue the toss about it either way... she should have been given the room that she had booked.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 08/02/2023 09:33

AllOfThemWitches · 08/02/2023 08:38

It baffles me how parents won't sleep in the same bed as their own flesh and blood.

Yep, my sons also autistic nd fairly regularly gets in with me. I like it, it's the only time he wants to be that near me 🤣

In a SINGLE BED??

GoodChat · 08/02/2023 09:38

You are missing the point. A family room is always a double bed. Then there is a single sofa bed(s) for a child (not a 19 year old).

But that would be fine as they could share a double bed. That's completely different to a single.

AND she was promised three beds.

steppemum · 08/02/2023 09:46

This thread is impossible.

Let's say it ONE MORE TIME
OP booked a room fro 2 adults and one child.

She was given a room with TWO SINGLE BEDS.

2 people do not fit into a single bed.
I could not even fit into a single bed with a toddler never mind an 11 or a 19 year old.

THERE WERE NOT ENOUGH BEDS

Please can people actually read instead of endlessly commenting on how she should ahve shared a double bed with her son when she didn't have a double bed

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