Had the weirdest thing happen and just wondered if I’m a nutcase magnet or if people are just lunatics these days.
We are going through a tough time. My husband’s mum died and we had her funeral a month ago. I do not get on with his sister so have not seen her for a number of years as we live quite far away. At the funeral I was helping my FIL as his mobility is bad.
This woman came up to me and asked if I were Sally, his carer. I said no, I’m his son’s wife and she shrank away like I’d sprayed her with bleach. Later I was sat down with someone and she went to join them, saw me and pointedly moved her chair so she was not sat next to me. I didn’t know many people there, it was already uncomfortable due to estrangement from SIL, so to be treated like a leper by a stranger was very jarring.
I later find out this person is friends with my husbands sister and they aren’t close at the moment, and she’s seemingly trying to reestablish their friendship. Whatever, but understandably I’m not keen to see this person again.
Fast forward to now and my husbands father has been ill in hospital, and had a serious life threatening operation. He’s a very popular sort that everyone loves. It was so serious that my children took the day off school to see him before and we drove several hours to do so.
When we arrived at the hospital, this woman was there. She knew we were coming and could have easily left, but instead chose to get up and stand in front of me to apologise for mistaking me for a carer. I quite rightly said, I don’t care about that, why would I? She said she was embarrassed and I told her straight that this was not what happened, she treated me like a leper and it was very upsetting. She started talking about her friendship group and her not liking one of my SIL friends and I felt like I was transported back 35 years. This woman is over 50! I told her I did not care, she made a very difficult day harder and basically I just wanted her to go away. I know why she shrank away, she’s desperate to be in SIL good books and talking nicely to me would not help her cause. I was not friendly, but then why would I be? She truly upset me on a very tough day where I was very much alone (husband busy hosting, as he should).
She then kissed my FIL, told him she loved him and left. Weird, but good riddance. Hopefully I’ll never see her again.
At the weekend I opened my work emails to find this woman had stalked me to my place of work, where she decided to tell me off for being frosty to her and talking down to her. With a mild threatening warning to not speak to her like that again. This woman I do not know, who has placed herself deliberately in front of me twice. Now she is invading my work, my home life all at a time when we are really struggling. My husband has been away with his family on and off for 8 weeks and it’s really hard.
Why on earth would someone do this? She’s clearly mental as her email said things like ‘why did you speak to me like that when you should have been focusing on your FIL’. Well, you were standing in-between us you moron.
I cannot fathom a situation where I would do something like this. None. What is wrong with people?